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One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
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The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
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Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
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Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
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How can a relationship last if your with a guy that is all about being with his friends and wont give them up for his g/f who he loves even though he has to keep those worlds seperate because his g/f and his friends don't get along? (link)
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The relationship can last if the guy tries to equalize the time he spends with his girlfriend and his freinds. Just like how he has a girlfreind, and should love her and care about her and spend time with her, he should do the same thing with his freinds. He most definitely should not give them up because of her, because then that would be so unfair to his friends.
But if he is being really fair about it, and hangs out with her for sometime and with them for some other time, then there would not be any problem. But he shouldn't hang out with both of them at the sametime ,because then he would cause trouble and start a fight and stuff.
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16/f!
heyy =) well you see i was hangin out with my cousin and her friend (well now i know her pretty well too) and her friend amy hangs out with these two boys jake and nick. well nick is so adorable! but i think he likes amy. everyone else thinks so too! like he will kinda flirts with me even though we only hungout like 3 times now and he knows amy well but like tonight we all hungout and amy was actin all mad or sad and nick was like all worried like amy whats wrong and he would give her all the attention (like im guessing he likes her) i know amy didnt want the attention and was really upset or mad about something but i wish he would like ..flirt with me more and everytime i would like touch him or something he would be like what are you tryin to do cop a field? and im like uhh noo. but he like kinda jokes around alot but doesnt know that he has to say JUST KIDDING for people to know even though we told him to. anyways its nicks birthday tomorrow and we are suppose to hangout with him and jake and like his older brother and cousin. im kinda jealous that amy is getting all the attention. i know i shouldnt be so selfish but im not use to this and amy always gets the attention too so its kind of like both of us want it but only one of us will get it. it ruins my day and they invited me to go with them and i want to because i mean i have fun but then im like oookay i dont want to watch them flirt the whole time. im use to getting the attention and i LOVE it dont get me wrong most of us do but i just dont know! people say im really pretty but ive never had a boyfriend/never been asked out. everyone is always in SHOCK when they hear that ive never had one but i have madeout once. i feel like im not the girlfriend type or something im just always friends with all the guys. i flirt so much too how can i be more of a relationship type girl more than their friend? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, i don't mean to seem mean or harsh, but its too obvious that nick likes amy, and that when he flirts with you, it doesn't really mean anything ,its just his sort of way of talking to girls, he likes to fool around and flirt and stuff. But he likes amy and he cares about her so much. So let me rephrase this, why don't you stop wasting your time running after a guy, who is actually , running after another girl. He wants her, and just like when you said, that you and amy both want attention, but that just one of you will get it, let me tell you something. She will get it, and she is already getting it from nick.
You can't run after love or force it to come. And its not that guys never ask you out or that they only take you as a freind.
Its just that if you keep waiting for love, it will never come. If you keep saying that you are always freinds with the guys and you just keep on flirting hoping that they would ask you out, then love will also never come that way. Love comes when you least expect it, it comes when it is supposed to come.
I am sure that you are pretty, and that you are a really nice person, and alot of people love to hang out with you, so maybe if you try to forget about love and flirting and dating and being asked out ,for awhile, love would come to you by itself. And one day, you will have to meet a hot guy who will actually give you all the attention and love you so much.
And not just because guys flirt with you, does it mean that they like you. These are guys and thats there attitude and thats also there way of having fun.
So give yourself some time, and give love sometime, and soon you will have someone to be with. so don't worry and try to consider what i said, and don't think that i am being mean or harsh, i am just telling you the truth and the right thing to be done.
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for like 2 months and almost 3 months. And he's been acting kinda different from the last month. Last month i was his everything, he was perfect. This month he's different, it's like he's kinda careless now. I'm so sad, and worried, i cried 4 times 2 days ago, and cried one time this morning cause i waited for him to wake up online until 5 in the morning. But then i gave up and i signed off.. and then he signed on.. and i talked to him on the phone later that day and he said he woke up after i signed off and that he did not sign off on me and etc. and he said he was sorry.
but my friends arent really helpful my BESTfriend and i are fading apart since she moved to another city.. and my other bestfriend and i are in a fight and all i have is this site and my other bestfriend. Hopefully things wont get worse.. im scared of losing all of 'em especially my boyfriend.
should i worry or should i not? is he losing feelings for me? (link)
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Hey,
I don't want you to worry, and i don't want you to think that he is losing interest in you. Because at the beginning of every relationship, both sides( boyfreind and girlfriend), feel really excited about this whole new experience, and they are crazy about each other and keep talking for hours and hours and never seem to stop. But then after exactly 3 months, it starts to seem normal and its like ,your his girlfriend and he's your boyfreind, and the excitement just fades away, that doesn't mean that he stopped loving you or losing interest in you.
But you have to know this, that when a person starts a whole new thing, he's very excited at the beginning, then things fall into place and its just seems pretty normal. Besides, he apologized to you, he probably didn't mean it. Don't worry, i know how much you like him ,and that you are afraid if he stops loving you or something, but that won't happen.
About your freind that moved to another city, ofcourse things won't be the same between you and her, because you are in different places. But that won't stop you from talking online, calling each other , sending photos and fwds and emails, and webcaming while chatting and i am sure that she would come to visit maybe sometimes in the holidays. There are alot of ways to keep in touch daily, so don't worry about that either.
And about your other freind who you had a fight with ,let me tell you something, every single fight or problem in his world has a solution and their are ways to fix it and make things better.
So i don't really know what kind of fight is it, but for now, i can just tell you to have some courage and sit with your friend and talk things over, and see whose wrong in this situation and fix things together. Because there is no fight that can ruin a great friendship like the one between you and her, and you can tell her that.
And if you want to send me a personal message and tell me about the problem, i promise i would help you with it.
So anyways, i know exactly what you are going through, and i know that sometimes things could fall apart and we would feel all depressed and think that its the end of the world, but if we try to act cool and natural, and take things easily , things will be just fine.
Goodluck:) and if there is anything else that you need, please be free to contact me.
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hey! 16/f
so my good friend joe and i were hangin out tonight with his little brother and my cousin. well my cousins parents were gone so we were being all crazy and joe always takes my stuff like my keys and my cell phone so i have to go chase him and like flirt with him in order to get it. joe has a GIRLFRIEND and he claims to really love her but i dont know. joes like a really good friend but I wish we could be something more and im not sure if he gets the hint because one time it was me and his little brother in the same room and hes like OooOh you like joe i know you do and im like uhh no we are just best friends as we call each other and so i dont know if he was just saying that or he could tell that i did. the problem is im a HUGE flirt too. i cant tell him i have feelings for him..im just not that way and it will be awkward and it would ruin our strong friendship but i have REALLY strong feelings for him. he always like talks to me about his girlfriend and like gets advice from me. like tonight hes like allright we have to have a talk so we went in the parents bedroom and he locked the door and it was just me and him talking =) and like when i was standing in front of him turned away i know he was staring at my ass and he like always looks at me! i know he sees me as a friend but then he was like always touching me and flirting and laying right next to me and hes always "punching my stomach lightly" and we did a handshake and we kinda held hands. well like i was trying to get my keys back they were in his pocket and i went to grab them and he like grabbed my hand and we linked hands together like him trying to hold me back it was the cutest thing ever and it felt like we were boyfriend/girlfriend. stuff like that always happens he always grabs me and holds me when i try to get my stuff back from him! i just dont know. please dont tell me to talk to him about it im not going to. but is there anything else i can do? and please dont suggest to wait it out and if they breakup he will go to YOU! the problem is i have a feeling they will be going out for a loong time. i dont want to get over him i like being around him but its hard for me at the same time.. (link)
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Hey,
when i read your problem, it was exactly as if i was reading my own. I had this friend of mine and we were really close and we used to do exactly the same things that you do with your friend. But i had strong feelings for him and i really wanted to be with him, and i wished that he would like me instead of his girlfriend. And then because he always touched me and flirted and did all these stuff, so i assumed that he liked me too, but this is where i was totally wrong. I went and told him that i had feelings for him, and he totally freaked out, and he was like" What the hell are you talking about? All i can do , is to pretend that you were drunk or something while telling me this. I only take you as a best friend or a sister, but i don't have any feelings for you" And from then on, i didn't have him as my boyfreind nor my freind, and he totally hated and despised me and looked down on me. And till now i regret that i ever told him how i feel about him.
So i guess you know now, what would happen if you tell him how you feel about him. And not just becuase he flirts and fools around does it mean that he likes you, no, he is just having fun and messing around assuming that you are his friend and its cool with you.
So let me tell you something, you can do every single thing that you want to do with him, but do it when you are friends, you don't have to be dating and just keep fighting all the time. Enjoy the amazing feeling of having a great freind who is loads of fun and flirts and touches and does all these great things with you. Don't ruin it by a silly action like' i love you and i have always been in love with you'
because if you say that , its as if you are kissing your freindship good bye.
So please listen to me, you have him right there in front of you, messing around ,fooling around, crazy about you, touching you, flirting with you, caring about you, trusting you, asking you for advice. What do you need more than that? You have everything, and believe me, that if even you guys started dating, you will miss being freinds with him and doing all these stuff, and instead , you will just be fighting together all the time and feeling jealous when he talks to any other girl. So live your life and have all the fun you can ,because he is there between your hand, you own him, he is your best freind , he cares about you, he asks you for advice, he flirts with you, he stares at your ass (lol).
As long as you have all this, trust me, you don't want anything more than that.
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I think my best friend has major jelousy issues and I don't know how to help her out. Example: If someone has one of her favorite songs on their myspace or something she gets mad. She acts like she's the only one who can like it. Same with layouts and colors for A.I.M. She's really spoiled but her family isn't even rich. Her parent's can't make her understand that they need important things for the family besides Abercrombie clothes.
There is a guy she likes and he has a girlfriend. She was talking all trash on her saying how she was fat and ugly.. and seriosyly, she's not. If I hang out with other friends, she gets mad at me. She didn't make a volleyball team and soccer team and she threw the biggest fit!! She kept yelling at her mom like it was her fault and was being really bitchy towards me. She also gets upset if she isn't first in someones profile or something. If she's last or something, she gets upset.
Anyways, she's my best friend and I would never justt blow her off and I've sat down with her and talked to her about it but she gets mad and then forgets about it. I mean, there are good things about her but it just drives me insane and I don't know what to do. (link)
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Hey,
I know exactly what you are talking about and what you are going through, i had a friend who was so so jealous. She wouldn't let me go anywhere with out her, or hang out with anyone except her, or meet new friends. And if she found out that i was talking to another friend on the phone, she'd get so mad.
I tried once to just take a step back in our friendship, and let her cool down a bit and change her attitude, but she just ended up getting so mad and wouldn't talk to me for days and days to come.
But let me tell you something, sometimes people don't notice what they do or attitudes, or notice that they are wrong, except when someone points it out to them. I know that you already talked to her about it, but try again, tell her that you really really love her and you like hanging out with her, and that she's loads of fun and stuff, but that sometimes you need to hang out with other people and talk to other people, but this doesn't mean that you hate her or don't like spending time with her, but that a person has to have many friends and hang out with different people. yOu will still be there for her and do things with her, but you have to have a social life with others.
So try to tell her this, and draw her attention to how she gets jealous quickly for simple reasons. But act cool and natural ,so that she wouldn't get mad, and if she tries to change the subject ,tell her not to, and tell her that she is a very sweet and nice person and is characterized with alot of good stuff, but only if she tries to change this jealousy issue ,she could be much better.
So make it as a normal conversation, and don't be hard on her, and give her sometime to consider this. And i hope it works.
But just so you wouldn't be disappointed if things don't work, there are some things about people that we just can't change, its hard, but not impossible, if she tries hard to change herself, she will do it. And i am saying this all from past experience with the whole jealousy issue.
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i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice] (link)
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Hey ,
First of all, i remember i read this question before where two 11 year olds wanted to have sex together and they wanted to go shopping for condoms and stuff. I just want to know how you feel about that? I am sure that you are disgusted as much as i am. How can children have sex, i mean, for heaven sake, they are two young and unexperienced, and do they have any idea how much it would hurt or how much trouble they would get themselves into. I believe that if people want to have sex, then they should do it when they are married.
Other than that, losing your virginity starting from 11 year olds, then they will regret this for the rest of their lives. At first, they would think that its a really fun experience, and they want to go for it, but then after they do it, they totally regret it.
You know why? Because they do not think of the consequences. First of all, there is a 50% chance of getting pregnant, and if they do, then they can kiss their future goodbye. Second of all, people would get bad ideas about them, and would think that they are sluts. Then they their boyfriends would use them only for sex, and when they break up with them, they will hook up with other boys and have sex with them. Soon ,they will be sluts who have sex with a different boy everyday.
Finally, and most important, they will never get married, because if anyone tries to propose to them later on in life and they know that they had lost their virginity, no one would want to marry them.
Please don't think that i am being to harsh or anything, because i am actually saying this from past experience, and its true every word i said.
YOu could also tell them all that i said, but trust me when i tell you, they won't listen to you. But all you could do, is to take care and keep your own virginity.
Goodluck, and contact me if you need anything else.
xoxoxoox:)
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im 13/f and i haven't hooked-up yet. wen the time comes nd a guy asks if ive hooked up, do i lie nd say yes so he will hook-up wit me? or do i say the truth nd say no? for example..........wut if i'm hanging out at a friend's house wit 10 other ppl nd they talk bout their first hook-ups, or we play truth or dare nd i pick truth nd someone aks me have i hooked-up before or who was your first hook-up with? WUT DO I ANSWER TO THAT? Especially since my guy-friends are 15-17 theyve hook-up before nd 1 of them wanna hook-up wit me but they dont know how experienced i am! what do is say? do i say 'yah just twice so im not rele that expereicned but atelast ive hooked-up more than once!' HELP MEhhh! (link)
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Hey,
You don't have to lie, inorder to draw someone's attention, or take make someone like you. And either if you hooked up with someone before or not, that won't stop someone from liking you and hooking up with you.
I mean.. think about it, these experienced boys of yours ,probably were in your situation once before, and this whole hooking up thing was new to them. But still they hooked up with someone once and twice and three times, till they became experienced. But they didn't have to lie. And besides, boys usually like honest girls who don't care what other people think of them.
And then imagine if you lie, and someone that knows you will tells the others that you are lying, what a complete embarassment and humiliation you'd be in. So lying never leads you to anything, especially in hooking up with someone.
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me and my bf have been dating for 5 months and we usually talk about anything but lately whenever we talk on the phone we dont have much to say. its just alot of silence now and i really dont know what to talk about and neither does he. i really need help on what i should do! (link)
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Hey,
That is pretty normal and common in all relationships. At the beginning, because you don't anything about each other, so its like each on of you is telling the other about his life, and childhood and schools and completely everything you could talk about .But then later on, you realize that you said completely everything possible to each other and you start talking less than you used to. It doesn't mean that there is no love anymore , or that you don't talk anymore or anything. But its typical, and happens to everyone, all the excitement that overcomes you at the beginning of the relationship because you are dating a whole new person and its like a really cool experience and all, but you don't have to keep on talking, try to hang out or catch a movie or go somewhere fun like skating or something or the beach or the pool, or talk about other friends , gossip. Ask him about his family, past relationships, future plans, future job, experiences that he has been through. And if you already know everything about him, than just talk once a day when you say hi , i love you and i miss you. And just make plans to go out with him and have fun. You don't always have to talk.
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I think I may be bi... I never really thought about it before a few days ago, you see my friends and I were playing Truth (it's like truth or dare without dares)and "David" asked what my deepest, darkest secret was. I said that it was that I used to make out and do other things with a girl that used to live by me. Then I realized I do a whole bunch of other things, like look at women's faces and breasts. I never really enjoyed doing things with her, but it felt nice... sorta. I don't really want to be Bi (no offense!!! I'm an activist). Do you think this was just a phase or do I truly have feelings for women? I haven't had any feelings since and I don't intend on doing anything with girls again.
Thanks...
P.S. I have a boyfriend. (link)
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Hey,
Not just because you did something once or twice, even three times, with a girl, that means that you are a perfect bi.
Sometimes we do stuff just to know how it feels or if its good or bad. Its like an experience that we go through to learn things from .Its no big deal at all. And you are pretty much not the only girl who looks at breasts and stuff, i know alot of other girls who keep commenting and looking and staring even much more than guys.
Therefore, i want to tell you that it was most definitely a phase and as i told you, just like an experience you went through,but you didn't like it that much. And as long as you do not want to be a bi, than you won't be one, because no one is gonna force you to be.
We do alot of things in out lives, sometimes we enjoy it and go on doing it over and over again, and sometimes we regret doing it, so we learn from it and we step back.
And here you are, you have a boyfriend, so give him all that love and make out with him all you want. And don't regret making out with a girl or staring at a woman's breast, because when we do things or mistakes, we shouldn't regret doing it, we should learn from them.
So consider what i said, and as long as you know from inside you, that you don't want to be a certain thing (bi), then nobody can force you.
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WEll i got this friend that i been getting into fights with alot but we seemed to get over them really quick but then one day i really got mad and chewed her out and this has been about three weeks ago and i really miss talking to her so i went and bought her flowers today and dropped them off at her house and then i get on the internet later and she sends me a message and says sorry you wasted your money but nothing is going to change and now i dont no what to do and the thing is all my other friends are really good friends with her and if i lose her they will forgwt about so what should i do?? (link)
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Hey,
Umm.. That sounds like a really tough problem you've got there, and honestly, for the first time, i haven't been in such a situation before.
But i will give you some ideas and suggestions, and if it doesn't work out, you can contact me and tell me so, and i will tell you what else to do.
First of all, you should go to her in person, and sit and talk with her.Tell her " I am really really sorry about what happened between us, and i know that you are probably so mad at me and you don't want to talk to me ever again, but i promise that this would be the last fight, and that i will try to control myself next time, and not let things go out of hand or upset you for whatever reason. I really do love you and care about you,and care that you shouldn't be upset from me, i want things to be okay between us and that we would go back to being friends as we used, because nothing is worth ruining the freindship that i most treasure, please forgive me?"
YOu can tell her that in person, or in an email or online or anywhere, but just tell her that exactly, and if it doesn't work,( i hope it does), then please contact me and i will tell you what else to do.
And by the way, don't worry about your other friends, because its not any of their business to try and stick their noses in a fight that you had with your friend, this is something between you and her alone, and its no one elses right to get mad at you or fight with you. So act cool and natural and things will be fine.
Goodluck:)
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I am 28/f. The situation is complicated. He has had a female best friend for a while now. I have always felt a little jealous, like he was spending more time with her than with me. I know her and her boyfriend, and thus am 100% sure he is not cheating with her, but I am still jealous. About two months ago, we started marriage therapy. When he told me he wanted to to that, he said he felt like he should move out for a while and had arranged to stay with this woman temporarily. Now I am insanely jealous of her. He knows this. So does she. They are starting an internet business together, and as work at the same place, and spend a lot of time together as a result. We have been doing well in therapy. He understands my jealousy and has been spending less time with her over the past couple months, but now they are starting to spend more time together again. In fact, he is at her place now working on their internet project. Her bf is there too, but it is still hard for me. I don't know if I will ever stop being jealous of her. Honestly, I would feel better if he never saw her again. But I know that they are just friends, and I would feel terrible asking him to not see his best friend again.
Oh, about 5 years ago, I had a male best friend. My marriage was on the rocks then too as I was in the midst of terrible depression (for which I take antidepressants still). My husband let me go out with my friend all the time, so now I feel like a hypocrite not wanting him to spend time with her. But I never made arrangements to live with my friend.
Other than this issue, we have really worked out pretty much everything in therapy and are doing so well. I am very much in love with him again, and he loves me and makes it very clear. That only makes me feel worse about this jealousy I feel. Then I get stressed. It is a downward spiral from there.
I guess my questions are: Should I be so jealous? What can I do to make it less of a problem? Will I get over it? Should I ask him to not see her, or is that just a bit harsh? (link)
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Hey,
There is something called "compromising", and that is when someone does something for you, you have to do something for him in return.
Like here in your situation, when your husband allowed you to hang out with your best friend when you where in a terrible state of depression.
So now you should let him hang out with his best freind too, at least to hang out somewhere or meet up at a cafe or something. And they could still work together on that internet business of theirs and talk on the phone and stuff. These are the things that you should not make a problem out of them.
But what you are right about , is that he most definitely should not make arrangements to live with his freind, because i am sorry ,but this is so disrespectful of him and you shouldn't approve of, what the hell is he thinking of ? He has a wife and a house, and he's just simply moving out to live with his friend? That would not be approved of ever ,by any wife. Let me rephrase that, a married man who has a wife, just moves out to live with another woman. Anyone who would here that story would assume something is going on between him and his best freind. But i am not going to assume so, and i will be on your side, because you are loyal and you trust your husband and believe that he would never cheat on you with her.
So right now, i am going to answer your questions, with simple answers, and these are the answers that you should really consider and work on them. First of all, you can not allow him to live with his best friend or any other woman when he is a married guy and has a wife and home to be in, even if he shows you that he loves you so much and treats you so good. Its damn right , your right to disapprove and get mad. Other than that, don't ask him not to see her, inface tell him, that he can't live with her, but he can meet up with her at some place where they could work and talk and get some coffee or something. So that you would be right, and in the same time, you wouldn't see harsh or protective and jealous. But you can ask him to hang out with you more and go out with you and stuff , and try to make your relationship much better. And if you can do all that,and you still feel jealous , then i am sorry, i won't stay on your side anymore, because if you ask him to do all this, and he agrees and actually shows some change , then you would be wrong if you are still jealous , because if he agrees to do this, then he obviously loves you so much and can't turn down anything you tell him do.
Think of what i said, and if things get better or worse, be free to contact me, and i would be glad to help you and tell you what to do.
Goodluck:)
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OK. So my girlfriend is a little younger than me and I am really hot...literally. I know that she loves me but when we kiss I have to ask her for a kiss. I am also the one that has to try to start the romance. I am only 14 but I am really attracted to her.. I am going into the 8th and she is going into the 6th. But what I am afraid of is when she starts school at the end of the month is that she is gonna find another boy.. See she has already broken up with me once. but had to have my sister tell me that it was over then about 1week later she came wanting me back. I took her back but I am not sure if I broke up with her and things didn't work out with a girl I like if she would take me back. I think that this girl that is my age and is only 1grade below me is straight out cute. her name is morgan and she is cute.. I know she likes me and I like her.. I know she likes me because we like to play basketball every sunday before church. also I was at my youth ministers last night and she was there. we were sitting right next to each other and playing all the games with each other. The only thing is I think my girlfriend was jealous because she was there and so was my sister.. What should I do.. Should I express my feelings to morgan and see what she thinks or should I just see what happens between me and my girlfriend? Please ADVICENATORS!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
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Hey,
Okay, i will give you my true opinion, and tell you the right thing that should be done, and that wouldn't hurt anyone's feelings.
First of all, i know that your girlfriend is young and all, but i always believed that age difference is not a problem as long as their is love. But since she is too young, don't expect her to be an experienced kisser or a romantic person or anything. I mean.. its probably the first or second time that she has dated. so this whole dating thing is new to her. But in the same time, so you wouldn't just suddenly break up with her and go for that other girl, try to stick around for awhile, and maybe things would get much better or your relationship would advance to another level. Just give her sometime, and if things don't work out and if you are not comfortable alone anymore, just tell her that, tell her that things haven't been working out, and that you have been giving her all that love and kissing and stuff, and she hasn't been giving you anything at all. And just simply let go and take a step back.
Then don't just go date morgan at exactly the same day, wait for awhile so you wouldn't hurt your girlfriend if she knew that you broke up with her to be with morgan, and she'd know that she was right when she felt jealous.
So give it sometime, then go for morgan.
But during all that time , you can still hang out with morgan and play basket ball and games and all, but you don't have to make it too obvious infront of your girlfriend.
And i am making you wait and give this whole situation some time,because sometimes relationships take a while till they advance to another level, thats why you have to wait, because maybe your girlfriend would come around and you would find her kissing you and french kissing and stuff. Although, i doubt that, but you have to give her a chance.
And also so that you wouldn't hurt anyone's feelings or break her heart or anything, and when you do break up with her, don't tell her that its because of morgan,because if you do, then you would totally break her heart, so let her find out on her own.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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Hi, my name is Shiloh and im 16. Im about 5'4 and i weigh around 90 pounds i believe. Everyone always asks me if i am anerexic. People even say behind my back that i am. Iam not though, thats the thing. I mean, i eat pretty healthy. like i dont eat a lot, but iam not starving myself or anything. i also dance, so thats probably part of it. i dont really care that people say these things about me, but i dont want to be unhealthy. does this seem unhealthy to you, and what should i do about these bitches saying iam anerexic? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, there are alot of people who keep stuffing there faces day and night with food and they just don't get fat at all, and they stay skinny as a stick, and i am a prime example of these people.And alot call me anorexic in my face and behind my back, and they say that i probably don't eat at all, and that i starve myself, and that my family eats my food and alot of other mean stuff. But you know something, these people are exactly as you call them, bitches who have completely nothing to do with their lives, so they just gossip and pick on people.But i am glad to hear that you don't care about what they say about you, because you should always have self confidence in yourself. Besides, a person is judged throughout his personality and most definitely, not his appearance. There are so many ugly people with scars and burns on their faces, but you could find them to be the kindest and sweetest people you could ever know. But you are not ugly, you are just fine, like any other normal people.
As long as you eat healthy, and drink lots of milk and eat cheese and eggs and alot of proteins and sugars and fats and carbohydrates, and stuff, then maybe you would look much stronger and better. And tell your mom to get you some vitamins ,because they really help.
YOu can also consult a doctor to give you advice and maybe write you a medicine to take or a healthy food plan or something.
But don't let those bitches let you down or upset you or make you feel bad about how you look, and just go on with your dancing and have the greatest fun you have. And you also have your friends by your side, and as long as they don't say anything about you, then who cares about anyone else.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other advice or help then please be free to contact me.
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hi im 1 1 years old and i really wanna french kiss aboy...give me some tips pleasee!like place. time. hellp! (link)
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Hey,
When you come to kiss boy in general, it is usually done when you go out together or you know, when you are hanging out somewhere. But it shouldn't be done at school or at any of your houses. And also in a corner where no one can see you. Like don't go to a public place and french kiss. And if you will do it on a date, then it should be done at the end of it when you come to leave and say goodbye, its like, so he could remember you and keep thinking of you and love you even more.
But how do you french kiss? you will find him coming towards you closer, and leaning his head at on side and opening his mouth, first you kiss on the lips and keep like biting his lower lips very very softly and smoothly, then you open your mouth and stick your tongue out for an inch or two, and lick his tongue over and over. You can also use your hands in touching his body, but this usually his job.
I am sure its only your first time, but make it soft and smooth and full of love and desire, like you love the person infront of you so much and you want him like crazy.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other help ,then please be free to contact me.
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Hey im 1 1 years old and i really want to french kiss a boy.. can u help me.. with time place ect. your help is wonderful!
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Hey,
When you come to kiss boy in general, it is usually done when you go out together or you know, when you are hanging out somewhere. But it shouldn't be done at school or at any of your houses. And also in a corner where no one can see you. Like don't go to a public place and french kiss. And if you will do it on a date, then it should be done at the end of it when you come to leave and say goodbye, its like, so he could remember you and keep thinking of you and love you even more.
But how do you french kiss? you will find him coming towards you closer, and leaning his head at on side and opening his mouth, first you kiss on the lips and keep like biting his lower lips very very softly and smoothly, then you open your mouth and stick your tongue out for an inch or two, and lick his tongue over and over. You can also use your hands in touching his body, but this usually his job.
I am sure its only your first time, but make it soft and smooth and full of love and desire, like you love the person infront of you so much and you want him like crazy.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other help ,then please be free to contact me.
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Hi, I'm Rosie, 13. This boy said he really likes me a few days ago, and so I gave him my number. The only probolem is, my freind is the only form of contact, and she talks to him for hours on the internet when I'm not there. She has already proved that she is jealous by saying that she doesn't want me to meet her new boyfreind over insecurty of losing him to me. I think it is in her head because she is really attractive and nice. I just think that if I did end up going out with this boy, then I would feel uncomfortable with them talking about god only knows what on the internet. He's not the type to talk about me in a nasty way, it's just that she is.I'm planning on cooling it down with her, as I don't think that I can trust such a close relationship with her. She could be stirring up anything. Should I confront him, and tell him that it makes me feel uncomfortable? I'm scared of sounding controlling. (link)
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Listen , if this boy really does love you and care about you and your feelings and the thing going on between you and him, then he would never dare look at another girl or talk to anyone other girl about something inappropriate, so i don't want you to worry at all, because as long as he does love you, he would never do anything to hurt you, and this is a guy we are talking about, he can stand up for himself and tell her to fuck off if she tries to do or say something not good or bad or try to break up whats between you and him.
So i think you should try to cool it down with her ,and take a step back in your friendship, because she doesn't really sound to me as the perfect or true friend.Neither do i think that she is someone who could be trusted.So don't tell her anything or trust her with anything and i am sure that you have other good friends and you don't need her as the form of contact. YOu can talk to him yourself and call him and go out with him, and just act cool and natural.
Goodluck:) and if you need any more help or advice ,please be free to contact me.
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ok im 14/f and im almost 15 i have this boy friend who i really love i mean i think he is the one or some thng...but my best friends sister (who is also kinda my fried) likes him and makes it known when i am with him...and rite now im just scared that she will do something with him because she has done stuff with my boy friends befor but that is in the past and she is known for stealing boy friends even thoguh she is ass ugly and i dont kno i wanted to take my relaton ship woith my boy friend a little further but now idk because what if she dose somthing to him???? im just confused someone help me! and if i dont get any bs ill rate high (link)
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There is completely definitely nothing to worry about ,and there is also nothing called stealing my boyfreind, she can not do that, and you know why, because if your boyfreind really does love you as true love ,then he would never betray you or cheat on you. Because the first rule in any relationship is trust, and he won't break that, and i promise, because if he does, then i am sorry to that ,but he never loved you.
So i want you to relax and take your relationship with your boyfreind alittle further as you like ,its okay and no one will try and stop you or steal him from you. And she may have stolen all those other boyfreinds, but if they really loved you they would have never betrayed you, but they simply didn't and thats why they ran after the ass ugly girl because they are low too and they just simply don't deserve. besides thats a guy we are talking about, he would stand up to himself if any girl tried to do anything to him.
so goodluck and don't worry.
And if anything else happened or if there are any problems, troubles, worries, or concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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Aliright. I know this is kinda a stupid question but i wanna ask anyway. Well there is this boy that really likes me and i like him back(i told him). I have never really had a boyfriend, and never had a first kiss(he also knows this). We are planning on hanging out soon and im pretty positive that he will kiss me. But im soo nervous! I dont know what to do. any tips are great thanksss! (link)
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Hey,
I don't want you to worry about anything, everything will be fantastic. It will show when it is the time that he will kiss you, he will just suddenly get really quite and then walk with you to some place empty, and then tilt his head and stare at your lips and kiss you.
What you have to do, is to just do as he does, you either kiss him on his lips if thats what he does, or if its a french kiss, then open your mouth and stick your tongue an inch or two out and lick his tongue over and over,and you can also touch each . And either ways you have to close your eyes while doing this, and be self confident and don't worry ,he won't think of you as a bad kisser or anything.
So goodluck and have lots of fun:)
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Hey..sorry its soo long i hope you can help im the one usually giving advice if you ever need some ask me!
I hav been going out for this guy let's call him Josh for almost 10 months. We hav an amazing relationship and he really is my best friend. We have one problem his ex girlfriend is insane. She is obssesed with him and there is a long story behind that but just to make it short she is jealous and she wants him and her and I got into a big thing. I don't liek to start things and i do stand up for myself but i don't liek having enemies. About 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend started treating me like crap. This is 2 weeks ago: Saturday night we got into a fight because his ex's friends were starting stuff with my friends. I told him that i didn't know if i cood take i anymore. We weren't on the best page. Since it is summer we don't see eachother that much he went to camp before these 2 weeks and now he's on vacation. SO back to Saturday so that happened then on Sunday we talked and he was mad and upset. On monday we were planning to see eachother on tuesday but my friends messed it up. Also on monday we had a long talk about his ex and hwo i feel like he doesn't stand up for me like he should. When our plans got ruined for tuesday i was upset but it seemed like he didn't even care. On tuesday he called me at night and we didn't talk much but i asked him what he did today and he said nothing and that he's been thinkin about alot. I got a little worried. Well anyways Wedneday came n i went to my friends house with him and all my friends.I decided to just forget about everything because he was leaving that friday and i thought it would be the last time i would see him so i wanted it to be good. It somehow came up and he wanted to talk and said that i don't feel like he is really intersting and all that and he simply told me that he was just thinking that the relationship is getting too serious as in commitment wise. I understood because we are still young but how could he tell me he loves me if he doesn't wanna be with me. Well anyways on thursday i found out that on wednesday night he slept at his friends house and he did a camera thing with one ofmy friends theyw ere all joking but he told her to pull her shirt down more so her boobs would show. It's so hard to even write this because he's so not like this. On thursday night i found out earlier that day his ex adn her friends came over to swim with his friends. Just to amek it short on friday i saw him for 2 minutes and i was planning on talking to him about it but he could only stay for like 5 minutes. He was being an ass and he just left and said i love you bye. He's on vacation right now and i don't know what to do when he comes back. Thanx for reading this .What should i do?HE was never liek this before and all of a sudden he was acting liek an ass. I'm confused and i think i will regret iof i break up with him but at the same time i want him to go out with his exand see how diffent it is and realize he needs me but then i feel like i'd look like an idiot if i go back with him if he comes back to me later
please hlp thanx soo much for reading this. I'm 14 and a girl.lol (link)
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First of all, the first rule in a relationship is that there should be trust, and you did trust him, and then what? He slept over at his friend's house, and asked her to pull her shirt down so he could see her boobs, and he put it on camera too , for what? To show it to you and make you jealous. This could be the most disgusting and low act i have ever seen .
Second of all, the second rule in a relationship is for the guy to stand up for his girlfriend and defend her, but did he stand up for you when this whole fight happened between you and his ex? No he didn't stand up for you.
Well then what does that mean, that means that he simply suddenly out of the blue ,lost interest in you and just doesn't care about your relationship anymore ,because if he did, he would have never laid a hand on another girl, and he wouldn't have ever stood there and just watched a fight between you and someone else, and especially his ex. He simply doesn't care anymore and he simply doesn't like you anymore. Why? Because he is a selfish disgusting low person. and you on the other hand, are a caring kind and polite person so don't just throw these things away on someone like him, someone who obviously doesn't care about you, your feelings ,or the thing going on between you and him.he may have loved you and cared about you back then, but this was never true love, becuause true love goes on forever and you never lose interest in the person opposite from you.
As much as i know how much this is really hard for you to accept and listen to ,but its all true, and you should have known this by yourself,you didn't any counseller's advice.
You just simply have to let go, and forget about him, and who knows? Maybe he would hook up with the girl who he was so desperate to see her boobs, what a low person? is my only comment.
And if i have anything else to say, i just want to ask you a question, you are a counseller and you give advice to people, if you were in my position and you were giving advice to someone and this was exactly what you would say, then go for it and do it, but if it isn't what you would say, then don't call me a counseller.
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Before I go to school I wash my hair, face, apply deoderant, and brush my teeth. However, when I got home today my hair was oily, my face looked disgustingly greasy, my teeth were yellow (I just got braces, it totally makes them look gross now) and my deoderant was wearing off.
What should I do, I looked horrible, and my make up was all gone! I don't have much time inbetween classes (1-2 minutes) So I can't run to the bathroom and wash up. Thanks so much! (link)
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Hey,
Ummm.. that usually happens to all of us, and don't worry, nobody is going to look at your appearance at school and comment. Because everyone usually goes to school everymorning with yellow teeth ,dark circles under the eye, and their faces not washed, and they are all just feel really tired and asleep.
But anyhow, you can just try to put cream on your hair ( i suggest sunsilk cream) and push your hair back and raise it in a high pony tail, and then apply deodrant and brush your teeth well. And at lunch time, apply deodrant again, and always eat clorets gum, and don't eat alot of food at lunch so you wouldn't get your teeth to be yellow. And also apply the makeup again.And if you have gym class, then shower again after it.
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