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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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some nights, i'm so tired but i can't seem to sleep. this only happens sometimes, not all the time. anyone know what i could do?

A lot of different things could be causing you to stay up at night. It could most definitely be insomnia. But to come to that conclusion, you'd have to see a doctor. What I suggest for the time being is that you get yourself to a pharmacy & pick up some non-habit forming sleeping pills. You can take these every night (or whenever you need them) and you won't become addicted to them (like most do when it comes to other medicines).

If you take those & they work fine for you, & you can get your sleeping back to normal, then your problem isn't insomnia. I would try those, but here are some tips to fall asleep easier:

http://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/08/04/02/15-tips-to-fall-asleep-more-quickly.htm

I really hope this helps you. If none of this helps you (the tips, the sleeping pills) then I suggest you see a doctor about your sleeping problem & see what they say.

Okay i weigh aroung 160 and I'm thirteen. now i know what your thinking but just wait. I look like i weigh 120 lbs, the reason i am 160 is that i have very large breast i wear a 38d and my mom makes fun of my weight, she calls me names and it really hurts me. How should i deal with it when it's not me that's causing the weight?

You need to sit your mother down and let her know that while you understand her concern about your weight, it's not your fault that you weigh that much, and that it really hurts your feelings. Let her know that everyone has flaws, and it's not okay to point them out. Ridicule can cause lots of damage to someone's mentality (trust me, been there, done that) that other people may not realize.

Tell your mother that no one is perfect and she shouldn't expect you to be either. The only way you could possibly reduce your breast size naturally is to try and lose weight. I'm not saying 160 is bad, because it honestly isn't, but if losing weight helps your breast size go down & if it gets your mother to stop the teasing, maybe it's not a bad idea.

I hope you get through to your mother. Being teased hurts, especially when it comes from a parent or a family member. Those are the people who should be loving you most. There's no excuse for ridicule within a family.

she says she likes guys giving her head compared to her girlfriend. and the only guy that gave her head was her fucking uncle. that incestic.

End it. If she prefers other people over you, then why are you with her? What kind of relationship with that?

Also, I'd report the incest case. It may not be much of your business, but it's illegal & they both need help. So break up with her, and report the incest.

i was in my friend msn and i was cheking his mail because he told me to. i was scrolling down and clicked on the mail and i saw 3 pictures of a girl with bras and panties only...if i report that what can happened?

Nothing. It's his private e-mail & you weren't even supposed to open that e-mail. If anything, you're in the wrong for snooping. Don't report it. It's a waste of your time, and he'll be upset with you.

I really need to move on from my last relationship. It's been almost 5 months and I still can't. I went out with him for more than a year, and he is over me completely while I am not.
Also, we have a baby together. He was just born, I need to know how I can meet people if I'm always stuck at home?
I don't go to public school, and I have lost contact with a lot of my friends :(
I really need to know how to meet new people, also if you have any stories at all similar to mine please tell?
Thanks

This guy doesn't really sound too great. You guys have broken up despite having a child together, so you know he isn't fit to be a father. What you need to realize is that you're better off without him.

To be honest, meeting people is the last thing you should be worried about is meeting people. You have a son to care for now. It isn't all about you anymore. When having a child, friends are no longer a priority. They're fun to have, but your child is something you should be focused on, not a friendship.

Take care of your son, take some time to grow up as well, and once you're settled (with a steady job, etc) then go back out into the friendship thing. As for now, worry about your son. He is the priority here.

i want a tattoo on the inside of my lip but not a tacky one
anyone have any idea of a fashion logo or anythinv high fashion like a symbol or something that would be cute there?

or soemthing goth like a skull...

i want james dean but they dont do pictures!

If you're thinking of getting a fashion logo, why not get the logo of your favorite designer brand? For instance, I LOVE Chanel so if I got a fashion based tattoo, the Chanel C's would probably be incorporated into it somewhere.

Just keep in mind that lip tattoos are really painful, and that you constantly have to get them touched up because they will fade. If that's not something you're willing to deal with every few months, I suggest getting it somewhere else where it can be well hidden. Maybe behind your ear, or on the back of your neck. And also remember that tattoos never go away, so before you get it, make sure it's something you're really happy with because laser removal is painful, and gross looking.

Good luck with your decision & I hope you get a tattoo that you'll love forever.

Is this girl a fake? Is this a popular fake photo? On DailyBooth in my news feed, she came up and I was confused cause someone was saying she was a fake.

http://www.myspace.com/drama90210

We can't really tell whether or not someone is fake by looking at a MySpace page, especially when it's private.

And if she is, who cares? It's nothing to be worried about.

I'm in a long distance relationship.

My boyfriend went home for christmas, he's gone for 1 month. And for some reason, I feel really bad making him come on skype to talk to me while he's away, cause i feel like the point of him being there is to be with family..and doing other things and such.

Anyway, we usually talk every couple days while he's away, but the first thing he told me was that in the airport..where he had to wait 6hrs due to delayed flights, he met a girl, they talked for 4 hours, and split a bottle of red wine. He said they talked about relationships, and i don't think he even mentioned me. Now hes home, and tells me he's been talking to his brothers gf all day on skype. But he can't tell me hes on?? He called me on skype for about 45 mins, his brother talked to me while he talked to his brothers gf, hahah messed up, i know.

But, it's not just that. He ALWAYS talks to me about his exes, and how he wonders what they're up to and stuff. I can't figure out honestly what it is, but all this other girl talk, and having fun with other girls, makes me SO jealous. I've talked to him about it once, didn't say anything when he was chatting about the girl at the aiport/brothers gf though.

Blah, i guess i just need advice. does he just seem like a flirty person? weve been dating 5 months, and he had talked about his exes even before we were dating. but now i just get so jealous, but dont bring it up, as i know its not a pretty trait to have. but then i sit here with my feelings hurt. ah, any advice?!

Your boyfriend is breaking one of the prime rules of dating. When in a relationship, never bring up past relationships. It's not okay to talk about them because it just causes tension in current relationship. He should be focused on your relationship. It's okay for him to be friends with them or wonder what they're up to now a days, but as far as talking about the relationship he had with them, it just makes things a little weird for you.

As far as him talking to other girls (in a friendly way) I don't really see the problem. Just because your boyfriend has girls who are friends, it doesn't make him a flirty person - he's just friendly. I don't think you have a reason to be concerned about that.

But, what does bring up a red flag is that he didn't even talk to you on Skype, he made his brother talk to you. To me that just seems kind of rude, especially because you guys hadn't talked in a few days. I'd be upset if my boyfriend did that to me, and I'm pretty sure my boyfriend would be upset if I did that to him.

If it bothers you, speak up. Don't sit back & let that happen because if you say nothing, it'll continue to go on, and you'll continue to wonder why your feelings are constantly hurt. Say something to him about this. He won't know that you're upset or jealous if you don't bring it up. Don't be rude about it, just say "Hey, it really hurts me when we don't chat on Skype for a few days, and then when we finally got to, you sent your brother. It was like you didn't care about me or like you didn't wanna talk to me. It really hurt, and I miss you." If you're nice, but firm about it, he'll get the point.

That's the only thing you need to be concerned with. Other than that, you can't really do much about him having female friends. It's bound to happen. Just like it's inevitable for you to have male friends. :) Don't worry. He's not flirty, just friendly.

I'm a 15 year old female and i've been playing guitar for many years. Do guys find it attractive/a turn on when they meet a girl that plays guitar/is very into music?

It honestly depends on the guy. For people who are heavy into music, it could be a great thing. For those who aren't, they probably wouldn't be able to connect with you on that level, but it would probably impress them. Who's to really say?

But hey, if a guy does think that you being musically inclined is a turn off, then he probably isn't the guy for you. :)

I think I am being pressured into sex.. I have a boyfriend who just wants to have sex sex sex sex sex SEX!! and I am getting tired of telling him no! I am too young I am only 14(8months). we been together only 7 months and all he ever ask about is sex sex and more sex.. what do i do??? I feel he is not going to respect me if do manage to have sex with him after a while....

I NEED HELP !
Im NOT readyy!!!

-Jay Help!

Kick him to the curb! You're 14 years old, and you know that you're not ready. You have told him this numerous times & he doesn't listen. Is that really someone you want to be with?

He doesn't respect you now, nor will he ever respect you (even if you were to have sex with him). Dump him now. Don't let anyone make you do something that you don't wanna do, or something that makes you feel uncomfortable. You have been right to say no, so keep saying no & dump him.

17 F ok. steph is my cousin and we have been living together for as long as I remmeber. She recently turned 15 in september. And she's like my little sister we do everything together. Play all the time. We r basically insperable. Ok well she moved out like 1 weekago which is weird for me anyway. Well she recently confessed to me that last june she lost her virginity with this kid that she claims to "love". when she told me that i swear my heart dropped. shes like my little sister you know. we would always talk about losing out virginity when we were married. its so weird. like i just dont wanna see her hear me. and she told me not to tell my sister. whose 20 btw. i dont knnow if i should becuase if i dont tell someone and she has sex again and gets pregnant then i am gonna feel guilty becuase i didnt tell someone and we could have avoided this. i dont know im so confused and i feel like i cant have her near it just gets me so mad. she told me that she liked it but that she wouldnt do it again becuase shes afraid of getting pregnant. she was 14 when she lost it she recently turned 15 in sept. seriously i need some advice. she wants to hang out on saturday and i dont know if i can. when i see her i dont see that innocent girl now i see her with different eyes and anger for keeping this from me for so long and pretending that she was a virgin also for losing it. i really wish that she didnt tell me. i feel so dramatized. she was like my little sister, my bestfriend. now i dont know what to do or cant help but to feel this. its horrible. please give me some advice on all of this. thanks.

I understand your concern, I really do, but there really isn't anything you can do about this. You are not your parents so you have no say over what she does. She is going to make decisions like this; it is part of growing up. She may be going at a faster speed, but she'll learn from her mistakes. You cannot tell her what to do.

There is no reason for you to be upset with her. She's growing up & you can't protect her from everything. Don't be mad at her, and don't judge her. She doesn't need that. Just let her know that if she does have sex again, that she should keep using protection so that she doesn't get pregnant or any STD's. That's the best you can do. Besides, you don't have to agree with everything she does, but you should support her if you're really as close with her as you say.

Ok so my dad and the guy ive been dating for almost 2 years dont get along at all whatsoever. And i hate it. He cant come over when my dad is home. When we went to go on a date my dad told me he was going to keep us from hanging out at all to break us apart. My dad has no reason not to like this kid, and my boyfriend has tried to get along with him but my dad wont give him the time of day.

What do i do??? my dad is being a complete baby and anytime i say anything or he sees him he gets in a bad mood and its really annoying. ugh :/ btw 17 m && F

Thanks in advance!

Your dad has only one reason not to like your boyfriend: He's with you. Parents tend to be really over-protective of their kids, especially when it comes to dating. Your boyfriend could be the nicest kid in the world, and your dad will still dislike him or have reason to believe that your boyfriend isn't good enough for you. Same situation with moms & their sons. No girl is ever good enough for their baby. That's just how parents are.

I don't think there's much you can do about this, but I would suggest trying to talk to your dad. Ask him to please not get upset & just try to hear you out. If he still acts like an asshole towards your boyfriend after your discussion with him, just ignore it & remember that you'll be 18 soon.

Im 14/f. So, everytime I shave down there I always get like razor burn or little red bumps. Ive tried shaving in a diffrent direction, just water, soap and water, shaving cream. But it still happens, do any girls know a way to make it stop doing that?

It could be the razor that you're using. It's probably dull so when you shave it's irritating your skin which causes those bumps.

Try using a new razor. Maybe shave with shaving cream first, then soap. Once you get out of the shower/bath, get some moisturizing lotion & rub it in. That should help.

i'm always getting teased by my guyfriends for being "flat". i'm not FLAT, really. i'm just...small. i'm 17 years old, 5'6" tall, weigh around 110-112 lbs, and i'm still a 34-36B. i want to know if there is anything i could do to make my boobs develope quicker; any foods, exercises, etc?

thanks.

There isn't anything you can do to make your boobs grow. You need to wait it out.

You could trying wearing a push-up bra so your boobs will appear bigger, but that's about it. I wouldn't be so disappointed though. A B-cup is actually a good size. You're not too big & not too small.

I applied in September. When I logged on to my fullerton acount it says, "Congratulation! You have been admitted to Cal State Fullerton" and it tells me what I need to do and stuff.

I was wondering if we get an acceptance letter in the mail.

I am one of those people that panic when things are the internet. I need to see things on paper.

so if someone can help me out that would be nice.

First off, congratulations on getting into Fullerton. That's a great school; my boyfriend went there.

I wasn't sure if whether or not they sent acceptance letters, so I went & researched it. According to one site, they do indeed send them out, but sometimes are a little behind on schedule. So, you should be getting it soon; just keep checking your mail box. :)

Good luck & congratulations!

im getting the lg cookie, and i was wonderin can you ge the intrnet ( fcebook bebo etc..) on it for free or do you have to pay? anyone know ? thanks :)

Mobile internet on phones is not free. You do have to pay for it because while each phones come with internet, if you do not have an internet plan, it will charge you per kilobyte that you use.

I suggest getting the unlimited plan (if it's available) so that way you're charged a decent fee every month, but are able to surf the web as much as you'd like.

She was sleeping in a bed at a hotel for a bday party with a girl. The girl's boyfriend came in and they had sex in the same bed she was in. My friend, Julia is small. The guy turned over and raped Julia. She said she was disgusted blah blah. and the next morning the girl (who is an absolute whore and has a baby now) said "How could you do that?" to Julia!

This was a few years ago and my boyfriend wants me to tell her to tell someone. I want her to too. Her mother thinks she's a whore already and Julia says "it was so long ago. It doesn't make sense to say anything now." I don't know what to tell her. If he's done this to her I'm sure he's done it to others or is going to. By the way, I know who they guy is. I have seen him before.

While I agree with you that your friend should tell someone, you cannot make her do it. You could always tell someone for her since she is unwilling, but if you do that I suggest you prepare for her to be very upset with you.

Honestly, if she does decide to tell, there really isn't much that anyone can do. The evidence is more than likely gone so even though he did rape her, he could get away with it (even though he technically already has).

Ok,Im asking this for my friend!

Iam 14/female and my friend is the same age ...
Ok my friend alley had a boyfriend who died(Joe RIP)He was really nice and stuff but she swears he is haunting her...She can like feel him when she is in the shower and when shes going to sleep at night.I never really believed in that kinda stuff but you can definatly feel him there! Its kinda weird...DO YOU GUYS THINK WE ARE INSANE???
I mean we have tried talkin to him but i dunno what to do...She really loves him...still..hes been dead about a year...WHAT THE HEK DO WE DO??

You guys definitely aren't insane. Lots of people are haunted everyday by ghosts, and there are also lots of people who are sensitive to energies whether they be good or bad.

This really isn't an uncommon thing to experience. Joe (RIP) probably is around her in some way, but I wouldn't exactly call it a haunting. It's more of a visit. If he died tragically or unexpectedly, maybe he hasn't crossed over. Sometimes when people die unexpectedly, it's hard for their spirits to accept so they stick around (usually in places they're familiar with).

Anyway, he's probably trying to communicate with her. She shouldn't be uncomfortable or scared though. He's just keeping an eye on her. Let her know that everything will be okay.

I'm getting a new computer possiblity within the next few months and i'd just like to know what's a good brand to buy give me your opinions i'd like a desktop not labtop

Please don't say Dell iv'e had nothing but problems with that brand :/

I'd have to say that Mac is the best brand out there. I've always used a PC, but since February I've been using a Mac, and I can say that I will never use a PC again. Macs are just significantly better. They're pricey, but worth it. They never get viruses because the security software updates so frequently. They have lots of space. I would suggest getting an external hard drive, just in case. They're not mandatory, but they are good to have for backup in case something goes wrong.

So, go for a Mac. They may be a little expensive, but it's definitely worth it because these computers go a long way.

My "bff" is driving me insane. She wants to be JUST like me!!! It is killing me because i want to be my own person, and i like for others to do the same.

She lies to me to make me think she is rich and everything.
trying to make me dislike my other friends so i will just hang out with her
Wears to tight clothes
Is getting the cell phone i have been dying for!!! So now i gotta find something else cause i am not going through with that AGAIN

HELP

Talk to her about it. Things will never get better if you don't speak up. Tell her that you appreciate that she has the same interests, but there are some things that you' like to keep for yourself.

If you're that upset that she's copying you though, just get stuff and don't tell her about it.

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