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death
ok well this girl that my best friend knows died this weekend and she was really upset, and this other girl freaked out on me and my other best friend in homeroom, so me and him got all pissed. and now i have a huge headache, and i feel bad for the girl who died, and i didnt even know her and i miss her, but im just so sick of hearing about it. everyone has a different stories about how she did it, but me and my friend are just so mad because me and him didnt do anything and i guess thats why people are freaking out on us??
i just dont know what to do.. im so pissed off.
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I am sorry :(
I'm not sure where to start. I guess, first, I should state that everyone copes differently with death. Some people need to talk about it and cry. Some people don't.
When my uncle died, a lot of people in my family were...very, very emotional. My cousin, Ben, was not. While he wasn't very close to my uncle, we all knew that he too was mourning in his own way. But he never cried. Instead, he coped with my uncles death by trying to be strong, and did a lot to help the younger kids in the family. I know he must have been hurt too, but I am very proud of the way he reacted to the situation.
My point is that some people in your school are coping with the loss by talking about it and allowing themselves to be upset. But just because you and your friend don't act as upset, doesn't mean that either of you aren't, and your definitely not doing anything wrong. People around you should understand, and should not be angry with you. The people who are lashing out at you are probably too young and immature to realize this. So don't feel guilty if your not locked in a bathroom stall, wailing with all the other girls in your homeroom.
I can understand that you don't want to talk about it. Or hear about it for that matter. I wouldn't want to hear other people talking about it either, especially if a lot of people are spreading rumors as to how she died. Spreading rumors about the deceased, in my opinion, is pretty low. To me it's kind of like turning a tragic event into a trivial piece of gossip.
The next time someone confronts you about your lack of emotion, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, but try to do it in a calm, caring way. For example, you could say, "I miss her too," and leave it at that. You are stating that you care about her just as much as they do, and maybe they will take the hint that you are grieving too, just in a quiet way.
Try to be patient with your school. I know that it is hard now, but eventually everyone will work out what they are feeling and the emotional stress will disappear. Best wishes to you ;)
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sooner or later people will stop tlking about it just dont bring it up in conversations...just let it cool off!!!
hope i helped
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just show some compassion.. people are obsiously upset
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