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Sorry this is so long i'll rate 5's. Today during lunch me and my friends jenna and roquel were sitting around talking, and jenna said she hasn't gotten her period in a long time and is worried that she might be pregnant. Jenna thought that i knew about this already, so she was like roquel where did u go to get your abortion?and roquel was like not everyone knows about that jenna. roquel wouldnt tell me that because she was in my law class, and i debated against abortion so she knows how i feel about it. even thought im completely against abortion, i dont judge my friends so thats why i didnt even say anything to her.but now everytime i see her i get sick to my stomach thinking she would actually do something like that.i know its none of my buisiness so dont tell me that, but how do i get over feeling so ashamed of her?its to the point i wanna smack her for being so stupid!because i cant say anything about not having sex, because ive had sex myself but i used the pill AND a condom, so if ppl did that there would only be a 1 percent chance of getting pregnant, so i cant believe she was dumb enough to get herself if that situation where she could get pregnant, knowing her who has done lots of bad stuff, she probably gave in when the guy said he didnt wanna use a condom.i really need advice about what to do, because she is a good friend and i dont wanna lose her as a friend even though i feel so different towards her now.
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I'm totally against abortion too.That being said I think you shouldn't judge your friend to harshley.It is something she will have to live with the rest of her life. Since you didn't know about it she probably doesn't feel that wonderful about it herself.It is real easy for things to get out of control when you start having sex.I got pregnant as a teen myself and have been married since I was 17.I got lucky but that isn't an option for all. We don't know what she went through with her parents or anything before deciding to do this.So, just try not to judge her, if anything feel sorry for her.
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these kids just dont understand. if they would just stop doing this then there would be no need. if you are going to have pre-marital sex, or after you are married sex, then you should be ready to have the child, and know what responsibilities that come along with it.talk to your friend about how you feel about it. Im sorry about what happened!!!
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hey sweetheart--you and i are very similar in our views of abortion. the mere thought of getting one or anyone close to me getting on disgusts me. i think what you need to do is get together face to face with her. Explain to her that you know that she was in a tough situation and that she IS young and maybe having a child wasnt the right thing to do. HOWEVER, that you are very much against abortion and although you do love her a lot and respect her you realize why she did what she did. Explain to her that youre having a hard time realizing why she woul d put herself in the situation to GET pregnant in the first place and that you are even a little upset and even freaked out by the thought of her doing something that you are so against. Tell her that you know that it had nothing to do with you, however that it just upsets you and are having a heard time dealing with it. Let her know that you will try to be there for her as much as you can and that you still want to be her friend but your views are simply different. Im sure she already feels horrible about it. Honestly I dont think anyone can feel "good" after getting an abortion and if they do they are sick and should be killed...haha. Hope I helped dear! Let me know how things turn out. MCosta130@yahoo.com *melissa*
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Yes, you have a point. Every girl or woman should respect themselves. Every female should use proper protection.
However, people make mistakes. And some mistakes, like an unplanned pregnancy, are more difficult to rectify. You may not agree with how she chose to solve her problem, but that doesn't make her stupid, selfish, or a bad person.
Do you know the exact circumstances of the situation? Do you know how she felt? Do you know why she decided to have an abortion? Before you answer "yes," have you asked her any of these questions? If you haven't, you don't know.
I do not agree with abortion either. However, I do know several women that have had abortions. I know how unfortunate their circumstances were, I know how alone and scared they felt, I know why. When you know why, when you attempt to understand, you will find it mighty hard to accuse anyone of doing something selfish or stupid. You will recognize that they are merely human, just like you.
So, I suggest you find out the "why." Explain to her that you are her friend, that your friendship is valuable, and you don't want to loose it. Ask for her side of the story and don't just listen, try to put on her proverbial shoes and at least walk down the block in them. No matter how much you disagree, try to remain calm and caring. You might walk away from the experience, still feeling that you disagree with her decision, but at least you will understand her, and how difficult a decision it was to make.
Best of luck ;)
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Well, I'm telling you that I am against abortion too, but you can tell her that my 17 year old sister had a baby, and shes doing fine, she loves the baby, and shes still happy. But, try not to get too upset with her, shes probably really having a tough time, and doesn't want to throw her future plans away, and yes, I understand that she should be prepared for any of these consequences to come her way, but were here now, and you can convince her that you both can help take care of the baby, and if she doesn't want it, convince her to still have to baby and put "it" up for adoption, because at least the child has a chance to experiance life, and she won't have any guilt of getting rid of her child in an awful way. But, you've just got to understand that shes probably upset with herself, and she needs someone to tell her what will help and maybe one night, you can have a little sleepover thing and tell her that you will help her in any way possible. I hope she doesn't get an abortion, please suppot her, and don't get all mad if she is still saying she wants one, give her the good side of the coin about having this baby.
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well you said you arnt judging her but thats exactly what you are doing. abortion is a common problem and im sure she had no other choice. maybe she didnt want to go through the pain of birth and maybe she forgot to use a condom. its her choice that is now in the past. you cant do anything about it. if you like her as a friend you'll just get over it. if you dont then your going to have a lot of trouble with judging your friends. it might have been a mistake but i doesnt matter now. stop judging people by their choices
o yea this is wat u said... Sorry this is so long i'll rate 5's....yea well u freakin gave me a one u brat...sry i even bothered!!!!
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look. .you need to tell her that she will always be yoyr friend no matter ewhast and she need to know that u will be there for her. . .so just let her know that you will always be there
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