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Ok, I don't know if this is in the right catogorey or not but oh well. I have been sooo deppresed latley. I just don't know if i can deal with it. i need some help, i can't talk to my friends and i don't want to talk to my parents. i've even talked about killing myself. i really want to do that so i don't have to deal with my huge problems anymore. what do i do?
13/f
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I have been in your shoes, dear, and actually, I am there now. However, I am 17 and I got so bad that I did try to kill myself...obviously my parents now know, and so do a few of my close friends. I am seeing a doctor, and she helps a whole lot. I am not saying you have to say anything, but I really don't want it to get that bad for you. It's really hard to get out of once it gets to a certain point. I would suggest mabybe reading up on it? Try writing down when you are feeling crummy and how you got out of it. If it gets too often, consider saying something. It may not be the easiest thing to do, or the most comfortable, but in the long run, it could very well be the best decision.
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Maybe you should see a doctor. It doesn't necessarily have to be a therapist, your physician might be able to help you. Thanks for asking! ~Erik
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I totally get the not wanting to talk to anyone. I really do. I suffered for years in silence because I couldn't make myself talk. But eventually it got to the point where I was in total self-destruction mode and I was scaring myself, so I did what I had to do--admitted the truth.
I've never been good with words except in writing, and I find it hard to talk to my parents. I approached a teacher instead, with a written note explaining what was going on. She sat me down and talked to me after, made sure I wasn't about to freak out, and then asked me to talk to the school guidance counsellor. I knew the school would have to contact my parents, so I didn't ask them not to--that wouldn't have been fair. Making the first step by talking to someone else was a huge help, though.
Depression can be fixed. There are medications and therapists. Today, I'm doing well. I still have days where I'm downright miserable, but the majority of the time, I'm content. Sometimes I'm downright happy. I enjoy my life for the most part. I have to get my drugs adjusted occasionally, but you know what? It's worth it. It's worth the fight for the beauty.
I totally get that it's terrifying and lonely. But it doesn't have to be this way. Find courage. You have it, I know you do. Reach out. Let people help you and love you. It will be hard at first, but it will be worth it. Killing yourself, on the other hand, is far from worth it.
Allow yourself to be loved and helped. You deserve it.
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talk to your parents about all the problams and they would try to help you deal with them
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Well, first off, I strongly suggest you talk to your family physician about this. They can help you better than anyone.
However, if you need someone to talk to, click this link and in the column on the left, click on chat and go from there. It is a depression chat and support group. You deffinately need to find someone to talk to who can help you out and give you the support you need.
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Never the less... talk to that doctor. This is serious business when you have thoughts of harming yourself or comitting suicide. Just remember, NOTHING is ever so bad or goes wrong enough that suicide will ever fix! Commiting suicide solves nothing, it fixes nothing. The only thing you would accomplish is to make everyone who loves you in this life be sad and miserable, wondering "what went wrong?" "was there something that could have been done to help her?" No problem, no matter how huge is worth giving up your life for, or worth that grief you would put your loved ones through.
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Killing yourself, huh? Might I ask what that will do for you? Sure your problems will be dealt with....However, what about the ones you will leave behind? 13 years old....so young. What could possibly make you consider this at your age? You havent even lived yet. You are probably dealing with kids at school or something. Well no matter what it is, you WILL get over it. I mean come on. If everyone killed themselves over an issue they had, no one would be alive right now. Most people deal with it, and actually find a solution. Most people get depressed. Get over it. Go out and do something about it. Dont mope around and hate yourself. Why dont you go to a church. Go to a fun church. Get involved. You're only 13. Live to be old and have grandkids. Dont go down as the one who couldnt handle it. Whether you want to believe it or not, people need you. Right now. Tomorrow. Yesterday. Anytime. They need you. Give them hope....not death.
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I can not stress this enough: FIND SOMEONE THAT YOU CAN TALK TO. If you know you have a problem you need to talk to someone that you feel comfortable talking to because obviously if you are writing this you do not want to kill yourself. Now, if you dont have a best friend to talk to and you odnt feel comfortable going to your parents. Think about people that you can tlak to. Preferably an adult who can get you help, but anyone at all is better than nothing. If you feel better talking to strangers then my door is always open. Just ask for my SN, or E-mail, adn I will definately talk to you, but I understnad if you don't feel comforatble with that. Just please find osmeone who can help you and talk with you.
Hope that helped =)
Try and feel better.
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