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vulnerable
15/F. Here's what happened, pretty straight up. This boy was totally ONLY using me to get some action, so I broke it off with him. Then a guy that I was kind of close with/friends with saw that I was really vulnerable and tried to get me to have sex with him... but I had enough in me to say no to him. Well now I just feel like SUUUUCH crap because I feel like guys only want me because of the physical stuff... Like does my personality really suck so bad that that's all they want? I just feel like shit, and once again, pretty vulnerable and I don't want to just fall into another trap. So please, how can I avoid getting hurt again and running to the first guy who shows interest? I don't trust myself right now.
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Ok here i go....
Firstly pretty much all guys are horn dogs, and even when you get the ones that say they arent. They are. And this happens to girls everyday. Guys will say anything and everything to get down your pants and when they dont get what they want, they lose interest or they get pissed at you and make you feel like shit.
Honestly the only way to avoid this is to not trust anyone, when you first meet a guy dont fall head over heels for him right away. Let him know that you want a relationship and not just a fool around buddy. If he sticks around then he might be worth your time, but still be careful. You would be surpised at what a lot of guys would do.
And secondly there is nothing wrong with you at all! I dont know you but im sure your a great girl, guys are just assholes.
Hope i helped =]
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Hey there,
=) okay firstly im sorry this happend you guys are such assholes sometimes.
and trust me your not alone this has happend to soo many girls including myself I know exactly how you feel it happend me twice in a row also and I got to a point where I felt like I would never be good enough for any guy,pretty much the feelings your expierencing now.
DONT for a second think its your personality its just those idiotic sleezebag type guys.
the trick is to not let your gaurd down. way to go for having some self respect not an awful lota girls do theese days it takes guts to stand up and say no. what you need to do is get to know the guy more make it clear that you are in no way easy or skanky and your not just going to have sex with them.
I know it may not seem like it right not but those decent guys who are out there respect girls who are like that an awful lot more.
guys are immature it takes them longer to mature then us and they go through a phase of all they can think about is sex and some never grow out of it.
just stay positive pick yourself back up don't let the other two get you down and emerge confidient and full of self respect from this,when you start seeing yourself in this light alot more guys will too.
hope I helped and that things get better any more questions please feel free to inbox me!
much <3
Jess 16/f
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I want to first say good for you for putting your foot down! :)
I know it seems that every guy only wants to have sex, but the truth is not all guys think and act like that. If you are vulnerable depending on the guy it only makes then try and be more pushy because in their minds they think you will eventually give in. You shouldn't feel like crap at all, You did the right thing. If the guy didn't like the choice you made well then he wasn't even worth the time anyway. A guy that truely cares about you should respect how you feel and the choices that you make. You told them "no" they might of not of liked it but it shows you have a great respect for yourself to stand your ground. Now for the trust part, You should trust yourself as in the end when it comes to trusting anyone it is yourself.
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