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Kaay, so I'm pretty sure this is pointless.
Anyways, I'm fourteen and turning 15 in March, and I'm not experinced with guys. Like I've never made out with a guy. And I'm like always single. I mean I'm not ugly. But I'm really shy and it feels like I can never get a guy. I mean I've been dating guys but guys over online. But I'm going to stop because I really hate seeing couples out and about and me being lonely. It gets me sad, because you ALWAYS hear about your friend and her boyfriend. It drives me crazy. Is there anyway I can break my shell, I mean I've cracked it, because I like talk to guys a lot more. But I don't feel comforable dating guys in my school, esp. in my grade because they all act like little kids, yahkno?
So I guess what I'm saying is what can I do to break my shell?
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i think that its just that you feel out of place, cause all this guys in your grade are obviously more inmature and you probably have passed that stage, i think that you need to maybe date older guys , of course be consious that older guys mean very different things, so think twice if your really ready t o move on from guys about your age ..good luck :) and just stop worying about it and it will come to you =) i used to be just like you the worst part my best friend is always dating meeting guuys and has a boyfriend very easilly and me its just very hard but just stop expecting it to happen and this way the waiting will be short :P cause you just wont notice hahahaha i know confusing good luck anyway =)!
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Are you sure you need to 'break your shell'?
It sounds to me like the real problem is not that you can 'never get a guy', but that you realize that there are no guys worth getting at the moment. So you haven't put yourself out there in that way.
That's okay. In fact, that makes a lot of sense.
You are using your friendships with these 15 year old children to help build the skills to chat to guys and speak with them. That is all you really need to be doing right now.
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try putting youself out their more it will work trust me and most of all trust yourself
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Everyone always says that girls mature faster than guys, I don't know if that's a true fact or not, but maybe you should wait for the guys to catch up. Don't get ahead of yourself, you have so much time to date, and plenty of guys will want to get to know you soon enough. But if you want to not be shy, well, do something spontaneous, something out of your comfort zone. It's not pointless, a lot of people ask for advice because they are shy, and I'm one of them, but I understand where your coming from. Try not to do the "cyber relationship" stuff, that can bruise your self esteem and make you even more shy. You need to go up to people and be yourself, talk to them in person, it's much better that way, and I promise once you start talking to more people, you'll get less and less shy. I pinky promise, mkay? Oh and don't forget to smile, frowning won't get you anywhere :]
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