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Hi im 13 years old and im a girl.It's been 4 months that i dont feel any emotions.I only feel anger and sadness.I cry a lot because i have no idea what to do and im seriously thinking about starting to cut myself and im afraid.I dont wanna die at all i wanna live myself.I always play a part when im with my friends.I noticed that a lot of people try drugs becaus the same way that i feel.
I really need advices from people that probably already being through this once.

Cutting yourself isn't going to help it's just going to make the situation worst so i suggest you don't do that there's other ways to solve your
situation & cutting isn't one of them talk to parents tell them how your feeling it's better to talk instead of keeping everything your feeling bottled up inside you & not saying anything at all or say you'd like to go to therapist unless you'd rather talk to your parents and not a stranger drugs
are illegal & those aren't going to help either your
best option would be to talk to your parents & tell them everything your feeling(:

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Okay, well i'm 15 female and theres this guy that i've recently started to like alot I had a class with him at the beginning of the year but my schedule got changed so now I have no classes with him, when we had a class together I didnt really talk to him much because i'm really shy and i've never had a boyfriend before, (we sat right next to eachother) but he would always try to start a conversation with me I would respond back but I was really closed off when he tried to get to know me. When he found out that my schedule got changed he told me that he would miss me, and that I should try getting into the class. Also he notices everything like when I get a new outfit or something like that, my mom said thats a good thing :) I was never able to get back into that class but I would always see him in the hallways and he would always say hi to me, I would just smile. But now when he sees me in the hallways he doesnt say anything to me, which makes me kinda upset has he given up on trying to talk to me or what?

If he doesn't say hi to you then you say hi to him you be the one to make the first move and maybe then
he'll create conversation with you i don't think he's given up talking to you seeing as he seemed interested in you in the past if your confident & you believe in yourself then you won't be shy yes him noticing your new outfit is a good thing it's a
advantage for you because he's noticing you and not
ignoring you if you try to create a conversation with him he'll notice you once you do talk to him you could ask him why he stopped saying hi to you if
you'd like(:

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I am going to give a little background first then I will ask my questions.
I am 21 and a female.
As I was growing up I noticed that I had several dreams actually come true. Also as a child I would ask God to show me who my future husband would be. After a few months of asking God for some hint as to who he would be, I started to dream about this person with a blurry face except for the eyes. As I got older the guy's face became clearer and clearer.
I am now in a relationship with a guy that has everything I could ever want, but he is not the face I see in my dreams. My gut is telling me to keep searching for this other guy, but my mind knows I found the perfect guy for me. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend but at the same time how can I stay true to him when my dreams and heart belong to another? How do I explain this to him? Also should I listen to my gut or to my head? Please if you can help I would really appreciate it. If you have questions for me about more details let me know.

I think you should listen to your head and be happy with your boyfriend because perfect boys are hard to find seeing as every boy is different & girls all look for different things they want from boys be honest and truthful with your boyfriend be straight forward explain your dream to him i'm sure he'll understand if you think you've found the perfect boy then you should stay with your current
boyfriend it would be ashame to ruin your relationship seeing as not most girls aren't as lucky to have a good relationship like you've got if in the future another boy comes along well then so be it(:

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16/f

two days ago i broke up with my boyfriend but we can continue being friends since i'm doing bad in school, so i wanted to focus during school. for my own personal reasons. and later on he decided he didn't want to get back together because he wants his freedom for a while to hang out with his friends and that he'll always love me and there's not going to be a next girlfriend. whether i believe him or not, i do somewhat believe him... because he said his dad only loved his mom for the longest time, and even though his mom is now married to someone else. his dad never stopped loving her. i cried because it was official, and so did he. but i don't feel that sad anymore, maybe because my schedule is different.. i miss seeing his family, talking to him, texting him. so i told him he can text me whenever he wants to or call and i told him not to hesitate because i will answer. and we also agreed we can visit our kids since we have four... (stuffed animals). i guess he just wants some time alone without me while we broke up, but i really do miss him. then there's a guy who i'm interested in, and he does talk to me over facebook, text, and we do sometimes talk on the phone. he also walks me to class and talks to me in person. i'm starting to like him, and what really put me down was that he said he liked this other girl (someone he hasn't met yet) and he's interested because she's pretty. then he's planning to approach her on monday, and part of me is hoping she'll reject him. later on he also told me he never went out with a girl where he liked first, and he only went out with a girl that liked him first. and since i like him first, i don't want to be "one of those girls". i'm debating on whether or not should i wait for him, and maybe he'll never come. so i don't really want to waste my time, it sucks because sometimes i wish he could hug me and stuff... because he even drives over to where i am to comfort me when i'm upset. (just like last night he drove to the park and stayed outside in the cold for 2 hours with me). now, i'm starting to think am i not pretty enough for him? why doesn't he like me? what should i do about the guy i'm interested in, and how can i get over my ex boyfriend... and is there a possible chance where i will see him again?

He should accept you for who you are and like you for you & your personality you shouldn't have to change yourself to please him i think you should wait for him things could possiblity change you shouldn't jump to conclusions quickly or assume the
worst until you know what really happens & if for some reason things don't go right then that's a sign
that things weren't meant to be between you two everything happens for a reason you can't make him
like you if he's not interested in you as long as your confident & you believe in yourself then you'll
be fine all boys are different with what they look for in girls they aren't all the same as far as your
ex is concerned i think you should focus on your school work like you orignally planned to do that way you'll be focused on that & not on your ex

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I have a crush. I'm totally obsessed with him. But its no use, he doesn't really like me. But even though he doesn't, I still love him madly! There is this another guy....who is in deep love with me. He's in tenth grade. I'm in 8th grade. Hes in a different city. We might not get to see each other very often. Maybe we will never get to see each other. He wants me to be his Girlfriend. I don't know how to reply him. When i say I like him as a friend...he goes all emo. But I don't really like him as a boyfriend. I already have a crush on someone in our school. I love him a lot. This person who loves me...what can I say to him? What should I do? Please don't say "its your choice." :) thank you! I'm a fourteen year old girl and I need help!

You should tell him that you two are better off as friends and that things weren't meant to be between
the both of you everything happens for a reason tell
him that long distance relationships usually don't work out & the couples end up breaking up it would be tough to travel to where he is it's better to see someone face to face & in person especially in a relationship being distant from one another isn't good for couples(:

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hey so i think i'm falling for this guy i've been texting for a few weeks. we've only hung out once but he's really fun to talk to we have a lot in common and hes cute :) haha. but yeah my friend dated him for like a week 2 years ago and she said he's a player. his facebook says hes looking for a relationship though...and 2 years is alot to change right? all of my relationships have been 6+ months, i'm not into hookups and stuff, i like to mean something when i do stuff with a guy. i can see him as a player but i know alot of guys that were players then they starting dating a girl and have been together for quite awhile. idk should i chance this? we're suppose to go out this weekend lol thankss

Don't believe everything you hear i wouldn't go by
what your friend said about him being a player the only way you'll know if he truely is...is if you find out for yourself yes i say go for it take the chance it's worth a shot you both having alot in common is a advantage for you seeing as you'll have
more to talk about & you'll have better conversations him dating your friend is in the past
& yes 2 years is alot of time to change yes you should totally go for it otherwise you'll probably end up regretting it later on and you will be wishing you would of taken a chance & done something about it(:

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16/f

please, i'm not looking for any criticisms, hearing how terrible i am, or what i'm doing is wrong, or to be judged. i'm looking for advice. i'm sorry this is long, but the more details to more it would make sense.

i have been with my boyfriend for about 14 months now, and we don't exactly have a healthy relationship. when i say that, i mean whenever i try to break up with him he would most likely get an asthma attack from crying too hard. so i'm somewhat stuck in the relationship somehow, even though i didn't have a problem with even being with him. but then for the past week, i didn't get to see my boyfriend at all or even get to have a full conversation. even my older sister said that she can tell me and him weren't going to last that long. during that week, i met this guy that eats at my work place and he goes to the same school as i do. he's not the best looking guy i know or anything, but he is interesting and fun to talk to. i was just interested in being his friend, and there was a misunderstanding when we met and he said "how could i be interested in you when you have a boyfriend?". even though i didn't care that time if he wasn't even interested in me... he also told me he was interested in a girl but has never spoken to her, but that it was because she was pretty. so for the past week, me and him have been talking a lot and again, i barely got to talk to my boyfriend because he was always so busy. so i was thinking i was just talking to a new friend. and it's obvious nobody can control their feelings, i started to like him or be interested in him. he always walked me to class, he offered to help me in math, he always thought it was fun to talk to me and stuff. i guess i got the wrong message from him? because today, he finally told me who he was interested in... and he acted nervous and for some reason i was hoping it'd be me. (btw, i was thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend because i didn't want to lead him on... but yet i wanted to be sure that i did lose feelings for him completely and that i just didn't see the new guy as a best friend). and it turns out that it was this girl, who i knew... my friend, but i didn't talk to her as much. he still didn't talk to her but he heard she was nice and he was attracted to her looks. after hearing that, my mood changed completely towards him and made me feel worse when he kept saying "darn it, you were talking to her earlier i missed my chance to talk to her. i should've went up to you and started a conversation." he asked how she was like and of course i'm going to be honest, i'm not going to make up lies. but it started to bother me... i kept thinking "why doesn't he like me? he actually knows me, am i not as pretty? is it because i have a boyfriend?" and i thought about my boyfriend, nobody can exactly compare to him because he would treat me so well, and my friend would too and i did think he was interested in me... but obviously when you first date someone it's going to be awkward for a while. but i thought he was too "high class" for me, so i wasn't sure if i should even be interested. but now, i'm feeling really down.. i have nobody to talk to about this because i have a boyfriend, of course. what should i do? and if breaking up with my boyfriend is part of the plan... how can i go through the asthma attack? please and thank you!

Every relationship has potential to get better but the two people in it have got to be willing to try and make it better otherwise it won't work everything happens for a reason if it comes down to you breaking up with your boyfriend tell him that things weren't meant to be between you two yes it will hurt him once you do tell him but evenually the pain he's feeling will fade away and he'll move on every boy handles break up's differently i think you should try and straighten out the situation with your boyfriend talk to him tell him how you feel he won't know unless you talk to him the other boy liking the other girl was a sign that it wasn't meant to be for the both of you move on and focus on getting your relationship with your boyfriend better unless your planning on breaking up with him
which is of course your decision

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So I've been in a relationship for over a year. We were very much in love, and then after a stressful semester at school, we started to fight alot. I was looking forward to winter break & rekindling our romance but I ended up breaking up with him because of one of the fights. He begged to come back to me and cried about how much he loves me and doesn't want this to happen, I didn't either because he's my world so we got back together. We ended up hanging out more that week and spending christmas together & then 2 days later he broke up with me, saying that me breaking up with him really did hurt, and all the nasty things I said to him rly affected him and I broke his heart. I was heartbroken too and we talked every few days but he said he did not feel he's ready to be back with me because he's hurt. I understood and gave him space. Soon he started talking/seeing this girl from his grade school that recently got out of a long relationship too. He writes on facebook, "we will be romeo and juliet." and asked her out on Valentine's Day. Less than 2 months since we broke up. That hurt so bad. He deleted me from his facebook but still has ALL of our pictures together. Some of his defaults even have us hooking up & the caption is "love of my life

You don't deserve to be ignored and treated like
that by him he hurt you things weren't meant to be between you two everything happens for a reason you deserve someone better who will treat you with respect & who will treat you like your suppose to be treated nicely the best thing you can do is move on so it isn't bothering you the good thing is there are tons of other boys out there & you'll always have chances for relationships once your ready to date again(:

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Hi, 22/f, he's 28/m.

Background: I worked at a coffee shop. Andy is one of the regulars. We talked a lot, hung out a little, and wound up dating for a month when I was broken up with my long-term on-and-off mess/boyfriend, Mike. Because I was still addicted to Mike, I broke it off with Andy. He understood, and hated myself for doing it, but I had to. Leading him on would've been wrong...

More than a year later: I no longer work at the coffee shop, Mike and I are done, and I've started hanging out with the regulars again, including Andy. A bunch of us went to the bar last night, and he made it pretty clear that he still likes me.

He's a good man, he's intelligent, he's fun, he's respectful, we have a lot in common...I don't know. I'm just kind of afraid to get back into a relationship with him because I hurt him last time. If we like each other, though, shouldn't we pursue it, if we're both single (which we are)? Should we just make sure we take things REALLY slow? I've been considering getting back into the dating scene lately, but dating around, not seriously...y'know? Just have some fun. What if he wants something more serious, and I hurt him again?

I need advice on this; I'm used to dealing with a hypersensitive, narcissistic, borderline guy...I don't think I know how to handle a normal one.

I think you should get into a relationship with him
you both like one another and you've got things in common and your both single those are all advantages for you yes you should take things slow it's never good to rush things while in
a relationship you might not be as lucky if you do turn him down & find another guy since every guy is different before you do make it offical make sure he truely wants to be in a serious relationship or not explain to him how you feel i say go for it..it's worth a shot & if for some reason things don't go right you'll still know you tried instead of doing nothing and you regretting it later on don't jump to conclusions so quickly you maybe surprised at how things turn out go for it! (:

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Hi, im a female 18. I would appreciate any advice you can give me. Today i just went on a date with this guy I know. And my mother doesnt really let me go out on my own, at all. So i told her i was going to go to this gathering that was supposed to go on that day. But really i went to meet with my boyfriend for some dinner. It was our first date with him. He bought me flowers and some stuff. Anyway when when i came home my mother was like where the hell did you go, i went to that place and you werent there then it was over. Where the hell did you get those flowers from. I said they had them at the meeting. She was like your a lier why dont you just say you went on a date with some bastard. I was like no no no i did go there. She starts crying a little and im like oh crap why did she have to stalk me. Then it was getting too much so i just went to my room. So then she's like fine i'm not going to tell you where i'm going or when i'll be back from now on either. As a matter of fact im leaving now. I was like sorry you feel that way you know. Anyways still waiting to see what happens. What should I do... any advice... please help. Thank you in advance.

I think you should give your mother some space seeing as she's upset then once you feel ready confront her and say you'd like to be trusted explain to her that your legal and no longer a minor your able to take care of yourself while your out alone and reassure her you'll make the right decisions and be responsible tell her you'd like more freedom apologize for lieing say you made a mistake and that you should of told her the truth from the start and you'd like it if she accepted your apology also apologize for making her cry and upset it would be nice to add that you'll tell her the truth about where you'll be going from now on that way you'll gain her trust back again(:

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I'm Rachel,12 female. I have a boyfriend that is 16 and I am only 12! i wondered if that is okay? He told me that I didn't have to do anything I didn't want to. But the worst thing is one of my silly mates told him i was 16 and I don't have the guts to tell him im not. I really love him and we have so much in common. we go on dates all the time but I have to lie to my mum and dad and tell them im going out with my friends. I hate all this lieing but I love the boy so much I cant live without him and i know he loves me to. please help! should I dump or stay with him?

I don't think it's illegal seeing as you both are minors if he was legal then that would be a different story and you'd have a reason to worry as
long as your parents allow you to date him i don't see a problem with it as long as he doesn't try to do anything sexual with you you've got to tell him your real age believe in yourself and be confident he can't continue dating you thinking your a certain age when you aren't be truthful & honest with him it's better then lieing if you truely love him you'll tell him the truth he deserves to know i
think you should stay with him your relationship seems to be going well & it would be ashame if you
destroyed it by breaking up with him(:

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I always get at least 7 hours of sleep each and every night. I work 7 hour shifts (usually) about 5 days a week (sometimes 6 days). I never really feel tired at work but when I get behind the wheel I am always falling asleep!

The drive home isn't really long or anything but I've found myself to dose off about 6 or 7 times each time I'm driving. At first I start yawning and the next thing I know I'm jerking myself awake!

My boyfriend told me to roll all the windows down and turn the radio up loudly so that I wouldn't be comfortable to sleep. It doesn't seem to help though because I keep finding myself waking up while on the road.

I'm really, really afraid that one of these times I'm going to dose off and hit somebody. All of the times I've fallen asleep behind the wheel I've been lucky because I wake up still on the road and still going the speed limit. I'm afraid something bad is going to happen one of these times...

What can I do to stay awake while driving? What is wrong with me? Should I see a doctor about this? I have been afraid to talk to somebody about this issue in fear they will make me give up my license to drive. Please help me...

You could be falling asleep because your working and
your exhausted your body needs rest you could try drinking some coffee maybe that will keep you awake or have a person sit in the passenger seat that way once you do start to dose off they'll be able to wake you up again and keep you focused on driving yes go visit a doctor sleeping behind the wheel is
very dangerous you could cause harm to yourself & others driving it isn't something to be taken lightly or as a joke you need to tell someone about
it & get the situation straightened out tell your boss to cut down your hours so you won't be working
as much and you'll be able to sleep more & you won't
be as tired(:

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First i am going to give a little info. about me nd my past.
since i was young i was always picked on by my dad for example he always called me fat, talked about how my room is dirty and always over exaggerating about it. Every time my mom did something wrong or do something he dont like he yells at me about and he tells me i am a good 4 notin 2 something like that. i dont be doing anything he just lash out at me. I've been depressed all of my life. One time i asked my can i go to the person who you would go to to tell them your problems. she told why go to them if i can talk to her. i dont want to tell her she is one of my problems i've been having. for some reason i tried to commit suicide by hanging my self but there wasn't anything to hang myself with. i tried jumping but i am scared of heights. I remember that day, i put everything in front of the door the bed and the dresser, i looked down i couldn't do it. i used to picture myself jumping in front of a car when it go past, but i could i was watching kids so i didn't want them have bad dreams about it. i was a suicidal who couldn't commit suicide. funny aint it. anyways i am 18 years old and i feel like i am a slave - my mom would call me over to where she is to do something for her, i would ask how come u didnt ask so and so, she would say that person wont do it right. i am being called sorry because i dont feel like doing something. i do not have job nor money to move out. i have no friends since the friends i had turned out to be fake friends ( also my dad really reminds me that i dont have any friends when i say i want a phone he use to say that you only need a certain min. because i dont have any body to talk to but my mom, that was so wrong) i just dont have anything going for me. the only things i do is read and watch thing that is online and watch porn. other than that i dont do anything. i just stay in my room. also i am a shy person, i dont talk to a lot of people because of my speech problem, i am so used to being talked about by my looks that i think every body will talk about in front of me or behind my back. how can i get a way from t this mess? i have nothing going for me. i keep on asking myself why am i here. what should i do can someone please help me. i am very lonely, i have no friends and no boyfriend to go to. i am fed up with this life. so what should i do?

Commiting suicide isn't going to help your situation it will just make it worst you'll just be hurting the people who love & care about you & they don't deserve that i'm sure your parents don't want to plan their childs funeral so i wouldn't suggest you doing that you could try going for your permit then once you do get it you'll be able to get your license and you'll have more freedom to do what you want try searching for a job in the newspaper or on the internet you may get lucky you could vounteer somewhere just so your out of the house for a few hours you could try sitting your parents down and telling them how you feel tell them that you'd like it if they weren't so hard on you and you want them to treat you more nicely your in control of your life & only you if you aren't satisfied with something then change whatever your not happy...with until you are tell your parents that you'd like to visit a therapist and it would make you really happy if they allowed you to go then go from there(:

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A 20+ year friend (Jane) and I have been at odds for about a year now because I helped her daughter (Melissa) with a large sum of money, and the daughter has not paid me back as promised and agreed. Melissa also took advantage of her own mother, amoungst other people, and she obviously has mental problems. Recently I lost my job and am in serious finaincal need. It'd be great if she would pay me back, but Jane or Melissa will not communicate with me.

Jane continues to enable her daughter. I would like to repair the friendship with Jane as I miss her, but I don't think I can NOT bring the hardship up that Melissa has created, and she simply doesn't want to hear any bad things, or even attempt to speak to her daughter about the money.

I started to write to Jane, but then quit. Maybe I shouldn't make any attempts to contact her and make ammends? I don't think I could tolerate it if she continues to stand up for Melissa who is in the wrong. Although at the same time, I really miss my friend Jane. Do I try or forget it?

You should try and contact her Jane's daughter promised she'd pay you back & paying you back is
the right thing to do you shouldn't have to suffer
because she went aganist her word and didn't do what she agreed too Jane probably doesn't want to admit that Melissa did something wrong i wouldn't forget about it you deserve your money stand up for yourself you can't let this go do what's right if
you miss your friend then contact her and explain to
her how you feel say that you'd like for her daughter to pay you back seeing as it was a large amount of money that you had given her & not a small
one say you recently lost your job & your in serious financial need contact her it's worth a shot(:

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How am I supposed to ask for advice if I dont know what my problem is. This is what happened to me a few weeks ago. I met this lady, a very brilliant, smart, sophisticated type of a woman.

She went out with me several times, we shared notes in our school work...she is a Physician Assistant student at University of Minnesota and am going for my masters in Mass Communication and Journalism.

After a few weeks, she started missing my phone calls, ignoring my phone calls and when I confronted her she asked me for money to pay a medical bill of 1,200.00.

What was she upto? I wondered!

So I asked her if she thinks we are heading anywhere with our relationship?

She said I was not her type....I was not light skin enough....I was tall enough and had the hair she liked but I was not light skin enough.

Should I bleach myself...cause I really care about her.....pleae advise. thanks...bye

I don't think you should bleach yourself for her you shouldn't change yourself for anyone she is just
seeing your flaws and isn't accepting you for who you truely are i don't think things are meant to be
between you two seeing as she said you weren't her type that's bad news i don't think changing one thing about yourself is going to make her happy she
might not be satisfied you deserve someone better who will love you for you(:

Seems like she's using you to pay her medical bill
and isn't concerned about the relationship there's
other girls out there who will treat you better
then her you truely deserve better say if she isn't willing to accept you then you can't be in the relationship with her it's her loss

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15/female
I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now, and we have a great relatesionship. We don't fight or get mad at each other, but now he is in the drama with my best friend and I. She is telling him that I am a whore and "I asked to be raped" ( I was raped a year ago by my mothers boyfriend and I told my boyfriend this) she is just trash talking me and being a b*tch. So now he is involed with our drama, we are fighting now. I asked him if he believed what she was telling him and he didn't look me in the eye and all he said was "it wasnt that hard to fugure out" Thats all he said and I am not sure if i want to break up with him or just talk to him about it before I do anything rash. I love and care about him but he hurt me and I dont' know what to do. I don't want to loose a great relatsionship over this.

Try and talk to him about it..it's worth a shot instead of breaking up with him so quickly tell your
boyfriend he shouldn't believe everything he hears &
say your best friend is just trying to cause drama and trouble say that you aren't a whore and that you
didn't ask to be raped it just happened make him believe your telling the truth and not your best friend say since he's your boyfriend you'd like it if he believed you do what you think is right if you truely don't want to loose the relationship then your best option would be to get the situation straightened out and talk to your boyfriend(:

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i had unprotected sex on the 23rd of January and he came inside of me , i was supposed to get my period on the 14th & i still havent gotten it . when i took a pregnancy test at my pediatricians office ten days after i had sex, it came out negative. now my boobs are sore, and i get cramps sometimes... now i dont even know if those are symptoms of being pregnant or if i'm just getting my period super late because i've been stressing out lately. what do you think this could possibly be ?

I think you could be pregnant i looked up the symptoms of pregnancy & some of what you described
i read i'm not a doctor so i can't give you a sure
answer your best option would be to take a pregnancy
test again just to make sure or visit your doctor they'll be able...to give you a better explaination
& answer(:

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15.Female

Well Uh . . Me And My Boyfriend Are Really Really ClOse . . Liike He Tells Me Everythinq Honestly . . Liike this gurl in my schOol tried 2 Tlk 2 hiim while ii was Out For a Week cuss ii wass sick . . She tried 2 get with him sO bad buht he just turned her down . . Nd then He Tol Me AbOut It . . Liike We are really ClOse . . Buht Recently a qurl had hit me up on aim and she started sayiinq mad stuff about how they had sex on our anniversary and stuff and So Much stuff . . And like michael had hitt me up on aim later that day and he wass like I was home and didn't qo no where he even qave me his moms number 2 call and ask (buht ii didn't ) Buht The Thiinq Is Like valentiines day was like theeeeeeee bestttttt . . Nd Then Tha Next day on our anniversary this all occured . . Buht like she seemed so sure of Herself . . Cuss ii wasn't with him on our anniversary . . Nd Like how did she kno I wasn't and how did she kno it was our anniversary . . Also a lot of gurls wanna get with michael and a lot of gurls hate me cus I'm with michael . . . Who do I beleieve ?

I think you should believe your boyfriend and trust
him when he says he was home & didn't go anywhere i don't think he'd lie to you or have sex with another
girl part of being in a relationship with someone is
being able to trust them the girl is probably jealous of you both & is making up lies trying to get attention and is causing trouble maybe word got around school somehow that it was yours & his anniversary as far as the girls hating you because your dating your boyfriend just ignore them the main thing that truely counts in the end is that your happy & if you are then that's what truely matters..if your concerned you should probably talk
to your boyfriend & try to get the situation straightened out(:

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I've been dating this guy for almost a month now and he seems to be a pretty good guy but things about him make me think he is only using me. He keeps hinting to me that he wants me to suck him off or have sex with him and it's getting pretty annoying. At first I thought he was just kidding around with me but now he brings it up every single day!

He also always bums a few dollars off of me every day for snacks near lunchtime. I wouldn't mind but he doesn't say he's going to pay me back. He doesn't really come from a wealthy family though.

He's nice to me though and always makes a point to tell me he cares about me. He hugs me every morning when we see eachother at school and he sits with me at lunch. He doesn't really talk to me even if he's sitting with me though. He always has his friends around at times like that so I don't even know some of the basics about him like his favorite food, movie, or book.

I'm just kind of torn about this situation. Is he using me or is it just early in the relationship? Should I tell him to stop talking about having sex with me and that I'm not going to do it or what? Should I stop giving him money for snacks and tell him he needs to bring his own cash? I don't want to be mean but I don't want to be stepped all over...

You should say to him that he shouldn't pressure you
into doing something and that he should take things slow & shouldn't rush also it's early in your relationship for the both of you to be having sex
see what he says if your lucky he'll admit that he's
kidding around & joking with you boys act obnoxious and maybe his hormones are raging as far as the money issue is concerned you should see if he stops asking you for it & if he doesn't then that's when you confront him about it or stop giving him money & see if he says something to you i don't think your being used by him your best option is to confront him he won't know unless you tell him what's bothering you(:

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I don't know who to ask because I am embarrassed but there is blood when i poop and I don't know I am going to be ok?

Should I go to a doctor about it?

thank you!

Yes i do think your going to be ok i'm not a doctor
there could be many reasons why your pooping blood your best option is to go visit a doctor they'll be able to give you a better explaination and will be more knowledgeable seek medical attention you don't
want to leave it untreated then seeing as that would be bad(:

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