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Pulled Apart
I went to a private school until this year and everyone was pretty religious and conservative.
Now I go to public school and I have a LOT of more socially liberal friends that I get along with better in a lot of ways. At private school, I was the "weird one." Now I'm not. At all.
Sometimes I can hang out with my old buddies and it's fun, but then a topic like homosexuality comes up and I'm surrounded by people who disagree with me.
I just feel like I'm being pulled in different directions by people who want different things from me.
I miss my old friends, I love them, I grew up with them, but I feel like I'm just too different to really be that close now. I don't know how I can balance my new and old friends, not really time-wise, but in my own mind.
Please help. People who do not write in complete sentences need not answer. If all you have to say is "balance your time," forget it. If you had read, you'd have realized it wasnt about that at all.
Thank you.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Don't do anything to please anyone. Whatever you think is your business, and none of your friends have any say in that. Try to make that clear to them. I know that can be tough and sometimes fails miserably, in which case you have to stop speaking to a person, but hopefully this won't be one of those cases. Try changing the subject when something like that comes up, or just phase out and don't participate in it. Something my mother told me was "Never discuss sex, politics, and religion in mixed company. Those are the three things that will start an argument." So if your friends start with the gay bashing, just say, "Yeah how about those lizards?", or something like that.
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i go to private school and i also am the "weird" one because i dont always do what im told or believe what im "supposed" to. if you have opinions that are different, u can avoid the topic all together or not oppose as strongly.if you and your old buds are really close, your opinion on homosexuality shouldnt change things. dont let anyone pressure your personal opinion. <3
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Well, if they really want to hang out with you, they will try to contact you. But if something comes up say "You can't avoid life". Maybe if they understand that, you can hang out with both? at the same time, or take like a Saturday out of a month to hang out with your old friends. ♥
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It's ok to dissagree with your friends. I dissagree with a lot of friends and even my close family members on things like religion and sexuality. I have a very liberal, non religious view about most things, and my roommates, and best friends are very religious and somewhat conservative. We have a lot of interesting conversations.
The conversations have gotten pretty involved, but never actually moved into arguments. Your old buddies need to respect your opinion, but you also need to respect theirs. Basically, at times, your going to have to agree to disagree.
It's nice to hear different opinions and views on different subjects. You've been the "weird one" before. Is that really a bad thing? Now you have the option of being the weird one and also being part of the majority.
Perhaps talking to your old friends about this would help. Just talk to them about how your views are different, but it doesn't need to change your friendship with them.
ya know.. something like that.
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Im not sure what to tell but i think that maybe you should try to get along with your new friends.Maybe your old friends the ones you truely love can help you out.
Im sorry if i didnt help i hope i helped,
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When your around your old friends you feel different right? Well, maybe you should stay with the friends who your feel more complete with.
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This is a very difficult subject. What i'm getting is that you like your old friends and you got along great but your beliefs go more with your new friends. If so I say if your "old friends" were really your friends they'd realize you have a different opinion and accept it and move on. They wouldn't base your friendship off of your beliefs. Let them know how you're feeling. If they cant accept you they dont deserve you.
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I suggest you invite your new friends to hang out iwht your old friends and just try theat. You never know, your old friends will probably be drawn to your new friends just like you were.
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