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How can a relationship last if....
How can a relationship last if your with a guy that is all about being with his friends and wont give them up for his g/f who he loves even though he has to keep those worlds seperate because his g/f and his friends don't get along?
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its not fair to make him give up his friends...he should be able to hang out with both of you. maybe you can trya dn get along with his friends.
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[ I'm not sure if you're talking about you or not, so i'm just going to say girlfriend ].
Well, if he wants the relationship to last, he needs to learn how to balance his time between hanging out with his friends, hanging out with girlfriend, and also having alone time. I mean, it's not like all you guys have to hang out together or something. He could just have maybe like, friday to hang out with the girlfriend and saturdays to hang out with the guys or something. But if he's not willing to balance his time between all you guys, then he doesn't sound worth keeping around to me. I hope I helped. <3
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doesnt sound like a guy worth keeping.....and ive been in love so i know what its like.
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The relationship can last if the guy tries to equalize the time he spends with his girlfriend and his freinds. Just like how he has a girlfreind, and should love her and care about her and spend time with her, he should do the same thing with his freinds. He most definitely should not give them up because of her, because then that would be so unfair to his friends.
But if he is being really fair about it, and hangs out with her for sometime and with them for some other time, then there would not be any problem. But he shouldn't hang out with both of them at the sametime ,because then he would cause trouble and start a fight and stuff.
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Talk to him about it, make sure that he is spending the same amount of time with you both. But give him a break sometimes, it is hard for him to maintain his friends and his girlfriend, especially when you all don't get along. Give him his time with his freinds, but make sure he gives you that same amount of time back. If it's balanced, a relationship could work.
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I sort of had this problem. I dated this guy...that really liked me, but he was so conscious about his brother's feelings and hanging out with his brother...that he gave me less time. Needless to say...it didn't last. I regret not really making a bigger deal out of it..I tried to understand his need to hang out w/ his brother and tried to be a good girlfriend...but it was kind of in push over territory. So, I would just say, make sure you talk about it..and tell him that he needs to divide his time evenly, because it's not fair that he doesn't give you much attention. Tell him how badly it makes you feel and hopefully he'll understand and a change will happen.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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