Member Since: December 16, 2006
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Last Update: December 16, 2006
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16/f
I have a sister who had a so when she was just a teenager
DSS took her son because of something -cant remember- and now they are sending him to Texas with his dad!!!!!
I DONT WANT THIS TO HAPPEN BUT IT HAS TO
I guess wat i'm asking for is how to get over this.
I cant stop crying.
He is leaving for six months
I just dont want him to leave because i love him so much! :-(
My heart is broken
I want to mend it but I cant bear to think about my nephew and what my sister has done
I want to just scream in her face
my parents are mad...plain MAD
i cant look at them anymore
My younger sister loves my nephew and she cried when we told her
I cant bear it
i've been ditching school because of this heartache
i cant help it!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP ME!
I know that i'm supposed to trust in God but its so hard.
I know his father doesnt care for him and i dont want my nephew to forget me!
thanks in advance (link)
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hey, i know sort of what you're going through. i'm raising my sister's children, and my husband and i were faced with the same situation last year. i'm in canada, so the laws are different, but your parents may have what is called 'grandparents rights'. your parents have the right to take your nephew's father to court, if they can prove he is unfit to care for the child they can obtain legal custody. however, consider both sides of the situation; if the father doesnt' care at all for the little boy, why would he be taking him in? if he wasn't interested in bringing the boy up, he would have refused to take him. like the other answer states, DSS ( i'm assuming that's the american equivalent of children's aid or social services) will be checking up on the family, so you won't have to worry about that. as for your nephew forgetting you, send him cards and letters and if you can, call him on the phone. save some money and maybe go visit him if you can.
you have my sympathies, and i really hope everything works out the way it is supposed to for you, and your nephew. also, your sister may have made some mistakes, and she will realize that and regret a lot of things eventually. for now, she's still family, and although you may be furious with her, she's still your sister. it will get easier, just have faith, and stay strong. God never gives us mountains we aren't able to climb, you'll get through this, i'm sure of it!
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hey, im a 15/f,
my parents have always been pretty strict when it comes to boys. I dont think im really allowed to date, and they dont really even want me having boys who are just friends. And, im not allowed to like hang out w/them and stuff. I am an extremely responsible kid and i get straight A's...im a good kid! But, they still wont ease up. I think its how they were raised...I've talked to them about dating, and they said maybe, but they put all these crazy restrictions on it! and im so embarassed that when i actually do say yes to someoen asking me out that they will think ima loser because of my parents! Like they want to like come on our dates! I mean come on IM 15!!!! How do I either A. have a bf without them knowing, or B. get them to let me date, and not b so strict w/it?? (link)
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i don't recommend lying to your parents AT ALL because that will just make things worse. if they catch you lying, they'll get even stricter. are you an only child? if so, that might be one of the reasons why you are being so overprotected. they just want to protect you and keep you safe, and in today's world, i can't really blame them. talk to your parents, and tell them that you feel smothered and you want to date, but let them know you are willing to compromise. maybe they will let you date in groups, or go on double dates so that you're never alone with a boy. try to find a middle ground with them. if they won't agree to anything, i'm sorry, but you have to listen to your parents, at least till you're an adult. i strongly recommend being honest all the way, don't give your parents a reason to lose their trust in you. good luck :)
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