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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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i want to pierce my cartilage but my parents would kill. my dad would never notice and my mom is such a blonde i could just tell her it was a magnet. ((i pierced my second hole and she still thinks its a magnet)) should i do it?? lol thanx

if you want it pierced then do it. but dont do it yourself. that part of your ear is very sensitive. if you pierce it yourself it will get infected really bad. if you want it that bad, get it done perfessionally.

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I am a 39 year old woman who has been seeing the same man sexually for almost 2 years. What we have is very special. We both admit that. We have made an agrement with each other not to sleep with anyone else except each other. My problem is that I want more out of this relationship. And because it has been sexual, I can't tell if he wants the same. In the past when I asked for a committment, he said he couldn't at that time, because he has goals he needs work towards and needs to focus on them. Even though he said he would like to the timing was off. I am feeling like it will always be sexual, nothing more. Can I be wrong? Should I wait it out? I do have very strong feelings for this man.
Thanks

Since you have been in a sexual relationship with this man for so long, I'm sure you have developed strong feelings for him. These type of things always start out no strings attacthed, but when sex is involved, eventuually emotions will be involved too. I'm sure after all this time, he has feelings for you as well. You both probably know eachother better than anyone else ever could. It seems like he was honest with you in the past when he told you he would like things to be more but he has goals. You should respect the fact that he has goals, alot of men don't. But, now that time has passed, has he accomplished any of these goals yet? And maybe you should have a talk with him and find out if you fit anywhere in his goals. You know, not that 39 is so old or anything, but you guys aren't getting any younger, maybe its time for a commitment. Talk to him about this and see what he has to say. Send me a note in my inbox and let me know how things go, I'm very intrested in what he has to say. Good Luck! :)

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I just asked about first time tampons. I saw these teen ones at Walgreens, they are like "teen satin" or something. Has anyone tried them? Should I use those, or would I be better with Tampax pearl? I always thought those were adult sized and a teen kind would be better.

Also, how old are you, and do you use pads or tampons? Sorry, but I really want to know before I try them.

personally i like tampax pearl, ive never had an accident with them. but i also wear pads, to like go to sleep. I'm alomost 18. I've been using tampons since i was like 14 and i got my period when i was 11. if this is your first time using them, those teen one are just perfect. they get you too feel more comfortable wearing them, so that eventaully you can wear the bigger ones on your heavier days. and since they are smaller, they are easier to put it.

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My friend who i really care about cuts his wrists. I went to his house and he did it right in front of me. I felt so sick. I asked him to spot and he just keeps saying he cant but he will try. But he keeps doing it. And i dont know what to say or do. He said that i cant tell anyone and if i tell his parents and they try to send him somewhere he will run away. I dont know what to do. Help!!!!!!!!!!!

sorry hun, there really isnt naything you can do. you are just gonna have to let hmi get through ths one on his own, and hope for the best.

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so...i was giving this 1 guy head...and when i was he started pushing down on my head...why did he do that and what does it mean?! Thanx so much!

haha! it means he wants you to go donw further. i hate it when my guy pushes my head, i find it so disrespectful, it makes me wanna stop, but anyways, have you ever heard the term "deep throat". well thats what he probably wanted. i dont see what turns a guy on about the back of a girls throat anyway, i wouldnt imagine that its anything like cootchie, but whatever. if you cant go any deeper just let the guy know you cant. he should be able to understand that. if not then dont even give him head. see how he likes that shit lol.

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Hey, I have a question about my hair. My hair is naturally wavy, but not curly. When I try to blow-dry it straight, it never comes out right, and one side of my head is wavy, and the other is straight. Sometimes I straighten my hair, but I don't really have a ton of time in the morning to do that. Do you have any suggestions of what I should do with it (Possibly even something I could do at night and sleep with it, or something I could do in the morning but it won't take too much time)

Do a wrap in your hair before bed. Thats when you, pull ur hair from the left or right side of the head and comb the hair in a crown motion. make it like ur combing it in a circle and keep going around until there isnt any more hair left. once your done, tie your hair with a scarf or doo-rag or soemthing. when you wake up it should eb straight, but if its not the way you want it, the spray a small amount of oil sheen to your hair and flat iron or blow dry it.

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months and i was at his house the other day and we were getting kind of sexual... we didn't have sex or anything but we were like "dry humping" and my underwear shifted and his penis went in... it wasn't for like that long because as soon as we both felt it we like jumped apart from eachother. he said that he didn't cum but there is still the whole issue of pre cum and he might have a little bit... he didn't go in deep though it was like hardly an inch. is there a chance that he could have cummed a little bit and i could get pregnant? or does he have to go in deeper?

its not a matter of him going in deeper to get you pregnant if he came, because even sperm on the outside of the vagina, is strong enough to get in sometimes. but if he only precame and he was barely in you, he cant get you pregnant. also, i advice, you dont stress over this situation, becasue will stress will make your period come late, and then you will be even more paranoyed.

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my mother and her whole family are white. however my father is half & half..(black/white)
..everyone in his family is white, except for his father.(my grandad) so..what am i? half/half? or just white? and if any1 knows, what percentage of each would i be? :) ty!

okay you are alwasy half of what your parents are. So if your mom is 100% white, you take 50% from her, and your dad is 50% black, and 50% white, so you take 25% black form him and 25% white from him. which mean all together you are 75% white and 25% black, which equals 100% YOU! :)

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whos pierced there own cartilage? did it get badly infected? or worse? i read about this girl who got it done and something shattered in her ear and it got deformed. did anything serious happen to any of you?

dont do it. i've my ears myself, and they were fine, but the cartilage is a whole different story. that oart of the ear is very tough to get through, you shouldnt mess with it. i dont know about anything shattering, but i know it can get badly infected. just go and do it perfessionly.

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I'm 20/f
I met this guy on an online dating site, we didnt want to date or anything, since we both were seeing people. Well, we talked on the phone and online soo much he started to care for me a lot..And his girlfriend could see I was getting in the way. I didnt want to steal him he was just a great friend. But since the guy started liking me so much he even said that he shouldent talk to me a lot because he'll start loving me. But, he did talk to me for a while until his girlfriend said he cant talk to me at all! He thinks its unfair, and it is!!! But he loves his girlfriend and they wanna get married. This guy is so awesome, and I havent talked to him since May. i have tried emailing him and he reads them but cant reply..or his girlfriend erases them! also, I forgot his number so I cant call him..I tried IMing him a lot..he doesnt im me back. i know its not because he hates me or anything I know its his girlfriend.. should i give up..i mean i like this guy so much..but is it worth it trying so hard? what should i do!!! i rate

wow this guys girl really treats him like crap. like her puppy or something. who is she to tell him who he can and can not talk to. its a shame he lets her intimidate him like that. she must have some power over him, but i dont think it is really love. if i were you id keep trying to talk to him. one of these days he will respond. im sure that his relationship with his girl isnt gonna last.

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ok so i like this guy and i dont think that he is in my league. i mean we are friends but he is a senior and im a freshman. we are getting to know each other better but he is pretty popular and i dont think he wil ever like me... what should i do?

hey dont ever think someone, especially a guy is too good for you. you are good for who ever you want to be good for. if you like this guy, just keep hangin out with him and hvaing fun spending time like you already have and see where things go. if you grow impatient, you can always take the plunge and tell him how you feel.

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My friend * Ashlyn* is trying to tell me her boyfriend told her he is a vampire and i dont think she is lying for some reason and her cousin is going around the High school calling her a blood sucker what should i do i dont know if i believe her or not do you ???

a vampire? common now! and im the wicked witch of the east, lol. even if she has never lied to you, her or maybe just her boyfriend is obviously playing a trick. there are no such things as vampires.

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Im a sophmore and we just got told that a representative from Jostens(the ring company) is coming to the school this friday to take class ring orders. We got the information today and theyr sooo expencive but i found 3 that i love. Problem is theyr all at like the $200 and up mark...YIKES! So i want to know if any of u have any good ideas to help out my parents pay for some of it without really having to get a job that im stuck too (cant cuz i play soccer 3-5:30 plus h/w every night) If anyone has any ideas PLZ help!

try baby sitting or mowing soem lawns or soemthing on the wekend to up some quick money. also if you have any money saved for a rainy day, this might be time to use it. good luck! :)

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Hey...
(plz dont delete) I was asked to homecoming by this guy that is lyke obsessed with me(literally!) He can be sweet but I really don't feel comfortable around him. I'm a Freshman and so is he. He recently asked me to homecoming and I don't know what to do becuz i was gonna ask this guy who i lyke and lykes me back or just go with friends.....HELP!
THANKS!

so just be be nice and tell the guy, sorry but i cant go with you. i kinda had my eye on someone else. he has no choice but to understand. and maybe that will stop him from being so obsessed with you.

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16-F There is this boy Jon and last year I really liked him but I never really talked to him. Anyways this year were always talking and were pretty close. We've hung out twice in the past month bc we're both busy. We've made out and he's gone up my shirt. He says he likes me like that and says hes not using me but I dunno something in my head is saying he's using me. When ever I hang out or talk to him he says stuff about fingering me. Whenever I move his hands or say no he tells me how pretty I am or how much he likes me and says how close we've gotten. We're not going out but I think we're headed there. So my question is do u think he's using me and if not do you think I need to lighten up and do stuff with him or forget him and move on. thanx

If you feel like you are being used, ch aces are, you are. ALways trust your gut instinct. guys seems like all he is intrested in scoring. If he does ask you out, hes probably only doing it so he can mess around with you and he'll probably leave you once he gets what he wants or realizes hes not gonna get it. dont let his little compliments about you being pretty fool you, thats how guys doop girls. you should just leave him alone to avoid being in a tough situation.

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i just started at a new school last week september 8th the first day i noticed this girl,jasmine had all the same classes as me me not knowing anyone decides to be friendly and say hey im new and i think we have the same class want to walk with em there and jasmine f*ck no f*uckin girls are stupid so i was like w.e and just went to class later dureing that day i realize she in every one of my classes!i didnt say anything to her the next day in Health we had to ask everyone what there favorite show was mine was boy meets world and she yells out boy meets world is like 70 years old her is full house and this kid dustin says yea and so is fullhouse she gos ya well at least its good and today she made fun of my friends outfit and my voice and just other stupid things....im very girly i dont have that many friends becuase im new but im making it it always seems like im the kind of girl that girls like jasmine love to pick on(she thinks she all that)but why do you think shes doing this she dont evan know me?and what am i spose to do next time shes talkin crap bout me?

tell her to stop talking about you. let her know that shit is kiddy, and she needs to stop. if she feels like picking on soemone tell her to pick o soemone she knows. if she keeps doing it, id punch he in the face. sometimes you have to beat some sence into people to make them see your serious.

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i am in love wit a guy that is 3 years older then me. is a big difference? well my parents dont want me talkin to him anymore. i talk him on the phone everyday. my parents think i should talkin to him perminently but i cant. i love this guy but i cant tell my parents that bc they think i am to young to have a bf. it is like i am 13 i should be able to have a bf. But they wont let me. what do u guyz think i should i really need ur help!!

well 13 is kinda young to be in lve. does this guy eevn love you back. sorry but you might not really be in love sweety. you are probbaly just obsessed or have a really bg crush. 13 is an okay age to have a boy friend, but not ot be taking things that seriously. when you're 13 you should be out having fun and learning about yourself and the types of people you likeand dont like. you are still developing as a person.

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ok here is the deal my cuzin jen was going out with this kid named jim and jim's parents r rlly rlly strict like hes never even whent 2 dairy queen ne ways she dumped him n he would call me all the time and i started liking him but he wouldnt ask me out because he thought it would weird sense me n jen r cuz's ok in early june my friend mimi was over n we were bored so she says lets call jim and i said i dont wanna its 2 late his parents might yell at me so she called n said hi is jim there n his mom says well im on the other line who is this n mimi says o nvm bye and hangs up later mimi goes home n i get a call back n its jim n he sounded sad so im like i didnt call mimi did n he says 2 his mom she didnt call mimi did n his mom comes on the fone and starts yelling at me saynig u didnt call my house n i say no that was my friend but she left n she asked 4 mimi's number and i gave it 2 her and she says well mim shouldnt hav called my house if shes just gonnna say nvm . then later mimi calls and she says guess who called me n i say jim's mom i no she called me 2 sry but i gave her ur numba i panicked wut did she say 2 u n mimi says she asked if i called her house n i said i didnt .... so mim was mad at me for a lil bit n then i didnt talk 2 jim sense then recently at school he talked 2 me but hasent sense then i rlly wanna talk 2 him but i dont no wut 2 say it feels kinda awkward i need some help

well what exactly are you asking? you tell us this big story, and jump from one subject to the next. and you didnt even ask a question. how can we give advice if we dont know what you want advice about? and next time please try and spell a little better. it was hard to read your statement.

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Well, I'm 13. I just got my boyfriend
only about 5 days ago. And we just met each
other about 3 weeks ago. We really like each
other. Already, we went to a Football game
and people were chanting us to kiss...and
we did 4 times. I think we're rushing, but
I don't want to hurt anything between us. Though
I know he'll probably be fine with it if I tell him how I feel...I just can't get the guts to. What should I do?

-Mystie

just get the guts to tell him how yu feel, once you do you will feel alot better.

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Hey i need some help.. i think im prude..like scared to kiss a boy like i feel embarresed like i dont do it right or something i mean i have pecked boys but never freched or madeout and alot of ppl call me prude and idk wut to do cuz even my bf calls me prude and i like him alot nd wanna kiss him but i jus cant :-/

X.oX.o --> aShLeY

well thats wrong for peoople to call you prude, especially your boy friend. if you are not confident enough to kiss someone, you just might not be ready. don let what people say be the reason you kiss someone, let it be becasue you want to, becasue you are comfortable and ready to. and if you feel you are then, just do it. dont think about it, just do it, it will become more natural and easier once you are used to it.

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