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Q: Well to start off, its hard to admit-but i guess its time i say it anways. I'm most deffinatly a socially awkward person. I mean, i'll have a close net of friends- but everything about me screams awkward. Hahah, all the conversations are so ridiculously awkward i just laugh afterwards, because i completely blew another chance of making a friend. How can i fix this?

Another thing is my lack of emotion. I looked up some things on it,and i feel almost as if i'm empty.(depression?) Theres some pressure on my chest that just makes me feel weird when i breathe,and i daze out all the time. It's gotten so bad i barely have the want to finish this sentance. I just lifeless most of the time,and dont feel like doing anything. I actually mentioned to my mom i thought i was depressed, but she blamed it on the seasons changing. Even though i've felt like this for awhile. The main thing is,i don't know what emotions are really. My mood all the time is just,blank. Boring. Bleak. Most people at this stage would probably feel like they want to just crawl in a hole and die. But not me, no. I want to do dangerous things. Extreme things, like skydiving. The way i see it, if i die, oh well, if i don't-move on to the next extreme thing. I just want to go crazy and do everything. But- i don't have energy. I wish i did, i just can't bring myself to even talk to people that much anymore. Ahh i'm very confused at life at the moment. If you have any advice on this subject i'd much appreciate it, i just want to feel something. How? Rah, hah this is the corniest thing i've written-ever. Thanks for reading,though !
Dude, I agree.. this definitely sounds like me. You'll meet people totally into your "awkwardness", don't worry. Haha I liked reading this. I'd definitely be your friend. That was one of the most honest things I've ever read. I'm sorry you feel this way, I wish I had the solution. There are so many things I wanna do but I'm just way too passive about it all. Do I even care? What's the point of it all? If you focus too much on those you'll go crazy.

Q: I'm having a party for my grandma, i want to make a few cd's to play since there are basically no children there. I want it to be fun music. Any ideas?
Yes, play oldies! I am completely in love with the Malt Shop Memories CD Collection of '50s and '60s music. If you could get your hands on it, it'd be perfect. It's 10 CD's but one will probably be satisfactory.

Check it out:

http://www.alltvstuff.com/tl080601.html

^ If you don't plan on buying the CD's, you could use the playlists as an idea of what songs to download for your mix CD's.

You can listen to any of those songs to see if you like them from http://www.iMeem.com/

Hope it goes well! =]

Q: Why do I,&&alot of other people, look different in pictures then in the mirror?

What do we truly look like,
Tha mirrors image or the cameras?

I would think
the mirrors image is what we truly look
like because, when you see sum1 in person
and then look at that same person in a mirror,
they look the same.. right?

but,

I was reading stuff on google && alot of people
think the cameras more truthful because what
we see in the mirror is reversed..

Soo whats your opinion???

Srry just a curious young female tryin
to geta answer..haha ;]
Dude, I have totally wondered about this before. You can check out some discussions on this one forum. There several threads on it:

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=159045

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=282531

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=209271

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=202684

Q: ok a few days ago someone was asking about a song...
and someone gave an answer to a website.
you type in lyrics to a song and itll find the song your on about...
anyone know the website... or one simalar =D
thanks!
I really like: http://www.songmeanings.net

In the drop-down menu box you can select for whatever you would like to search: lyrics, an artist, or a song title. Very useful search bar.

Q: i lied to my boyfriend '
about getting him a dog'
im post to have one buy tommrow'
what do i do'
Maybe you can get him something else like a small pet. That would not be a lie entirely unless he is crazy about dogs.

Q: Well I just got mysat scores and on everything I scored an average but in math I scored a 290 and im afraid that if i dont do the test again if not just for math, than the college i want to go to wont accept me, my question is wat do you think?
I really want to go to Spelman but am also looking at vcu and Virginia Union. And if this helps I want to study Pharmacy
You may be better suited for the ACT test. Check that out. See if those colleges accept ACT tests.

Q: Okay so my mom and i have always had a semi-close relationship. But she just got a facebook... and she wants me to be her friend on it. I have no problem with the fact she got a facebook, but i kind of need my personal space when it comes to these things. I dont want her to read what i say to my friends and such.... its not that they're bad. It's just that i'm really uncomfortable with it. I told her all of this and she's making me feel extremely guilty, and telling me that i'm SUCH a good daughter for not accepting (sarcasm).
So i really don't know what do do.
Am i horrible for doing this?
What do you guys think?
15/f
I have a solution. Accept her friend request but you know you have the option of letting certain people not see aspects of your profile? You can just make it limited to her but still be her friend. Like, block the pictures/videos/wall/info part, whatever you need to.

Q: Hello there.
I was just wondering... what are some fun ways to kiss? Like one example would be to put an ice cube or gum in your mouth and pass it back and forth. BUt i was wondering what are some OTHER fun ways to kiss someone else? I am trying to get some new ways to make kissing more exciting for me and my boyfriend, just so we can play around with it.
I rate high for GOOD answers! =D
Thanks
Beth.
Some tips to spice up kissing sessions:

(My answer is on the bottom)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=529020

Q: 15/f
i used to cut but recently i've been having urges to do it and i find it hard to ignore them. have any suggestions on how to make the urges stop? i've tried scraping my arm with a pen so it doesnt leave any marks but that doesn't seem to satisfy the urges.
thanks
Ideally, you should see a counselor if the urges keep popping up again. At least you are willing to stop, which is the important part, but you can't just substitute another way to inflict pain on yourself because you are perpetuating harm to yourself, just in a different form. It's a vicious cycle that is not doing you any good. This is not exactly the best solution but if you can just cut down little by little each day with something mild and not go "cold turkey" all at once that may help if you can't just switch into doing something else completely and you don't want to seek outside help. Or, carry a stress ball around with you and squeeze the hell out of that ball if you get the urge.

Q: What are some examples of
logos? I dont need ethos and pathos, just didnt want you to think i ment an actual logo :)

I have no clue what it
is really either, so if ya could help me out
here alittle it'll be greatly appreciated. :D

Plz and Thank Yew
;]
Simply put, you know that these are:
ethos - appeal to credibility of speaker
pathos - appeal to emotions of audience

Logos is like another device in the art of rhetoric but it deals with appealing to the audience's logic/reason.

Q: what is the song "wicked" by korn about????
Here are some suggestions:
http://www.songmeanings.net/songs/view/2025/

Bookmark that site.

A song can have many interpretations. Sometimes they just don't make any sense and that's all there is to it.

Q: Why do some people, while making out,
lick the other persons face? Does it mean anything?

Give Meh your opinion: Hot or Not.. why? plz


Srry just a random question. :)

I associate the licking of faces with doggies. If the other person and you are both into it, that's okay.

Q: 17/f, Mexican (if it matters)
Ok, so I've always had weird skin. My face is SOMEWHAT light, my legs are kind of dark, and my arms are really dark. I wanna even that out a bit. It'd be easy to tan, but I'd rather not get skin cancer, thank you very much, and frankly, dark skin wouldn't work for me. So I want to lighten my skin. I'm kind of a freak when it comes to weird chemicals and stuff, so I don't want to buy any of those bleaching creams or whatever (plus, I don't have the money). Anyone know any NATURAL ways to lighten skin? I've heard of using lemon/milk/potatoes, but I'm not sure how (I'm sure you don't just slather the stuff all over your body).
You can only get as light as the skin you were born with. Like, you can remove a tan but if you were born dark you can't really get lighter than you were originally.

Do not use products with hydroquinone or mercury in them bc that will damage your skin in the long run.

I personally use Shiseido whitening products for my face (they are high quality and a trusted brand) and for my body I use this papaya soap from the Philippines that works but slowly. The brand is Likas.

I've heard rice water or lemon juice works.

Here are several forum threads devoted to this:
http://www.soompi.com/forums/search.php?cx=partner-pub-1007408365818599%3Ar9iz617vlaa&cof=FORID%3A9&ie=ISO-8859-1&q=whiten+skin&sa=Search#1057

Q: where can i listen to the song online its the new remix of crazy train by lil john not the original ozzy ozbourne one ?
http://www.imeem.com/

Q: how can i get our makeout more interesting?
my boyfriend and i have french kissed, but is there anything i can do to make it more intimate or passionate? when i kiss him it's hard for me to keep my thoughts straight and i don't want him to feel like i'm not interested if i don't respond. i'm the first girl he's kissed so i don't want to leave him with trashy memories but are there any little tips that could help me with this? thanks!
Some tips to spice up kissing sessions:

(My answer is on the bottom)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=529020

Also.. cuddling?

Q: 15/F
For English we have to write a "thesis" research paper on our hero. They have to be real and they have to be famous.
If they're not real and/or not famous, they have to be illustrated through someone who is.
I want to do Juno MacGuff from the movie Juno more than anything--not just Ellen Page.
I LOVE her wit, cynicism, the way she looks at life, and her quirky lingo.

Here's the hard part. What real, famous person can I illustrate her through?
And I have to site my sources, so, I don't know. PLEAE HELP!
Oh yeah, I heard somewhere that she was like Diana ross- beautiful but mean. That doesn't help too much. THANKS!
I think Eleanor Roosevelt is a spunky woman.
Or Mark Twain (Samuel Clemens) is awesome.

Read some quotes of theirs:

Eleanor Roosevelt:

Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

A woman is like a tea bag- you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.

Mark Twain is hilarious:

Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.

I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying that I approved of it.

I am opposed to millionaires, but it would be dangerous to offer me the position.

I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.

Always acknowledge a fault. This will throw those in authority off their guard and give you an opportunity to commit more.

Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.

Or maybe Lyndon B. Johnson? Lyndon Johnson once colorfully compared the Tonkin Gulf Resolution to his “grandmother’s nightgown,” in that “it covers everything.” Below are some quotes by him:

A man can take a little bourbon without getting drunk, but if you hold his mouth open and pour in a quart, he's going to get sick on it.

Any jackass can kick down a barn but it takes a good carpenter to build one.

Being president is like being a jackass in a hailstorm. There's nothing to do but to stand there and take it.

Did you ever think that making a speech on economics is a lot like pissing down your leg? It seems hot to you, but it never does to anyone else.



Q: what is spooning?
Imagine 2 spoons placed together. It's like when two people are curled into each other, one with their front to the other's back. It's more of a form of cuddling. Some people like sleeping this way. Check out different definitions: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=spooning

Q: This may seem like a dumb question but i am very ugly. how can i become prettier? if i need to add a picture i will.
Self-confidence is really attractive to guys. Not all guys are shallow. The good ones aren't. Your personality is important too. However, if you do not feel good about your outward appearance, change it. Go on a healthy diet and get regular exercise. Get a makeover: new haircut, new wardrobe, put on makeup. Don't go overboard, though. You have to love yourself first.

Q: ive heard this song and its sounds like beyonce. but idk. she says something like and youre my halo. anyone know. plz and thk you. :]
Beyoncé - Halo

Remember those walls I built
Well baby they're tumbling them down
And they didnt even put up a fight
They didnt even make a sound
I found a way to let you in
But I never really had a doubt
Standin in the light of your Halo
I got my angel now

Its like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin
I aint never gonna shut you out

Everywhere Im lookin now
Im surrounded by your embrace
Baby I can see your Halo
You know youre my saving grace
Youre everything I need and more
Its written all over your face
Baby I can feel your Halo
Pray it wont fade away

I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo
I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo

Hit me like a ray of sun
Burning through my darkest night
Youre the only one that I want
Think im addicted to your light
I swore Id never fall again
But this dont even feel like falling
Gravity cant begin
To pull me to the ground again

Feels like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin
Im never gonna shut you out

Everywhere Im lookin now
Im surrounded by your embrace
Baby I can see your Halo
You know youre my saving grace
Youre everything I need and more
Its written all over your face
Baby I can feel your Halo
Pray it wont fade away

I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo
I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo
I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo

Halo, Halo

Everywhere Im lookin now
Im surrounded by your embrace
Baby I can see your Halo
You know youre my saving grace
Youre everything I need and more
Its written all over your face
Baby I can feel your Halo
Pray it wont fade away

I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo
I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo
I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo
I can feel your halo (halo) halo
I can see your halo (halo) halo

Q: Ok, to sum it up;;
I always feel that im not pretty, and im fat. when i knw that i am average weight for my age. what can i do to stop feeling self-consinsious about my self??
Self-confidence is really attractive to guys. Not all guys are shallow. The good ones aren't. Your personality is important too. However, if you do not feel good about your outward appearance, change it. Go on a healthy diet and get regular exercise. Get a makeover: new haircut, new wardrobe, put on makeup. Don't go overboard, though. You have to love yourself first.

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