Member Since: December 21, 2006
Answers: 5
Last Update: December 23, 2006
Visitors: 1687
|
| |
|
I am 15 years old and my grandmother (50) is expecting me to haev kids at 16 but I feel that is too young.i want to have kids at 30 years old but my parents thinks it is old. so can anyone tell me if it is?I really want to enjoy my 20's adn have fun.so thanks for your answers! (link)
| |
Whoa! Hold on, your grandma is only 50 and she wants you to have kids that young? It is your body and you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. You only have on life, live it for you. Do not burden yourself before you get to experience anything. They are very wrong to push such a thing on you. 30 is not too old, it is actually becoming common place these days. People tend to wait until they are established in their careers and settled and 30 is a good agae to begin a family. Live your life the way you want to.
|
|
theres a guy that i went out with and he broke up with me two days after we got together to be with another girl. then they broke up and i still like him and now he wants me back but i dont want to go against my morals and i know i shouldnt go with him but i kinda want to. what do i do?? (link)
| |
No way! This guy is not worth any of your time. Any guy who would start seeing you and dump you two days after to be with someone else is not for you. He placed you on the back burner when someone else came along. Don't give him any of your time. He left you before your relationship got started. He didn't give you a chance and it is best to know now than have things get really serious and him to break your heart later. You deserve better. Do you really want him back after being with someone else? Think about it. He is playing games. You are better than this.
|
hey, im a 15/f,
my parents have always been pretty strict when it comes to boys. I dont think im really allowed to date, and they dont really even want me having boys who are just friends. And, im not allowed to like hang out w/them and stuff. I am an extremely responsible kid and i get straight A's...im a good kid! But, they still wont ease up. I think its how they were raised...I've talked to them about dating, and they said maybe, but they put all these crazy restrictions on it! and im so embarassed that when i actually do say yes to someoen asking me out that they will think ima loser because of my parents! Like they want to like come on our dates! I mean come on IM 15!!!! How do I either A. have a bf without them knowing, or B. get them to let me date, and not b so strict w/it?? (link)
| |
When you are 15 it seems really unfair when you can't date. Let's talk reality for a minute, this world is the reason why your parents are being so strict. It is not meant to hurt you in any way. They love you, plain and simple. Maybe you are a good kid, doesn't mean that you can prtect yourself in a situation. Bad things happen to young girls your age every day.Never be dishonest with your parents, it will only backfire. You never want to be in a dangerous situation and your parents being cluesless as to your whereabouts.When you're15 you never understand the real dangers involved in certain things. I do recommend being straight with your parents though. Do not argue with them. Try another approach if possible. I understand how hard it is to feel ready and to feel so trapped at the same time. I also understand the embarrassment too. Maybe suggest to your parent sthat you are ready to date, but try it this way: See if you parent swill let you invite a boy over, let your parents get to know the boy. Try baby steps first, don't just go for the throat and ask your parents if you can go out and date a boy just yet. Ease them into it. You're their little girl and you are growing up. They do trust you, they don't trust the boys. It may sound lame to start this way. It will help make your parents more comfortable though and more confident in the long run about letting you date in the future if they agree to try this little experiment.You don't even have to tell the boy in question why you are doing what you are doing at first. Don't worry about scaring him off, if he likes you he will want to see you any way he can. By letting your parents get to know a potential boyfriend you have a better chance of proving to your parents that you are a capable young woman.They will see that rather than rebelling you chose to include them. It may make a big difference.
|
|
My dad has yelled and cussed since I was born. For example, last night his sister called and I went over to him and I had the phone in my hand. I said, "Dad? Do you want to talk to your sister? Here's the phone." And he ignored me, so I put it down and was walking up the stairs, and he heard his sister leaving a message. He ran over to the phone, turned to me, and yelled, "YOU IDIOT! WHY DIDN'T YOU ANSWER IT?" And I didn't know what to say because I had asked him if he wanted to talk to her, but he didn't answer. I coudn't cry in front of him. I did once and he started screaming at me for it. Do I even have a reason to be upset for him saying that to me? I don't know. Sometimes I feel so stupid for getting upset over things like that and I don't think I have a reason to. I was trying to tell my mom something earlier and he walked by, glared at me, and said, "SHUT UP!" For no reason. He yells and cusses at me and my brother almost every day for no reason at all. I've talked to my mom before and she didn't do anything. The only time she's tried talking to my dad about it, he simply started cussing at me and her. He's okay one minute, then the next he's yelling like a maniac. I can't take this anymore. I'm still crying over something he said to me LAST year. Do I have a reason to be upset? What am I supposed to do? (link)
| |
I am very sorry to hear that you are dealing with this sort of thing. It may not mean much right now, but it is possible that your dad may be under stress and you are there and catch the hell. It doesn't make it right, understand, other issues are probably factoring in as well.You have a right to be upset by your father's behavior. Please don't take it to heart though, it is NOT your fault. Your dad probably has issues he can't discuss. He may need counseling, who knows. The main thing is, I don't want you to let this destroy YOUR self esteem. Please keep your chin up and don't let this get you down. I know when someone you love is angry all the time it prevents us from getting close to them. I know it is hard for you to maintain your emotions. I think you did the right thing by not giving him more fuel by not letting him see you cry. Just don't blame yourself...I read over this again and was not satisfied with what I said to you, If your mom is not doing anything either, then there must a be a very big problem. Is there any way you can talk to your mom about arranging some sort of intervention with your dad? This usually would involve your mom going to see a counselor on your dad's behalf. They do this sort of thing for drug abusers but I think it may be possible to find someone to act as mediator, who is a profeesional counselor. The more I think on this, it is something all of you are going through that is not getting any better. If your mom was willing to try this, it may get the wheels in motion. With an intervention, all of you would be able to tell your dad what he has done to hurt you and possibly show him how hurt you all are and hopefully request that he get help since his anger is tearing all of you up inside. You dad is being a bully to the people who love him. He DOES need help. Since his problem deals mainly with anger, see if your mom can possibly go talk to a counselor of some sort. If my idea doesn't work maybe they will have a better idea that may be more effective since they have the expertise that I do not in this case.
|
I'm 16 years old, and my boyfriend is significantly older then I am. Let's just say he's old enough to go to bars & drink legally and what not.
He doesn't party a lot, but he smokes weed and it annoys the hell out me. When he goes partying with his friends, he'll always call me & I'll just start FREAKING out on him.
Like when he drinks alcohol it makes me soo mad when he calls because, well I don't know why. Then we'll get into an argument and I'll insult him. I don't know what's wrong with me.
I think it's just jealousy. But, how would I overcome this? (link)
| |
I don't believe this is jealousy at all. I can understand why you would be upset. His behavior is a little insensitive to you and your feelings. I would say that you are justified to feel as you do. I do not think these feelings you have will go away as long as the problem continues. It probably wouldn't be that easy to persuade him to your point of view if he is doing all of these things. The one thing I can suggest aside from freaking out on him in anger, is provide him with information, firmly, put things on the table without anger, Let him know how you feel about some things. Then let it go. The thing with changing a person is you can't change them, all you can do is provide the facts so they know there is a problem but then you have to back off completely. If the realtionship is a meaningful aside from these things, maybe rather than fighting, give him time to realize that you mean it but not in a blind rage. You can't force it, it creates rebeliion in the other person. It will only work if you have the patience to wait it out and let him figure this out on his own.Show him you're there but that you will not be ignored in such a way that will get thru to him. Maybe scare him straight but don't be forceful. If he cares , it may take time, but he will figure this out.
|
|