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boyfriend or career?
i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and i am really in love with him. but the thing is that i got offered a modeling job in california. and i dont know what willhappen to us. he doesnt want me to go but i really want to. i dont want to give it up and i dont know if he is just tesing me or what i dont want to lose him or this oppertunity what should i do he is also going to college on the east coast next year and i will only be a junior
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you do what you want to do. Think about it first then when you make your desision go and talk to him and tell him what you have chosen. Be proud what ever you chose
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I'm not sure I can actualy advise what either of you should do but I will say that some opportunities don't come around very often so you need to take the chances to grab them.
Regardless whether you take this job or not in a years time your boyfriend will be going away to college anyway won't he? In essence leaving you behind while he's away at college? I think at the end of the day it seems you are both being dragged into opposite directions so it might be something you both need to decide.
I don't think it's fair for him to ask you to give up your dreams anymore than it is for you to ask him to give up going to college. I'd say talk about it but if this is what you really want to do than all I can say is to go for it. Talking it through with your boyfriend you might be able to both come to some kind of compromise. I mean you'll both be far from each other but it won't mean you love each other any less at all. You'd have holidays and such to visit each other. I know that sometimes long distance relationships just don't work out but I think they can if both people really love each other and want it to work out.
Sorry that I can't really provide you with much help on this. :[ It may even come to you both having to break things off so you can both go your own ways and as bad as that sounds sometimes it does happen but it doesn't mean your paths won't ever cross again. Destiny has a weird way of making that happen if it's meant to be. I'm sorry I can't offer you anything else that you might be able to do which will allow everyone concerned to get what they want.
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It depends on how long you'll be gone. Is it a permanent move? Two years is a really serious relationship, and California can't possibly be the only place you could find a job. Try looking for a modeling job in your area, at least until your boyfriend goes to college. After that, you'll have some more free time, and maybe you could travel out for a couple months then.
Think about it from his perspective. He's probably petrified that you'll go, fall in love with California, and never come back. Reassure him that it's not a permanent thing, you still love him, he'll be in college by then anyways, and that you'll come back.
Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck!
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well, he will be leaving you for college also. so in my opinion I'd take the career. modeling is a big deal, you have the opportunity so many wish they had. see if you can wor things out with him. explain to him why you are choosing this over him . Good luck & hope I helped
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You need to always do what is best for you and stick with your own goals. He is not the first guy and won't be the last to try to come between a woman and her dreams. If he really cares for you then he will want what is best for you and trust your decision. Tell him that he is important to you, but so are your goals in life. He is going away to college without you pretty soon anyway, and would not put off his dreams to hang out with you...be practical.
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That really is a tough choice! my advice to you is to make a list of the pros and cons for both. when making that list you have to take into consideration, that usually when a bf/gf goes off to college, no matter how hard the couple tries to make it work, it usually ends up with them breaking it off. another thing is has modeling been a dream of yours? if it has then staying with your bf might lead you to resent him, especially if you dont get another oppurtunity, this might be your big break! and most importantly if you and your bf are meant to be then no matter what happens you guys will make it through.
if you decide to take the job, then you just need to sit him down and tell him how much he means to you, but you can't pass up this oppurtunity and you dont want to end up resenting him.
if he loves you, and i mean truly loves you, then he will understand and wish you the best. Aren't you letting him go off to college on thbe east coast? so far away from you? you could ask him to stay near you and go to college, but your being understanding and you want the best for him..so he in turn should want the best for you.
in the end, I can't make this decision for you (though if i did i would take the job), you have to go with what feels right.
sorry this is really long and possibly very confusing... lol.. i wish you the best, and hope i helped in some way.
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Honey,
I hate to break it to you this way but if he really loves you then he would want you to take this wonderful opportunity. I know it's sad and I know it sucks leaving a loved one but boyfriends dont always stick around. You need someone to support you and NOT hold you back from your dreams.
Good luck hun.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*
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I think you should go beucase you cant miss out on this. This is to big of a opperunity for you. Im sorry, but you may love him but he should see how much you want this and he should let you go no matter what.
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Is this modelling oppurtunity a once in a lifetime chance? If not, then maybe you should pass it up. It could always come along again. If it's not, take this chance! It may not come back to you, so definitely take it.
Long distance relationships are not something I recommend. You're a junior in high school. He'll be a freshman in college. You meet new people, you move on. Sorry to break it to you, but the chances of you guys staying together are slim. Though you love him & have been together for a while, once distance is an obstacle, things change whether you want them to or not.
Don't let your boyfriend tell you not to go. Do what you want with your life. Do what makes you happy. If this is something that is going to make you happy & that you seriously wanna do, then pursue it. Don't let anyone hold you back from it.
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Hm, this is a tough one. I believe that you should do what you think is best for you and your future. If you want to be a model, then this is a once in a lifetime opportunity.
I could say "if he loves you, he'd go with you" but it's not that simple. He has his future to look after and you have yours. But whatever you do, don't sacrifice your future for a guy, ever!
Relationships come and go, and you can always try the long distance thing. Even if it doesn't work out, life moves on. Just don't stay with him just to keep him as a boyfriend, because you may regret it later.
Good luck!
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Sometimes you have to sacrifice things for the one you love, other times you don't. Long distance relationships are hard on couples, but if you really love each other you could make it work. You shouldn't have to choose between your boyfriend and your dream. There are so many ways to communicate if you do decide to go, you'll just have to factor each other into your new lives. Talk to your boyfriend though, find out how he feels about a long distance relationship amd how he really feel about you taking the job. Make sure to tell him how badly you want this too, he should suppport you.
::Jasmine::
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