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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

i am a freshman in highschool and there's this senior, *John. i knew him all throughout middle school until i was in 8th grade and we just seemed to drift apart. i always used to say "when your a senior, i'll be a freshman & you'll drive me!'" as a joke. now i really am a freshman and i had tottally forgotten about him until one day i walked into the cafeteria in the morning and before i sat down i caught his eye. we looked at eachother for a really long time but neither of us were going to say anything so i just smiled and sat down. i couldn't stop thinking about for the rest of the week. i accidentaly bumped into him in the hall and one of my friends grabbed me before i had a chance to say anything. let me just say before i go any further, we were best friends and when i knew him before i was WAYY to young to even think about him. it always seemed as if he made an effort to sit a couple of seats down from me in the mornings in the caf.

what could i say to start a conversation?

Tell him jokingly that you thought he was going to drive you.

Realistically, he used to be your best friend. You should have SOME sort of idea what to talk about, such as how are you, for starters, and how is your family, etc.

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My friend always ditches me.
& today she wrote this hugeeee apology.
I don't feel like i should forgive her, if shes always done it & said the same thing before.

What should i do?

Well, goes to show how much she is sorry since she had to write an apology rather than say it to your face. Some friend she is.

I'd call her out on it. Why should you forgive her for a repeated offence?

If that's all the better she treats her friends, then I'd find a new friend to chum with.

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what are some attractions in or near hershey, pennsylvania??? (besides hershey park)

http://www.google.com/maps?hl=en&lr=&rls=SUNA,SUNA:2006-48,SUNA:en&q=attractions&near=Hershey,+PA+17033&sa=X&oi=local&ct=title

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Hi. I'm wanting to get my fiance a necklace for our anniversery. Its really hard to describe what I'm looking for. A lot of guys have them and they come in silver or gold. Its like a chain sorta. Its sorta fancy. Sorry I can't describe it any better. If you have and idea what it is or any ideas at all for what I'm looking for please let me know.

Thanks

ebay buy it now price $21.75:

http://cgi.ebay.com/Mens-925-Silver-SP-Figaro-Chain-Chains-Necklace-20_W0QQitemZ280046255552QQcmdZViewItem


Amazon.com $14.66:

http://www.amazon.com/Diamond-Cut-Sterling-Silver-Necklace-Italian/dp/B00023K0LO

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Ok, so im only 15 but im pretty sure i want to go to Georgetown or maybe one of my other choices of colleges. But focusing on georgetown, thats a pretty good school, and i was wondering what my GPA should be to get in there also if anyone knows any extra activities or classes they look for, or know what would help me stand out. also with other colleges-- If i were looking to get into an ivy leage school like yale, what should my GPA be

You should talk to your school guidance councilor. They will find out all the information you need to know about all of the colleges you may want to attend.

They will find out what your GPA should be, any classes you should take while in high school, any extra curricular activities, such as that.

Some schools like to see X amount of hours of volunteer work in your community on your application. That's something else you need to find out about.

That's what your councilor is paid for, and they will help you in every way possible.

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I was taking a shower a few hours ago and when I got out, I went to turn the heater off because it felt like it was getting a little too warm in the bathroom I was in. When I got out of the shower and went to turn it off, I all of a sudden got extremely dizzy, and from the corners of my peripheral vision started seeing fuzzy, green optical illusions until I couldn't see anything, which was terrifying...my head started to hurt really badly, and when I could see again, the bathroom light was off. I was still standing in the same position and everything but I couldn't remember turning the light off. What could have possibly happened? What could have caused this? Please help?

If I were you, I would ask my parents to take me to the emergency room. When something like that happens, no matter what makes it happen, is cause to seek medical attention right away.

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alright so me and my boyfriend jake have been dating for mmm around 2 months .. and there is nothing going wrong in the relationship everything is all good.. but . now there is all of a sudden a problem.. see both of our birthdays are coming up in february .. ill be 15 and he'll be 18 .. and now hes getting all worried about what can happen if cops or someone found out he was dating a 15 year old and so we might have to break up and i just wanted to know if anyone knew a way that we could date without getting in trouble and shit . thanks :)

So, is this relationship a problem with either your parents or his? So far as I'm aware, as long as your parents don't have a problem with your dating this guy, everything should be OK.

Talk to your parents to get their feelings on the subject if you already haven't, then base your decision on what they think would be best.

If it so happens they don't care for you dating him, then yes, they can very well involve the police and file statutory rape charges.

If they don't think you dating him is the best option, it would be best to end it in order to not cause any trouble for him.

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What are the symptoms of cervical cancer?? Like can you tell when you have it?

http://www.coolnurse.com/cervical_cancer.htm

Scroll down for symptoms, read all for info. If you are at risk, get a pap/pelvic exam. You can only find out if you have it through testing from your doctor.

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hey everyone...well heres my problem...my boyfriend and i have been dating a little over a year now and things were pretty good...the biggest problem he has with me is that he says i talk to too many guys at my school...we dont go to the same school so hes bothered by it and i understand y...but thats just me and part of my personality...as long as i can remember ive always had a lot of guy friends...now like a month or so ago he wanted to take a break cause hes been busy and he wanted me to change...like not talk to too may guys...we're still faithful to each other but until i stop talking to as much guys as i used to he doesnt wanna get back with me...he wants me to prove to him that i dont talk to as much cause apparently i said i would before but didnt...i dont know how to "prove" to him that i dont and thats the only way hes gonna get back with me...the problem with that is is that he doesnt talk to anyone at my school he doesnt know anyone at my school so i dont exactly know how to prove it...ive been thinking about it for a while now but i just cant think of anything...i already dont talk to as many guys that part doesnt bother me but just to prove it to him...thats what i really really dont know...do you think you could help me find some ways to solve this and possibly help me "prove" to him that i dont anymore...its killing me and i really wanna get back with him id do anything for the relationship...DONT tell me to dump him cause thats now happening...thanks so much....
btw im 17/F

Why is it that you are the one who has to change? Why do you have to dump your friends for some guy? Are you supposed to shut yourself into a little box for the rest of your life? I think not.

You say you can't think of anything to prove yourself to him... Maybe because you shouldn't have to?

You say you are faithful, so why doesn't he trust you? The two most important things in any relationship is TRUST and HONESTY. He has no trust in you. Do YOU trust HIM? I imagine you do, or you wouldn't be so willing to give up on yourself for him. Why can't he give you the same respect?

If you change who you are for this guy, he is asking you to be fake. Why would you want to be that way? Why would he want you to be that way, for that matter?

But if you think this is something you HAVE to do, go ahead. But I'm going to tell you what- prepare to have him mistrust you for something different in the future, and make you change some more in order to keep him around. He needs to accept you for who you are, not what he wants you to be. You are not a puppy on a leash to come, sit, stay, roll over at his command.

A guy being a little jealous is flattering. A guy being this jealous should be insulting.

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so wen i swallow my right tonsil hurts only & there is a red bump on it. also, i know this is gross but i was having trouble breathing...and like i finally spit up this loogey and it was kinda bloody and brown and little green

i havent had a good appetite lately either?

wats wrong?

I can't tell you exactly what wrong, but I know it's nothing right. You should go to your doctor to have it checked out. You may need to get medication.

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we known each other since december 5..at that time i broke up with my ex & i met him..first we friends..i told him about my ex,,like how i feel,why we broke up,..he listened & try to ease my pain.he really good guy.but we had long distant realationship. but we ok.now he had base in hawaii.he in marine corps.now he in hawaii.we mailing each other,chatting everynight,made a phone call each other.but 2 weeks later,,he said he crushed on me..i said that too early to say that because we haven't meet regularly each other...& i can't believe that.after that we haven't talk each other,,because of me because i didn't contact to him.i missed him all days,i really missed him at X-mas.i sent a mails to him.i didn't make a phone call cuz i afraid.but he in my mind always.after that we contacted each other again,,but i think he don't have any feeling for me{lately..i know he really in to me}i called him at new year day..at 4:00 Am..because we had a different time zone.when i fell to sleep he left the message on my phone{i kept that till this day}we still talking each other..but the last 2 days ago..he blocked his account..dunno why,,i try to visit his palce this summer..because he have to deploy in iraq again in this ocotber..that why.now..i don't know what to do..because he didn't care about me anymore{in my opinion}I think i love him but i can't..because..i had a experience with my ex..{i told him i loved him but he goes away}..that why i afraid.I love you do you think that word can save me?plz...tell me/..my pals told me to tell him how i feel about him..i afraid he laughing at me.

Saying "I love you" in order to save your relationship isn't probably the best thing to do, but saying it because you really mean it and feel that way is a good thing to do.

Tell him how you feel. If you love him, tell him you do. If he laughs at you, he isn't worth your time anyway. If he laughs, he isn't a very good guy.

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This is a wierdd question... but I can't find it anywhere!
Anyways -- I'm 14/f in case that matters, but I was wonering, how do you slap a guy's butt? Do you do it hard or what? And how do you make it not awkward?

If it were me, I'd slap it like I mean business about it, with a big cheesy grin on my face.

If it would be awkward to do it, don't do it at all.

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ok so one of my best friends is jamie. jamie and alex(who is a boy) like each other but they're not going out because jamie doesnt like him that much. she still likes him though. well alex and i talk and flirt alot and i think i'm starting to really like him. i can't do anything because of jamie though and i dont know why this is happenign! i feel like such a bad person. what do i do?

Well, she doesn't like him that much. He isn't her boyfriend, so it's not like she has "dibs" on the guy.

If you are more interested in this guy than she is, talk to her about it. Make sure not to get into fights or anything about it, but if she doesn't like him that much, why should you have to hold out?

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I'm pretty sure some of you teens out there have the same "Mom" problem as I do. Here goes. My mom is a really nice person and she cares about me ALOT but i could NEVER please her. It feels like shes ALWAYS YELLING at me. Belive me i TRY to pick up around the house when i have time and after i do shes happy. A little while later when im relaxing shes yelling at me for something thats not in its right place, something on the floor etc. I try to tell my mom that i TRY to help but she thinks i could do me. I mean when i get home from school im TIRED and when she comes home shes yelling at me for some apparent reason like If im watching tv or something. Im a striaght A student and im very athletic and she doesnt act like shes proud of me or anything. I get depressed about it because my mom sacrificed ALOT to raise my sister and I and I know shes very depressed and she always has pains and everything. I dont know what im doing wrong. I think its my mom on one hand because she thoroughly cleans the house like everyday. I dont believe you NEED to thoroughly clean the house everyday. Picking up around yes but not really cleaning. I dont know what im doing wrong and its making me really depressed. I asked my mom what i can do more and she says clean up around. I am VERY tired when i come home and i also have homework plus volleyball games...i have no time to really clean the house. I try to help her as much as i can but there is something lacking that she is not telling me. I could never please her. Please guys, can anyone tell mer from reading this what is my fault in it or my mother's fault?
Thanks alot and dont worry just for reading all of it i rate high.

Well, base my rating on my answer, please. If you don't like it, say so. :D

You say your mom is depressed. I would bet my hat that is why she yells a lot.

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. She probably doesn't really think you are doing wrong. I also don't know that either of you are at fault.

It may be that she feels by having a clean house she has some sort of control she feels she is lacking in life.

You say you ask what you could do to better help her. Have you asked why she seems so displeased? You say there is something lacking she isn't telling you. Ask her.

Try to sit and have a heart to heart with her. Tell her how you feel, and give her the respect of listening to her feelings. You both may feel a lot better about everything.

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I would just like to know what are traits you personally think make a person a loser?

I think what makes a person a loser is when:

They try to pretend to be something or somebody they aren't.

They are followers in order to pretend as stated above.

They are disrespectful/inconsiderate of others and their feelings.

They are disrespectful/inconsiderate of themselves.

They believe peer pressure is a good thing.

They belittle others in order to feel better about themselves or to feel empowerment over others.

They think they are above others.

This list can go on forever.


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OKay, basicly I lie about the stupidest things that aren't true. But everyonce in a while I'll say this HUGE lie that I didn't realise I was thinking of or saying until it's already out polluting the air. It really scares me and I don't know how to handle it. I've never told anyone about this... I'm just so confused and I'm really scared that I'm going to get myself into trouble...


PS> if you have any idea what causes this please help...

Here is a link to some one like yourself who posted a similar question on TeenHealthFX.com

http://www.teenhealthfx.com/answers/Emotional/11364.html

There is information at the bottom of the response to the question as to how to seek help. You may have to go to the website.

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okay so i hate how in my groups of my friends im the only one who has had a lot of bad things happen to me. and i just want a good quote to put in my profile saying something around these lines. you dont know anything about my life so stop judgeing me. you dont get why people cut themselves or try to kill themselves. or idk. really but something like that. please help

So, the only one in your group that bad things happens to...

How about: That which does not kill me only makes me stronger.

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My OLD best friend was the greatest for 3 years, or so I thought, I found out she lied and wasn't even my real friend for the first 2 years, and she does little things just to make herself feel better and me feel worse. This may seem kinda stupid and conseted but after being taken advantage of for 3 years it's a big thing/ But anyway, I realised she's really insecure, not that pretty or cool, and I'm MUCH prettier than her. SO after she told all these people lies about me I stoped being her friends, and made friends with my best friend in the world Meg, and we're so good together and we get along great but being friends with her and not my old friend has comprimised my friendships with a lot of my old friends. SO that makes me really sad, and now I'm becoming kind of popular I guess.. and this may seem great but I kind of feel like I'm becoming a snob and that my new friends aren't for real. PLUS with this new like I'm going to have to leave my old life in the dust, but I just don't think I can do that, but I CAN'T go back to my old life because I was SO mistreated. I can't help but feel torn and stuck in the middle... what should I do?

You need to figure out who are your REAL friends and stick with them. That's what you should do. Popularity isn't worth losing a true friend, weather they are old friends or new friends.

Sounds like this old best friend doesn't fall in that category, but what about the rest of your "old" friends? Did they all mistreat you, or just the one?

You say your new friends aren't real and you are becoming a snob... that may be why they are upset. If I were your friend, I would be upset about that. Obviously, a snob is not who you really are. They probably see your becoming a snob as you being a fake. True?

What reason is there that you have to leave your old life in the dust? If your new friends can't accept your old friends and vise-versa, then none of them are really your friends at all.

Don't be sad. Do what makes you happy in this life. You will be truly happy when you figure out who your true friends are. They are often times few and far between, but well worth searching for.

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15/F

so i had this class with this guy who was really sweet and always knew what to say. he would always scoot into the chair with me just so we could sit together and he would just grab my hand and just look into my eyes. one day when he was in the chair with me, he put his hand on my knee&i didn't think much about it. slowly he moved his hand up my thigh and i took and put it back on my knee[we were in class.] so i thought he REALLY liked me. but then i was talking to some other girls and they said that he did the same thing to them. i was crushed. he still gives we long hugs everyday and holds me, but i'm still hurt.
now heres my question; should i do something that will make him like me more than the rest of the girls&if so what? or should just forget about him?

thanks

There is nothing more you can do than to be yourself. If that doesn't make you rate better than some other girl, then he isn't worth your time anyway.
Something to think about: Would you want to have him for a boyfriend while he puts his hands on other girls' legs in class? Quite possible it could turn out that way.

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i was thinking about my pasts relationships, and they're all with boys i didn't know really well. like, we were "companions", but right now, i like this guy who is like one of my best guy friends. and it feels completely different. so i was wondering. would you rather go out with a companion or a best friend and which do you think lasts longer and is just a better relationship?

A relationship with a best friend has the possibility of being a better relationship. However, a huge downfall is if you break up things will doubtfully be the same in your friendship.

The quickest way to lose a friend is to date them. That is my experience with it.

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