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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media
I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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advice

i have this friend sierra well shes been my best friend ever sence kindergarden and i started dateing this boy robert and i love him so much i think shes geles and robert asked me if i would go to a carnivel with him and i said yes but now sierra wont talk to me eney more what should i do

hey there,
Okay this does seem like a classic case of jealousy.
try to understand a little bit where shes coming from,she probably all of a sudden feels left out and that your gonna be spending way more time with robert and wishes she had a bf too.
whatever you do don't start blowing off and neglecting your friends for bfs.
rmemeber the saying bfs may come and go but friendship is forever.
make equal time for them both hang out just the two of you dont make her feel like a thrid wheel..maybe ask robert to bring one of his friends along for her and you all go to the carnival if he wouldnt mind? she might hit it off with one of them you never know, you could have some alone time with robert then without feeling guilty of leaving sierra on her own?
Just a suggestion entirely up to you.
shes going a tad over board by not talking to you but its just a bit of jealousy and should ease off.
its natural for a best friend to feel that way when the othey gets a bf and one not.
if that makes sense i know my friend has oftern felt it and vice versa.
talk to her tell her shes still so important to you and your bestfriend..if shes still not willing to talk to you and to throw your friendship away over something so trival then to be blunt shes not really worth it is she?
but as i said its probably just upset feelings and worry.
hope all works out and she comes around and that I helped in anyway any more questions please inbox me.
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what can happen to a girl if she masturbates before she starts her period? it doesn't stop them does it?

nothing at all,of course it doesnt masturbation has no interferance with your period whatsoever.
so you have nothing to worry about
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~does getting a cherry popper hurt
~can it happen when ur finger someone
~how can u make the first time getting fingered feel good


please any help with any of these questions would help
me and my g/f havnt ever done any of this and i dont want to mess up
amail is wipey1593587@yahoo.com

heyy, okay it feels totally different for everyone thats one thing you have to remember,so what you both need to do is basicly just talk about it.
start of gentle and dont be too rough and forceful because that cant hurt.
ask her what feels good and right and what doesnt so you can establish what works.
when my boyfriend first fingered me it really hurt because he was very forcefull and i bled a tiny little bit the next time he went to do it i told him to be more gentle and it felt much better.
so basicly you two just have to talk about it you cant guess what feels right.
her cherry can get popped yes,if you do it too hard it doesnt hurt that much but its uncomfortable.
Hope I helped :)
inbox me if youve got anymore questions
good luck to you both
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15/F. Here's what happened, pretty straight up. This boy was totally ONLY using me to get some action, so I broke it off with him. Then a guy that I was kind of close with/friends with saw that I was really vulnerable and tried to get me to have sex with him... but I had enough in me to say no to him. Well now I just feel like SUUUUCH crap because I feel like guys only want me because of the physical stuff... Like does my personality really suck so bad that that's all they want? I just feel like shit, and once again, pretty vulnerable and I don't want to just fall into another trap. So please, how can I avoid getting hurt again and running to the first guy who shows interest? I don't trust myself right now.

Hey there,
=) okay firstly im sorry this happend you guys are such assholes sometimes.
and trust me your not alone this has happend to soo many girls including myself I know exactly how you feel it happend me twice in a row also and I got to a point where I felt like I would never be good enough for any guy,pretty much the feelings your expierencing now.
DONT for a second think its your personality its just those idiotic sleezebag type guys.
the trick is to not let your gaurd down. way to go for having some self respect not an awful lota girls do theese days it takes guts to stand up and say no. what you need to do is get to know the guy more make it clear that you are in no way easy or skanky and your not just going to have sex with them.
I know it may not seem like it right not but those decent guys who are out there respect girls who are like that an awful lot more.
guys are immature it takes them longer to mature then us and they go through a phase of all they can think about is sex and some never grow out of it.
just stay positive pick yourself back up don't let the other two get you down and emerge confidient and full of self respect from this,when you start seeing yourself in this light alot more guys will too.
hope I helped and that things get better any more questions please feel free to inbox me!
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We are ALL obsessed over SOMETHING! Right now it's nikki reed (rosalie from twilight) and twilight or vampires etc. what do i do with my obsession? i lok her up on google and stuff but what do you do with an obsession? its kinda boring.

Hey there,
I wouldnt call this an obsession more like a phase.
we all go through different phases of things people new tv shows music books celebrities or anything really that we simply cant get enough of at the time. its all we talk about etc,
since your saying now its getting kinda boring then your moving on from it. find other things that interest you aswell and dont fixate on one thing for too long then it becomes an obsession.
where all you literally do is talk and think about the obession its not considered healthy and can be rather annoying to those around you so just remember to control it and not go too over the top like some people out there.
hope I helped in any way
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alright, i think my friend likes the boy i like and she isnt giving up, but she said she can tell he likes me by the way he looks at me. she said he has that look in his eyes like im the only girl in the world he cares about. if she likes him but she thinks he likes me why wont she give up? i really like him, but he wont talk to me, why is that? is he to nervous to or what? shes the type of girl who will go up to anyone and make conversation. i would be devestated if he liked her but, hey, what can ya do. here are a few things, he looks at me alot and when i look at him we keep contact for 3-5 seconds then he looks away. he never says what he is planning to around me. idk what happens around my friend and him. but to make a long story short, do you think he likes me or her and why do you think my friend wont quit if she has a feeling he likes me?

thanks!

Hey there, :)
okay to answer your question on whether he likes you,no one on here can get inside his mind and find out for you as much as wed like to! but going by what youve said id say there is a strong possibility that yes this guy does like and that he is genuinely just shy and doesnt know what to say. so id advice you to talk to him more and get to know him more.
before your so called friend swoops in there and trys to take him away I would put what you described down to as pure jealousy.
I Mean shes supposed to be your friend right?so why would she delibrately keep going after him if she thinks he likes you and you like her?. it seems to me as if she loves having the attention like you said shes the type who makes convo with anyone so now that it looks like a guy is interested in you shes not used to it and she wont let up. you need to talk to her pull her asside and say hey look what are you doing i really like this guy and you say yourself you think he likes me so id really like a shot with him,ask her why shes going after him I believe she doesnt even really like him that much. if shes a true friend then she wont get in the way of that and she will stop and even help you on how to talk to him. if she doesnt then you really need to think about what kind of friend she is and do you want someone like that in your life?
anyway talk to the guy more be yourself relax and talk about anything!
I hope I made some sense and helped in anyway
best of luck &
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alright, theres this cute guy in the drumline that every girl wants. i feel like i have a closer relationship with him because we both are in the band, but we dont talk. every guy says he is completly out of my league but is it possible to make him be in my league or me be in his league?

1) im in the band, so is he
2) he has brown hair, as do i
3) heres the differences, he only associates with the drumline, i only associate with the band, except my best friend whose in the drumline
4) he's so skinny but he's strong and masculine, im short and not that skinny
5) he is kinda a loner, like everyday at band he talks to the drumline, but at after school practices he walks around alone and at water break he has his water alone, im a people person, i mean, i love having me time but at band i love being around my friends

so! who can i be more like him and have him be attracted to me?!

Hey there okay nearly every girl as been faced with this sitaution at some stage or another and before you do what your thinking of doing dont.
honestly if your intending to change yourself so he will be attracted to then seriously dont.
just be yourself. I know everyone hates hearing that but whats the point in posing as someone your not just so somebody will like you,there not really liking you then are they? its just like your lying to him and yourself and it doesnt feel right trust me ive been there.
so what id advice you to do is just talk to him as you! try to devolop something you two have in common,you dont have to be an exact clone of him for him to like you know so just get to know him and let him get to know you and make his own mind up without automaticly assuming your out of his league.
you cant change people either remember that also.
opposites often attract aswell as they say, so give yourself a chance im sure he will too :) let him make his own mind up so get to know him and see if he starts to like you as more then a friend if he doesnt well youl just have to accept that,you could get to know him more and find you dont actually really even like him that much! your just running on attraction. if you get where im coming from.
anyway I hope I made some sense and helped in anyway,and please dont change yourself for a guy or try change him its really not worth it, find someone who likes you for you :)
Good luck and much

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ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months now and spend like 10 hours a day together and somehow still arent tired of each other and still love each other very much. our sex life is good and in all the time weve been together we've never fought. we;ve had some small dissagreements but its always something we get talk out and come to an agreement..
but okay heres whats up. we both do drink a bit and i've told her before that i dont mind if she drinks with her friends a little but as long as she doesnt get to drunk. and not to going to any guys houses with her friends to get drunk because im worried something might happen..
then last weekend i left to stay with my sister out of town and she said she was going to her friends for the weekend. but anyways.. sunday night her friend and her went to some guys house.. just my girlfriend her friend and 2 guys... they ended up getting drunk and things got out of hand and my girlfriend had sex with one of them. i found out monday when i saw a hickey on her neck. she promised me that all they did was kiss but i've already know when she lies and i could tell she was... she did regret it and she didnt want to but it still happend you know..
but the next day i looked at her phone and saw a text to the friend she went with telling her not to tell me anything else happened. so i confronted her and blah blah blah i was pissed she cried again and idk. but the problem is i love her way to much and even though i want to be mad i cant. i just cant be mad at her its only been a week and im already acting like nothing happend. im still hurt about it and theres not the trust like there was but i dont know what to do. she promises me it will never happen again and shes never going to drink again unless im there to but im still not sure..
what do you think i should do?

Hey there, im
sorry to hear your gf did that so im going to be blunt.
you dont deserve to be treated like that you trusted her and whether she intended to or not drunk or not she still broke that trust and she needs to earn that back the hard way.
you acting like nothing happend isnt going to help in the slightest she will now probably think that because you were so cool about it she can get away with doing it again. WRONG. don't let her think that,I know you say you love her so much so thats why im not going to say walk away from this and throw it away just yet.as i believe everyone should be given a second chance to proove themselves worthy.
so I would sugest taking a break and seeing if she can proove herself to you show shes really truely sorry and cares and wants you back tell her youl need time for that level of trust to be worked back up if shes willing to do that 100% and your willing to give it ago then do that,but it will take quite some time to get there again if you truely think shes worth it and believe in your heart that she is sorry then dont throw this away.
if your having any doubts at all as to whether she is or not then i would sugest seriously tihnking this relationship through,dont let yourself be walked all over you dont deserve that.
Best of luck and I hope I helped,any more questions please feel free to inbox me
hope i helped
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I like this guy named Dillon, and in my first question i asked if he likes me , im pretty sure he does, he asked me out in grade 7 but i wasnt ready to date him yet and now we are in grade 9, We have grown apart a bit, but I really think we can be more, I was talking to him a few weeks before school started and he said maybe is school goes right and all we could date..? I was happy about this but now im kinda worried he either forgot about it or kinda dosent like me much anymore? The big problem is I am really really shy.. Its been 4 days into the school year and I havent even said hi to him yet.. I talk to him lots on the computer but in person its a different story.. I want to know ways I can talk to him, do you think I have a chance with him? What can I do to make him like me, like I dont want to change myself or anything about me but, are there ways to kinda say I like you? Without being right upfront about it? I still smile at him with he looks and me but is there anything else I can do ? Thank you soo much for helping me!!

Hey there, :)
okay your definately not alone alot of girls get like this and I do sometimes too tis really daunting having to talk to a boy you like.
I dont think its a case of he doesnt like you in face judginhg by what youve said I tihnk its fair to guess that he really does like you but hes afraid you dont like him seeing as your so shy and dont talk much. in fact hes probably asking himself the same questions you are.
okay so when your talking to him honestly the first thing you need to do is relax,think of him like any other friend talk to him about absolutely anything! :) school maybe and how annoying you find one teacher etc or ask him what he thought of a test or something like that to get convirsation going or movies music etc ask him how his summer went its all about establishing convirsation but once you get the hard part over like the first heyy how are you out the rest just flows naturally honestly =)
ways you can let him no I guess is by just being flirty compliment him touch him alot as in like if he says something funny brush his arm if you get me and smile alot which youve been doing but mainly just talk alot,get his number if you dont have it or his myspace if you dont already have that,and once you work up enough courage ask him if he wants to hang out sometime,or better yet he might do it first :)
i think youve nothing to worry about he sounds interested but dont give him the wrong vibes by not talking to him be brave you can do it,
hope I helped && good luck anymore questions feel free to inbox me
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So I really care about this guy but were about 2hours away from eachother for the next 7 months. We were together before I left but we broke it off because we're far apart. We still talk and I know that he's seeing other people which honestly doesnt bother me too much cause I cant expect him to wait for me when I moved away and dont know for sure when Ill be back. But anyways there is this guy where I live now that likes me and I am trying so hard not to like him back, but I ocassionally catch myself flirting and thinking about him. I do not want to like him because I am scared I will lose or forget about the one I love but its hard not to like him.

Hey there,
Ok i find that I can really relate to this question because ive been there myself and I know how you feel,you feel as if its almost wrong to like him.
but think about it logically you say the guy 2hours is seeing people so whats stopping you?
you can like and see other people it doesnt mean you have to forget the other guy.
But I really think its time you moved on from seeing as anything more then a friend. do your besr not to think of him,if you like this new guy go for it dont let your feelings for the other guy old you back thats stopping you from truely living and enjoying your life. do your absolute best to get over him and think of him as just a freind.
have fun and dont stop yourself from having a good time with this guy,even if its just devoloping a friendship dont feel guilty or like you shouldnt because you absolutely should.
your both in different places right now so you need to leave your relationship as friendship only whos to say later on if things dont work out with who hes seeing or your seeing that you wont end up together you never know.
I hope I helped and made some sense in anyway good luck and much

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im 15/male

ok this might be a little long, but help me plz.

im a junior in high school, there is a girl who is a freshman. i met her about 2 months ago. We planned on hooking up only the second day i saw her! and we made out. and we never wanted to date or be bf and gf or anything.

But after a week or so, she took a vacation and we texted like for 24hours each day and night. we were almost like in love with each other. Or maybe only i was. I always talked to her about a relationship, but she always said that she wanted things to "flow naturally" and i was fine with that.

we both swore that we would never forget each other, and than i took a vacation to asia for two weeks. when i got back, she wasnt interested in me anymore. but she still talked to me.

now im texting her and talking to her about us, and she doesnt seem interested anymore. i cant tell if shes lying and just wanted to use me as a hook up. But for SOME REASON, i always end up feeling this way for this girl. i think i love her and i can swear to god...i can see myself marrying this girl forever. I dont want her to walk out of my life. And also, i know for sure that deep down in her, she feels the same way. But she is young and vulnerable.

please help me, i love this girl and i dont want her to leave my life. Help.

Hey there,
firstly let me say that I think nearly everyone on here can relate to this. weve all had to or will have to go through something like this at some stage in life it sucks big time but it happens.
I know this might not be what you want to hear but the fact is peoples feelings change and they or us cant help that. you don't know for sure if she still likes you so you have to accept her word and respect it. your still so young you may feel like shes the only one for you right now but trust me those feelings will ease up and there will be other girls I promise,you will get over her I know you don't want to but to be honest right now I think thats what you need to be.
you say you dont want her to walk out of your life, so dont let her dont give her a reason too by pushing her to have feelings for you its gonna drive her away dont be too full on just do your best to be there for her as just a friend. its better then nothing right?
maybe ask her straight out to tell you honestly if she has not one feeling for you in that way if she says no then youl have to move on. its the hardest thing ever to do im not gonna lie but you can do it the trick is time and to distract yourself whenever you think of her as being more then a friend keep busy and in time youl start to see her as just a friend.
Im sorry I couldnt be of more help but thats all you can do really you cant make someone like you unfortunately.
best of luck and I hope things work out
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Hi 15yr old guy im gay and ive been with my bf over 10 months we really love each other and we were making out in his room his mum came early and we almost got caught we havent told anybody about us were a bit nervous my parents are religious and im not sure how to talk to them not sure how they will react my bf seems to think we should tell our parents soon but i want to wait awhile what do you think?

hey there,
sorry for the delay in my response im back to school now unfortunately :( so I havnt had the time to reply.
Anywho,
this is a very tough situation and its a problem nearly all gay people have to face sooner or later is coming out to there parents. of course at first they will be a little shocked but in time they will come around to accept it.
because in this case they are religous it makes things extremly harder has they have such strong views and its hard to face and come around to new ideas and such.
but they are your parents and at the end of the day they love you,and they should be happy for and respect you.
explain to them its NOT wrong and its who you are,you cant deny that by being something your not tell them you hope they can be happy for you but your not going to change yourself.
im not going to lie they are probably going to be against it at first but honestly they will come around.
as for waiting a while its really up to you,don't let your bf pressure you if he wants to tell his parents now then thats up to him it doesnt mean you have to tell yours,tell them when you feel the time is right but don't leave it too much longer because if they find out elsewhere it will just make it harder.
youl feel much more comfortable once its off your chest,I hope things go well and your parents take it ok
best of luck hope I helped!
any more questions please inbox me again :)
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How is it that you make your Column so awesome, with the colors, pictures, fonts, and such? I love it! ;)

Haha awh why thank you :)
well okay basicly just go to column settings and mess around with different colour codes until you get the ones you want thats all it is,it explains how to do it,if you want a picture as a background then simply uplaod one to photobucket or tinypic or any photo sharing website and get the url link and paste it into the place where it says it on column settings,hope I helped!
If your finding it diffucult or anything please inbox me again
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My prom is in 1 week, so I desperately need help! Im looking for a hair styl, I was thinking of going for half up and half down. I want really cute curls, like loose and wavy curlyish if that makes sense. But I was also considering just keeping it all down (I part my hair to the side, and I have side bangs.) But I still want those loose curls. Can anyone help me find pictures?
please help Im running out of time!
Thanks!

hey there,
I think ive an idea of what your looking for
try theese:

http://lh3.ggpht.com/_DOQrQIzggu8/SRTEsIyCUtI/AAAAAAAADQw/Zsr_rhOu15E/DSCN0033_thumb%5B1%5D.jpg

http://beaut.ie/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/curls.jpg


you could good more yourself those are some I came across,if they arent what you wanted just go to your local stylist and explain what you want they will more then likely have pictures too.. =]
I find myself that GHD curls work the best you can have tight or very loose curls but like i said your stylist should know best
hope I helped,have a great time at prom!
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how to make friendship with girls?

Hey there, :)
you havnt said your gender so im just going to persume your male? correct me if im wrong.(same will apply if your a girl)
basicly the same way youd become friends with anyone,talk to them be yourself get to know them find out what they like dislike their interests..
find out if youve anything in common and use that to devolop a friendship
chat to them all the time swap numbers,add their myspaces just be friendly,I know it can be hard sometimes for certain people,for others it just comes natrually the main thing is to just relax and let them see how nice of person you are trust me youl be flying it in no time :)
Hope I helped,
Jess-16/f

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16/f (please read, I know it's long)
I'm not trying to sound conceited when I say this, but I am a really good friend. I have helped people stop cutting and feel better about themselves. (only my close friends who tell me things) I tell them to get help and try to help them as much as I can to the best of my ability. I'm kind of like the go-to person, the one they vent to, then one they can trust.
So today, my best friend and I were talking on aim. and we were talking about how we felt we were drifting apart. we got mad at eachother at first because she accused me of judging her (when I don't, I really don't judge people, everyoneis who they are) and she wasn't acting herself. Then we got to the point in the conversation where she told me that she wasn't going to beg for me to be my friend, and I told her that I'd always be her friend, no matter what. Because she's been having a hard time lately, and has been going to the shore drinking alot and hooking up with random guys at random parites, and it's just not her.
Then she always blames everything on her ex boyfriend, how he screwed her up so much. and he did, he really messed her up, but i said she had to stop blaming him for everything, and that it's not her fault at all but that part of why she changed was because of the shore and summer. well, I guess that set her off, because she told me something that I cried when I read...
Her ex boyfriend, you would never suspect he would do this. He forced her to do stuff to him. (she never told anyone, this happened a few months ago) he told her that she didnt trust him and that she didnt find him attractive if she didnt give him a handjob. I knew that part, but I also knew that he ate her out when she told him she didnt want to. and he fingered her when she didnt want to be fingered and said so. He would get very violent with her and shove as many fingers as he could and finger her, and she tried to stop him, and tell him no but she couldn't breathe and he was bigger than her. Then she told me that one time, she was in his car and they were fighting as usual, he was telling her like, "oh i went to third for you and you won't do the same to me?" and she said, "i didn't want you to do that to me!" and he was like, "well it's been 2 or 3 months and if you loved me you would do this for me." so my friend ended up being guilted into saying she'd make it up to him by giving him a handjob. after she said that, she didnt know how it happened, but he pushed her head down to his pants and held her head there while he unzipped and he made her give him a blow job. she told me she was crying while she did it and he wouldnt stop. (i feel horrible not only because he did this to her, but because we talked about blow jobs and how id never give one ever and how she wouldnt either.. i felt bad she didnt tell me this!) so then like whenever they hung out, apparently he would just jump ontop of her and hold her down, and hump her, and shed say get off, but he wouldnt listen. and then when he was "finished" she could go home.
she told me that he told her he was gonna kill himself. she was scared. she was trapped inside a relatiosnhip with this guy. isnt that RAPE?!?! I told he to tell someone, she won't. I want her to get help, I told her she should get therapy, that i'd help her. but she said telling me helped her feel better.. but she was pretending this entire time that she's fine. but she told me she's depressed. I rpomise her I wouldn't tell anybody about this, but THIS IS RAPE. isn't it?! It is. my best friend was raped. and now all she wants is attention from guys. shes really screwed up because of this. Shes drinking because she doesn't think about her ex and what he did. I don't know what to do. please help me. I'm the ONLY ONE who knows. the only one. so what do i do?! I know I should tell someone, but who would I tell? and there's no proof he did that, so how would i be able to help? I promised her I wouldnt tell anyone, I know I should, but at the same time, she says she's not wasting her time on him. But if I was her, I would want to tell someone. I couldn't just hide that. I'm so lost. She acts like it's no big deal now.. just because it has been a few months. But it IS a big deal to ME. she's my best friend and he raped her. Well, I consider it rape. Ugh. help?
thank you all so much.

Hey there,
ok firstly let me say how I think your a great friend,and your friend is so lucky to have you to go to and confide in and to help her through this reading that I felt awful for her nobody should have to take that from any guy!
that guy is an ultimate sleezbag he used emotional blackmail to her her to do things which in my opinion is the lowest of the low.
I can understand why shes turning to drink and guys she just wants to forget block it out and feel loved by guys. but shes doing it the complete wrong way as im sure your aware of too.
this is an extremely hard situation and its always tough to figure out whether or not you should say something or keep shut because of your friends wishes,
heres what I would do.. I would sit her down and explain to her that what he boyfriend did was really wrong (did he actually force her to have sex with him?if so then its considered rape) but if he didnt all the other stuff would be classed as sexual abuse,(if you were to go about bringing it up in court or anything like that there would be evidence if he forced that many fingers in her there would be tearing) I would tell her that she cant keep blocking it out and pretending like it isnt a big deal because deep down she knows it is..explain to her that your not trying to be a nag your just really worried drinking and getting off with randoms isnt going to help as much as she thinks it does now its only a short term solution which in the long run is only going to make things ten times worse shes allowing herself to be used by those random guys also explain to her all this tell her she needs to hold her head up high and gain back her self respect and dignity and come out of this the right way by letting you help her by telling someone,like her mom her sister or any adult figure you both can trust,she is more then likely going to object and say no way but shes still in shock..she will more then likely play the "if your really my best friend you wont tell anyone for me"
if she says that tell her she is wrong. that a good friend wouldnt sit back and watch her go through hell like that and degrade herself and go deeper into depression..tell her not to let him do that to her to get her so down and out like that and to be strong.
bottom line as much as she doesnt want you to you have to tell someone..im not going to lie if you cant get through to her with that talk her reaction isnt going to be good she will probably yell at you says things like she hates you and not speak to you for a while. that can hurt like hell but remember shes not herself and she doesnt mean it shes just worried and scared,she will thank you in the long run and realise what a great friend you are I gauruntee you. its what she needs right now. or things are only going to go from bad to worse.
hopefully you can convince her by talking to her but please i think you should tell anyway if you cant.
sorry that your in this situation and your friend but stick by her its what she needs to keep her from going off the rails completely.
I really hope I helped in anyway
best of luck to both of you &&
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okay... so i use to have a major crush on this guy and then all of a sudden, i see this whole other side of him that im not liking so much. yesterday i told him that i also like girls. then last night i asked him what he felt towards this girl that im into and he said he thinks that she is cute. then he asked me how i felt about him and i told him how i use to like him. then he started talking about the other girl and he was a little jealous because she likes me more than him. then i asked him how he felt towards me and he didnt reply. then i texted him again that there are no double standards since i told him all of this. still, no reply which was expected now. then i told him how i wasnt sure that i could trust him with the other girl's secret that i told him earlier that day. i really do regret telling him her secret but i also wanted to know how he felt so i figured if i told him then he would come out with everything. now i just feel that i put my trust into someone too soon. i reallly dont care how he feel towards me, i mean i know hes a manwhore. and i know what his type is and im not that because i don wear slutty clothes. i really need to know what to do now, now that i blew everything because i had a little crush on this guy. where does that leave he and i? i cant just blow him off because he knows too mcuh... he know her secret that I told him. and if he went up to the other girl and say too much then im screwed. this girl wont ever speak to me again.

Hey there okaty this is a really bad sitaution to be in,but at least you realised your mistake dont worry it can happen to the best of us at times.
we think we can trust someone and then we realise we shouldnt have opened our mouth.
I can relate because ive been in a similar situation..exact same type of guy except I fell hard for him.. he had two sides also like I told him so much,when I was mad at my best friend I bitched about her to him..big mistake once I saw his other side..I was worried he would go back and say everything to her luckily for me he never did and still hasnt..im not saying this guy wont say anything but if he has any decency and respect for the girl whos secret you tolds feelings then he wont.
what you need to do is give him a little credit..
dont go begging him not to tell because that could have to opposite effect and make him say it.
Just do your best to remain freinds with him,and causully mention it to him about the girls secret just say something like I would really greatfully apriciate it if you didnt mention that to her because I really wasnt meant to say.
and leave it at that,theres not much you co then.
If he tells her then all you can do is just apologise and tell her you honestly didnt mean it that it slipped out explain to her how you felt about him and how you thought you could trust him it will take a while for her to trust you again and if shes a true friend she will find a way to forgive your mistake and will come around eventually.
as for him if he tells then you know better then to steer clear of him completely then hes nothing but a shit stirer,and back stabber.
I really do Hope it wont come to this,and that I was helpful in anyway!
good luck
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Hey I'm going into highschool and I really want to get rid of my acne problem. The thing is, I have REALLY senstive skin and all Proactive items burn my face, and the drugstore brands don't seem to be working.

hey there my sister used to have problems with acne too,the only thing you can really do is to consult a doctor and hopefully they can perscribe some cream or anitbiotic that can clear it up quickly,my sister went to a private specialist about hers and she had to go on this tablet called "roacitine" i think, it worked wonders though it was like she had got whole new skin completely clear.
it did have some side affects however,as do many tablets some steroid based ones can make you gain weight too.
my friend also got a bad break out on her back she went to the doctor he perscribed this cream and its almost gone now.
it depends on the person and your skin too your diet can also play a huge part in it make sure you drink plenty of water and eat fruit and veg it really does help with your skin.,and if your a girl make sure you take off all your make up properly and clense tone and moisturise daily,ask which porducts would best suit sensitive skin get a good moisturizer also.
other ways are beauty treatments like electrolisis etc,there are loads so if you wanted to go to a beauty thearpy clinic I worked in one part time for work expierence and ive seen first hand the results of them and some really do work =]
sorry I cant be of more help but your best bet is to go to your local Gp/beauty clinic or health shop for more natural remidies.
and remember acne does ease up with time it will go eventually as you get older so ive heard
good luck I hope it clears up for you and that I helped in anyway

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Okay, sooo I'm like in love with my best friend, a TOTAL nerd. I've made up my mind that since either of us have moved on from liking each other for 2 or 3 years, its time to confess how I feel. We have SO MUCH in common and he's just so hard to stay away from. I really want to tell him my feeling but I don't know how to... I know he likes me too, he has ever since we met. I actually started hanging out with him because I knew he had a crush on me. I did that because I remembered all of the times I liked someone who would NEVER hang out with me, and I knew that it would be the nicest thing to do to at least be friends with the guy... Then rumors got around that we were dating. At that time I liked someone else, so I just kind of sighed and shook my head. But now that I've fallen (HARD) for him, I know I blush. This is when I started wondering if he knew how I felt about him. I'm trying my best not to seem 'tease-ish' but I cant help it if I like him!!!

Sooo i've figured out that the only way to get us to hang out more and really have the best relationship is to actually START it... but I just don't know how!!! I dont even know where to start, I mean I've always imagined the GUY telling ME how he felt... I never ever wanted to do the talking, just the agreeing :o)

Sooo I need some serious advice here... I will use the advice just as you say, I swear! I just dont really want to do anything too forward like kissing him, even on the cheek, because well I know I'm already realllllly nervous about telling him and I haven't even done it yet!!! So I cant even imagine what a kiss would be like... I'll leave that to HIM to lead xD

Please please help!!! :P
Sorry if this was too long, I just like to talk :)
I've already posted a couple things about him on here and you guys did a wonderful job answering, and I'm hoping its the same on this question :)

I'm counting on you!!! :P

Hey there, :)
right well one thing going in your advantage ALREADY in this situation is that you know he likes you!
most girls when they like a guy or there best friend take ages trying to guess and figure out if they are liked back and it takes them a while to work up the courage to take the risk and confess their feelings but in this case if you think about its different your not taking much of a risk because you sort of know his feelings already its just the fear and nervousness then of taking the step to you being the one to tell him.
what you should do is call or text him and ask him to hang out someday movies mall or something relaxing and fun like that and as the day goes on sit him down and one point,dont over complicate things but just simply say something along the lines of,okay look (insert name here) I really like you and hanging out with you and just tell him how you feel and that youd like something more maybe,chances are he will be thrilled and agree straight away more often then not in theese situations both sides never want to be the one to iniciate it.
hes probably thinking the exact same as you gauruntee it!
if you cant really arrange to hang out or anything then pull him aside at school if you go to the same one of course.
or if you really cant handle doing it to his face maybe text it? its always the easy way out haha.
its natural to be nervous everyone goes through it but ive no doubt youl be fine =)
hope i helped in anyway and that things go well
feel free to inbox me or anything anytime
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Im 15 my gf is also 15 and she says she wants to see my penis im a bit nervous about it ive got a small penis and we were making out and she started to undo my pants and i got nervous she says come on come on she started pushing me i got nervous im a bit self conscious about the size of my penis and i didn't go through with it was that wrong? do girls care?

hey there, =)
ok firstly let me say your not alone in this alot of guys feel exactly the same way and its totally normal.
theres no need to be nervous, if your gf really cares about you she wont care or even notice the size of your penis gauruntee! trust me it really shouldnt be an issue,and if it is well to be blunt then she is seriously immature and needs to get over herself you shouldnt waste your time with her if thats how things turn out which I assure you they probably wont :)
Just relax and be confident in yourself and that will shine through,after all its not the size as they say that matters its what you can do with it.
most girls dont care at all, in fact my bf isnt overly big and i find it much easier to manage to be honest haha
so it really depends on the type of girl,no girl should make it an issue but unfortunately there are those immature ones that do.
dont forget that us girls get just as self concious as you guys! about our bodies too and what your thinking when you see us so your not alone.
if your not ready to get more serious while making out and that with your gf dont let her pressure you,she should respect you if you dont want to but on the other hand if all thats stopping you is the size of your penis then honestly dont worry just relax and go with the flow,shes not going to make some rude comment about it or anything =)
if your still finding it hard talk to her about it she will surely understand,its better then having her thinking you dont like her anymore or anything us girls tend to get paronied thoughts like that sometimes! heh
anyway really hope I helped and good luck :)
much

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