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OK, I like to of my friends. They are both really nice and sweet, and I am going out with one of them. He is so nice and sweet, and I really love him. But I think I also love my other friend. I can't stop thinking about either of them. I don't know if I should take a brake from going out with the first one or not. I mean, if I had to loose either my life or he lose his, I would rather lose mine. But I also feel this way about the other guy. I don't know, I am just so confused. I love them both, and I know the guy I go out with loves me, but I don't know about the other one. I mean, and this is hard for me to say even though I know it is anonymous, but I am going to try to say it to its full (this might end up getting kind of long). OK, they both used to like each other, and last night I found out that they had seen each other without clothes using their web cams. And I am ok with that; it doesn't affect my relationship with either of them. I just don't know if I like the guy I go out with or the other one. I mean, I have never had any dreams about my boyfriend, but last night I had a dream that me and the other guy were having sex!! And I know that I would never do that. But the thing is I don't know if that means I should continue dating my current boyfriend, or try to go out with the other guy. I honestly love them both, and don't want either of them to ever get hurt. I just don't know anymore. I have so much going on right now that I probably couldn't tell you if the sky is above our heads or below our feet. I just really need some help right now. I would normally talk to my bf or the other guy about this kind of thing, but this time I can't. I think it is also important to mention that I am a guy.

First of all...Wow. That's really confusing, but one thing caught my attention. You don't know if the other guy like you. Do you really want to chance breaking up with a boyfriend who loves you for someone your not even sure likes you. You said you love them both, but you can't love them the same. (Let me point out it really isn't fair to your boyfriend to feel this way about another guy, while you're dating him, but you can't help who you love right?) Alright....Close your eyes and think....Which guy can you not live without? Which one can you see yourself being with longer? Which one could you give up if you had to give up one? But don't break up with your boyfriend or "take a break" until you're totally sure who you want. Good Luck!

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Me and my best friend both like this boy who is so cute but yesterday he told me that he likes me and not my friend i dont want to hurt her feelings but she keeps throwing herself at him and he doesn't even like her what should i do(female,14)

It would probably be better if you told your friend, not this guy. That would most likely just embaress her to hear it from him. Tell her that you like him and he likes you back, and ask her if she would be okay with you two dating. If she's a good friend she should be okay with it since you both like him. Only one of you could get him right? Just make sure he doesn't get between you two.

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I just got a nose ring. I work at walmart and they said NO facial jewlery at all in the policy rules. Now... I bought a clear ring for it, but I'm scared to put it in. They guy said 6 weeks then I can change it... but I can't wait that long. Is it okay to put a clear one in before its heald and just keep it clean and stuff. Or should I reeealllly wait?

Angelina

As long as you keep one in at all times until it heals it will be alright. Make sure to clean it everyday

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whats the difference between"hook-up" and "going-out"?

When you just hook-up with someone it's just casual thing(Mainly sex), your not dating the person exclusively. You have no attachment to them, no strings attached. When you're dating someone you're in an exclusive relationship, you can't date or hook-up with any other guys or girls.

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About how much does a Bentley cost, give or take?

Around $221,990 - $263,990

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Ok, so normally I'm the one giving the advice, but right now I really need some advice, so here's my story...

It's been going on all of my life..My Aunt is a Cocaine addict. She has a son who is 2 years older that I am. So, about 4 years ago, when he was 12 and i was 10, my mom and stepfather finally decided to take him away from my Aunt, and he came to live with us. But, during the year after we took him in, my stepfather came down with lung cancer. He went through everything, like chemo, and radiation and it finally went away. Now, by this time which is about 2 years ago, my aunt starts doing a little better. My cousin, John, by now is 14 and we let him visit his mother more. But then his mother goes in jail, and my stepfathers cancer comes back. So, now about 1 month ago, my cousin is now 16, and a junior in high school. He is acting out in any way possible, smoking pot, having sex, and just not listening to anyone. Also, my stepfather is in very bad condition with his cancer. He can barely walk himself and he probably only has a few months, if that, to live. So we have had it, and we let John go back with his mother. But, we can't help from feeling guilty and feeling like we failed.

So, what I'm asking is if you think ther is anything else we can or should do to help? And if we should feel all of this guilt, and feeling of failure?

Thanks..

It's not your fault, you did everything you could. When things like this happen some people don't know how to react or even act, they don't know what to do and they don't want to look weak. He's putting up a front. You don't know what he thinks or feels, he could blame himself for the whole thing. Just let him know you and your family are there for him, that's all you can do. He's going to have to learn the hard way and from experiance that what he's doing won't solve anything. It won't make anything better, but until he realizes that there is nothing you can do. Try not to feel so guilty.

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does anyone know any songs
like about someone you want to have but you cant
because they dont feel the same way about you or something

or maybe songs about where like you think of someone all the time
ect ect


any genre.

pleasee help
thankss

Check out these:

http://breakup-songs.com/unrequitedlovesongs.html

Don't know if it's what you're looking for though.

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I used to be friends with this girl for a couple of years. But then me and her got in a huge fight. So now we dont talk to each other anymore. I found out that shes not a real friend, shes just a fake one. The problem is that shes in my english, and science class and I sit right next to her. She's at my lunch and I dont sit with her no more. It's really hard to ignore her. Thats what all my friends have been telling me to do. Its just hard. Shes such a b*t** to me and she screams and yells and trys really hard to be mean to me. She talks bad about me to everyone. I havent talked to her since. The teachers always put us next to each other in class. :( Today I had to go into a different room with her because we got in another big fight. AND all my other friends like her, but some of them dont. How can I advoid her, and not have her in my pressnece? (sp?) Its compltely the most annoying situation I have ever had I want her to stop. And Im never becoming friends with her ever again. What should I do to make this stop?

There is nothing you can really do to make her stop, I'm guessing the school counselor won't help at all. Just don't react to what she says about you or to you. If she gets a reaction out of you then she won't stop, because that's probably what she wants. Show her that you don't care what she says, that it doesn't affect you. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she got to you.

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so..i dont think i like my boyfriend anymore but he always says that he loves me and he would die if we werent together..ect...so should i break up with him? i've been hanging out with his friend a lot and we have kind of a conection but i cant like him because then my boyfriend would get really mad..what should i do?

If you don't like him anymore then you shouldn't just stay with him because you're afraid about hurting his feelings. It's not fair to you. When you break up with him of course he'll be hurt, but chances are he won't die. You can't have a one-sided relationship, but I think going out with his friend would hurt him even more.

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For my whole high school life, all I wanted was a nice sweet guy to be with. I met this kid from another school recently and hes the sweetest kid ever and he's eventually going to ask me out. You would think I would be so happy. I finally found a sweet person who likes me. But I'm not happy at all. I seem to be in worse shape then when I started. This seems to happen everytime. I think I like someone, then it starts to get serious, then I change my mind and back out. Whats wrong with me? Should I go out with him when he asks me, and see how it goes from there? Or because I'm having doubts should I get out of it now? I don't know, any advice would be appreciated.....

If you like him then you should go out with him, just don't go out with him because you think you should. Just because he's a sweet guy and he likes you that doesn't mean you have to be attracted to him. You could think you like someone and they may not turn out as great as you think they are, or maybe you have commitment phobia? I don't know. So if you like him then give him a chance, if you really don't like him (and aren't just scared to be in a relationship) then don't go out with him. There are tons of guys in the world, I'm sure you'll find one you like.

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What are some good sites for fanfics? Besides www.quizilla.com and www.mibba.com

Sites that have real life people too...not just fictional characters. Thanks in advance if you answer.

Fanfiction.net is the best Fanfic site ever. That's where I post all my stories.

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is it wrong for a 17 year old boy
going out with a 13 year old girl ?
please leave your oppions and commets

There is a big age different, but I have a friend who is 15 and she went out with a guy who was 22 for over a year. I personally don't think it's wrong or wierd, if you guys really like each other and the age difference doesn't bother you. Honestly, that's all that matters. As long as you two aren't bothered by the age difference, it doesn't matter what other people think or say. However, keep in mind that next year you'll be 18 and she'll still be a minor so it'll be against the law. It will be illegal to have any sort of sexual contact with her... and even if you don't it could still turn into a bad situation. If someone found out you had a sexual relationship (if you do) you can be charged for statutory rape and a felony. You would be listed as a sexual prediotor and would most likely go to prison.

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people keep saying I am a rocker and I like that because I want to be rocker or emo BUT the problem is that I act like a preppy girl and I dress like that and this school year I keep think WHAT IS MY LABEL??????

You're you. You don't need a label, and you shouldn't want to label yourself. Nobody can tell you who you are, only you can. You can't just pretend to be someone you're not, then you're just a poser. So just be yourself and don't pay attention to how people label you.

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i like this guy named eric. and i've liked him for a while now. he broke up with this one girl but is still in love with his first "real" girlfriend. i dont want to tell him i like him out of the blue but i dont want to hide it forever. suggestions?

Do you really want to go out with him? I would'nt want to go out with a guy who's still in love with his ex, because chances are things will never be able to get serious between you because he's still emotionally attached to someone else. If you do want to be with him...Then yah, you should tell him you like him or flirt/drop hints, see if he figures it out himself. Or just tell him straight up. I wouldn't suggest going out with him until he's over his first girlfriend, but it's your choice. Good Luck.

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okay, so tomorrow i am going to get 2 vaccines, i think cholera, and typhoid, because i am going to india in the summer. I am soo terrified of vaccines, and shots. The last time i had a shot was a looooong time ago. So do you know if cholera and typhoid vaccines hurt? Pleaseeee answer quickly because i am going tomorrow. Please help mee...i am soo scared.

Do they hurt? Have any advice on what is should do? I could bring my ipod, BUT it'd still hurt. im scared, help meee please!! :]

It's better if you don't know when she's giving you the shot. Most doctors or nurses ask if you want them to count down, but who wants to know how many seconds they have left until a pointy object is jammed in their arm? (Personally I like to look when their giving me a shot, but I'm just weird.)So don't have them count and don't look at the needle. It stings a little but it doesn't hurt that much. Your arm will be a little soar after a couple of hours but that's it. So relax and try not to freak out, everything will be fine.

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hey :]
okay, well this guy i met at my brothers soccer was the nicest and cutest guy ever. we talked a little but on msn before and he said all these sweet thigns to me and he gave me his number :] we talked a lot at my brothers soccer, untill the last practice. he didnt talk to me :S now, hes always away on msn and busy, he never talks to me. im really cinfused b.c before i thought he liked me and now.. idk .
help .
thanks ♥

No one on this site will be able to tell you if this guy still likes you. It sounds like he liked you, maybe he is just busy now or maybe not. Talk to your brother, he may know what's going on or could just talk to him face to face the next time you see him and ask what's up. You can't just be into someone one day and not into them the next. So talk to him and see if everything's alright with you two, but you're going to have to go out of your way to talk to him. You can't just wait for him to talk to you or get un-busy.

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I have a bunion (pretty small/medium) on my left foot, and got approved to have surgery to remove it and reallign my foot. I was wondering a few things:

-if anyone has had it, how long does it generally take to heal, and be back on your feet?

-Is there a lot of post-surgery pain?

-Also, i was told that i wouldn't be able to get the area wet, so I'd have to cover it with a bag while taking a shower.. are there any alternatives, and how annoying is this?

Any other feedback on bunion surgery is greatly appreciated!

Here, read these:

http://orthoinfo.aaos.org/booklet/view_report.cfm?Thread_ID=7&topcategory=Foot

http://www.bchealthguide.org/kbase/topic/detail/surgical/hw33928/detail.htm

It basically explains the procedure and the recovery, and a couple of other things you might need to know. If you don't already.

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i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and i am really in love with him. but the thing is that i got offered a modeling job in california. and i dont know what willhappen to us. he doesnt want me to go but i really want to. i dont want to give it up and i dont know if he is just tesing me or what i dont want to lose him or this oppertunity what should i do he is also going to college on the east coast next year and i will only be a junior

Sometimes you have to sacrifice things for the one you love, other times you don't. Long distance relationships are hard on couples, but if you really love each other you could make it work. You shouldn't have to choose between your boyfriend and your dream. There are so many ways to communicate if you do decide to go, you'll just have to factor each other into your new lives. Talk to your boyfriend though, find out how he feels about a long distance relationship amd how he really feel about you taking the job. Make sure to tell him how badly you want this too, he should suppport you.

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Ok, on the weekend I had my 2 best guy mates over and my best girl mate. I've known for a long time that one of my guy mates who I will call Ben likes me and if I was single I would probably like him back. But I have a boyfriend. So I had them over and my girly friend and the other guy went off and Ben went and lied down on my mum's bed coz he was feeling sick(we were all very drunk). I went and lied with him because I was bored with no-one to talk to. We fell asleep in the early hours after a nice talk. Next thing I know I wake up and he's moaning my name and grinding himself against my butt and leg. I was still half asleep so I just rolled over and went back to sleep...Wake up I don't know how long later and he's trying to finger me. I moved and went back to sleep again and nothing more happened.I didnt really think much of it the next morning coz I was so tired and hungover but i've been thinking about it now and it makes me sick! I told my boyfriend and he wants me to go to the police and if not he wants his name and number and shit so he can get him bashed!! But the thing is, I dont blame Ben becoz he was drunk and here I am lying next to him, it mustve been pretty tempting because he does like me, and the thing is I don't blame him! But I know the right thing to do is go to the police...Please Help me :S

If I were you I wouldn't go to the police. He was drunk and probably wouldn't have acted like that if he were sober. It's really up to you though, whether or not you want to go to the police. He didn't rape you, no harm was done other than you feeling disgusted with him. Your boyfriend has a right to be mad, if I was him I would be. Just talk to him and try to calm him down, he can't make you go to the police. And your boyfriend beating the guy up can cause more problems. Plus you can get charged for underaged drinking if your underage. Go talk to Ben, he was probably too drunk to know what he was doing.

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this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?

As long as you let your brother take the blame for something he didn't do you're going to feel guilty. You may get into more trouble then your brother, but your brother wasn't driving. It wasn't his fault and it's not fair for you to let him take the blame, even if he insisted. You should step forward and accept the consequences of your actions. Or else you will continue to feel guilty.

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