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Jealous?
I'm 16 years old, and my boyfriend is significantly older then I am. Let's just say he's old enough to go to bars & drink legally and what not.
He doesn't party a lot, but he smokes weed and it annoys the hell out me. When he goes partying with his friends, he'll always call me & I'll just start FREAKING out on him.
Like when he drinks alcohol it makes me soo mad when he calls because, well I don't know why. Then we'll get into an argument and I'll insult him. I don't know what's wrong with me.
I think it's just jealousy. But, how would I overcome this?
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my ex would do the same... always calling me when he's out partying and when he's drunk. it made me sooo mad, then i'd get sad though because i wasnt there to be with him (like to take care of him)! it's not right to do that... it's like he's teasing you kinda if that makes since. he's telling you he's partying and telling you that you cant come. i would talk to him about it... tell him it upsets you when he calls you like that & when he is out & calls you. that is the best thing... to talk it out. otherwise, it could build up until one of you cant take it anymore. i dont think its jealousy... i think you care for him that much... that you dont want to know when he's doing that stuff because it hurts you. ur best bet is to talk to him. =]
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I don't believe this is jealousy at all. I can understand why you would be upset. His behavior is a little insensitive to you and your feelings. I would say that you are justified to feel as you do. I do not think these feelings you have will go away as long as the problem continues. It probably wouldn't be that easy to persuade him to your point of view if he is doing all of these things. The one thing I can suggest aside from freaking out on him in anger, is provide him with information, firmly, put things on the table without anger, Let him know how you feel about some things. Then let it go. The thing with changing a person is you can't change them, all you can do is provide the facts so they know there is a problem but then you have to back off completely. If the realtionship is a meaningful aside from these things, maybe rather than fighting, give him time to realize that you mean it but not in a blind rage. You can't force it, it creates rebeliion in the other person. It will only work if you have the patience to wait it out and let him figure this out on his own.Show him you're there but that you will not be ignored in such a way that will get thru to him. Maybe scare him straight but don't be forceful. If he cares , it may take time, but he will figure this out.
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I dont think its so much of a jealousy thing. You just probably dont like the idea of him doing it in general. It could be a jealousy thing because you want to drink and do this and that. Hang out with him more. And just dont answer the phone if you know hes drunk or whatever. Or tell him not to call you when he is. You cant really ever get over it you just learn to deal with it eventually.
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