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hot/cold treatment
I have a friend that consistently acts highly interested in everything I do and offers help that I don't really need. He extends invitations for me to participate in events he will be participating in. He seems excited to see me and strikes up conversation over redundant things. Recently I called him to take him up on an offer he made, he acted distant, cold and brief and said he would call back and didn't. What is going on? Is he interested, flaky, did I misinterpret his intentions, should I just brush him off now?
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I tend to believe that when a man acts in an inconsistent manner, it's the equivalent of him saying, "I like you, I just don't like you enough." But, that is just my experience, I could be wrong.
I highly recommend, "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It might not change your life, but you won't find yourself over-analyzing your relationships nearly as often.
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This guy of yours is probably either overwhelmed that you want to do something with him, or you caught him at a bad time or something. But also, don't forget that guys like to be chasers, and girls to be running away. guys, also like girls, subconsciously like a challenge. so, just give the guy a chance. ask him to do something no-pressure, like go to a movie or meet somewhere or whatever you feel comfortable doing. Give him another chase and if it doesn't really work out, then i suggest becoming interested in someone else. hope it works. i'm always here, mandy.
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just ignore him! he isnt worth it if hes like that. or.just call him and demand an explaination
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anonymous -
It is indeed odd for him to start behaving significantly different around you considering the information you provided. If your friendship with him means a lot to you, then I wouldn't brush him off. But if not, maybe you should consider it. Get to the bottom of it first before you make your decision though; it all might be just a misunderstanding.
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well i think that you shold wait a little before thinking of brushing him off because for somebody to show so much interest and then stop once doesn't mean he isn't interested. the best thing to do is to see if he starts acting like his oldself and if he does i would keep him as a friend, but if he shows no signs of interest and doesn't talk to you much, you might think about brushing him off. but it's always better to make sure and not take a guess because something might have resently happened to him or something. So my advice is to talk to him and see if he is the same around you or not and to see if he shows interest at all.
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