Hi, I was just recientally banned for asking a a question repiditly. (sp) When i hit "Submit Question" I usually double click it, and then it submits two times. Its really just a problem with my computer, its slow sometimes, so i click more than one time. And sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt, when i click one time, and sometimes it takes two clicks. it just depends, and most of the time my computer is fast, but sometimes it is slow!
Is there anything I can do?
I got banned for 3days!! I didn't even mean to "repiditly" ask anything! (sp)
Thanks In Advance-
-KeLs-
ok, this is the third time that you asked this question, and I can see that you've asked it at different times. Why are you continuing to ask question repeatedly?
Don't click on it three times. It's annoying. If your computer is slow, then wait. Clicking on it will only send the question more.
No, there is nothing you can do, since you still haven't learned to not ask question repeatedly.
You can only stop asking questions repeatedly.
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Why are you so cool?
I can't think of any other reason besides the fact that the coolest person on advicenators just called me cool.
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hi, i have 3 brothers and one sister, ages 2-9, im not sure how old they are lol, but seee my problem is that i babysit when i get home which is about 4, and i babysit them to about 11:30 or twelve, and we cant hire a babysitter to help. they all have a disorder which makes them hyper..all the time, i can never settle them down, one kids in the kitchen with the hose (im serious).. another is calling 911, ..and another is making extreme bubbles in the bathtub thats overflowing!! i cant control them and i feel hopeless!!!! i keep on getting such bad grades because i dont have time to do my homework. i spend most of the day cleaning up the house that they messed while im at school, and the other half trying to get them to bed. its so hard..i live with my older brother because i dont we dont live with our parents and theres no way to contact them..long story. so what im trying to ask is for suggestions on what i should do (and i dont mean like tv..or coloring.. because thats impossible. and i have no friends to help me..but i dont want any) so thank you for any suggestions at alL!! ***sorry for making this ques so long!*** thanks. -AlExA
I'm a level 2 moderator, so I looked at who else you asked this question to. I would suggest asking a few adults about this. They are all much more likely to be able to give you advice on how to control young kids. I would say that you should ask MFS, I believe I've seen him give good advice on children before.
Go to "Browse Columnists" and under List: click on "Adults only" to see the adults on this site who have updated their column recently.
Now, as for my advice:
I have never baby-sat alone and do not have any kids. I know about how to control dogs, but when it comes to kids, I can't help you.
My only other suggestion is to watch "SuperNanny" That lady is bad-ass.
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Hey, first off I just wanted to say I am asking you this questions because I have observed the questions and answers on your advice colomn and I like the out come... :)
Okay now for my question:
I really like this guys lets call him "Bob". Well sometimes he likes me, and other times he still likes me just not as much. That part confuses me. Well one of my friends told him to ask me out (w/o me knowing) and told me he said we were too good of friends, which I think is just a line, and is just a nice way to phrase rejection. Is it good that we are too good of friends? And, what if I want more?..I know that you are one of the few people that will take this question seriously. Thank you.
In most of my experiences, I have learned that guys can play more games than most of the girls that I know. He probably doesn't realize that he's messing with your head.
From the small bit of what you told me, this is what I think:
Bob likes you. He likes being a good friend, and he also likes to flirt and tends to really like you at times. The parts where he acts likea friend and nothing more is probably when he's thinking a bit more clearly.
Now, I don't want that to come out sounding mean of me. I'm not saying that he isn't thinking clearly whenever he flirts, therefore, probably doesn't really like you. I'm just saying that he's thinking more about the concequences, and this causes him to back off a bit.
He see's you as a good friend, and doesn't want that to get messed up, so he tries to keep it like that. But, then sometimes, he wants more and starts to flirt and act like he really likes you.
Is what I'm saying confusing? Is it making any sense at all? This is basically what I'm thinking is going on.
I would say that he likes you as more than a friend, but is afraid of what it might do to your friendship.
I think it's great to become friends with someone before dating them, so, of course it's a good thing to be "too good of friends"
I think you should be honest with him about this. Tell him he confuses you. Let him know that you really like him, both as a friend, and perhaps more.
Let him know that he is confusing you, and you need him to be open with what he thinks about you. It can be quite stressful on a girl to one minute think "cool, this guy really does like me" and then the next minute be treated just as a friend. He needs to understand that, and stop being so darn confusing.
If it all ends up that he doesn't want a relationship, then that's fine. It would be better to know and be able to get past it, then to constantly be wondering. I wouldn't advise going through friends. It's much better and less likely to get confusing to you if you talk to him yourself.
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why does sometimes your columm not show your rating, or how amny times you've been rated?????????
Read this:
http://advicenators.com/faq.php
Or, more specifically, go here:
http://advicenators.com/faq.php?f=25
If you have anymore questions about this site, then check out the FAQ/help section before asking it to the site.
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Hey guys,
My older sister wanted to know if a snake can grow it's head back if it gets cut off. She thinks that she heard that somewhere, but she's not sure. It seems to me like she's thinking of a worm or something lol. Her boyfriend was telling her that snakes can't grow their head back, but she was saying that they can. I wanted to find out for her. Someone answer please!!!! Don't make fun of the question either, because I'm not even sure if it's true. I sort of think it's true, yet I don't think it's true. If your nice, and you give a good answer I'll rate you!!!! Thank you so much! :-)
Snakes have spines and brains. If they're brain was disconnected from their spine, then they would die.
Worms do not have spines. They are completely different species even though they still have the long wiggly aspect of them.
So, no, a snake cannot grow it's head back when if it gets cut of. It can only succeed in dying.
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I have just brought a puppy staf and was wondering what the best was to build her up is. Can you help?
The best way to build her up? Do you mean that as in "the best way to get my pit bull to be the biggest, toughest dog ever"?
I hope not. Pitbulls, or American Staffordshire terriers can be extremely loving gentle and playful dogs. But, that's only if you raise them correctly. Please do not try to make her into a fighting dog.
Anyway, if your asking for advice on how to train her properly, I can help you with that
Firstly, because of the breed, you need to socialize her early on and often.
Bring her to areas where other dogs will be. Perhaps a dog park, into pet stores often, to some sort of puppy play time groups. Also, bring her to her vet just to check the place out. Have the people at the vet's office give her some treats. That way, when she comes to get some shots, she'll remember the treats, and take it easier.
After that, start out with gentle training. Give her treats and praise for all the good things she does. Ignore all the bad things she does. Get a crate to put her in when she's bad, or when you are gone and can't watch her. A crate is a good tool to use when housetraining a dog also.
Start to bring her for walks now. I can give you specifics on how to make her have good leash habits if you need them.
If you need any specifics on how to train her, then send me another question.
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I have a miniature daschound he is a little over a year old, he got into some vanilla icecream last night that had oreo cookies in it. I hear that dogs arent suppose to eat chocolate. Should it hurt my dog? Please respond.
Yes, it is bad for dogs. Dogs have serious allergies to Theombromine, which is found in chocolate. The symptoms can range from diarhea to all out seizures and possibly death.
Please read my response to this question:
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=289999
But, don't listen to anyone that says "my dog ate ten pounds of chocolate, and he's fine, so your dog should be fine"
Chocolate poisoning is very serious in dogs. Contact a Veterinarian and tell him what happened if you haven't already done so. Your dog may be fine if you are not already seeing symptoms, but it would be beneficial if you took your dog in for examination with a Vet to be completely sure.
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Okaywhen im in bed at night my cat will lie down next to me and start feeling my hair with her paws and purring.. squeezing her paws together and apart.. then when she's done she'll lie at the end of my bad.. but there's all this cat drool in my hair! What is my cat doing, and why the heck is she doing it?
She's showing how comfortable she is with you.
It's a sign of affection.
If you don't like it, then move her away from your hair.
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Okay so I have been dating this guy Max for 7 months. Well his ex girlfriend Chanet still likes him. Max isn't the smartest guy so after school he goes to this thing where he studies for the proficincy. Well so does Chantel. Apparently yesterday Chantel and Max didn't go to the proficiency and they went ot this girl Heathers house. Well Chantel is bi and Heather and her use to date. Well Heathers little sister Stephanie is a friend of mine and she had some other people I know over at her house. She told me today in 3rd that she went up stairs to where Chantel and Max were hanging out and that they were freak dancing and the music was really loud and that Chantel said Max and her made out. Of course Stephanie told me but this was 3rd period. So I naturally started freaking out. Then my next class is lunch. And the WHOLE junior class knows what happened! So I see Max at lunch and he tried to touch me and I moved away because I am soo disgusted with him and the situation. So then I go with my friend to go get a water and when we come back he is gone. Like 12 people came up to me and told me again what Max and Chantel did. I was so overwhelmed that I think I made myself sick. I haven't talked to Max for the rest of the day. What do you think really happened? Max told Stephanie that nothing happened but everyone says he did. Please help me. I am so confused. Please
-understandeably confused
"What do you think really happened?"
Are you serious? This is your question??
You write out this big question, giving every annoying detail and you end it by asking a bunch of strangers, who have never met or seen either Max or Chantel what happened some night??
I just don't get it. How can you possibly think that anyone on this site knows what happened more than someone who was actually there? Listen to your friend Stephanie. She has no reason to lie to you does she?
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Does this sum up what is going on, or did I miss something?
(This was originally posted in response to a question about why most people here are 13 year old females.)
Hello there,
I have been trying my best to figure that one out...
Have you noticed that girls will tell their dads things that they simply can NOT bring themselves to talk to their mother about? Same thing goes for boys. There is a definate lack of Dad type creatures around these days. Failing to have that person to bounce things off of, they ask their peers.
Why? Because, quite frankly, when you are 13, practically everyone you know well enough to ask advice. Boys and girls all the same.
The difference comes in that a boy can ask his mother: "Hey Mom, what can I do to impress this girl." Mom is a girl, so she knows the answer usually. Don't EVER ask your mother what a boy likes... :-)
A boy at 13 has a number of people around of the male type, varying in ages, which he can ask most everything he would ask a dad if he were there. Pastor/teacher/martial arts instructor/mechanic/barber, etc.
We wouldn't think twice about asking someone we hardly know if we should get roses or chocolate, do we look alright, etc.
People say men don't ask for advice... That's bull. You see, we do. We will ask, get the answer and move on. I remember hearing girls talk about what their friend said they should do, and their friend's friend said this and that and the other.
Men, are very simple in such respects. We don't intentionally ask people we know will give bad advice. If we have a matter of life experience, we like to go to people who have already lived through a few more things than we have. For example: Back when I was 12, I wouldn't go seeking investment or job advice from someone 13. Try 50+ They have already done all the career stuff and if they did it right you get good advice. If however they did it wrong, you get to find out what job you do NOT want to get into. By asking our elders these things we learn something either way.
Today we all have reduced opportunities. When you are little today, you can't just hang out with adults... The news people have everyone convinced that every adult is a predator unless they are your parent. Guess what? The last figures I saw indicated that better than 80% of all child sexual abuse is committed by one or both parents.
What effect has this had? When I was about 6 my Dad went to pick up something from an equipment yard. I went with him and noticed a guy rebuilding an engine. Dad went into the office to pay, so I wandered over and started bugging this guy. By the time Dad came out, I was learning how to use a torque wrench. (The thing you use to make sure all the bolts on something are tight enough, but not too tight.)
Dad asked the guy if I was bothering him. He said not at all, so Dad left me there to learn for about 3 hours. I got a lot of that. Dad was a fair judge of character.
Now, there usually isn't a dad at all. :-( Everyone is so scared of things that kids never get a chance to talk to many people wiser than themselves.
We have ended up in a place where the only place to get advice is from our peers. People your own age usually give bad advice about almost everything. Boys, girls it doesn't matter.
Right now, on this board, there is a 13 year old female asking what she needs to do to start having sex. There are a few people who asked her to think twice, but those in her age range were less concerned with her mental health, and more concerned she get an appropriate condom.
A 14 year old, said something like "Don't wait till you get old like me, get your groove on before you get too old"
BAD ADVICE! Down! Bad Advice, no biscuit!
Adults in general aren't out to get you. It's a fact. If your Mom gives you bad advice, it isn't because she is trying to ruin your life... It is because she THINKS WHAT SHE IS TELLING YOU IS RIGHT. It doesn't make it right. Not at all. Same thing for Dads. (Though I mostly see complaints about mothers here.)
When my parents knew I was old enough to think for myself is NOT when I said I was. It was after I proved it. I thought something my parents said was unreasonable. My dad told me to put it in writing. I did my own thinking on why I felt that way. Then I started researching the idea. What I found out was that my parents were right about that. I wrote it out and handed it over. It was after that that my parents KNEW that if I looked into things for myself I would come to the right conclusion. Even if I didn't like it.
Short version: You want to be treated like a thinking, well read, intelligent and wise adult? Act like one.
Adult life is a lot easier when we spend our youth listening and learning everything we can to make smart choices.
Here's another thought: Travel. Out of this country. See how the rest of the world lives. Most people buy clothes because they are durable, not because they are "IN" (for about a week.) Guaranteed to open your mind to a whole new way of thinking.
Over a quarter million people died in the recent Tsunami... The survivors have NO PLACE at all to call home. And the current threads here are: "Should I wear a thong?" "Where do I get Like size 00 clothes, that are, like, in?" I like this boy...girl, etc."
The best thing that ever happened to me was seeing that almost everything I had been told to believe was important: Cars, clothes, trends, music, hair, team choice, etc. was completely and totally meaningless when you look at the big picture. I would have been right here asking the same kinda stuff(boy version of course) had I not had that opportunity.
Ok, this became a rant. Not against 13 year old girls. A rant against what our society tells 13 year old girls and boys is important for them to be worrying about.
Back to the topic of WHY:
Girls, let me ask you a question: How many of your girlfriends did you tell about this site?
Now tell me how many boys you told about it? Did you tell them there was a guy with 20+ years of computer experience they could ask questions for free? (I normally charge $75.00 per hour in my shop.) Did you tell them there was a place to ask questions about cars and trucks? How about model rockets? R/C cars? Paintball? Airsoft guns? Model building? Sports? Weight training? Hunting? CB radios? Computer hardware/software/networking? Car stereo? Hydraulics? Truck driving scools?
Have you told a single boy you know about any of the things that HE might be interested in?
Do I see one hand raised? Ok, so you get a boy in here and he asks a question. Wonderful! What do most of the girls do? Make fun of him, laugh at him, tell him he is stupid or he would already know and CORRECT HIS SPELLING! I am almost to the point where I have looked at every question on this site. I saw a lot of that on my way through.
What do I do when someone asks a question I don't know the answer to... I research it and post links to appropriate resources. When was the last time you did that for a question you couldn't answer? Saying something "cute" or mean as hell does not encourage the participation of teen boys. Teen boys are actually quite insecure about opening themselves up to be called stupid, or made fun of. They don't handle it well at all. It just guts them and they are never quite the same.
Here is something to consider: You have this guy, who you really like. You set up a date. You go out and buy the BEST outfit on earth. Your Mom likes this guy, so she gives you her credit card, sends you to get hair and makeup done in the BEST place in the city.
So far so good? Ok, now he shows up to take you out, and when you open the door, he bursts out laughing! Pointing and LAUGHING AT YOU!
Your new duds may be stylish, and the hair may be the latest french design but to him it is hilarious. He doesn't know anything about french fashion, or Neiman Marcus so to him you look like a hooker in a clown suit.
How BAD would you feel? Would anything ever make you COMPLETELY whole again after something like that?
Same thing if this site offers to answer questions and then the people here ridicule and belittle the askers. Boys minds work different than girls. It isn't a bad thing, it is just they way we are wired.
I got an email from someone after I answered their question. They said they quit using the site because the response they got to a very well thought out question was: "F***ing Dumb*SS!"
I reported another place this person used the same abusive response, using the abuse report feature, and this was the response:
"Moderator Response
Submitted: by FrEe2bMe
Reponse: While K**************'s response was not appropriate, if you look at their over all rating it is only a 2.21. That is why there is now a threshold where you can set who you want to recive answers from Under Profile Setting adjust it so you only recieve answers from people like 4 or higher or whatever your comfortable with. :)"
This guy, yes GUY, 15 years old didn't know that, so he will never be back.
Did anyone step up to tell this person off? Did anyone else report it? Do you even know where the abuse link is?
It is up to the majority here to decide if this is going to be Advivenators.com or Abusenators.com
Since the majority here are 13 year old girls, I ask you: Which will it be?
DangerNerd
This is not coming from a 13 year old girl. I am a 21 year old woman. I am also a level 2 moderator and have had to deal with complaints about abuse on ths site for a while, ever since the "report abuse" option became available.
A while ago the admin put in the option to hide certain columnists who are rated very low. It was on the main page. It is also now in the FAQ. The problem with this site is that people do not bother to read the Help/FAQ.
I agree with much of what you say. This site is made by the people who visit here. There are always going to be a bunch of immature people who come to this site purely to abuse the questioners. But, the people who give the abusers attention are contributing to "abusinators.com" just as much.
The only options we have when dealing with abusers is to
A)ignore them or
B)have upset teens cuss them out, give them attention.
Sure, the level 2 and 3 moderators can always ban them. But what is that going to do? Level 2's like myself only have the power to ban for up to five days. Level 3's can ban forever, but that is discouraged. There is also nothing stopping these abusers from making new accounts. It's not entirely easy for the 10-14 moderators to keep track of every abuser on this site. Especially since we all have lives outside of Advicenators.
I also might point out that the large majority of the abusers on this site are teenage boys. Not, teenage girls. But, like I said, it's usually the teenage girls who get upset, give the abusers attention, and entice them to stick around more.
If the abusers were ignored more often, then they would get bored of this site and move on to troll around unwanted.
Also, on another note. When I was a 13 year old girl, I grew up with my mother. She was my confidant when it came to needing advice. I do not see your logic of "girls go to their fathers, guys go to their mothers." But maybe that's because I didn't grow up with my father.
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Friday we took my cat to the vet. He had many wounds on his body and they still weren't healing. In the vet they told us he has a rare blood disease that makes his white blood cells attack his skin cells... and that all of his fur and his skin would fall off and he might bleed and he'd be in pain. They gave us medications for him (pills and a spray for those... wounds) and said that the approximate time the cat would get cured and his fur would regrow would be in two months. When I was 9 or 10 my first cat died. ...His fur was falling off too (not his skin though... at least not that I remember... no, not his skin) bbut it was some illness he got when he was outdoors with stray cats. Well they gave him medications and said he would be cured... until the last weeks of his life where they said that he was going to die and they gave us the option of putting him to sleep.
Well what I wanted to know is if anybody has had a similar health issue with their pets. Or if anybody knows about the illness my cat has and could explain it to me. I didn't understand the vet very well. Or just any tips on how I could take care of my cat (he's indoors now). Thank you for your time.
I will try to get this as accurate as possible. I am a student taking Veterinary Technology classes, but please remember I'm just as student. I don't know exactly what the disease is that your talking about, but we seemed to have brushed on this in my last Mammalian Anatomy and Physiology class.
Normal white blood cells (WBC's) attack and kill other cells in the body when the other cells are infected by a virus. When they do this, it causes a reaction that we know as inflamation. Ya know, how a cut gets all sore and inflamed when it's healing? That's what the WBC's are doing. They're helping the body.
Normal WBC's only attack the other cells that have been infected by bacteria or virus cells, but in the case of your cat, it seems that his WBC's are messed up and confused, and are attacking anything that they come in contact with.
I haven't experienced this with any of my animals, but I can imaging that it's pretty painful to watch.
You should seriously talk to your Veterinarian again. He can help you understand everything better than anyone on this site would be able to.
The number one cause of animals having to re-visit their Vet is that their owners don't properly understand what they're supposed to do with medication and aftercare. Veterinarians often forget that everyone hasn't had the extensive education on Vet care as they have, and tend to forget to talk so that normal every day people can understand what they're talking about. Normal everyday people often keep their mouth shut and don't ask for their Vet's to explain easier because they're afraid to sound dumb. Trust me, do not be afraid. You need to get your Veterinarian to slow down and explain everything properly to you. If you have any questions at all, you need to ask him/her. Don't be afraid to ask a stupid question, because, really, it's worth it to make your cat feel better, right?
If you find out what the disease is called, I might be able to find it in one of my books, and help you some more. I'm quite interested in these things. But, it's in yours and your cats best interest for you to call your Veterinarian back and ask for every little tiny bit of information that he/she can give you.
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This question was recently sent to my inbox, but the person asking it deleted it before I had a chance to answer. Questions tend to stay in my inbox for a while before I answer, especially when they're good questions asked by someone who's super better at advice than me.
Anyway, here it is:
I love you selectopaque.
I've recently discovered I like a friend of mine, who is Austrian I guess in heritage/ethnicity/whatever. I think he might like me also but that doesn't matter at this point, I'm still trying to figure out if I like him entirely. He once mentioned something where he referred to himself as "Aryian", which I didn't think that people normally would call themselves unless they were pro-nazi (I know this probably seems ridiculous) in values? Maybe I'm just crazy. I also think he could be against homosexuality, but I can't tell for sure if he is just making jokes and not being serious or if these are things he actually believes. Is there any way I can tip toe around this and find out how he feels about these things (racial supremacy, homosexuality and such) because it's a pretty touchy subject for many? I'm not entirely sure how to go about finding out because I really need to know before I even consider developing more feelings for the guy. Also, if I find out that he does think these things, is it better to just start avoiding him (I usually have to go out of my way to encounter him) or should I tell him I think he is disgusting for thinking these things? Heh. I don't know, help me!
Has he referred to himself as Aryian more than once? It's a little odd. Next time he says it, you could ask jokingly "What, are you a nazi or something?" I'm not sure if that's too blunt to just come out like that, but that seems like something I would do.
I don't know how well I can help you about the homosexuality, but I've sort of been in the same situation recently. I didn't really have a reason to wonder if this guy was against homosexuality, but, I can't get close to someone who is, so I have to know for sure.
In my situation, I just mentioned friends that I have who are gay and judged his reaction. I also made a joke about going to "Spectrum" the gay bar down the road. To me, it seems like if a guy can good naturedly joke about these things, without getting offended or grossed out, then that's good.
Yeah, it's a pretty touchy subject, but it seemes like it would only be a problematic touchy subject if he was a nazi bigot. So, I think you should attempt to ask him about these things. If he freaks out, then screw him.
For how to react if you find out that he does think these things: I would do what ever will make you feel better. I don't usually see any of these kind of people being capable of change, and he would most likely shrug your anger off and go about his asshole-ness like before. But, I do know how wonderful it can feel to tell an asshole off.
It might be one of those situations where, if you don't tell him how you think he's disgusting, and get it off your chest, then you might end up thinking about it too much.
At least that's how things end up for me. I'm much more likely to get over a situation if I can get everything off my chest about the situation.
After you do that, then just avoid him.
I don't know if I helped, but I feel loved! Yay!
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I went to a private school until this year and everyone was pretty religious and conservative.
Now I go to public school and I have a LOT of more socially liberal friends that I get along with better in a lot of ways. At private school, I was the "weird one." Now I'm not. At all.
Sometimes I can hang out with my old buddies and it's fun, but then a topic like homosexuality comes up and I'm surrounded by people who disagree with me.
I just feel like I'm being pulled in different directions by people who want different things from me.
I miss my old friends, I love them, I grew up with them, but I feel like I'm just too different to really be that close now. I don't know how I can balance my new and old friends, not really time-wise, but in my own mind.
Please help. People who do not write in complete sentences need not answer. If all you have to say is "balance your time," forget it. If you had read, you'd have realized it wasnt about that at all.
Thank you.
It's ok to dissagree with your friends. I dissagree with a lot of friends and even my close family members on things like religion and sexuality. I have a very liberal, non religious view about most things, and my roommates, and best friends are very religious and somewhat conservative. We have a lot of interesting conversations.
The conversations have gotten pretty involved, but never actually moved into arguments. Your old buddies need to respect your opinion, but you also need to respect theirs. Basically, at times, your going to have to agree to disagree.
It's nice to hear different opinions and views on different subjects. You've been the "weird one" before. Is that really a bad thing? Now you have the option of being the weird one and also being part of the majority.
Perhaps talking to your old friends about this would help. Just talk to them about how your views are different, but it doesn't need to change your friendship with them.
ya know.. something like that.
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Me and my friends want to see The Ring 2. Well, originally I told my friend Lauren that her, Sarah and I could go. Recently Sarah and I have been hanging out a lot, with another girl, Krystal. I don't know who I want to go with. I would just invite both, but it's not that easy. Lauren is your typical preppy, VERY girly girl. Krystal is more like goth. As much as I hate labels, that's basically the only way to put it. Sometimes I wonder how Lauren and I get along.
Honestly, I'd rather go with Sarah and Krystal. But I just don't know what to say to Lauren, because I think she really wants to go with us. But Sarah and I both kinda get annoyed with her sometimes.
Who should I go with?! Sorry if it's long =(..
How do you "know" that they won't get along?
In high school, I hung out with the "goths", yet my best friend was the girliest, preppiest, giggliest girl you would ever meet.
Why don't you give them both a chance to get to know each other before you automatically assume that they won't get along.
If you hate labels, then stop living by them, and let everyone see the actual person behind the labels, instead of saying "they wont get along because one is goth and one is preppy"
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PLease help me.My dog is always hiding under the bed and is like scared of our family.I want him to feel comfortable and not be scared.What can i do?
If the answer is gonna be take him to a vet forget it.
Thanks=)
"If the answer is gonna be take him to a vet forget it."
First, I want to point out that this statement shows how little you actually care about your dog's health.
If this is a new habit, then it's likely that there is a medical problem behind it. A veterinarian is the only person who can determine if it is a medical problem or not.
If this is how your dog has always acted, then he needs to know that there is nothing to be afraid of. This will take a lot of time and patience.
Is he ever happy and not afraid? When he is, then praise him profusely by talking in a soothing, higher pitched voice. Call him a good boy, pet him softly, scratch his ears, etc. Also, give him his favorite treats. He will soon start to learn that he doesn't have to be scared. And, he'll get the idea that when he acts happy and doesn't try to hide, he actually get's treats.
But, you first need to figure out what is scaring him. Is it a certain member of your family? Is it only when things get loud? Is it when there are too many people around?
Once you find out what is scaring him, you can begin to teach him that that certain thing isn't going to hurt him.
Say, he is afraid of your father for some reason or another. Here's an exercise you can do every day to work with him and get him over his fear.
Have your father stand a certain distance away from the dog. Hold your dog with his leash on, and have his favorite treats in hand. Now, you should walk your dog back and forth by your dog, around 50 feet away. If your dog is comfortable with this, then give him treats and call him a good boy.
Now, try to take one step toward your father and start to walk the dog back and forth. Is your dog still comfortable with everything? Good, now give him treats and call him a good boy. Continue to give him treats praise him every 10-30 seconds.
But, ONLY give him treats when he is comfortable. If he starts to get uncomfortable, scared, or stressed AT ALL, then immediately stop the exercise and take your dog to a comfortable space. If you try to push your dog too far when he isn't comfortable, then it will only make him more nervous and scared. Also, if you give your dog a treat, and tell him everything will be ok, he will think that he's being praised for being scared, and will therefore think that it's good to act scared around your father.
If you do this exercise every day, and go very slowly, then your dog will soon begin to realize that the thing that he's afraid of isn't really scary.
I realize that he might not be afraid of your father, but figure out what he is afraid of and substitute that in for your father. For instance, if he's afraid of loud noises, then have a radio, and slowly turn the radio up every minute or so. Keep giving your dog treats while he is remaining calm.
But, as I said in the beginning, it is possible that your dog is in pain for some reason or another. In that case, he needs to see a Veterinarian.
Hopefully everything will work out ok though. Good luck
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and he wants to have sex and I do too but there is just one problem I have a disease and I don’t know if I should tell him or not because I don’t want him too to think of me different but we are going to use protection and everything just I don’t want to tell him! And I am sooooo scared! I don’t know about what maybe about him knowing my deepest darkest secret, I don’t know! Please help me!
You absolutely must tell him.
If your thinking about having sex, I'm guessing your in a deep relationship with him and care deeply about him. He deserves to know the truth. If you feel like you aren't comfortable enough with him to tell him, then you definately aren't comfortable enough to sleep with him.
Explain to him what it is, how you got it, and all that crap.
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i'm a senior in high school and i'm going to college next year. i'm a little confused on the whole hour consept, can somebody explain it to me? when they say that a class is three hours, does that mean three hours a day, three hours a week or what? and if you're taking 15 hours a semester, does that mean that you have 15 hours of class every week? i don't get it.
oh, and plese no "i dunno, i have never gone to college, but i think..." answers.
The "credit hours" refers to the number of credits each class is worth.
In general, most classes are three hours each week and count for 3 credits. Either three 50 minute classes, two 1 hour 20 to 30 minute classes, or one 2 hour 30 minute to 3 hour class each week.
But, this is not always the case. Most of my classes have labs. This means I have the normal 3 hours worth of lecture each week, and then a 2 hour lab. That's five hours of class for a 4 credit class.
Also, I have taken studio art classes in the past. Those were always 4 hours worth of classes each week, for a 3 credit course.
Generally your "intro to..." classes are all going to be approximately three hours worth of class time, and three credits on your record.
15 hours of class a week doesn't sound like a whole lot, but trust me. The work load is big. I've had teachers tell me that for every hour of class, spend at least 2 hours on homework each week.
You should be assigned an advisor to help you sign up for your classes. I would contact the college if you haven't already talked to one.
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I have a 5 year old male miniature dacshound. His problem is that he pees inside the house on the carpets when we want him to go pee outside. He is potty trained but still goes to the carpets like he does not care. We smack his bottom whenever he does and sometimes spray a dog and cat sour spray in his mouth to basically tell him "no" but nothing seems to get through his head. If I don't get to controlling his actions soon my parents are seriously considering sending him to the pound. What should I do?
Firstly, you need to always call your Veterinarian if this is a new bad behavior. If he suddenly starts to have problems with his bladder or bowels, then it's likely that he has a health problem.
After you have established that he is good and healthy:
He is NOT potty trained if he continues to go inside the house. When an animal is potty trained, it means that they know not to go inside the house. Your dog does not know that he isn't supposed to go inside the house.
Crate training is a good idea. Get a crate large enough for your puppy to move around in, and put it in a secure place. When you are not going to be able to keep watch over your dog, such as when you leave, or when your sleeping, put him in the crate. Dogs are instinctually clean animals, and will not go to the bathroom in their sleep area as long as it is possible. So, as long as you don't keep your dog in the crate for too long, he shouldn't mess it up.
But, if you do end up leaving him in there for too long, then he will have to go to the bathroom. This will give him some very messy habits of going to the bathroom near his sleeping and living area.
Leaving a dog in a training crate for too long will also cause him to get a urinary tract infection because of the prolonged period of holding his bladder.
So, get a crate first off.
Don't leave him in for too long.
and, as soon as you get a chance, let him outside to go pee.
Now, when you first start training him, you should treat him like a puppy. This means, take him outside to pee or poo every 2 hours (except when your sleeping or gone-he should be in the crate at these times)
When you take him outside, talk softly to him and make sure he knows he's being good. Also take some treats with you. Once he goes to the bathroom, talk softly and happily, and give him some treats.
When he goes to the bathroom inside, use a harsher voice, tell him no, and smack his nose slightly. Then put him outside for a while. Do this ONLY when you catch him in the act. If you find a mess after two hours, you CANNOT scold him and expect him to know what you are scolding him for.
NEVER spray dog sour spray into his mouth to tell him "no". I see absolutely no way for the dog to associate bad taste with "I shouldn't go to the bathroom inside"
Use repitition when training. Do not watch him carefully one day, and then take a break the next day. A dog is considered potty trained when he can spend 12 weeks without having an accident inside. Until then, it is up to you to teach him.
Watch him at ALL times if you want to train him.
And, I'm writing this in a somewhat hurry, if you need me to explain any of it further than send me a message in my inbox.
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I asked you a question earlier about my abuser dream... If I have taken counseling, and even feel sorry for the guy, now what? You're right though, the ass does deserve to be in jail, but my restraining and protective order never seem to be enough! Help... thank you for your earlier input though! :)
I've been thinking about it for a while before attempting to answer it...
First off... I know how inneffective the justice system can be. My mother's ex husband beat her emotionally and physically many times. He beat other women in the same way before, during and after their marriage. Yet he has never spent a prolonged period of time in jail. She has had restraining orders and protective orders. They did nothing for her.
Yeah, I'm sure me saying that makes you feel a whole lot better (sarcasm) but it seems to be reality sometimes.
But you need to get past this situation in your mind. It's not enough to just feel sorry for the guy. You have to forgive him once and for all and get it all past you. Forgive him and hope that he will be able to get past his abusiveness in order to have a better life for himself. Then you will be able to begin to move on.
I know it sounds incredubly dispicable to actually wish for a better life for an asshole like him... but... I believe that it can help you get it out of your mind.
Hopefully hearing my advice, and advice from other's on this site has helped you a little bit in the last couple days. I hope that the nightmares have stopped, or will soon stop.
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