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I dont know how to reply him! :(
I have a crush. I'm totally obsessed with him. But its no use, he doesn't really like me. But even though he doesn't, I still love him madly! There is this another guy....who is in deep love with me. He's in tenth grade. I'm in 8th grade. Hes in a different city. We might not get to see each other very often. Maybe we will never get to see each other. He wants me to be his Girlfriend. I don't know how to reply him. When i say I like him as a friend...he goes all emo. But I don't really like him as a boyfriend. I already have a crush on someone in our school. I love him a lot. This person who loves me...what can I say to him? What should I do? Please don't say "its your choice." :) thank you! I'm a fourteen year old girl and I need help!
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The guy who likes you (LDR guy) needs to understand that you won't be his girlfriend. But be honest with yourself for a moment - do you intend to be his "friend" either, or is that just another way of saying, "I really don't want to have much to do with you at all, but I don't want to hurt your feelings either."
I like to hang out with my friends, talk to them about stuff, confide in them to a certain extent, that sort of thing. If that's the kind of relationship you want with LDR guy, then by all means, tell him you want to be friends. If you would really rather he just not bother you at all anymore, then don't tell him you'll be "friends". Tell him that you don't want a relationship with him at all, because you just don't feel the way he does and there's nothing that can be done about that. Be gentle with him about it, but at the same time you need to make yourself clear. Don't bother mentioning the crush you have on this other guy; that's got nothing to do with it. I assume you wouldn't want to be LDR guy's girlfriend even if you weren't crushing on someone else, so there's no need to even bring it up. Doing so will only give LDR guy false hopes that you might come back to him if the crush doesn't work out.
As for the crush, give it time. The guy might change his mind about you. You might change your mind about him. Crushes come and go, so don't invest too much into it, especially if he's just not interested. One way to look at it is this: respond to the guy you're crushing on exactly the same way as you would like LDR guy to respond to you.
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It is your choice, but you've already made it: You don't like him and you've been totally clear and honest with him about that, right?
You need to make sure you've given him a totally clear and honest 'NO.' It's the truth, and it's the right thing to do.
So, son't be gentle anymore with him. You can't help it if he gets upset, all you can do it be respectful and honest.
Like this:
I don't want to be your girlfriend. I just don't like you in that way. I'm sorry if that upsets you but that is my final answer and you need to stop talking to me about this now. I am only going to be your friend.
It's not mean to tell the truth to someone about your feelings. Letting them believe something other than the truth is mean. It's okay if he is upset, and you are going to have be strong and let him be upset without giving in. But once you've been honest and clear he wont be confused or pressuring you anymore. If he is mean or a bully to you after you tell him the truth that clearly, then he isn't a very good friend, and you can just stop talking to him.
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You should tell him that you two are better off as friends and that things weren't meant to be between
the both of you everything happens for a reason tell
him that long distance relationships usually don't work out & the couples end up breaking up it would be tough to travel to where he is it's better to see someone face to face & in person especially in a relationship being distant from one another isn't good for couples(:
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Well, what I think you could do is give him a chance. Who knows, maybe he'll rise to the occasion where you'll start liking him and in time you'll start to move on from your crush.
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