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I need an advice about my relationship with my Best friend.
First off, my best friend and I have been friends for a about 2 years now. We have been close ever since, but suddenly this couple months she started dating this guy I hate, she loved him so what can I do? I told her how I felt about him, but I'm not sure if she did anything... 5-6 months or so, they broke up. She dumped him for several reasons; I rather not say what. But thing is after that we talk for many hours!! I mean like hours!! and all she talks about is her bf at times, of how she misses him.
I just feel like she comes to me when she needs something, before she doesnt talk to me much when they started dating. So in the past couple months she met some new friends, and she makes up excuses to be with them rather than be with me... I don't know I'm so confuse :(
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The best thing to do at this point is tell her how you feel. She might not see how she's acting. Once you meet new friends, you normally spend a lot more time with them and not so much with your old ones.
When a best friend starts dating, they spend a lot more time with their boyfriend and a lot more time talking about them. I know I've had to hold back from talking about my boyfriend with my friends. When they break up, that friend is supposed to be there for them. You might have been, but she already knows how you felt about him. So she probably thinking that you're thinking, "I told you so", even if you aren't. So she has new friends, probably some that will sit and talk to her about ex.
Break ups are hard, and that's when you need your friends. She's probably thinking about him all the time and she probably thinks that she's annoying you talking about him or just doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about him, but these friends make her feel like she can.
So just talk to her, let her know how you feel without accusing her of anything.
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You guys are right, but I don't know... She is my close friend, and I can't live without her. But then again she makes me feel like I'm nobody :( .. She slow replies at all times, so I'm this person who waits... She rarely say brb or afk, so I just wait there.. but when she says brb, she forgets to say bck. I'm just lost ;( I don't know what to do anymore...
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Lesson #1 - Never interferre with relationships
I have learbed this the hard way, I too, expressed my opinions about friends relationships and ut cost ne a friendship of 14 years. Best thing, Stay out of it completely. Likely She backed off because of what you said about her relationship. The time she needs you the most, Your not "really" there to support her as again she knows how you really feel. She may feel like she cannot depend on you and here she is grieving alone.
I somewhat agree with the last person, She moved on from you.
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It's simple she's over you. And she moved on. She's what you call a somatime friend some of the time she's there some of the time she isn't. She's with you when it's convenient for her so that's not a true friend. People will come in and out of your life and stay for just a season true friends never leave. You're season with her is up. I know it hurts but you have to move on. Don't waist your time and energy trying to figure out what you did wrong. You're not the problem she is. You'll meet someone else more deserving of your friendship.
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