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Mothers and Daughters
I want to know how daughters in regards to their mothers stop overreacting to things their mother says to them? I noticed (and I do it as well) that daughters (mostly the ones in their 20's, 30's and up) feel as if they have to justify themselves to their mothers. How do we stop. Examples: (1) A mother questioning her daughters knowledge; (2) making the daughter feel as if she still isnt mature enough to handle things.
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Well, I'm 28 year old daughter, and I don't overreact to what my mother says. The reason is:
1) When my mother questions my my knowledge, it isn't because she thinks I don't know anything. It is because she is older, wiser, and been there- done that. She just cares enough to let me know it. She tries to teach me from her own mistakes. That's what mothers do and what they are for.
2) If she comes off as sounding like I'm not mature enough to handle things, it isn't the way she intends to sound. She is just giving advice on how she would do it if she were me. This is also because she is older, wiser, and been there- done that. She wouldn't give me such advice if she did not care. Mothers are more mature than us and know better than us. This is also what mothers do and what they are for.
Being some one's mother doesn't stop when their children become adults. She still wants to make sure she does all she can to point you in the right direction and see to it that you live a happy, healthy life. She wants what's best for you. She doesn't intend to belittle you, she cares about you too much for that.
Do I feel i need to justify myself to my mom? Hell no. In almost 30 years, she knows me better than I know myself.
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