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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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I am 15 years old and pregnant. my boyfriend is working two jobs. but we have been fighting alot. and we barly talk any more. my parents just got seperated a couple months ago. my dad got into the whole religious thing. my mom is always out at bars partying staying at guys house having guys stay the night i eel nelgeted and alone. im not sure how to deal with this please help
Well you are very young to be having a baby. Once your baby is here, you will have a lot more stress than you have now. Way more than me- I am 28 and pregnant. But you have a much longer row to hoe than me. You are basically becoming an adult at age 15, though I'm sure you realize this already.
As for fighting with your boyfriend, mood swings probably have something to do with it. I've been through that with my husband too. The only thing I can tell you is what we do. If it really isn't worth fighting over, try not to. It really helps more than you think. You guys need to sit down and rationally talk out your problems. Tell him how you feel, ask him about how he feels. Try to get everything out on the table.
Also, do you have an obstetrician lined up? If not, you need to get one. I can't stress this enough as to how important this is. Discuss the problems you are having at home and with your boyfriend with him/her. They can and will help you!
With being pregnant so young, the separation of your parents, and the things your parents are doing, are not only stressful, but depressing. It is possible you are having problems with depression. (Which is not good- they say you will be more likely to go through bad postpartum depression if it begins during pregnancy.)
Being stressed and depressed will never do good in your relationship with your boyfriend. Including the fact that he is stressed too- he's going to be a father soon, and he's working two jobs. If he's having troubles with his family over this pregnancy, that doesn't help either.
Is he old enough to get a home for your near-future family? If he is, that is something he needs to work on. Not ranking on your mom, but you don't need the stress of her partying and having strange men over, and you don't want to raise a child in that environment.
If he isn't old enough, is there something your parents or his family would do to help you get into a home of your own? If not, try your county's SRS (Social Rehabilitation Service). They will help you to get on your feet in any way they can. You need a home, food, medical insurance, the list goes on. They may be able to help more than you realize.
It would probably also help if you had someone you can talk and relate to. There are many chat rooms for pregnant teens. You can get advice, support, or just someone to talk to who is, or has been, in your shoes. Just search teen pregnancy chat or pregnant teen chat rooms on the net and pick one that is best for you.
I hope this helps. Hang in there the best you can. Try to focus on yourself and your baby. You need to be sure not to neglect yourself. It's going to be hard, but be strong for your child. It is going to need your love and support more than you realize.
Ok, i have this phone:
http://www.t-mobile.com/popup/generic_popup.aspx?action=image&device=56409d76-2634-4bd8-b7a9-e9a913ed4b9e
I get t-zones with my phone and it doesn't work.
I get to send pictures.. doesn't work
I get mp3 player on it.. but i have noo idea how to get the songs from my itunes onto my phone.. CAN SOMEONE please help me give me advice on what i should do? or how i can put the songs from iTUNES onto my phone?
THANKS SO MUCH!!
I used to have T-mobile. I had troubles too. If t-zones and picture sending don't work, you need to call T-mobile to fix it. You can call 611 from your cell and it is a free call. That is a company problem and not a phone problem.
The customer service reps are very nice people and will help you in any way they can. They will tell you how to work your mp3 player as well.
The first time I asked this question almost all of the information I got was useless.
I've pierced my lip unprofessionally. The girl who pierced my lip has done three mouth/facial piercings to herself, and at least two others for different people - not counting me.
Earlier I had an earring in the hole to keep it from closing. I'm aware that an earring is not the correct gauge. I did NOT pierce my lip with the earring. In fact, I used a much larger needle that now (post asking this question the FIRST time) have pushed that needle through my lip three times.
I've researched this piercing for months now, and got parental permission before I did it.
This is NOT the first home piercing I've gotten.
Does anyone have any CLEANING tips or any suggestions as to what TYPE of ring I should buy to put in it?
(Do refrain from telling me to take it out or about the "cheese grater effect" because I'm already aware of what problems this may cause.)
Well, you should get yourself the appropriate ring as soon as you are able to.
As for what you can put in it in the meantime, maybe try to put in an ear hoop. Not the kind with the clasp, but a never ending hoop. That is the kind that makes a complete circle through the earlobe. It is a hollow tube, and the closure of it is a wire that comes out of one hollow end, and you insert the wire into the other end. That would cause less irritation on your face as well as your gums.
If you are unsure of what I'm talking about, there is a picture on this link. They come smooth without the braided decoration, and you can get them at Wal Mart for cheap. They are generally gold or sterling silver.
http://www.amazon.com/Wrapped-Sterling-Silver-Neverending-Earrings/dp/B000JC3YAC
As for the string, when I had my tongue pierced, they suggested replacing the barbell with heavy fishing line if you had to remove the bar for dentist, etc.
The fishing line is because it is plastic, slick, and won't absorb anything that could possibly jeapordize the health of your piercing. And it can be moved with ease. Heavy fishing line is real thick. You want that to keep your hole from shrinking too much.
As for cleaning instructions, the link below is a page that gives all the good details of how to properly clean your lip piercing. There is a lot of information on this page you might find useful.
http://www.safepiercing.org/oralAftercare.html
Ever since I knew you
My heart sings a new tune:
One of love.
Every time you come around,
I bubble with joy;
As happy as a _______.
You give me pleasure unknown before,
Each day I beg for more;
Without you, my heart is empty;
ever day seems dull.
I can't pay you for the joy you give;
But I know you
You are the reason to live.
please help! it has to be rhyme with joy
thanks a lot =]]
Oh, how I love to do poetry! Poems and short stories where what aced me in high school English classes. Let's see...
There aren't a lot of words that rhyme with joy. I racked my brain and could come up with nothing more than "beloved toy", such as a child's favorite plaything. The reason that came to mind is because I perceive a favorite toy to be a very happy toy.
However, didn't sound like it would be quite what you are looking for, so i searched a rhyming dictionary online.
The best I could come up with from that would be "playboy," which is "a man who lives a life devoted chiefly to the pursuit of pleasure."
Other than that, the only other thing I could think of to do was to look up "joy" in the thesaurus. Two similar words would be "happiness" (which would be repetitive in that part of your poem) or "delight."
Not saying you should change your poem- it should be in your words. But just giving you a different twist on it. Something such as:
Every time you come around,
I bubble with delight;
As happy as a bird in flight.
But I think if you change "joy" to "delight" on my suggestion, you should choose your own word to rhyme with it. That way you keep your own.
I really don't even know where to begin. My boyfriend found out two months ago that he was potentially the father of a two year old girl. He took the DNA test and he is the father. We have been together since a couple of months after the child was conceived. I have a 6 year old and we have a ten month old together.
The mother of the little girl was arrested for drug use and the child was put in temporary custody of the grandmother.
My boyfriend wasn't even in a relationship with this girl, it was just a very stupid mistake he made. Now they are trying to get him for back child support, as well as current support and medical bills since she got assistance from the state. Our children currently get medical coverage from the state so I don't see why he should be responsible for this other kids medical bills.
He has wanted to give up his rights to the child since we first found out about it. At first I tried to get him to do the right thing and try and get custody, but the more I think about it the more angry I get. I feel betrayed and hurt about this and it has me very depressed. I am trying to be strong for my children but I don't know what we should do. I love my boyfriend very much but I don't know if I can deal with him having a child with someone else. Just the thought of it makes me want to strangle him. If he had known about this child before I entered into a relationship with him I probably wouldn't ever been with him.
I sometimes think it would be best for him to try for custody for the sake of the child, but at the same time I feel I would have a strong hatred for her. Besides the emotional issues I'm not sure we could financially. I'm so tired of feeling like I am being torn apart inside. I just don't know what to do.
I'm really not a bad person, but I just can't figure out if I should stay with him or just leave. If I stay I don't know what we should do about this whole mess. Should I let him try and sign over his rights to her and just forget about it? He wants our lives the way they were before we found out any of this. I do too, but should we try and get custody of her even though it could ruin our relationship?
I really need some advice first of all to help myself feel better and not be so angry at him and the child(even though I know it isn't her fault, I feel like it is because she was born) Then I need advice about what we should do as a family. I would really appreciate some unbiased advice. Thanks
You say you wouldn't have gotten together with him if you knew he had a child with someone else. With this statement, you aren't being fair to him since you have a 6 year old with someone other than him.
As for the child support and medical bills- it sucks for you, and it sucks for him since he was unaware of this child, but he has a responsibility to take care of this child. No matter what his financial status is. The state says first comes first. This child is older than the child he has with you, so he must pay support to the 2 year old first. It is weird but it is true. It's just the way the system works.
As for him giving up custody- I hate to say it, but it shows what kind of man he really is if he signs her away. He made this child, she is a permanent part of him. What if something happens between the two of you? Would he refuse to pay your baby the support it is entitled and sign away his parental rights?
I hope that you would consider taking in this little girl. She needs a good loving, supportive family. You have two children and I'm sure you are a good mother to them. Why not open your heart to another child, who needs a good mother? This may be something that brings your family closer together in the long run.
Try not to think of it as something that can ruin your relationship. Try to keep a positive outlook- it will help to make it a positive change rather than something negative. Try to keep in mind that she is your 10 month old baby's sister, and your baby deserves his/her sister in life.
If you feel angry towards this child, try to focus it towards her biological mother, who is obviously a piece of crap. Be angry that she kept this pregnancy from your boyfriend in the first place. She didn't respect him enough to tell him. Be angry that she chose a lifestyle of drugs over her own child. She gave up on that innocent child. Try to keep in mind the little girl is still just a baby; she doesn't deserve your anger, her mother does.
As for being angry with your boyfriend- don't be. It isn't his fault that he wasn't told about the baby. If he knew he surely wouldn't have kept it from you. Again, this is anger you should direct at who deserves it- the piece of crap mother of the little girl.
Please don't let him give up on this baby. Don't let him sign her away. Her mother already threw her away.
I'm sorry my advice may seem biased, but I am always biased towards what is the best thing for children.
is limewire legal? the free kind. (the other is called pro and it costs one payment of 18.99 or something)
I think it is one of those borderline things, really. Basically, it gets away with being legal because while you download music or whatever, other users can download from your shared file. It is a sharing program.
Something that is VERY ILLEGAL is to download something and sell burnt copies. Big no-no! Never distribute what you copy or download. It is meant for your own personal use.
Be weary of downloading big files that take a long time to download. The whole time you download something, you leave yourself wide open to receive viruses and all that bad stuff.
This is going to be weird but there must be someone out there who knows.
In the game there is a jukebox, and after you unlock it you get songs.
The question is, there is a song titled Happy Aliens, and I would like to download it. However, I cannot find it. Does anyone know where I can this song?
Are you sure it is called Happy Aliens? I don't know anything about Banjo Tooie, but I found this list online. Maybe the song you are looking for has a different title? If it is on this list, the correct title will help you better find what you are searching for.
This is what I found searching Banjo Tooie Music:
Banjo Tooie Mp3s/Music
Mayahem Melody (2.7Mb)
Glitter Gulch Mine (2.1mb)
Hail Fire Peaks Ice Side (2.3mb)
Hail Fire Peaks Lava Side (2.6mb)
Intro (812k)
Jinjo Village (2.4mb)
Jolly Rogers Lagoon (3.9mb)
Mumbos Hut (1.3mb)
Mayahem Temple (2.7mb)
Pause Screen (1.8mb)
Witchy World (2.3mb)
Wumba's Wigwam (1.6mb)
Ok so I started Depo about a month ago. I skipped my period that was supppsed to be a month after I got the shot. And now I am having a weird brownish period. Sometimes its brown sometimes it's brown with very very light pink in it. Should I be worried about pregnacy? And why did I skip a period and then continue?
http://www.coolnurse.com/hormonal_inj.htm
Check out this link to see all of the information about Depo Provera, including side effects such as missed periods.
It doesn't state anything about having brownish periods, so it would be a good idea to call the health care provider who gives you the shot and ask if this is normal or abnormal.
As for being pregnant, I think you are worrying needlessly. Skipping periods, light periods, and breast tenderness are side effects of the drug. But be sure to bring up this and any other concerns you may have when you call your health care provider.
Got one for Xmas, what does this mean?
A promise ring means that whoever gave it to you cares enough about you to make a serious commitment. It's a promise to become engaged when the appropriate time comes. This is because they usually are given from one teenager who wants to eventually marry their beloved girlfriend, but both are too young to actually have a marriage engagement.
I want to know how daughters in regards to their mothers stop overreacting to things their mother says to them? I noticed (and I do it as well) that daughters (mostly the ones in their 20's, 30's and up) feel as if they have to justify themselves to their mothers. How do we stop. Examples: (1) A mother questioning her daughters knowledge; (2) making the daughter feel as if she still isnt mature enough to handle things.
Well, I'm 28 year old daughter, and I don't overreact to what my mother says. The reason is:
1) When my mother questions my my knowledge, it isn't because she thinks I don't know anything. It is because she is older, wiser, and been there- done that. She just cares enough to let me know it. She tries to teach me from her own mistakes. That's what mothers do and what they are for.
2) If she comes off as sounding like I'm not mature enough to handle things, it isn't the way she intends to sound. She is just giving advice on how she would do it if she were me. This is also because she is older, wiser, and been there- done that. She wouldn't give me such advice if she did not care. Mothers are more mature than us and know better than us. This is also what mothers do and what they are for.
Being some one's mother doesn't stop when their children become adults. She still wants to make sure she does all she can to point you in the right direction and see to it that you live a happy, healthy life. She wants what's best for you. She doesn't intend to belittle you, she cares about you too much for that.
Do I feel i need to justify myself to my mom? Hell no. In almost 30 years, she knows me better than I know myself.
i love a girl called grace but my brother makers the mick about her he calles he a slag and all that he upsets me i tell my mum and dad they tell him off but he still does it!
please tell me what to do so he wont make fun of me no more!
from curt001
Well, I know how brothers can be assholes at times.
The best thing I can tell you is that if you truly love Grace, try your best to ignore the hurtful things he says. Don't let his foolishness change your feelings for her. He is just being a jerk like brothers can be. Keep in mind that he is most likely continuing to make fun of you because he knows it gets under your skin and upsets you. Try not to give him the satisfaction of knowing he is hurting your feelings.
He will grow up (eventually) and respect your feelings.
On Windows movie maker i'm editing a video I made with my webcam. The thing is, I wanr to start the video effect that speeds up the video on a specific time, not clip. You know how WMM seperates the video into clips? It will only let me start an effect at a certain clip, not time. Say I wanted to start an effect at 57 seconds, but a clip doesn't start then? How do I do that? Also, how do I end that effect at a specific time and go back to normal speed! Thanks so much!!
I'm not sure if this is the answer you are looking for, but if you are wanting to make certain clips run for a certain amount of time, try this...
You know how each clip has bars between it separate it from the clips before and after? Grab the bar on the right side of the clip you want to make longer or shorter and drag it: to the right for longer time, to the left for less time. As you do this, it will pop up a little box next to your cursor that says how many seconds the clip is, and that number will change as you move it. The same goes for the effects.
This is the only way I know to do it, and you don't have to change the normal speed you set for your video.
I turned off my pop-up up blocker, and added this site to my exceptions, as in it's a safe site.
And it still blocks all of the 'pop ups' from that page, which isn't rly what they are they're just like view yr profile pages that open a new page.
and I want to look at them, but it makes this little sound and it just doesn't appear.
can anyone help me?
I have my pop up blocker set to not allow any pop ups. How I get it to work for pop up pages I know are safe to open, I hit the control button as I click a link or a page to open.
If it makes any difference, my computer is HP.
15/f
My parents are going to let me choose any camera I want as a Christmas present. They do not think I know and are excited to tell me. The thing is, the type of camera that I want is at least one to two thousand dollars. I am really into photography and already have a semi-broken camera.
I always hear my parents complain about money problems and I feel would feel extremely guilty about getting such a large gift. My dad just got a $25 000 bonus this year at work, but I do not think the money should be spent on me.
How can I tell my parents that I appreciate it but I do not need the camera (no matter how much I want it). I do not want to hurt their feelings.
Thank you
Well, sounds like your parents really want to do this for you. It would probably hurt their feelings for you to turn down their gift.
Check out prices on the Internet. You may find the one you do want at a lesser price. Just search the camera model you want and check out different online store prices. Or try to search it on eBay.
If you can't find the one you seek at a price more acceptable to you, see if you can find a camera that does what you want it to do that is in a lower price range.
They just want to get you something nice they know you will really appreciate and enjoy for years to come.
I'm reading Dreamland by Sarah Dessen right now, and I've become kinda confused. They talk alot about 'lighting the bowl' or 'preparing the bowl' when referring to smoking pot. I'm not a pothead, nor do my friends talk to me about it, so I'm confused as to what you do to smoke pot. If you could please explain the 'bowl method' so I could better understand the book, I would greatly appreciate it. :]
When say a "bowl" they are referring to a pipe. In the case of the story you are reading, they are talking about a marijuana pipe.
It is the same for someone who smokes out of a tobacco pipe... smoking a bowl of tobacco.
Preparing the bowl would be loading it with marijuana, lighting the bowl would be lighting it and smoking it.
Hope this clears up your story confusion, but don't smoke pot!
Please dont send me to any websites.
Okay, I missed my period last month and this month.
I really crave pickles with bagels & cream cheese, pickles and chocolate, pickles and crunchy peanut butter, and soda. And I HATE PICKLES!...
Also ..I weighed like 132 a few weeks ago and now Im like 150...wtf????
I dont know..I took 2 home tests.. but they were only $1.39...and they were really cheap...But they were (-)...My health ins hasnt kicked in so i cant goto the doctor. plus my family would kill me...
what do u think/
Well, I can't say if you are pregnant or not. Two home tests could be wrong but not likely even if they are really cheap.
My best advice is for you to stop by your county health department. They will test you for free, and you will know for sure.
If you aren't pregnant, you then need to first find out whats wrong with your body, and then you need to talk to the health department on how to get yourself set up on birth control if you are sexually active.
ughh ok im having soo many effin problems! so i recently got limewire, so im not too terribly familiar with it but i got the jist of it and my boyfriends helping me some as well. n e way tonight i downloaded a song from there hoping to put it on my myspace because the band myspace did not have it. well getting the song was a problem in itself because it wont save right! when i went to the library it showed where it was but when i checked there by going from my documents it wasnt there! so i was like grr and tried resaving 900 times and even saving it in different locations and it still wouldnt work. so finally i just copied the location and when i went to my music myspace to upload it it wont work again. the song plays fine on limewire, itunes, and WMP but the first time i uploaded it to myspace it played for like 3 seconds and that was it. but like the whole song didnt even load. so i deleted it and now when i upload it and its on the player and i click play it either says "connecting...." for like everrr and never connects or it immediately says "stream failed". ughh its making me sooo mad can someone please help?
You have to pull it from a folder on your computer to do anything with it. The trouble is, you can't find that folder. Here is what you do:
When you download limewire to your computer, along with it comes a "shared" folder. All of the songs you download automatically go to this folder. I have an HP computer, but it should be basically the same steps on yours if you have a different brand.
To find shared folder:
go to start menu, then click on my computer. Click (C:), then click documents and settings, then click on your primary administrator folder (there should be 2 different folders, my primary says HP_administrator), then click shared folder.
Once in the shared folder you should see the songs you have downloaded. Big word of advice, right click your folder to make a desktop shortcut to save you all of this trouble next time.
Once you get to your song list in shared folder, you can right click the individual songs and send them places or add them to play lists on your media player.
However, I don't know much about myspace to be able to tell you how to move the songs there, but that may be something you are already familiar with doing (I hope).
16/f
I have a sister who had a so when she was just a teenager
DSS took her son because of something -cant remember- and now they are sending him to Texas with his dad!!!!!
I DONT WANT THIS TO HAPPEN BUT IT HAS TO
I guess wat i'm asking for is how to get over this.
I cant stop crying.
He is leaving for six months
I just dont want him to leave because i love him so much! :-(
My heart is broken
I want to mend it but I cant bear to think about my nephew and what my sister has done
I want to just scream in her face
my parents are mad...plain MAD
i cant look at them anymore
My younger sister loves my nephew and she cried when we told her
I cant bear it
i've been ditching school because of this heartache
i cant help it!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP ME!
I know that i'm supposed to trust in God but its so hard.
I know his father doesnt care for him and i dont want my nephew to forget me!
thanks in advance
Well, what sucks in the whole thing is that this guy is his father, so he has every right to take him with him. If he doesn't care for him and such, DSS won't leave him there. They will do repeated check ups to make sure the boy is doing okay in his new environment. If he doesn't take care of the child, he will be removed from his home, and then your parents would be given an opportunity to take custody.
I know it is sad. It is really hard for an entire family when a child is moved away from them. Best I can tell you is to hang in there, get yourself going back to school (it may help you overcome this), and allow yourself to grieve about it. You are facing a loss, but thankfully you still have a right to visit him! Keep that in mind that he is not gone for always.
And you have every right to be mad at your sister if she did something foolish to lose her son, but remember, she is probably more sad about it than you. So don't be harsh with her.
Okkay.. so my friend told be that she's getting those m&m where you like personalize them.. yeahh. I'm not really close with herr.. but i'm still getting them... should i get her something?? Like if so .. what&& from wheree?
thankss
If she is getting something for you, you should return the favor. However, I don't know what her interests are, so I can't tell you what to get her.
She is having something made for you, which is a very thoughtful gift. I have always thought that a gift is more special if it is something made, or personalized somehow. That means they have put some thought into it unlike something you just grab from a store shelf. My only suggestion as to what you should get her is make something, or have something made for her. She will appreciate the thought behind it more.
Ok, I don't know if this is in the right catogorey or not but oh well. I have been sooo deppresed latley. I just don't know if i can deal with it. i need some help, i can't talk to my friends and i don't want to talk to my parents. i've even talked about killing myself. i really want to do that so i don't have to deal with my huge problems anymore. what do i do?
13/f
Well, first off, I strongly suggest you talk to your family physician about this. They can help you better than anyone.
However, if you need someone to talk to, click this link and in the column on the left, click on chat and go from there. It is a depression chat and support group. You deffinately need to find someone to talk to who can help you out and give you the support you need.
http://support4hope.com/depression/index.htm
Never the less... talk to that doctor. This is serious business when you have thoughts of harming yourself or comitting suicide. Just remember, NOTHING is ever so bad or goes wrong enough that suicide will ever fix! Commiting suicide solves nothing, it fixes nothing. The only thing you would accomplish is to make everyone who loves you in this life be sad and miserable, wondering "what went wrong?" "was there something that could have been done to help her?" No problem, no matter how huge is worth giving up your life for, or worth that grief you would put your loved ones through.