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Should I Ask How He Feels?
Okie dokie, recently I started working....on the job, I've discovered that I am crushing on my manager and all my co-workers can tell that I like him..... he's a dancer and all this stuff so a lot of people think he is gay, but I don't think he is.... when we are around he eachother, we make the best of eachothers time... and on the first day of work I got real sick and he was very concerned. Then the next day, he asked me if I was feeling better, so he is really caring. But he laughs at everything I say and it seems like he flirts with me back...so I dunno if he likes me or not..... and we have SOOOO MUCH IN COMMON! But I think that he won't date me (or I think I wouldn't have a chance) because of the fratnerization issue (dating anyone higher personal than you which will cause you to get fired or moved to another department.). So what should I do? Like me and him could keep a down-low relationship or somthing, but is he even interested?
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Whether he's interested or not, you should probably avoid the issue entirely. If there's a no-fraternization rule at your office place, both of you could be in serious trouble if your relationship went anywhere.
Also, think about the future: what happens if you break up? How awkward would it be to work with him? And if anyone else found out, you can be sure that anytime you advance, they won't think it's because you're good at crunching numbers.
Cheers.
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Don't even ask.He may like you but if he does let him be the one to say something.You could get fired yourself if he doesn't return the feeling and he thinks it will become a problem.You can't date every guy who happens to like you after all.Some will just be friends.
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I can't say whether or not he likes you.
What I can say is this: even if dating was not an issue in your company, dating your co-worker can become complicated. I met my last boyfriend at work, and we continued to work together for a year after we started dating.
Some common issues:
-Co-workers will eventually find out that you are dating. They may not mean to be nosy, but they will end up getting involved in your business, one way or the other.
-No matter how happy you and your partner are with your relationship, you will fight. Having a fight, and then having to face each other at work makes it more difficult to remain professional.
I think before you give any more thought as to what his feelings are, you should think about whether you want a relationship with extra complications.
Good luck ;)
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