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bad mistake.
okay... so i use to have a major crush on this guy and then all of a sudden, i see this whole other side of him that im not liking so much. yesterday i told him that i also like girls. then last night i asked him what he felt towards this girl that im into and he said he thinks that she is cute. then he asked me how i felt about him and i told him how i use to like him. then he started talking about the other girl and he was a little jealous because she likes me more than him. then i asked him how he felt towards me and he didnt reply. then i texted him again that there are no double standards since i told him all of this. still, no reply which was expected now. then i told him how i wasnt sure that i could trust him with the other girl's secret that i told him earlier that day. i really do regret telling him her secret but i also wanted to know how he felt so i figured if i told him then he would come out with everything. now i just feel that i put my trust into someone too soon. i reallly dont care how he feel towards me, i mean i know hes a manwhore. and i know what his type is and im not that because i don wear slutty clothes. i really need to know what to do now, now that i blew everything because i had a little crush on this guy. where does that leave he and i? i cant just blow him off because he knows too mcuh... he know her secret that I told him. and if he went up to the other girl and say too much then im screwed. this girl wont ever speak to me again.
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Hey there okaty this is a really bad sitaution to be in,but at least you realised your mistake dont worry it can happen to the best of us at times.
we think we can trust someone and then we realise we shouldnt have opened our mouth.
I can relate because ive been in a similar situation..exact same type of guy except I fell hard for him.. he had two sides also like I told him so much,when I was mad at my best friend I bitched about her to him..big mistake once I saw his other side..I was worried he would go back and say everything to her luckily for me he never did and still hasnt..im not saying this guy wont say anything but if he has any decency and respect for the girl whos secret you tolds feelings then he wont.
what you need to do is give him a little credit..
dont go begging him not to tell because that could have to opposite effect and make him say it.
Just do your best to remain freinds with him,and causully mention it to him about the girls secret just say something like I would really greatfully apriciate it if you didnt mention that to her because I really wasnt meant to say.
and leave it at that,theres not much you co then.
If he tells her then all you can do is just apologise and tell her you honestly didnt mean it that it slipped out explain to her how you felt about him and how you thought you could trust him it will take a while for her to trust you again and if shes a true friend she will find a way to forgive your mistake and will come around eventually.
as for him if he tells then you know better then to steer clear of him completely then hes nothing but a shit stirer,and back stabber.
I really do Hope it wont come to this,and that I was helpful in anyway!
good luck
Much <3
Jess
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Well I someone told you their secret because they trusted you, you tell someone that secret because you trust them, how do they trust you if you can't keep another secret. You got yourself in a mess. That was completely wrong to choose a crush over a friend that is probably gonna be there for you longer than this manwhore you refer to. I'm sorry to tell you this girl but your introuble. I really would go up to the girl and tell her what you did, apologize for it. Hearing it from you would be better than hearing it from a million other people. You did it and now you need to face up to the consequences. Your tough enough to tell the secret then you are tough enough to see what happends. you need to tell her. good luck
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I think you know right from wrong. You know repeating what someone confessed to you is wrong and even worse you used her secret to get an answer. Although you and I know this is wrong, you can't beat yourself over it because what's said is said. Now all you have to do is look foward and learn from this not to do it again and think many times before making a decision. This guy sounds like someone you shouldn't date if you are looking for a serious and stable relationship. If you really like this girl you should concentrate on her and trying to start a relationship with her. I understand you feel that he will spill the beans but you don't have to ignore him just tell him the truth. Which is you like this girl, you used to like him an now you don't and want to be friends. But don't flirt with him so he knows you mean what you say. After telling him you wanna be friends dont talk to him to much, distance yourself a little but don't ignore him. Hopefully with time your communication will fade and you won't have to worry about him spilling the beans. If he does end up telling her, own it don't lie and say you didn't, be honest say how stupid you were for telling him and the reason and how you really like her and don't ever want to lie to her again. I hope this helps let me know how things work out.
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