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DSS and my sister
16/f
I have a sister who had a so when she was just a teenager
DSS took her son because of something -cant remember- and now they are sending him to Texas with his dad!!!!!
I DONT WANT THIS TO HAPPEN BUT IT HAS TO
I guess wat i'm asking for is how to get over this.
I cant stop crying.
He is leaving for six months
I just dont want him to leave because i love him so much! :-(
My heart is broken
I want to mend it but I cant bear to think about my nephew and what my sister has done
I want to just scream in her face
my parents are mad...plain MAD
i cant look at them anymore
My younger sister loves my nephew and she cried when we told her
I cant bear it
i've been ditching school because of this heartache
i cant help it!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP ME!
I know that i'm supposed to trust in God but its so hard.
I know his father doesnt care for him and i dont want my nephew to forget me!
thanks in advance
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hey, i know sort of what you're going through. i'm raising my sister's children, and my husband and i were faced with the same situation last year. i'm in canada, so the laws are different, but your parents may have what is called 'grandparents rights'. your parents have the right to take your nephew's father to court, if they can prove he is unfit to care for the child they can obtain legal custody. however, consider both sides of the situation; if the father doesnt' care at all for the little boy, why would he be taking him in? if he wasn't interested in bringing the boy up, he would have refused to take him. like the other answer states, DSS ( i'm assuming that's the american equivalent of children's aid or social services) will be checking up on the family, so you won't have to worry about that. as for your nephew forgetting you, send him cards and letters and if you can, call him on the phone. save some money and maybe go visit him if you can.
you have my sympathies, and i really hope everything works out the way it is supposed to for you, and your nephew. also, your sister may have made some mistakes, and she will realize that and regret a lot of things eventually. for now, she's still family, and although you may be furious with her, she's still your sister. it will get easier, just have faith, and stay strong. God never gives us mountains we aren't able to climb, you'll get through this, i'm sure of it!
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Well, what sucks in the whole thing is that this guy is his father, so he has every right to take him with him. If he doesn't care for him and such, DSS won't leave him there. They will do repeated check ups to make sure the boy is doing okay in his new environment. If he doesn't take care of the child, he will be removed from his home, and then your parents would be given an opportunity to take custody.
I know it is sad. It is really hard for an entire family when a child is moved away from them. Best I can tell you is to hang in there, get yourself going back to school (it may help you overcome this), and allow yourself to grieve about it. You are facing a loss, but thankfully you still have a right to visit him! Keep that in mind that he is not gone for always.
And you have every right to be mad at your sister if she did something foolish to lose her son, but remember, she is probably more sad about it than you. So don't be harsh with her.
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