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I need advice ASAP. ASAP!
So... My friend came to my house with nothing, a few hours later she had a pack of cigars. The same ones my parents smoke. She had some story of how she got them, but I'm positive she's lying. I don't smoke and I don't want it blamed on me when it's found they're missing. I want her to give them back, and tell the truth... How do I do it?
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I think if you keep asking her to tell the truth, she'll just keep denying it.
I'd tell her that you're going to tell your parents because you don't want to get blamed for them being missing. Hopefully by then she'll hand them over. If not, then just go tell your parents that she took them
She doesn't sound like a good friend in the first place.
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Friends do not steal from each other so I do not see how this girl is much of a friend. Probably by this time she has either smoked the Cigars or given them to a boyfriend so getting them back is most likely not going to be possible.
There is an old saying, "The truth will set you free." What you have written to us about is a very good example of this saying. You suspect you friend has stolen your fathers cigars. At some point your parents will notice the theft and suspect you may have something to do with it.
If you wait to see if your parents approach you with the fact that cigars are missing and you say you believe your friend stole them. Your parents may not believe you. If you go to them now before they discover the missing cigars or before they ask you about them and tell them you suspect your friend stole their cigars and why. It is much more believable as you came to them first. Which is the essence of the saying.
As I said your friend can't be much of a friend if she is stealing from your house leaving you to get in trouble. This time it is cigars. Next time it may be something more valuable maybe a piece of moms or your jewelry. By saying something now you can prevent the next time and get your friend the help she needs to stop her from stealing.
She stole from you. Where else is she stealing from. Is it possible she is also shoplifting. If so that could land her in big trouble. Being proactive and telling your parents what you believe has happened is not being mean you may actually be helping her should your parents wish to say something to her parents.
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Better to be honest then to tell a lie.
I would tell her to return the cigars or you will inform your parents that they were stolen. If she refuses then again, I would still inform your parents. I also wouldn't have her over again, If she has to be a lying theif then tell her to do it somewhere else.
Also, Why be friends with someone like that?.. How so you know it's the only thing she has taken and lied about?
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