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Friendship Dilemma
I have this one friend named Jenna and she is SO sweet but about a month ago, she totally started hanging out with some other people. She still claims to be my friend, but I feel like she has just ditched me. So I told Jenna how I felt and she said she just has a hard time juggling friendships, but it seems like she has ALL the time in the world for her 2 new friends. So what can I do to help Jenna see the light or snap out of what she is doing? Would the silent treatment help at all?
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Although she may be changing with her friends, it is best that you don't hold a grudge because of it. In most situations, the friend may "drop" you so to speak, for new friends. The best thing to do is wait it out and make some new friends too. Watch out, make sure you are there for her, in case her new friends "drop" her too. Good luck to you, it will be difficult, but work at it!
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Dude, the silent treatment works if you wanna b a bitch. But if your one of those girls that will do w/e it takes. Then go for it. Other wise, she should snap out of it, because if you think that those girls aren't really good friends. Then there not gonna b there for her when she needs them the most. But you will. Don't wry, if she truly is a friend then she will start to realize it.
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I mean it might help .... and im not going to say try talking to her because i hate when people tell me to do that when i want a REAL answer so im just going to tell you to do whatever your heart tells you to do and if you was me i would write her a note saying i know ur not trying to ditch me but it feels like that and juz keep it nice simple and 2 the point
hope i helped love always ~ Ashley
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I understand how you are feeling, and you have every right to feel that way. If Jenna really wanted to spend time with you, you're right, she could easily make the time.
You have all ready done the best possible thing to do. You have been honest, and told her how you are feeling. I am sorry her response was rather poor.
I am guessing that the two of you are drifting apart. Very normal. Friends have a tendency to do that. I am sorry to say, I don't believe there is a way to help her "snap out of it." There are things that you can try, but please don't do anything that could be interpretted by her as hurtful. (No matter how much you feel like she deserves it.) Trying things like the silent treatment probably won't work, it's very possible it could just make things work.
What you could try is, showing her how to make time for you by making time for her. Invite her to the movies, over to your house, whatever, but do it in advance. That will give her plenty of time to plan ahead. You also might want to try to get to know her other friends. If you invite her somewhere, tell her that she can include her friends.
Sadly, there is the possibility that she will cancel after you have given her all the time in the world to clear her schedule. Or, you might go out with her and her friends, only to feel left out of the fun. Don't feel bad. This happens to everybody. But if it happens to you, take the cue and try some alternatives.
When I say alternatives, I mean try spending more time with other friends, or making a new friend entirely. You might be surprised to find out that someone you've always known and got along well with doesn't have anybody to hang out with. They would probably be grateful for the invitation, and you never know...You might just have made yourself a new best friend.
Hope it goes well :)
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Of course the silent treatment would not be the answer because that would mean that now YOUR not being a good friend to her. I'm really sorry about the whole dilemma though. Just be nice to her. I've been through the same problem and now me and her are great friends again. Just give her time.
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try the slient treatment for about a week. if she doesn't realize it then tell her what you did ( you gave her the slient treatment but she didn't care). then tell her dat she changed and your happy for her that she has new friends but she should have time for other friends too. MAKE her relize that you dont like what she is doing
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