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Im 17f and ive never had a boyfriend. It used to bug me, but i dont have a problem with it anymore. Not to sound conceited, but i could easily get a boyfriend if i wanted one. But right now Im not really looking for one. Plus, i have high standards. Well my family constantly makes fun of me because ive never had a boyfriend. And my sister (14, who is the hugest slut and will have sex with anyone who says hi to her) always calls me a lesbian. Then my dad and her will laugh and make jokes back and forth about it. It really offends me that they say things like this because it hurts, even if its not even true. I try to not let it bother me, but they do it all the time and its hard to ignore. Ive already told them to shut up about it, but then they bother me even more. What am i supposed to do? Even if they are joking, it still bugs me.
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Wow. You live in a family of jerks, I guess. I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend. Many of my friends have never had boyfriends. My family doesn't bother me about it; their families don't bother them about it. Honestly, many girls don't have their first boyfriend until they're in college.
Not having a boyfriend says nothing bad about you. All it says is that you respect yourself enough to wait for a guy who is truly worth dating, not some jackass who wants you for sex or to feel better about himself. You should be proud of that, and your family should, too.
The best thing you can do right now is ignore them. It sounds like they're teasing you pretty seriously so I doubt this would stop if you talked to them about it. All you can do is stay true to yourself. If you don't want a boyfriend, why would you get one to please the family that puts you down and makes fun of you?
Honestly, it's not that weird that your sister's teasing you because she's young and is too dumb to know better. But it's pretty sick that your dad joins in. He's supposed to be a mature person and support his daughters, not mock them because they're not screwing guys left and right. You really are a better person than these two so don't give in to them.
Just keep waiting. Someday, you will have a boyfriend who loves you for who you are and truly cares about you, while your sister will probably have a couple of kids and an STD (or a couple of STDs and a kid :P). Your family isn't being fair to you and you deserve better treatment, but stupid people don't tend to get smarter over time. Ignore them. Don't even say anything when they tease you. At first, this may make it worse since they'll do worse things to try and get you mad. But if you ignore them long enough, they may get bored and stop. Otherwise, you're giving them exactly what they want when you get upset. They want you to get upset because it makes them feel like they have power over you and that they're better than you. They're not. Don't let them have that power because you are better and you deserve better.
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Tell them that even if it is a joke, it isn"T funny. You should tell them how you really feel. Say that it hurts you and that it isn't right of them.
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First, I would like to commend your astounding intelligence and maturity. Your only seventeen years old and you've all ready figured out that there are more important things in this world than worrying about boys. My friends are in their twenties, and some of them still haven't realized what you know so well. Good for you ;)
My advice: I don't think your dad knows how much his comments hurt your feelings. When you tell him to "shut up" he probably thinks that you're kidding too. So, when you and your dad are alone, tell him how much his behavior hurts your feelings in the most gentle way. I'm sure he'll understand, and he will probably apologize for all the jokes he made in the past.
You can try to talk to your sister too, but it might not work. It sounds like she's not as mature as you are, so she probably won't understand. If she doesn't change her behavior you can try two things. One: the high road. Simply ignore her. (She probably won't have as much fun if your dad is no longer participating.) Two: the slightly lower road. When I say, "slightly lower," I don't mean that you should hurt her feelings. I mean that, I have a sister too, and I'm not above making witty come-backs. Just don't get too carried away ;)
Best of luck...
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Ugh, that sounds terrible. Have you talked to them about it? They might not realize they're hurting you, but if you talk to htem, tell them your point of view and why you don't think dating is important at the moment, maybe they will lay off. Ask them how they would feel about it, if someone was constantly picking on them. This sounds sappy, but say that you are making a new family rule. Whenever someone says something mean to someone, that person has to say "The way you're talking to me makes me feel bad." Chances of that working are really only 50/50, though. Hopefully you'll be out of there in a couple of years, but I hope you get it all worked out before then.
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i understand where your coming from! my brother wont let it down that i havent had a boyfriends, and plenty have guys have asked my out. i feel that i should wait for the right person, cuase the truth is i really only want one guy..(which is different i know b/c you dont want a realtionship but still) what you believe is totally up to you, and you shouldnt let you younger sisters bickering bother you. tell her you dont want a boyfriend and that if she wants to make fun of you for it then thats ridiculous, by her being a player, shes gonna be less happy later in life, while you will be very happy..hope i helped *KaysEe
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do u expect ppl to read this? its long!!
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Ok. Tell your parents and your sister that you are not into looking for a guy because your concentration is on other things besides guys. Tell them that your feelings get hurt when they "joke" around with you. Tell them how you feel and im sure it will stop. Hope I helped! Please Rate
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