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confused...
ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months now and spend like 10 hours a day together and somehow still arent tired of each other and still love each other very much. our sex life is good and in all the time weve been together we've never fought. we;ve had some small dissagreements but its always something we get talk out and come to an agreement..
but okay heres whats up. we both do drink a bit and i've told her before that i dont mind if she drinks with her friends a little but as long as she doesnt get to drunk. and not to going to any guys houses with her friends to get drunk because im worried something might happen..
then last weekend i left to stay with my sister out of town and she said she was going to her friends for the weekend. but anyways.. sunday night her friend and her went to some guys house.. just my girlfriend her friend and 2 guys... they ended up getting drunk and things got out of hand and my girlfriend had sex with one of them. i found out monday when i saw a hickey on her neck. she promised me that all they did was kiss but i've already know when she lies and i could tell she was... she did regret it and she didnt want to but it still happend you know..
but the next day i looked at her phone and saw a text to the friend she went with telling her not to tell me anything else happened. so i confronted her and blah blah blah i was pissed she cried again and idk. but the problem is i love her way to much and even though i want to be mad i cant. i just cant be mad at her its only been a week and im already acting like nothing happend. im still hurt about it and theres not the trust like there was but i dont know what to do. she promises me it will never happen again and shes never going to drink again unless im there to but im still not sure..
what do you think i should do?
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when girls drink it either means two things;
-theyre ditzy and stupid, but they can control themselves
-they cant control themselves lol
obviously your girlfriend has made it quite clear that when she drinks she cannot control herself. you dont get hickeys from just 'kissin'... i suggest you break up with her. becuase if you dont show her that you take it seriously, she might just get drunk and do it again. if you dont want to break up with her then maybe you can make a compromise like she has to really stop drinking or youll break up with her.
its really not fair because i can tell you really have feelins for her and if she treats you like this then you need to give your loyalty and love to someone that will return it.
im super sorry :/ if you need someone to talk to ever im here !
x sweeethoney
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Hey there, im
sorry to hear your gf did that so im going to be blunt.
you dont deserve to be treated like that you trusted her and whether she intended to or not drunk or not she still broke that trust and she needs to earn that back the hard way.
you acting like nothing happend isnt going to help in the slightest she will now probably think that because you were so cool about it she can get away with doing it again. WRONG. don't let her think that,I know you say you love her so much so thats why im not going to say walk away from this and throw it away just yet.as i believe everyone should be given a second chance to proove themselves worthy.
so I would sugest taking a break and seeing if she can proove herself to you show shes really truely sorry and cares and wants you back tell her youl need time for that level of trust to be worked back up if shes willing to do that 100% and your willing to give it ago then do that,but it will take quite some time to get there again if you truely think shes worth it and believe in your heart that she is sorry then dont throw this away.
if your having any doubts at all as to whether she is or not then i would sugest seriously tihnking this relationship through,dont let yourself be walked all over you dont deserve that.
Best of luck and I hope I helped,any more questions please feel free to inbox me
hope i helped
much <3
Jess 16/f
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She won't do it again ?
... Do you HONESTLY believe that. What she did shouldn't have even happened in the FIRST place. Even if she's drunk out of her mind, things don't always just get out of hand, she obviously knew what she was getting herself into.
She CHEATED on you, and wasn't even planning on telling you. So really ? you think she won't lie to you again ? I mean, I know you love her, but you can't have a realtionship without trust, and you definetly cannot love someone without trust.
Look, I'm not gonna lie, I'm a strong believer in giving people second chances, but witin limits and she crossed those limits. You even saw the evidence on her phone from her friend telling her to not tell you what else happened. Which means OTHER stuff happened and she cried to get out of it.
She KNOWS you love her so much, and she is using that to her advantage. Acting like nothing happened isn't going to do anything. You're just going to be paranoid and not trusting with her. Do you want to ALWAYS be wondering or worrying if she's fooling around or having sex with other guys ? No, I'm sure you don't.
So in my opinion, I think you should either go on a break from the relationship or just end it. If you go on a break, it will give you some time to think about all of this, without feeling like you have to forget what happened. But if you end it, you will be free to find another girl who deserves a great guy like you; a girl who WONT cheat on you. Honestly, you sound like a great guy. I don't think I know ANY guys who would stick with their girlfriend if they did that. She takes you for granted and she effed up BIG TIME. But it's up to you.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]
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