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just like me
My "bff" is driving me insane. She wants to be JUST like me!!! It is killing me because i want to be my own person, and i like for others to do the same.
She lies to me to make me think she is rich and everything.
trying to make me dislike my other friends so i will just hang out with her
Wears to tight clothes
Is getting the cell phone i have been dying for!!! So now i gotta find something else cause i am not going through with that AGAIN
HELP
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It sounds as if your friend might be having self-esteem issues. It seems like if she becomes like you, the characteristics and traits she admires in you will be internalized. It also seems like she is trying whatever it takes to be accepted and recognized, even if it seems to be negative attention.
It is difficult because often the person does not even realize they are doing it. Self-esteem issues are deep within us and can only be overcome if we recognize and allow them to be overcome.
If her friendship is valuable to you, (and I like to think that it is, otherwise you wouldn't be having a problem) then shower her with kindness. If you are tired of her trying to isolate you and then copy you, include her in group activities. Show her that her friendship is important by including her, but show her that you have other friends too. Maybe she will be more comfortable and confident after a while and will learn to voice her own opinions and do her own things.
If she asks why you both don't do more alone, just let her know that you thought she would enjoy the group activities. If she pressures you to keep hanging out alone, tell her that you like to do things with other people too.
If she doesn't like it, she won't stay. Eventually she will stop trying and will find somewhere else to spend her time.
If you care about her, you won't ignore her, you will include her. If she has no intention of changing and wants you to change, show her that you do not want to do that. But be as kind as possible.
I hope this helps you out a bit. I know it's a tricky situation!
-Charlotte
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The best advice I can give to you is to confront her about it. Even though you might seem like it's mean but it's for the best. Leading her on will make it worse.
-Haley
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Talk to her about it. Things will never get better if you don't speak up. Tell her that you appreciate that she has the same interests, but there are some things that you' like to keep for yourself.
If you're that upset that she's copying you though, just get stuff and don't tell her about it.
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