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Strict parents....But I WANT TO DATE ALREADY!!!!
hey, im a 15/f,
my parents have always been pretty strict when it comes to boys. I dont think im really allowed to date, and they dont really even want me having boys who are just friends. And, im not allowed to like hang out w/them and stuff. I am an extremely responsible kid and i get straight A's...im a good kid! But, they still wont ease up. I think its how they were raised...I've talked to them about dating, and they said maybe, but they put all these crazy restrictions on it! and im so embarassed that when i actually do say yes to someoen asking me out that they will think ima loser because of my parents! Like they want to like come on our dates! I mean come on IM 15!!!! How do I either A. have a bf without them knowing, or B. get them to let me date, and not b so strict w/it??
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When you are 15 it seems really unfair when you can't date. Let's talk reality for a minute, this world is the reason why your parents are being so strict. It is not meant to hurt you in any way. They love you, plain and simple. Maybe you are a good kid, doesn't mean that you can prtect yourself in a situation. Bad things happen to young girls your age every day.Never be dishonest with your parents, it will only backfire. You never want to be in a dangerous situation and your parents being cluesless as to your whereabouts.When you're15 you never understand the real dangers involved in certain things. I do recommend being straight with your parents though. Do not argue with them. Try another approach if possible. I understand how hard it is to feel ready and to feel so trapped at the same time. I also understand the embarrassment too. Maybe suggest to your parent sthat you are ready to date, but try it this way: See if you parent swill let you invite a boy over, let your parents get to know the boy. Try baby steps first, don't just go for the throat and ask your parents if you can go out and date a boy just yet. Ease them into it. You're their little girl and you are growing up. They do trust you, they don't trust the boys. It may sound lame to start this way. It will help make your parents more comfortable though and more confident in the long run about letting you date in the future if they agree to try this little experiment.You don't even have to tell the boy in question why you are doing what you are doing at first. Don't worry about scaring him off, if he likes you he will want to see you any way he can. By letting your parents get to know a potential boyfriend you have a better chance of proving to your parents that you are a capable young woman.They will see that rather than rebelling you chose to include them. It may make a big difference.
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i don't recommend lying to your parents AT ALL because that will just make things worse. if they catch you lying, they'll get even stricter. are you an only child? if so, that might be one of the reasons why you are being so overprotected. they just want to protect you and keep you safe, and in today's world, i can't really blame them. talk to your parents, and tell them that you feel smothered and you want to date, but let them know you are willing to compromise. maybe they will let you date in groups, or go on double dates so that you're never alone with a boy. try to find a middle ground with them. if they won't agree to anything, i'm sorry, but you have to listen to your parents, at least till you're an adult. i strongly recommend being honest all the way, don't give your parents a reason to lose their trust in you. good luck :)
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for laughs - tell them you already had on 10 on 1 gangbang with muscular, overlytattooed, biker guys. and put what they say word for word, in my feedback.
also you could reason with them, and i doubt thats how they were raised. also, tell them you'll keep them up-to-date on whats going on with your relationships. even if you would even invite him over for dinner everyonce in a while, although it may be hard, it might allow your parents to see more responsibilty and respect towards their parenting skills.
see it from your parents point of view in a teenagers eyes, and you'll do just fine
...also keep in mind you'll be legal in 3 years, and driving in 1, by then i hope you'll be making you're own decisions.
good luck.
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You can always lie to them and tell them you're going out with friends && a. be with friends && the boy (so you're not lieing) or b. just go out with him.
Talk to your parents and say "i'm not going to have sex before marriage- i promise." Talk about how you get good grades and that you just want to have someone to hang out with that's not a girl. Explain all your good points and all will be good!
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im sorry i can't answer your question....i was just going to ask you to drop one in my inbox whenever you got an answer because i have the same problem.....well thanks, and again sorry for not being able to answer....<3
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