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is 30 too old?
I am 15 years old and my grandmother (50) is expecting me to haev kids at 16 but I feel that is too young.i want to have kids at 30 years old but my parents thinks it is old. so can anyone tell me if it is?I really want to enjoy my 20's adn have fun.so thanks for your answers!
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Now hold on there, this is not your grandmas decision or your mothers, you can have kids whenever you feel is the right time. Your mom probably made a mistake and had kids too young, but know she thinks it turned out well. It's your decision and YOU descide.
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It's not fair for your grandmother to want to have children when you aren't ready. When you are happily married, and feel as though you are emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially (yup, it's a good idea to be able to pay to take care of your kids) capable, that is the time to start having children. And 30 is absolutely NOT too old to have children. However, 40 is a bit too old, simply because it gives your babies a higher risk of having disorders or deformities. Hope I helped =]
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Well it's harder to have kids at 30 from what I hear, but it's totally your choice. MY friends mom was still having kids at like 36 so don't sweat about it. It's all in what you want. God Bless, Good luck, and Merry Christmas.
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Don't have kids anytime soon. enjoy your 20's. I'm going to be 20 this February, i absolutely love children, but i dont want any of my own until im 30. It's too much responsibility. Constantly worrying about your kids, once they go to school, and all the hell they will put me through once they are teens is something i am willing to wait for. Enjoy being young, once your youth is gone it will NEVER come back.
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Whoa! Hold on, your grandma is only 50 and she wants you to have kids that young? It is your body and you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. You only have on life, live it for you. Do not burden yourself before you get to experience anything. They are very wrong to push such a thing on you. 30 is not too old, it is actually becoming common place these days. People tend to wait until they are established in their careers and settled and 30 is a good agae to begin a family. Live your life the way you want to.
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no one, not even your family can tel you when to have kids!- its a personal choice, and its all up to you.
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i think you should explain to your parents and grand-mother that you still want to do alot of things before you settle down and have a family..(eg finishing highschool, going to college, partying with your friends etc)...explain to them that your not ready to take that reponsibiliy yet, and you want to wait untill you feel that have achieved the things that you wanted to do...and also if you feel you havent found the perfect guy yet, you can tell them that your waiting for the right guy.
Good luck and hope i helped.
-Krazy
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Its your decision and yours only on when you want to have sex or kids.
16 is, in my opinion, wayyy to young.
30 is perfectly normal. My cousins (2 of them) got married at 30, and they're perfectly happy.
My neighbor who I'm close with is 36, had one kid at 35 and is pregnant with her 2nd one now (in a few weeks even!).
So you have kids when you and your partner are 100% ready and able to support it/them.
Good luck!
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I would say that as it is your body, it's your decision when and if you want to have children. However, I do agree with you that 16 is rather young, you really need some time to find out about you before you have to look after anyone else. Lots of women are waiting until their 30's these days to start a family.
Unless it's an ethnic issue where you would need to be very careful how you word it, maybe just tell them how you feel.
At your age, I was convinced I never wanted children but by the time I reached 25 I had totally changed my mind. Maybe you could offer them some comfort in saying that there is a chance you might do the same?
Please don't feel pressurised into something you are not ready for. It's you who will have to deal with the consequences, not them.
Good luck.
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