|
unfair?
my friend just broke up with her bf after 3 months and shes been reallly sad.. and i`ve been there for her the whole time listening to her say the same things over and over... but i just listen and tell her how bad i feel for her. but i also like this guy and everyonce in a while i talk about how he doesnt even notice me and it makes me sad. and she started freaking out about how i have nothing to be complaining about and its rele stupid and she gets rele annoyed that i talk about him "all the time". this was the first time i found out it was annoying her, and i dont even talk about him that much.. i was thinking that after listening to her complain so much, maybe i had a little room to talk about me for a second... isnt that unfair that she wont even support my problems??? i`ll rate high! x3
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Do you like her x? I'm a little confused about that.
If it's her x you are talking about then I can see where she might freak now that you're talking about him.She probably would like to keep off that subject for awhile.
If it's some other guy you like then she's out of line.
She's probably just kinda down in the dumps about guys in general right now.Give her some time and she'll listen to you.
]
"Simply Gobsmacked" has a point. Whether she broke up with her boyfriend, or her boyfriend broke up with her, it doesn't change the fact that breaking up can be very upsetting. She's probably just upset, and when you are upset it is sometimes difficult to respond to others in a caring way.
However, her feelings do not change the fact that her behavior towards you was unfair. You are right, a friendship is a relationship between two people. Like all relationships, friendships require a certain amount of give and take. You've been giving and giving lately, it's perfectly understandable that you would need to do a bit of the taking...no matter what the situation.
I suggest that you try to be patient and supportive. When she is a little more emotionally stable, confront her in a gentle manner. Explain that you were hurt by her behavior, and that you feel that her reaction was unfair. If she is your friend, she will understand and try to keep that in mind. Maybe next time she's in a similiar situation and you need to talk about you, she'll remember and do her share of the listening.
]
I think thats is really unfair you was there when she had broken up with her boy friend and you stook through her with that now she needs to stick up for you and realise that you like this guy i think because she has no boyfriend shes feeling a bit jelious but thats perfectly normal. Tell her what ive just said about that you was there for her and everything and you just wish she'd stop getting annoyed when you talk to this guy you like she should be happy for you! but i guess because shes still upset shes taking it out on you because there is no one else to take it out on!
luv roxie
]
That is unfair. Like somebody else said, she broke up with him! If she still had feelings for him why did she do it? I would confront her. It's not fair that you're always there to support her, but she can't do the same for you! Real friends support each other no matter what! Goodluck, I hope everything works out!
Hope I helped!
]
It is definitely unfair! You helped her out through her problems, and now she won't help you out with yours? That is very unfair! Doesn't she remember that she was the one who broke up with him. If I were you, I would talk to her and tell her how you truly feel about this situation! I hope I helped you!
]
It is VERY unfair that she wont support you in your hard times when you are there for her. SHE broke up with HIM so its her loss. Talk to her and tell her that real friends are there for eachother no matter what! Tell her that if she is oh so sad over this guy that she needs to talk to him about it. If he doesnt want to try again..her problem. She needs to stop thinking about herself for a second and listen to you and help you with your life a little bit. Tell her also about when she freaked out..maybe its not important to her but its important to you.
<3-Tiffany
]
Hun, she's really upset over breaking up with her boyfriend, so she's probably distracted by her own problem that she feels somewhat wronged when you talk about a problem you have. She may feel that breaking up is worse than your problem with a guy. Or, she could be jealous that you have someone you care about, and she doesn't anymore. Who knows! Going through a breakup is a tough time, so just try to bear it, (Unless she does something truly awful) and hope that she'll go back to normal soon. <3
]
Yea it's not all nice of her but she might not even notice what she is doing. Some times when people are hurt they don't care about anyone else and become selfish but there is not much you can do except telling her thats how you feel.
]
More Questions: |