Currently the company I work for has been very very slow to get inventory in. They have not done any marketing or advertising. And we have been told to change some things that we normally do for customers. Also our current customers are leaving (due to lack of inventory) faster then our new customers are coming in.
This has been going on for almost a year. Can it get better or should I seriously be looking for another job? The manager can only say it cost alot to order inventory and hang in there.
It sounds to me like you are worried about your job security for good reason. I would definitely start looking elsewhere. Just remember, don't burn your bridges. Hang on to your current job until something better turns up, and make sure to give that two week notice. Best of luck ;)
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I recently found out that my boyfriend drinks. Every fiber of my bones is completely and utterly against drinking and alcohol. I hate it like you would not believe. My dad was an alcoholic and my best friend died from drinking and driving a few years ago.
I love him. I really do. I care about him and beg him not to drink. But he tells me he knows his limits. He says he doesnt get drunk just "tipsy". The other night he went out with a few of his friends and they played drinking games. He didnt tell me about it but his friend did.
I feel lied to. I feel betrayed. I know it's his life and he can do as he pleases. I dont want him to think Im trying to control him. But I dont want him to die either.
Help me. Should I leave? Should I stay? How can I look past his drinking habits?
I know how you feel. My grandfather, step-grandfather, father, and step-father were all alcholics. Sadly, my ex-boyfriend was an alcholic too.
I know you love him, and I know your hurt. I _truly_ understand. All I can do for you is share my experience...
My ex didn't drink every day, but he did binge drink at least twice a week. He would go out with his friends and drink a ridiculous amount of alchol. He would then call me at an equally ridiculous hour of the night and want to brag about lastest drinking record.
I expressed how much I disliked his habit. He didn't take me very seriously, and did not think that his habits would jeopardize our relationship. After all, he wasn't abusive wasn't when he was drunk, not even verbally. I tried to impress upon him the seriousness of the situation. He just didn't get it.
Obviously, we aren't together anymore. We broke up for various reasons, his drinking was only one. Yes, I still love him. Yes, sometimes I miss him. However, I know that we couldn't have a healthy relationship, not with our values being so different. I am sure that I did the right thing. And now I am looking for someone who shares my values.
You can't change him. I have said this to many people, many times, and I will say it again. You can't change other people. People can only change themselves. He will only put down the bottle when he is ready, he will only do it for himself.
You can try talking to him. Make him understand how much you dislike alchol and how much you are afraid for his sake. Also, make him understand that what you say comes from the bottom of your heart with love.
Maybe he will realize he has a problem and _want_ to change. Maybe not.
If he doesn't, take your cue. The best thing for you to do, in the end, is decide to do what is in your best interest. That might be to let him go and move on.
I hope that I have provided you with some help. If you would like to discuss the matter further, do not hesitate to leave a message in my inbox. I am always here to listen. I wish you the very best. Adieu ;)
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Hey, I like this guy alot, but he always wants me to do stuff with him more than kissing. Im 14 and I dont really want to b/c Im a Christian and I dont like to do stuff like that ..but I like him ALOT HELP ME!
My opinion: Your values are important, stick to them. If you really like this guy, be honest and establish your boundaries. If he violates those boundaries that you have established, he doesn't respect you, and furthermore, does not deserve you. In such a case, kick him to the curb honey...Find someone who shares your morals!
Best of luck ;)
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Ok I have these little bumps in some place my skin (such as my legs, knees, elbows, and back of my upper arms). They're the same color as my skin and aren't big or anything, but I don't know how to get rid of them. I asked my mom and she just told me to scrub my skin more in the shower...but it isn't helping. It just looks like I have small goose bumps on me constantly!
How can I get rid of them? I will rate you well if you give a good answer!
My friend had a similiar problem. It ended up to be just really dry skin, nothing serious.
Try a good moisturizer. Anything by Aveeno is excellent (my dermatologist highly recommends this brand).
If that doesn't work, you might want to ask your mom to take you to a dermatologist. A dermatologist can take one look at your skin and tell you exactly what's going on, and how to fix it. They usually will tell you to use items that are cheap, that you can find at the grocery store. If a perscription is necessary, make sure they prescribe a generic brands. As a pharmacy tech, I know that generic brands are EXACTLY the same as name brands, and they often cost less.
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my friend just broke up with her bf after 3 months and shes been reallly sad.. and i`ve been there for her the whole time listening to her say the same things over and over... but i just listen and tell her how bad i feel for her. but i also like this guy and everyonce in a while i talk about how he doesnt even notice me and it makes me sad. and she started freaking out about how i have nothing to be complaining about and its rele stupid and she gets rele annoyed that i talk about him "all the time". this was the first time i found out it was annoying her, and i dont even talk about him that much.. i was thinking that after listening to her complain so much, maybe i had a little room to talk about me for a second... isnt that unfair that she wont even support my problems??? i`ll rate high! x3
"Simply Gobsmacked" has a point. Whether she broke up with her boyfriend, or her boyfriend broke up with her, it doesn't change the fact that breaking up can be very upsetting. She's probably just upset, and when you are upset it is sometimes difficult to respond to others in a caring way.
However, her feelings do not change the fact that her behavior towards you was unfair. You are right, a friendship is a relationship between two people. Like all relationships, friendships require a certain amount of give and take. You've been giving and giving lately, it's perfectly understandable that you would need to do a bit of the taking...no matter what the situation.
I suggest that you try to be patient and supportive. When she is a little more emotionally stable, confront her in a gentle manner. Explain that you were hurt by her behavior, and that you feel that her reaction was unfair. If she is your friend, she will understand and try to keep that in mind. Maybe next time she's in a similiar situation and you need to talk about you, she'll remember and do her share of the listening.
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Ok, I have this friend and she really lies a lot and like I have told her many times before to be honest and she's like yeah I'm honest! But like 2 other chicks have also been her friends and she's also lied to them. So like now we have formed a group and like we talk to her but we make sure that she never talks to us alone like one to one. But we don't know hwo to tell her that she's lieing to us and to just fucking stop it. Help me please.
I have known a few people like your friend. I like to call them "chronic liars." It's not that they are bad people, they normally have some deeper issues that cause them to do this. For example: I had a friend who would make up the most outrageous stories. Eventually, we came to the conclusion that she was lying for attention. Her parents had divorced when she was a child, and she still wasn't over it.
You can try talking to her, you can try to find out why she does what she does, and what her motivation is. If it doesn't work, then she might be one friend that you need to drop. I am very sorry to say this, but I believe that a friendship can't exist without trust. If you can't trust her enough to even be alone around her, where do you think that this friendship is going?
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Ive met this great man and we get along in all aspects, but from the start he has said hes not sure about a relationship because of his past. Hes been so hurt and has built this huge wall around him. I have made it clear from the beginning that i do want a relationship. Who doesnt want to be loved as long as its with the right person? He has just recently figured out that i have started having feelings for him and it scares him. Now im scared of how honest to be with him about it because i dont want to lose him from my life, hes also a great friend. On the other hand i wish there was something i could do to get him to see how great we would be in a relationship. Help me, ive been seriously hurt in the past as well and i dont like this feeling i have in my stomach. What should i do? I am 33 years old and hes 36 and we both have children from previous relationships.
I am going to let someone else answer this question for me. Please read "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It may sound silly, but this book took a lot of the guesswork out of relationships for me. I have a feeling it can do the same for you too.
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Im 17f and ive never had a boyfriend. It used to bug me, but i dont have a problem with it anymore. Not to sound conceited, but i could easily get a boyfriend if i wanted one. But right now Im not really looking for one. Plus, i have high standards. Well my family constantly makes fun of me because ive never had a boyfriend. And my sister (14, who is the hugest slut and will have sex with anyone who says hi to her) always calls me a lesbian. Then my dad and her will laugh and make jokes back and forth about it. It really offends me that they say things like this because it hurts, even if its not even true. I try to not let it bother me, but they do it all the time and its hard to ignore. Ive already told them to shut up about it, but then they bother me even more. What am i supposed to do? Even if they are joking, it still bugs me.
First, I would like to commend your astounding intelligence and maturity. Your only seventeen years old and you've all ready figured out that there are more important things in this world than worrying about boys. My friends are in their twenties, and some of them still haven't realized what you know so well. Good for you ;)
My advice: I don't think your dad knows how much his comments hurt your feelings. When you tell him to "shut up" he probably thinks that you're kidding too. So, when you and your dad are alone, tell him how much his behavior hurts your feelings in the most gentle way. I'm sure he'll understand, and he will probably apologize for all the jokes he made in the past.
You can try to talk to your sister too, but it might not work. It sounds like she's not as mature as you are, so she probably won't understand. If she doesn't change her behavior you can try two things. One: the high road. Simply ignore her. (She probably won't have as much fun if your dad is no longer participating.) Two: the slightly lower road. When I say, "slightly lower," I don't mean that you should hurt her feelings. I mean that, I have a sister too, and I'm not above making witty come-backs. Just don't get too carried away ;)
Best of luck...
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There's this girl at my school who's a total bitch and talks about everyone. She always says nasty things about people who aren't just like her and thinks she's so much better than everyone. Just the other day she was making fun of a guy that's in a wheelchair & in the hospital because he's having problems with his lungs. She said "wow what a retard... Why are we wasting our time talking about him?" like it was some big joke. People told her that was REALLY mean but she burst out laughing like it was the funniest thing in the world.
She also found out that me & my friend said something about her.. Now she yells shit at us in the halls & even drew on a picture of us in a classroom. I'm so sick of her acting so childish. We'll both tell her to grow up & get a life but she just keeps on doing it & dragging other people into it. It's getting so irritating and really getting to me.
What am I supposed to do? I can't just ignore it anymore.
Obviously, she is desperate for attention and very, very insecure. She displays all of the classic symptoms: acting like she is above everyone else, over-reacting to comments directed at her, verbally abusing anyone who critizes her, and trashing other people to make herself feel good about herself. Inside, she probably doesn't like herself very much.
She was probably so hurt by what you said because, whatever it was, she probably suspects that it's true. Now she's trying to redeem herself with the worst possible behavior. She wants to get back at you, make you feel as bad about yourself as she does. Not only that but she's practically screaming for your attention.
I know you said that you are tired of ignoring it, but I would like to point out that if you are trading insults with her in the hallways, you aren't really IGNORING her. I understand how you feel, and I understand that it must be difficult to tolerate her behavior. It's a normal response for you to try to defend yourself.
However, I don't think that this type of defense is going to work. You have to tell yourself that her insults are meaningless (because they are) and not let them get to you. Furthermore, you have to show her that what she says doesn't bother you in the least. The best way to do this is to truly ignore her. And when I say ignore, I mean, pretend that she doesn't exist. If you and a friend are walking down the hallway and she starts screaming at you, pretend that she isn't there. Don't talk to her, don't look at her, she ISN'T even THERE. You might even want to start a conversation with your friend, even if you have to talk over her, to show her that you are not going to pay attention to her. It doesn't bother you.
If you do this she'll probably step up on the offensive. It will be difficult to remain cool, but just keep on. Eventually she will realize that she can't hurt you and stop.
I hope this helped you in some way. Best wishes ;)
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i have tried all kinds of ways to get my self esteem up. but i just cant figure it out. i like myself a little bit more then i used to but not much. i want to love myself so that people can see the confidence in me because they like that. but i dont know how to raise my self esteem. any ideas, advice, whatever? lol
~♥~ Carrie ~♥~
I know how you feel. I may still be insecure to a degree, but now I feel that I have come to a point in my life where I truly love myself. Here is what changed my outlook...
One day I realized that all people are equal. We are all special, unique, and imperfect. We become insecure only when we allow ourselves to expect perfection, or for others to expect us to be perfect.
I had to accept myself for who I all ready was, and not the person that I WANTED to be. Once I was able to love myself unconditionally, I realized that I had a lot of good qualities and a lot of flaws. But the funny thing about flaws is that, once you acknowledge and then accept them, you start to change. No one else may notice, but you will.
And when someone else critizes you, try to keep things in perspective. What they say may hold a seed of truth, but people tend to exaggerate when they critize because of their _own_ insecurities. Realize where their criticism comes from. (If it comes from a good place they'll find a nice way to say whatever they want to say. Believe me.) Then realize that that person has no reason to demand perfection of you, just as you have no right to demand perfection of them.
I hope I was of some help. Best wishes ;)
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I have a big problem! I really need a job but I am scared to death of interviews what do I do! I would be happy to hear some advice!
Read "Your Career: How to Make it Happen," by Julie Griffin Levitt. I know, I know...The title sounds truly corny. But I had to read this book during one of my college classes. It's easy to read, informative, and very, very practical. Focus on Part Four, there are a lot of great tips for interviews...
Good luck ;) Hope you get that job :D
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Well I straigten my hair everyday because otherwise my hair looks disgusting. My hair has a lot of static whenever I get done straitening it and I even put lotion in it sometimes since my sisters do it and they dont have any static. Is there anything I could do or a product could do for me? Any suggestions?
I have naturally straight hair, but it's very fine and is prone to static. When I was younger my mom showed me this really cool trick. It sounds weird, but here is what you do....You know those dryer sheets? The ones you put in the laundry? Take one of those and rub it across your hair. I know it sounds funny, but it works. Seriously.
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ok i have this gay friend and you could never in the whole world tell hes gay, and the sad thing is im find of falling for him! what should i do?
Date someone who likes girls.
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Okie dokie, recently I started working....on the job, I've discovered that I am crushing on my manager and all my co-workers can tell that I like him..... he's a dancer and all this stuff so a lot of people think he is gay, but I don't think he is.... when we are around he eachother, we make the best of eachothers time... and on the first day of work I got real sick and he was very concerned. Then the next day, he asked me if I was feeling better, so he is really caring. But he laughs at everything I say and it seems like he flirts with me back...so I dunno if he likes me or not..... and we have SOOOO MUCH IN COMMON! But I think that he won't date me (or I think I wouldn't have a chance) because of the fratnerization issue (dating anyone higher personal than you which will cause you to get fired or moved to another department.). So what should I do? Like me and him could keep a down-low relationship or somthing, but is he even interested?
I can't say whether or not he likes you.
What I can say is this: even if dating was not an issue in your company, dating your co-worker can become complicated. I met my last boyfriend at work, and we continued to work together for a year after we started dating.
Some common issues:
-Co-workers will eventually find out that you are dating. They may not mean to be nosy, but they will end up getting involved in your business, one way or the other.
-No matter how happy you and your partner are with your relationship, you will fight. Having a fight, and then having to face each other at work makes it more difficult to remain professional.
I think before you give any more thought as to what his feelings are, you should think about whether you want a relationship with extra complications.
Good luck ;)
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I want to be carefree, go to another country like japan, have a decent job, get a girlfriend, do whatever i want and never think of tomorrow or yesterday (while im still young). However, I want to be able support my parents so they can enjoy their life w/o breaking their back at work, because they went through so many and suffered so much to brought the family to US and had worked for the past 30yrs plus. So all there is in my head is "find some way or job that pay ALOT, so my parents doesn't have to work," but deep down in my heart, i felt that im being held back by my own self, from what i really want to do. I dont want to abandon my parent, but i also want to enjoy my youth (im 20 btw). Unfortunately, i decided to sacrafice my youth and try to find some way to get rich so i can support my parents..... I don't really have a question for u advisors, because i know what i have to do. I just want to hear ur advice in general,maybe there's miracle way to solve my problems.........
It has been my experience that if you live to fulfill the expectations of others (even parents whom you love) instead of living to fulfill your own expectations, you will be unhappy. Maybe sucessful, but unhappy. I assume your parents love you, do you think that is what they want?
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I have a friend that consistently acts highly interested in everything I do and offers help that I don't really need. He extends invitations for me to participate in events he will be participating in. He seems excited to see me and strikes up conversation over redundant things. Recently I called him to take him up on an offer he made, he acted distant, cold and brief and said he would call back and didn't. What is going on? Is he interested, flaky, did I misinterpret his intentions, should I just brush him off now?
I tend to believe that when a man acts in an inconsistent manner, it's the equivalent of him saying, "I like you, I just don't like you enough." But, that is just my experience, I could be wrong.
I highly recommend, "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It might not change your life, but you won't find yourself over-analyzing your relationships nearly as often.
Adieu ;)
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Theres this guy online that wont leave me alone. He's so perverted and i have no idea who he is. hes not from my town but he always tells me that he sees me and he tells me what im wearing. hes always saying stuff like how much he wants to fuck me and he just says really nasty things. hes really violent too, like if i dont answer him RIGHT away he'll flip out and call me names, so im scared to block him or anything since he knows what i look like and he "sees me all the time" what should i dooo?
Tell your parents. They need to know, and they can provide you with more help than anyone else in this situation.
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Sorry this is so long i'll rate 5's. Today during lunch me and my friends jenna and roquel were sitting around talking, and jenna said she hasn't gotten her period in a long time and is worried that she might be pregnant. Jenna thought that i knew about this already, so she was like roquel where did u go to get your abortion?and roquel was like not everyone knows about that jenna. roquel wouldnt tell me that because she was in my law class, and i debated against abortion so she knows how i feel about it. even thought im completely against abortion, i dont judge my friends so thats why i didnt even say anything to her.but now everytime i see her i get sick to my stomach thinking she would actually do something like that.i know its none of my buisiness so dont tell me that, but how do i get over feeling so ashamed of her?its to the point i wanna smack her for being so stupid!because i cant say anything about not having sex, because ive had sex myself but i used the pill AND a condom, so if ppl did that there would only be a 1 percent chance of getting pregnant, so i cant believe she was dumb enough to get herself if that situation where she could get pregnant, knowing her who has done lots of bad stuff, she probably gave in when the guy said he didnt wanna use a condom.i really need advice about what to do, because she is a good friend and i dont wanna lose her as a friend even though i feel so different towards her now.
Yes, you have a point. Every girl or woman should respect themselves. Every female should use proper protection.
However, people make mistakes. And some mistakes, like an unplanned pregnancy, are more difficult to rectify. You may not agree with how she chose to solve her problem, but that doesn't make her stupid, selfish, or a bad person.
Do you know the exact circumstances of the situation? Do you know how she felt? Do you know why she decided to have an abortion? Before you answer "yes," have you asked her any of these questions? If you haven't, you don't know.
I do not agree with abortion either. However, I do know several women that have had abortions. I know how unfortunate their circumstances were, I know how alone and scared they felt, I know why. When you know why, when you attempt to understand, you will find it mighty hard to accuse anyone of doing something selfish or stupid. You will recognize that they are merely human, just like you.
So, I suggest you find out the "why." Explain to her that you are her friend, that your friendship is valuable, and you don't want to loose it. Ask for her side of the story and don't just listen, try to put on her proverbial shoes and at least walk down the block in them. No matter how much you disagree, try to remain calm and caring. You might walk away from the experience, still feeling that you disagree with her decision, but at least you will understand her, and how difficult a decision it was to make.
Best of luck ;)
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I have this one friend named Jenna and she is SO sweet but about a month ago, she totally started hanging out with some other people. She still claims to be my friend, but I feel like she has just ditched me. So I told Jenna how I felt and she said she just has a hard time juggling friendships, but it seems like she has ALL the time in the world for her 2 new friends. So what can I do to help Jenna see the light or snap out of what she is doing? Would the silent treatment help at all?
I understand how you are feeling, and you have every right to feel that way. If Jenna really wanted to spend time with you, you're right, she could easily make the time.
You have all ready done the best possible thing to do. You have been honest, and told her how you are feeling. I am sorry her response was rather poor.
I am guessing that the two of you are drifting apart. Very normal. Friends have a tendency to do that. I am sorry to say, I don't believe there is a way to help her "snap out of it." There are things that you can try, but please don't do anything that could be interpretted by her as hurtful. (No matter how much you feel like she deserves it.) Trying things like the silent treatment probably won't work, it's very possible it could just make things work.
What you could try is, showing her how to make time for you by making time for her. Invite her to the movies, over to your house, whatever, but do it in advance. That will give her plenty of time to plan ahead. You also might want to try to get to know her other friends. If you invite her somewhere, tell her that she can include her friends.
Sadly, there is the possibility that she will cancel after you have given her all the time in the world to clear her schedule. Or, you might go out with her and her friends, only to feel left out of the fun. Don't feel bad. This happens to everybody. But if it happens to you, take the cue and try some alternatives.
When I say alternatives, I mean try spending more time with other friends, or making a new friend entirely. You might be surprised to find out that someone you've always known and got along well with doesn't have anybody to hang out with. They would probably be grateful for the invitation, and you never know...You might just have made yourself a new best friend.
Hope it goes well :)
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ok well this girl that my best friend knows died this weekend and she was really upset, and this other girl freaked out on me and my other best friend in homeroom, so me and him got all pissed. and now i have a huge headache, and i feel bad for the girl who died, and i didnt even know her and i miss her, but im just so sick of hearing about it. everyone has a different stories about how she did it, but me and my friend are just so mad because me and him didnt do anything and i guess thats why people are freaking out on us??
i just dont know what to do.. im so pissed off.
I am sorry :(
I'm not sure where to start. I guess, first, I should state that everyone copes differently with death. Some people need to talk about it and cry. Some people don't.
When my uncle died, a lot of people in my family were...very, very emotional. My cousin, Ben, was not. While he wasn't very close to my uncle, we all knew that he too was mourning in his own way. But he never cried. Instead, he coped with my uncles death by trying to be strong, and did a lot to help the younger kids in the family. I know he must have been hurt too, but I am very proud of the way he reacted to the situation.
My point is that some people in your school are coping with the loss by talking about it and allowing themselves to be upset. But just because you and your friend don't act as upset, doesn't mean that either of you aren't, and your definitely not doing anything wrong. People around you should understand, and should not be angry with you. The people who are lashing out at you are probably too young and immature to realize this. So don't feel guilty if your not locked in a bathroom stall, wailing with all the other girls in your homeroom.
I can understand that you don't want to talk about it. Or hear about it for that matter. I wouldn't want to hear other people talking about it either, especially if a lot of people are spreading rumors as to how she died. Spreading rumors about the deceased, in my opinion, is pretty low. To me it's kind of like turning a tragic event into a trivial piece of gossip.
The next time someone confronts you about your lack of emotion, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, but try to do it in a calm, caring way. For example, you could say, "I miss her too," and leave it at that. You are stating that you care about her just as much as they do, and maybe they will take the hint that you are grieving too, just in a quiet way.
Try to be patient with your school. I know that it is hard now, but eventually everyone will work out what they are feeling and the emotional stress will disappear. Best wishes to you ;)
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