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hes my bestfriend..but i kinda like him..
hey! 16/f
so my good friend joe and i were hangin out tonight with his little brother and my cousin. well my cousins parents were gone so we were being all crazy and joe always takes my stuff like my keys and my cell phone so i have to go chase him and like flirt with him in order to get it. joe has a GIRLFRIEND and he claims to really love her but i dont know. joes like a really good friend but I wish we could be something more and im not sure if he gets the hint because one time it was me and his little brother in the same room and hes like OooOh you like joe i know you do and im like uhh no we are just best friends as we call each other and so i dont know if he was just saying that or he could tell that i did. the problem is im a HUGE flirt too. i cant tell him i have feelings for him..im just not that way and it will be awkward and it would ruin our strong friendship but i have REALLY strong feelings for him. he always like talks to me about his girlfriend and like gets advice from me. like tonight hes like allright we have to have a talk so we went in the parents bedroom and he locked the door and it was just me and him talking =) and like when i was standing in front of him turned away i know he was staring at my ass and he like always looks at me! i know he sees me as a friend but then he was like always touching me and flirting and laying right next to me and hes always "punching my stomach lightly" and we did a handshake and we kinda held hands. well like i was trying to get my keys back they were in his pocket and i went to grab them and he like grabbed my hand and we linked hands together like him trying to hold me back it was the cutest thing ever and it felt like we were boyfriend/girlfriend. stuff like that always happens he always grabs me and holds me when i try to get my stuff back from him! i just dont know. please dont tell me to talk to him about it im not going to. but is there anything else i can do? and please dont suggest to wait it out and if they breakup he will go to YOU! the problem is i have a feeling they will be going out for a loong time. i dont want to get over him i like being around him but its hard for me at the same time..
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well the only thing is to find out does joe love you well maybe you should if yu really like him look him straight in the face and say joe i like yuu i want to be mre then friends you have to take a chance and maybe he might like you too!
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Keep giving him hint storng or weak after a while he should get the point and if he doesnt say anything about the hints he only wants to be your friend but if he tals to you about them then...yay
hope i helped
katie
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haha ok well first you said dont tell me to tell him and then you and dont tell me to wait either...so that way you really don have much choices haha ok listen its obvious he likes you anyone can see that just remeber he has a girlfriend and i dont think you should reuin a good thing between them..just because you like him or really like him...i know its not what you wana hear but im not gonna tell you what you wana hear im just gonna tell you the truth if he does like you while he has a girlfriend dont you think if you both do hook up he might like someone else also...you never..im just saying if he comes to you then youll know for sure but as yuos aid you both are tight so you know him better then anyone you should be able to see right through him ...peace
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Hey,
when i read your problem, it was exactly as if i was reading my own. I had this friend of mine and we were really close and we used to do exactly the same things that you do with your friend. But i had strong feelings for him and i really wanted to be with him, and i wished that he would like me instead of his girlfriend. And then because he always touched me and flirted and did all these stuff, so i assumed that he liked me too, but this is where i was totally wrong. I went and told him that i had feelings for him, and he totally freaked out, and he was like" What the hell are you talking about? All i can do , is to pretend that you were drunk or something while telling me this. I only take you as a best friend or a sister, but i don't have any feelings for you" And from then on, i didn't have him as my boyfreind nor my freind, and he totally hated and despised me and looked down on me. And till now i regret that i ever told him how i feel about him.
So i guess you know now, what would happen if you tell him how you feel about him. And not just becuase he flirts and fools around does it mean that he likes you, no, he is just having fun and messing around assuming that you are his friend and its cool with you.
So let me tell you something, you can do every single thing that you want to do with him, but do it when you are friends, you don't have to be dating and just keep fighting all the time. Enjoy the amazing feeling of having a great freind who is loads of fun and flirts and touches and does all these great things with you. Don't ruin it by a silly action like' i love you and i have always been in love with you'
because if you say that , its as if you are kissing your freindship good bye.
So please listen to me, you have him right there in front of you, messing around ,fooling around, crazy about you, touching you, flirting with you, caring about you, trusting you, asking you for advice. What do you need more than that? You have everything, and believe me, that if even you guys started dating, you will miss being freinds with him and doing all these stuff, and instead , you will just be fighting together all the time and feeling jealous when he talks to any other girl. So live your life and have all the fun you can ,because he is there between your hand, you own him, he is your best freind , he cares about you, he asks you for advice, he flirts with you, he stares at your ass (lol).
As long as you have all this, trust me, you don't want anything more than that.
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sounds to me you really like him. you should really just start hanging out a LOT more with him, call him more, talk to him more. but just not to the point where he thinks it's stalker-ish. anytime he brings up the subject on his gf and asks for advice on her, just make it seem obvious that you don't want to talk to about her and that you want the attention on you. for example, if he asks for advice about her you can be like 'well, i'm not really sure on that' and then bring up something about yourself like 'so joe, like my new necklace' or create a new hairstyle and be like 'do you like my new hair?!' and just start being more touchy. like, hold his hands even more & run your fingers through his hair and when you catch him staring at your ass again or any other body part, be the HUGE flirt that you are and say 'i know you want it' with a little cute face or like stick out your tongue - acting all innocent. hope i helped!
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This is really cute && i wish i had a guy friend like that.lol.
Sounds to me that joe reallly likes you& more then a friend. The stuff joe does with you is the same things i have done with my boyfriends. You didnt really leave us any options of what you can do. If you dont want to tell him Or wait till him & his girlfriend break up then theres nothing you can do besides keep everything to yourself. I know he has a girlfriend but what if he is waiting for you to say something to him? what if he has the same feelings for you? What if you never tell him & he never tells you how he really feels? I know you said you will not open up to him but he is your bestfriend && i doubbt you telling him that you have strong feelings for him will ruin your friendship.
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kim:)
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Well you don't have many other options. If he says he loves her, would it be fair to try to break them up? And you say they are going to be probably going out for a long time, so that means they have a strong relationship. In my opinion, he could possibly like you, but it could just be friendly flirting.
So even though you REFUSE to do those things, there is not much else you can do unless HE comes to you and makes a move. So I suggest, while he is with her find another guy, even if you don't want to, go gain some experience. and later down the road when you two are both available maybe things can work out.
but if he has a girlfriend now and is happy with her, there is not much you can do. and please don't wait on a guy, live your own life and make yourself happy. there ARE other guys.
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