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I need some cheap, nice christmas presents to give my friends. either presents, or maybe making something? that i can hand out to them like on thursday/friday. im a 13 year old girl and all my gifts are to girls. and maybe some teachers.. all my teachers are girls except for 1 old dude, lol. thanks a lot for the help, i really dont know what to get them for xmas! its making me so anxious!! (link)
here are some fun things that are cheap!:
*dollar store chocolate
*candy canes
*dollar store ornaments or mini stockings that you can fill with candy
*bag of candy
*COOKIES!!!! YUM!!!
*lip gloss from like Clair's or something
*look for buy one get one 1/2 off sales!
*Jewlery that is cheap, (clair's)
*inside things for jokes, like if you have a wierd joke about cranberry juice, give them cranberry juice and maybe a candy cane
*print out cards
*make a colage with things in your house, that is easy and fun and doesnt cost anything!
*lolipops!
*gift card
*mini ornament
well, i think you get the idea! :-) GoOd LuCk!!!
Merry Christmas! ps
you can make things more exciting and cheerful with some simple ribbon or rapping paper or sparkles! it is more personalized too that way!


I am not a "love" person . Annd , I do usually ignore these posts and keep who I like secert , Usually hiding it by saying I don't like anyone .
Plus , I don't agree with dating at my age .
So , As horrible as it is , I have began to like someone . Not gonna lie , He's ughh very full of himself >.>
ANYWAYS , I do indeed try to ignore him , Keep away XDD .Butt , He talks to me and I don't mean to sound rude but ignoring someone when they start to talk to you is rather hard . Espically in dance .
I wont go into grieve detail why he's full of himself , He just is .
So , In other words Im a confused girl .
Well , How do I not give him the wrong impression ? I guess XDD .
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That's soo not horrible, it's okay to like someone even if it goes against all of your morals. Just smile, and if he says something to you, don't ignore him because he might think you're mean when you really aren't. It's just a crush so if you wind up getting to know him better, thats okay also. Don't ignore him just yet, get to know him, he could be much different than you may think...so my advice is just to be nice. You don't HAVE to ignore him completely, but you don't have to be all googly eyed crush around him either. Do what makes you comfortable.
Hope I helped! Best of Luck.


honestly people,
i hate everything. my family. my friends. my school. my cheerleading team. i cant take anything anymore..someone please help me. (link)
well, i dont know your gender, or your age, but you need to (my suggestions are):
*Go on a shopping spree
*take some alone time
*keep a journal or diary that is private, and spill your guts out
*Take a vacation
*eat chocolate (seriously, there is something in it that makes people happier)
*think of all the possitive things in life
GoOd LuCk!!!


who is my soulmate (link)
your soulmate is the guy/girl, that you are blown away by. You want to spend every second with them, and miss them when they are not with you. You love them, and they love you. Who is your soul mate? Only you can know.

Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, and/or compatibility.
A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join.

GoOd LuCk!!!


ok i broke up with my boyfriend cause he was starting to become a very flirty person =| worse part i talk to him about this about how this was m y only reason to brake up with him cause hes all the time meeting new girls that are obviously itnerested on him (by the comments they say to him) and he just doesn't see that as a bad thing ,not even when he kind of encourage them to keep that behavior towards him, i told him that if i see that he changes maybe we'll get back , but i just found that he's still like that ( he tells me he deleted them adn block them at msn and i found out he didn't ) it seems like he just doesn't trust me enough to say hey i got this new female friend..he always has to be hidding them from me :S saying things like ..oh i barely talk to her (then by myspace , facebook, msn or anything) i found out they do talk and lots and shes flirting with him and he like flirts back...imagine this multiplied times other 15 girls ...i really like him and this situation its just killing me :S either hes a very good liar cause i can tell he really wants me back hes been like begging for almost 3 months now, but still he doesnt change this behavior. he just pretend he has changed and he is just the same just that now he hiddes things better :S any advice?? =S (link)
Sounds like he's a player to me and your having doubts, so go with your gut instinct. If he wants you back so badly, he wouldn't be lying to you or talking/flirting with other girls. If you can't trust him, I would suggest just having a mutual frinedship with him. Not all guys are like that, so just because one boy is doing stupid things, don't give up on all of the others!
Hope I helped
(you're too good for him anyways :])


I have no idea if it's jealousy, but my friend has been copying like EVERYTHING I do! It's getting on my nerves. She's says she loves to draw anime. She actually draws cartoons. She doesn't really know a thing about anime. She copies my styles, my drawings, my favorite brand of shoes, etc! :'[ (Converse (link)
Have you ever thought about taking an art class or maybe even ceramics? It's normal to envy someone else's ability to do different things better than you, but you probably have something your fenominal at that she isn't. How 'bout this, just draw whatever you want and if it looks bad, who cares? It's your art, your personal possesions, but if YOU don't like it, draw something else, ore even better, draw whatever you drew again and again until you really like it. Stop worrying about not being as good as somebody else, do everyhting to the best of YOUR ability. And take her "copying" you as a compliment because she obviously liked what you were doing enough to want to do it herself. If you want to be inspired, you have to find that out by drawing and looking at things that you find interesting. And you have achieved something, you've achieved the art of speaking up and asking for advice, and try not to be so jealous, some people just have a natural talent.
Hope I helped!


im 14 years old, f. and i weigh 155lbs.
i was wondering if this would work, if i eat like 200calories for breakfast, 100calories for lunch, then go to the gym, and burn like 500-800 calories, then go eat dinner,.
would i lose weight that way, i really need to lose it quickly, and i want to keep it off, and if this isint going to keep it off then i don't want to do it.
but i want to lose about 3-4 lbs a week, if possible. (link)
That's really good that you want to shed off some pounds, but don't overdue it. If you try to lose a lot of wait by not eating as healthy as you should be to only gain a certain amount of calories a day, and then burning them off, it may result in health problems. Eat a regular diet, you should go to http://howtoeathealthy.com/ and it will let you know what a proper diet is. You might also want to work out a couple times a week, it helps build ,muscle and takes some of the fat of your body. Three to four pounds a week isn't as easy as it sounds, but you'll get to your goal wait in no time if you stay healthy and work out reguarly.
Good luck! Hope I helped


Kaay, so I'm pretty sure this is pointless.
Anyways, I'm fourteen and turning 15 in March, and I'm not experinced with guys. Like I've never made out with a guy. And I'm like always single. I mean I'm not ugly. But I'm really shy and it feels like I can never get a guy. I mean I've been dating guys but guys over online. But I'm going to stop because I really hate seeing couples out and about and me being lonely. It gets me sad, because you ALWAYS hear about your friend and her boyfriend. It drives me crazy. Is there anyway I can break my shell, I mean I've cracked it, because I like talk to guys a lot more. But I don't feel comforable dating guys in my school, esp. in my grade because they all act like little kids, yahkno?
So I guess what I'm saying is what can I do to break my shell? (link)
Everyone always says that girls mature faster than guys, I don't know if that's a true fact or not, but maybe you should wait for the guys to catch up. Don't get ahead of yourself, you have so much time to date, and plenty of guys will want to get to know you soon enough. But if you want to not be shy, well, do something spontaneous, something out of your comfort zone. It's not pointless, a lot of people ask for advice because they are shy, and I'm one of them, but I understand where your coming from. Try not to do the "cyber relationship" stuff, that can bruise your self esteem and make you even more shy. You need to go up to people and be yourself, talk to them in person, it's much better that way, and I promise once you start talking to more people, you'll get less and less shy. I pinky promise, mkay? Oh and don't forget to smile, frowning won't get you anywhere :]


The other night i was at rehersal for a ceremony. there were about 125 of us on stage, sitting in chairs. The person that i have a crush on was sitting in my row, about five seats apart. There was people in between us, so we weren't close, who know's if my crush had seen that i was there. One of the announcers was going from the list of names, taking attendence. I looked over at my crush, they were pretty spaced out, reading the program not paying much attention (it was bland and boreing at the time.) I wasn't looking at my crush anymore, but when the speaker called my name, I saw my crush suddenly, as if impulsively i geuss, look up, right upon hearing my name called, and quickly look around. It all happened really fast. It surprised me that he would react that way to hearing my name. We do not really know each other very well, so i it defenitly puzzled me. Am i reading to much into this? does it mean anything? I know that it is possible to read people's body language, could i in this situation, or do you think it's completely random? If anyone has any thoughts on the situation, I would appreciate them. Thank you. (link)
Sounds to me like you're an expert on body language. Your crush looking for you when your name was called is definetly a triple plus because that means he wanted to see who you were. And it's totally typical to think/read into his actions because you have a crush on him and you're obvioulsy curious, who wouldn't be? It's probably not random, sometimes wierd things happen, this can land a top spot in that category. :] you were right on target with being surprised since everyone was completly bored, I guess he was intrigued when they called your name. Hope something sparks between the two of you ;]


Hey everyone!
I'm 16 and a sophmore
i just recentally started tlaing to this boy who's a senoir at my school.
he's made it clear that he liked me and i certainly like him too
we talk all the time and he is perfect-funny, smart,cute, sweet, athletic and popular.
but that's the only downside, his popularity. he has soo many friends i'm not sure if he'll have anytime for me. At lunch and basketball games he comes see me but then has to go and make an appearence with all of his friends.- once we start going outthings may change?
should i give it a shot or so you think that should eb the deal breaker?
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He has friends, is popular, cute, funny, sweet, athletic, perfect, popular...did I mention perfect? haha, he seems like a cool kid and I'm sure he would have time for you if what you're saying about him is true. If your having doubts, forget about them! Live your life the best way that you can, he is obviously trying his hardest to give you some of his time, so don't worry about it. Give the realtaionship a chance, and don't always judge a book by its cover, you never know what the pages may hold. :]
Hope he gives you a lot of extra attention *


Hey I really like this boy named Dustin,but he said he likes my sister.We do hang out and email eachother,I just dont know if he likes me as a girlfriend. My sister says that she doesnt like him that way.So what should I do?

HELP (link)
Well, if Dustin likes your sister, he probably considers the relationship you share with him as "just friends", this isn't necessaraly a bad thing, it's just that since you really like him, it could get messy. You should probably just let Dustin do what he wants, if you two are meant to be together, then that's great, but don't force it :] Try to take an interest in other guys, there are plenty of decent guys out there, who wants to wait around for the boy who may just keep on passing you by? It's his loss.
Good luck, and I hope I helped!


Hey I really like this boy named Dustin,but he said he likes my sister.We do hang out and email eachother,I just dont know if he likes me as a girlfriend. My sister says that she doesnt like him that way.So what should I do?

HELP (link)
Keep doing what you are doing, being nice to him, but let him figure it out by himself that your sis doesnt like him that way. If you told him, bigger issues can occur and it would be akward not only for you and him, but for your sister too. that's never good.
GoOd LuCk!!!


Ok well I have this shop class in highschool and I think I recall the teacher saying that even if you have little cuts, report it. I THINK!

Well, this metal I had to cut was sharp and the corner gave me a little cut on my finger but hurts liek hell! Do you think it's just like a normal cut or do you think I need to do something else? I never got got by that type of material before. (link)
It could be a lot of something, or it could be just nothing, but either way you should see the nurse...or a doctor if after you clean it, it still hurts and gets red or puffy. You could also have some shards of metal in there, if you were working with say really sharp paper, it wouldnt be that big a deal, but metal can be VERY small, especially when you are cutting it and pieces fly off. GoOd LuCk!!!


Hey everyone!
I'm 16 and a sophmore
i just recentally started tlaing to this boy who's a senoir at my school.
he's made it clear that he liked me and i certainly like him too
we talk all the time and he is perfect-funny, smart,cute, sweet, athletic and popular.
but that's the only downside, his popularity. he has soo many friends i'm not sure if he'll have anytime for me. At lunch and basketball games he comes see me but then has to go and make an appearence with all of his friends.- once we start going outthings may change?
should i give it a shot or so you think that should eb the deal breaker?
(link)
I think if you like this boy you should give it a shot if it dosnt work out then do what is left to do BREAK UP just give it a shot


i have a bf that lives about 25 mins away so we never actully get to see each other. we've been dating for about a week. and i havent seen him since he asked me out online. and overall i've met him twice. were hanging out and watching movies at his house tomrrow and were both excited. do you think we should try to kiss?or is it to soon?i'm ready and i will but i just need a 2nd opinion.
thx (link)
Hmm, do you think that he is ready for the kiss? If you guys are hanging out and nothing is awkward, bump knees, make eye contact, and move in for the big SMOOCH :] haha, just had to say that. If you're ready to take your relationship to another level, then go ahead, but just make sure things aren't moving too fast. :]
I hope it works out!


ok. well there's this guy I like in one of my classes...one problem. i've never even talked to him. i want him to like me but i dont know how to do that..

im not the type of person to just walk up to somebody and start a conversation, or pass notes or anything. i am extremely shy around some people..and he's one of them.

Please help!!!! (link)
I'm glad to know that someone other than me isn't going to just walk up to somebody and be like, "Hi, I'm blah blah, let's be the best of friends!" Don't get me wrong, that's not a bad idea, but some people are just too shy to be that outgoing with a person they don't know. If you haven't talked to him, it might just be a physical attraction, try asking him a question. Let's say that he's in your english class you might want to ask him, "Do you get this part of the book?" It could be a good conversation starter, even if you do understand it. :] Trust me, I've had practice with this (stiil do) Once you get a conversation going try to be bold and ask him for his e-mail address or AIM screen name. You never know, taking a risk could wind up being your best option.
Hope I helped!


Hey everyone!
I'm 16 and a sophmore
i just recentally started tlaing to this boy who's a senoir at my school.
he's made it clear that he liked me and i certainly like him too
we talk all the time and he is perfect-funny, smart,cute, sweet, athletic and popular.
but that's the only downside, his popularity. he has soo many friends i'm not sure if he'll have anytime for me. At lunch and basketball games he comes see me but then has to go and make an appearence with all of his friends.- once we start going outthings may change?
should i give it a shot or so you think that should eb the deal breaker?
(link)
give it a shott!
its not like your singing your life away
if it doesnt work out, then you could always end it.
but he seems so great, and wouldn't you rather do it then not know what you couldve missed out on, and wonder?
also, if youd like, start out in being in an open relationship. like a test. if you dont like it, say after like a month, tell him it wont work out.
another thing you could do is talk to some of his previous girlfriends, and see what they all thought about him
keep me posted =]


i have REALLY sensitive skin, is clinique the way to go? my friend uses it and her skin is perfect.
any suggestions please!!
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Here's the thing: Clinique makes your skin very dry if you have sensitive skin, or any type of skin. It may not be bad, but if you have sensitive skin, it may not be great. You should try Mary Kay skin care and foundation. This product is half the price and if you go to MaryKay.com you can find out more about it, maybe even some free samples. You should also try going to a dermetologist (skin doctor) and see what she thinks and ask her what product she/he would reccomend for yor skin type. Good luck!
Hope I helped*


what is the song on the N for the degrassi commercial.
its a dude band.

it goes something like this:
planning something big, planning something big. learning.

well something along those lines.
nbot any ways please help me figure it out.

kthanxbye. (link)
maybe it could be nine days


What are some kind of girl camps where you can learn to be more outgoing and learn etiquette and such? Somewhere where you can kind of come out of your shell more and open up. thanks (link)
go to riverview it rocks GO GO GO

GO SHAWNEES




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