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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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So... My friend came to my house with nothing, a few hours later she had a pack of cigars. The same ones my parents smoke. She had some story of how she got them, but I'm positive she's lying. I don't smoke and I don't want it blamed on me when it's found they're missing. I want her to give them back, and tell the truth... How do I do it?
Better to be honest then to tell a lie.
I would tell her to return the cigars or you will inform your parents that they were stolen. If she refuses then again, I would still inform your parents. I also wouldn't have her over again, If she has to be a lying theif then tell her to do it somewhere else.
Also, Why be friends with someone like that?.. How so you know it's the only thing she has taken and lied about?
i am 25 and he is 29.married for 1 yr.
we have tried doing sex but he has never ejaculated inside me. he is not able to maintain an errection. but he is able to masturbate by himself. we have tried a very few times because he does not seem to be interested in sex. even if he starts to touch or kiss me and he arouses then he sayd comes lets play some game..or watch movie or its getting late lets sleep and changes topic somehow( this happened like for 4 months after marriage) after that this also has stopped.. he is not into - drinks, smoking, any affair.. we went to the doctor a few days back for general check up and spoke about this issue too, he said he can run few tests but his guess was there was some phycological problem.results came out and doc said his hormone level is normal.and said it must be all in his mind.. problem is his errection doesn\'t stay long.. it goes off like in a minute after inserting. and on asking my husband why he in not able to do it. he says that i don\'t have a feeling/desire to do sex. my mind is not ready to do that\'s y i m not able to ejaculate inside. the feeling should come from inside to do it but i don\'t have it.i don\'t kno what to do, he simply gives this reason. and after telling i ll have to inform it to my parents..everyday he is like come we ll do sex.. i don\'t kno if he is just acting so that i wont tell my prents or really has got a desire for sex..i m so worried what decision to take. he is generally a good person. takes me out, buys me stuffs. but he says he hasn\'t got the feeling from inside to have sex. i don\'t know how to take it.he had his physical examination.. doc said its fine.. no problem unless he can masturbate. i ve asked him many times.. do u want to have sex but you aren\'t able to achieve because if some damn reason or u just don\'t want to have sex.. he says.. i don\'t have a feeling to have sex which should come by itself,, i just don\'t get the desire to have sex.
some people give idea how to have a baby...my question is not just to have kids.. he feel he just doest have a desire towards sex.. or me or whatever,, how long this relationship can last? he has never ejaculated inside me since wedding.. not even once.. so if we do some method just to have kids.. whats does our relationship really mean?.
I am going to throw a few things out here...
He may be stressed ir depressed?
And the other possibility which I know you don't want to hear is he may not be attracted to you sexually. Unfortunately, We can love a person but sometimes we loose interest sexually and sometimes physically. We don't always know it but it happens.
Worst case senerio.... Is there any chance he may be gay?
Is he on certain medications?
We were in a LDR for 3 years. A few months ago my friend was on a stupid escort/dating site and saw him on it. Pics and everything. He denied it for a week until admitting that he made it when he was high (didnt know he was smoking). He proved he didn't use them as the site doesn't let you delete anything. He swore up and down there werent any more. I told him to tell me now or I cant move forward. Still said no only one. I forgave him because he was depressed and told me he was going to get help and stop the drugs.
We were doing fine. I was planning on moving in soon. He asked why I was a bit hesitant and I brought up the profile and how I felt hurt still. He got angry and said I forgave him and I need to drop it. I felt like he was lying again. During this time, I decided to do my own search to see if there were any more. Simply googled his email and there was. Two profiles. I don't know how to proceed. It doesn't look like he really used these either though.
If I end it and explain why, he's going to resort to name calling like last time. Saying I'm a creep, that I don't trust him.
You have every right not to trust him, He has lied over and over again. I don't care if he was high or not, He went and did it and prooved to you that he not only uses poor judgement as an excuse but he is irresponsible.
He made a profile and sort out to seek someone else while ib a relationship with you. Forgiving in this situation is vulnerability which can very well lead to him doing it again. Also, Name calling? He isn't excepting that HE screwed up, He is putting blame on you which is once again immature and irresponsible.
Find someone else
I've been friends with this guy for 3 years and recently, we started escalating our friendship into something a bit more. We kissed and cuddled, and we have reached the 3rd base so far.
He finally admitted to liking me, and I said I liked him back. The unfortunate problem is that as much as he wants to be in a relationship with me, he's going to college in September (he's not moving anywhere, it's a local university) and he doesn't want to go to college and be in a relationship. However, he still wishes to continue what we've been doing and see what will happen from there, as in we may possibly go into a relationship. I don't know if I should continue this route or just leave. Help?
College is entering a whole different world, Whether it's his intention or not he will naturally meet people in school. He will be caught up in school work and will even make friends. Not many people in College tend to have a whole lot of time on their hands.
If he wants to be in a serious relationship with you then go for it, but don't allow yourself to just be someone he can play with just because or that may be just what I may turn out to be.
I sent him a pic of myself (he asked for one) and said I want to do a lot to you. What does it mean?
Basically use you for your body.
I am not sure how old you are or what kind if photo you sent but anyone under 18 caught sending nude/partly nude is in possession of child pornography. A man who wants to do a lot ti someone sexually by looking at a photo is generally someone who only cares about someone's body...
Hi im 14 train alot and am athletic im looking for a good first sex with any girl xxxx i will sext and show my face and give number just realy do want to have good sex xxx answer me back if u want the same thing aswell ;)
1, You are a minor
2, You are advertising CHILD PORNOGRAPHY
3, Yes, I agree... Only an idiot would approach like that
Grow up
My mom's memory has always been a problem. She is not elderly and doesn't have anything physically or mentally wrong with her. She's middle aged and pretty healthy and intelligent. However, she is the most forgetful person I've ever known under the age of 80. She'll be talking and won't be able to think of a word she wants to say, she'll forget something she needs to do, and she'll forget things that she needs to bring places. Ever since my grandma died, my mom and I have brought dinner over to my granddad's every night and she often forgets things that she's supposed to bring and has me go get them, which is a big pain. Then tonight, she gave me money to go to the store and get a specific side dish for dinner. I had two go to two different stores to find it, scrape up enough money for them because she didn't give me quite enough, and it ended up taking about 40 minutes longer than ii should have. Then my mom forgot to cook the side dish anyway and we're not having anything else this week that it would go with. I am so annoyed. What can I do to help her improve her memory?
This is something that should be addressed by a doctor.
There are several things that could be a factor, Depression, Stress and even Medication.
You could help by buying her a dry erase board and writing things down but again if she's that bad....may need a doctor.
I recently met a guy, we sort of clicked and we and sort of became friends.. Well not really, I'd say acquaintances. We've only hung out twice (the second time was a disaster).
He's asked me to hang out with him a few times, and I was busy and the last time he wanted to hang out. I said I had already plans but I'd hang out, if they changed and that I would get back to him later.
Which I didn't, and I forgot. And he hasn't texted me now in over 3 weeks. Grr, do you think he's pissed and doesn't want to hang out, and what should I do?
He lost interest
First off, my best friend and I have been friends for a about 2 years now. We have been close ever since, but suddenly this couple months she started dating this guy I hate, she loved him so what can I do? I told her how I felt about him, but I'm not sure if she did anything... 5-6 months or so, they broke up. She dumped him for several reasons; I rather not say what. But thing is after that we talk for many hours!! I mean like hours!! and all she talks about is her bf at times, of how she misses him.
I just feel like she comes to me when she needs something, before she doesnt talk to me much when they started dating. So in the past couple months she met some new friends, and she makes up excuses to be with them rather than be with me... I don't know I'm so confuse :(
Lesson #1 - Never interferre with relationships
I have learbed this the hard way, I too, expressed my opinions about friends relationships and ut cost ne a friendship of 14 years. Best thing, Stay out of it completely. Likely She backed off because of what you said about her relationship. The time she needs you the most, Your not "really" there to support her as again she knows how you really feel. She may feel like she cannot depend on you and here she is grieving alone.
I somewhat agree with the last person, She moved on from you.
I'm planning on getting a new number (Because I've had the same one for SO long, and I've gave that number to people I don't talk to anymore), but I'm kind of afraid of something happening...
The service recycles the number after 30 days of non-use, so I'm scared that my one friend that has my number (I only like to give my number to family) will text it. I don't want to be associated with her anymore. She's "bad news", if you know what I mean... That being said, I won't give her my new number.
Should I be scared? Or is it just me? Also, we don't really text anymore.
If you don't talk to her then who cares? If you change your number then it's entirely up too you whether you want too or not. IF she does text just delete it. Simple as that
I'm 14 and have terrible periods, bad acne, and sexually active. My mom has mentioned putting me on birth control before, I said no because weight is a very big concern of mine. I am going to the GYN soon and I want to ask her about it. But, knowing her, she will be stubborn and prescribe me a kind that makes me gain weight . Therefore, I would like to be able to ask her for a specific one. Any recommendations?
I had the best luck with Mirena IUD (Good for five years)
Depo shot made me gain 35lbs....
I wanted to buy myself a PS3 at the end of the month but I just wanted to be clear about something before I do so.
From what I understand, to play games online with an xbox 360 and have to pay for a monthly or yearly subscription fee. But from what I understand about the PS3, you don't have to pay anything (aside from your regular internet bill, of course) Is that right? Google was never 100% clear.
Yes, Yoy need to create an account when you sign in. You can create as many user names as you want free.
Hey everyone! Well, here's the thing. I am reading books and I used to not read at all but I do now. I read the genres of horror,cancer related issues, suspense, and teenage bullying stories. If anyone has any book suggestions I would highly appreciate it. Thank you!
Definitely check out "A child called it" it's about a child who grew up in an abusive household.
Also "Dreamland" is a good one too.
Stephen King is phenomenal almost all his stories are awesome.
25/f. I'm just curious as to what you guys think about this.
I'm a long, complicated mess, but here's the story as short and sweet as I can make it: I've been in two abusive relationships, and was cheated on in the last one (I don't count it as abuse because the coercive control tactics were missing). I'm so done.
All that said, I just don't look at guys the same way anymore. I've been single and far over the last relationship-fail for a good eight months. I even saw my ex after we broke up and was completely indifferent to him. He looked like a different person to me in the sense that I no longer found him attractive. It was like someone had flipped a switch in my brain.
Apologies for the graphic, but I don't seem to get wet anymore. Like... it used to be that I'd actually be attracted to attractive guys, and occasionally get turned on by them. Now it's like nothing stirs in me. I don't fantasize sexually (not in the usual sense anyway), I have no desire to masturbate - at all, which is really odd for me. I used to have a pretty high sex drive. What's more, the few times I have tried touching myself, I've felt wrong about it, like it was crass and inappropriate. I do NOT feel that way about masturbation. I think it's a great way to get to know your body and pleasure yourself, and really how can you be intimate with someone else if you can't be intimate with yourself?
I know it's normal for people to kinda be "off their feed" in a sense, after a relationship goes badly. But I'm not even off... I'm just kinda... not. I'm a straight girl, and right now, the male gender is about as attractive to me as a water bottle. I have a mild crush on a celebrity, but I think the appeal in that is that he is unattainable and safe because of this fact. I have my theories around that/him. Anyway...
Sometimes, though, I have sex dreams. VIVID sex dreams. I have actually woken up mid-orgasm from these dreams without touching myself.
...Mind over matter?
I don't really know what my question is, but I am thoroughly confused by this cognitive dissonance going on with my lack-of-conscious VS subconscious sex drive.
Anyone have any insight? Better, has anyone had this experience, or something similar?
I myself went through an abusive relationship for 5 years.
Believe it or not, Abuse over a period of time causes psychological damage.
You may be depressed, You may not feel depressed but it works in all sorts of ways. You may want to try and see a therapist who can help you cope. Although you are not IN the relationship, You may be possibly suffering from Battered women sydrome. This is not uncommon for women who went through abuse.
Therapy
we've been dating for about a year things have been good but sometimes i question why he hasn't officially said we're in a relationship? mind you he's one of my good friends younger brother my guy always chased me through the years until i finally decided to give him a chance. well we really clicked and now i feel like we could have a future together. he's a bit younger i'm 34 and ready to settle down he's 31 and still drinks and apparently smokes weed and likes to flirt with girls when he's out with the boys something i found out last night from my other best friend (male) who i think secretly has a crush on me who also happens to be friends with my guy ( we all grew up together). now i'm sad hurt confused and angry. I don't want to lose him but i don't want to get played and risk yet another heartbreak. please help.
Here are my 2 cents
Judging by what was written, He sounds a bit immature. I know you are not me but this guy certainly wouldn't be my cup of tea.
Anyone who smokes weed and flirts around would raise concerns to whether they would be mature enough. It all really depends, What are your expectations in a relationship and what do you want from a partner? You are asking us if you are wasting your breath but the real question is does this man satisfy what you are looking for? Is he the ideal man for you? Are you okay with him smoking and flirting? Only YOU know what you want.
If it bothers you, Talk to him. Tell him you aren't comfortable with the idea of him smoking and you are bothered with him flirting with other women. Either he reapects your boundaries or you need to go fishing for a new fish.
13-f
So yesterday I was in the restroom, and I was kind of wasting time by playing on my phone and sitting on the counter near the door. I had the shower running, but it was right in the middle, so it was just room temperature water. There wasn't any mist or anything, because the mirror wasn't fogged up, and I had the fan on and my 'eva-dry' machine was on. (I was alo only in my panties)
I was texting when all of a sudden I kind of felt sick, like a 'I feel like I'm going to puke sick', and I set down my phone because I almost started gagging-- this was after about 15 minutes. And thats when I stood up. You know when You stand up too quickly and everything goes black for like 5 seconds? Thats what happened to me!! But wayy way worse. I was facing the counter and My legs felt wobbly and I collapse and busted my chin open on the counter, so I triend to stand up, but I was in a bit of shock and couldn't really stand up right (everything still had that dark look to it, too) and I fell on my bum and hit my head on a cabinet, so I just kinda fell asleep for a few seconds. When I eventually got up, I still felt that feeling where I stood up too quickly and everything had that black frame around it, so I got into the shower, and it was cold, but it felt good because I was really really hot.I put in shamppo but I put in wayy too much and dropped the bottle, and I kindof washed out, but I couldn't really tell. Then I got out of the restroom quickly and walked to my room, and collapsed on my bed and fell on my bed, and I put on a blanket and the feeling went away. I looked at the clock and this had all happened over 33 minutes. What happened???? more info- I'm 13 ,female, 5'2, around 90 lbs., and this has never happened to me before, also it was right in the morning at 8:00 and I hadn't eaten yet.
It is possible your sugar level was low.
We are not doctors, I suggest you see one.
Okay so I asked a question about losing my best friend because of my depression. I'm writing her a letter to say I'm sorry this is what I've writeen so far: Okay so like I'm really sorry. For everything. Like for being so down and whatever. Like I realzie it was stupid to get mad at you for saying its hard to be my best friend, because it is, and I know that. I can't blame you for not wanting to be best friends anymore. And I know it must be hard to be with someone who's down all the time, especially best friends with them. I understand if you'd rather be best friends with tristynn, because she has like no problems and she's always happy. I really miss you.. I'll try not be so down and stuff, I'll do anything to keep you as a best friend and not lose you,even though I already have.. To be honest, I was jealous that you and tris are better friends than me and you. I've like not been able to sleep lately because I'm so upset about all of this.
What else could I say? It feels like I'm losing her to these two girls chloe and silky, and then our other friend tristynn. She knows about my cutting and bulimia.
I aslo suffer from depression
The best thing you can do for yourself is to seek help for it. People with depression tend to have a hard time with making and keeping friendships. In order to work on a friendship, You must work on yourself first.
The letter was alright, I feel you may of over used the word "like". I would maybe write it a little differently.
EXAMPLE
Dear Jane Doe
I am deeply saddened by our drifting friendship. I feel we drifted apart partly do to my depression and I am working on seeking the proper help. I miss the good times and hope that we can get together soon and catch up. I miss you dearly and hope all is well.
# 555-555-5555
John Doe
I wouldn't bring Tristynn up, I would leave the problem between her and you. If it really is a big issue with Tristynn then I would address this matter if you see her in person.
I asked a version of this before but I added some more details and wanted to see some more opinions
my mother is currently in jail the next eight months for a financial crime(if she serves her full sentence it will be about next April when she gets out). I might get flack for supporting a criminal but you know since her crime wasn't against me I guess it is OK to support her in this way. I was wondering what are some good books or magazines to send to an inmate, I honestly don't read much and I was thinking maybe there were some good specific books you can send to an inmate
Something I forgot to make clear last time. The types not allowed are things inciting racial hatred, rioting, making drugs, violence or escaping from jail but that's nothing to worry about she would never read that kind of stuff anyway.
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I am a black female, so keep this in mind haha. I want to grow my hair out, but I don't know where to start. I am cuban also but my hair texture is that of any normal black person. I don't know where to start any suggestions that pertain to my hair is welcome. Thank You!
This may sound a bit odd but protein plays a huge role in nails, hair and skin. I drink protein shakes and have noticed a significant difference in hair growth.
(Yes I'm aware this isn't a "food" site but this is really my only option. Sorry if this question offends/bothers anyone in any way.)
Hello, so I'm a new vegan and I don't really know what to eat... I know to avoid animal products such as meat, milk, etc., but I'm finding it very hard to find foods.
I'm not really much of a "cook" person, but I suppose I can be. Can you all help me with some recipes, vegan name brands, and stuff to eat? I already eat fruits and things. Thanks :)
Hello
Here's a list
Tofu, Soy cheese, Veggies and Fruits are good, Soy milk, Rice milk, There is also Tempeh and TVP (meatless meat that can be order at bulkfoods.com) good in chili, stir fry etc. Veggie burgers and even tofu ham, deli meat in the section where you find the tofu. Tofu dogs, Tofu nuggets and chicken wings unfortunately everything but the tofu is a whopping $5.50... yikes!
So play around with tofu, fruits and veggies. ;-)
- A Vegan