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Hey, I like this guy alot, but he always wants me to do stuff with him more than kissing. Im 14 and I dont really want to b/c Im a Christian and I dont like to do stuff like that ..but I like him ALOT HELP ME!
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Just tell him that you aren't ready for that stuff yet and maybe once you get older. If he really likes you that much he will understand and he will wait. x0
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Tell him that you just wanna hang and when you guys get older then you can do that stuff! But for now just tell him, that you really like him but you dont like to do that stuff!
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Tell him thats your not ready to go futher if he likes you alot to he should understand but if he doesnt and blows you of then you no hes not willing to wait.
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Well, I liked this guy a lot, too. He was popular, and would always come over my house just to do stuff. He didn't want to date me or anything. I was 14 then, too and I'm Christian. But I won't kiss a guy unless he is planning on dating me. This guy always tried to do more and I would tell him to stop. Well, after a while, I stopped inviting him over and stopped liking him. Talk to this guy about how you feel. If he doesn't understand, he's totally not worth it.
Goodluck,
*~*Melissa*~*
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You have to set your standards. NO GUY is worth doing more than you want to do if it's past what you're comfortable with.
Tell him if he cares at all, he will respect your boundaries. If he persists, leave him. It doesn't matter how much you like him, a guy that doesn't respect you isn't worth the time, effort, or emotion, I don't care how "perfect" he is otherwise.
Sit down and think about exactly how far you are comfortable going. Stick to this spot until it changes. It may change as you get older, as you meet new people, or as your marital status changes. No matter what, don't allow yourself to be pressured by anything.
I admire you for your morals.
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As everyone else has said, you need to set limits and say no. Tell him that under no circumstances will you do anything more than kissing at this point in your life. Explain to him that it's against your beliefs and is very important to you. If he persists in trying after that, end the relationship. I know you like him, but will you still like him if he hurts you?
Also, how old is he? You said you're fourteen; if he's any older than 16 or younger than 12, you should drop him like a bad habit no matter what happens, for legal reasons (it could be messy if the relationship ends up lasting; one of you could get in trouble if you DO end up going farther than kissing). Also, at age 14 it's very dangerous to date someone older than yourself, especially if they insist on a very pyhsical relationship. Some older guys are genuine, but some are also just looking for you-know-what, and with older guys it's much harder to get the scoop on them from other girls. And older guys tend to be bigger and stronger than teenage ones, which makes them generally more dangerous. Plus, at your age, almost anything beyond kissing with an older guy could get him in trouble with the law, which would be very awkward and probably painful for you.
And before you go on about, "but I like him a lot!" remember that sometimes we are attracted to people based on wholly physical or insignificant things. The guy I have the biggest crush on now is an absolute pig, who objectifies girls and has no interest in anything but what your beau seems to be interested in. I have a crush on him becuase he's very intelligent and witty, and it pains me that I can't date him, but I accept that doing so would be harmful to us both. Sometimes, no matter how much you like a guy, you just have to let go. Some guys aren't worth dating, some guys just come by at the wrong time in your life, some guys are just pigs.
Tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't respect that, get rid of him. Whether you like him or not isn't what matters here; it's whether you're safe and whether you like you. And if you give into the pressure? Trust me, you won't like yourself at all.
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stand up for your faith! Don't do anything you are not comfortable with! if he really likes you he will understand. Just don't drop your faith! no sex until marriage!
hope i helped!
xoxo
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Even if you feel you like him a lot, doing something you don't want to isn't right. I understand how you feel, a lot of teenage girls are pressured into doing things they don't want to with guys. If he truly loved you, he could wait. I know a good site you could go to, it's www.pureloveclub.com .. it has stuff on how waiting is the right thing to do and everything. Goodluck, and remember never do anything you don't feel comfortable with!
Hope I helped!
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well you should never do anything you don't want to and event though you like him alot don't put your self in that possion sit and talk to him tell him how you feel about yalls relationship and let him know your boundrys and how when he ask you to do stuff you don't want to do makes you fell he should totaly understand and if he dosen't he isn't worth it
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Just tell him how you feel about alot of touching and stuff and how much you like him...if you likes you alot he wont mind and he wont get mad...!
cody
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i dont think you should compromise your values for a guy who doesnt respect them in the first place.
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Well, thats really good your standing up for urself. Maybe you should try dating a christian so you dont have to worry about that.If you really like this guy, invite him to church with you and so he will realize what he is doing is wrong. Maybe you should have a talk with him about it and tell him your opinion on that and how u feel. He may just listen and yall could go out and be fine and not worry about that!
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My opinion: Your values are important, stick to them. If you really like this guy, be honest and establish your boundaries. If he violates those boundaries that you have established, he doesn't respect you, and furthermore, does not deserve you. In such a case, kick him to the curb honey...Find someone who shares your morals!
Best of luck ;)
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just tell him you are not doing anyhting like that. Tell him you like him alot, but you dont want to do all of that. And see how he feels. hope i helped!
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you can still like him, but let him know you have limits and boundaries, tell him no more than kissing. 14 is even young to kiss, in my opinion
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Hey hunny,
We all get put into positions like that and its pure peer pressure. :) That's a problem with a lot of girls including me...they feel obligated to fool around with a guy just to have him stick around, and thats so wrong. No guy is worth that.
I am a very devout Chistian too and I know the position you are being put in right now, because I went through the same thing. Explain to this guy that you really like about how you feel about this. Tell him exactly what you told us, on how you feel and you don't like/want to do stuff more than kissing with him. If he understands and respects you he is SO worth you. If he calls you prude and dumps you/moves on he's a jerk who wants to use girls to get some. And who says there is anything wrong with being prude. Stand your ground and be proud :) Don't give in :)
Hope I helped & Good Luck, babe...
Pura Morena
xo0x adriana
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