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I want to be free......
I want to be carefree, go to another country like japan, have a decent job, get a girlfriend, do whatever i want and never think of tomorrow or yesterday (while im still young). However, I want to be able support my parents so they can enjoy their life w/o breaking their back at work, because they went through so many and suffered so much to brought the family to US and had worked for the past 30yrs plus. So all there is in my head is "find some way or job that pay ALOT, so my parents doesn't have to work," but deep down in my heart, i felt that im being held back by my own self, from what i really want to do. I dont want to abandon my parent, but i also want to enjoy my youth (im 20 btw). Unfortunately, i decided to sacrafice my youth and try to find some way to get rich so i can support my parents..... I don't really have a question for u advisors, because i know what i have to do. I just want to hear ur advice in general,maybe there's miracle way to solve my problems.........
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
It has been my experience that if you live to fulfill the expectations of others (even parents whom you love) instead of living to fulfill your own expectations, you will be unhappy. Maybe sucessful, but unhappy. I assume your parents love you, do you think that is what they want?
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uhh... aren't you grabbing for something out of your reach? i mean, there's a chance everything would work out like you want, but it's like O.OOO1%. Try to just stay alive for now, and then work your way up from there. YEAH.
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you have to work for it.. go to college or save for it. work your butt and you'll get what you want. (Easy come, easy go)
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So, you want to do whatever you want and have no worries...
don't we all.
But you know what? It doesn't happen. You'll always have some sort of worries, going to Japan won't fix anything, hell, my sister is over in Chine... she's now burned out form living in Taiwan, and thinks going to mainland China is the answer - yeah, she's a slow learner in that regard. She doesn't know what to do in life because she wants someone else to tell her what to do... yet she's 25 with two older brothers... she's an adult, she has to live her own life, and no matter what she does, she has to live with her choices, because the choices are hers alone.
So, you have to choose trying to chase a "dream" that isn't even a concrete goal (I mean, aspiring to be an actor, or becoming a doctor... that's something concrete, that's attainable - you've listed no such thing) or you can choose to start making real choices - choices where you have to balance career and family, choices where you have to set goals for yourself and work to accomplish them.
So yeah, go find a job that pays "a lot"... and hope that the job doesn't get cut, or that your department isn't out-sourced or off-shored... hope that the company doesn't go belly-up... etc etc etc.
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