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Real friends... old friends... ?Where do I come in??
My OLD best friend was the greatest for 3 years, or so I thought, I found out she lied and wasn't even my real friend for the first 2 years, and she does little things just to make herself feel better and me feel worse. This may seem kinda stupid and conseted but after being taken advantage of for 3 years it's a big thing/ But anyway, I realised she's really insecure, not that pretty or cool, and I'm MUCH prettier than her. SO after she told all these people lies about me I stoped being her friends, and made friends with my best friend in the world Meg, and we're so good together and we get along great but being friends with her and not my old friend has comprimised my friendships with a lot of my old friends. SO that makes me really sad, and now I'm becoming kind of popular I guess.. and this may seem great but I kind of feel like I'm becoming a snob and that my new friends aren't for real. PLUS with this new like I'm going to have to leave my old life in the dust, but I just don't think I can do that, but I CAN'T go back to my old life because I was SO mistreated. I can't help but feel torn and stuck in the middle... what should I do?
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you have to be true to yourself.you have just as much power as anyone else.these people who your worried about mistreating you arent above you and cant control you. you need to think about who your real friends are and stick with them some times less is more.its better to have a few friends who you really care about and care about you then alot of fakeones who will turn on you and backstab. really if you have friends who are just pretend then you are still being mistreated in away. only do things and spend time with the people who make you feel positive. it doesnt matter what others do or think if your not happy or proud of yourself inside. whats the point in being popular with fake people who dont even like you. just be who you are you can still advance in like and keep some of the good old things. there is an abundance of people and things to be around that will set right with you.
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Hey. Well first of all, I think that's great that you found a new best friend. The "old best friend" probably is very insecure. If you still want to be with your old friends too though, then try calling them and talking to them. If they don't understand how you feel about your "old best friend" than I wouldn't try hanging out with them again either. It may hurt at first but what you have to do is figure out who your true friends are. Sometimes you have to give new friends time and this may be why your new friends don't feel "real yet". Who knows? You may become best friends with all of them if you give it time. You're probably not being snobby either because there's no such thing as "popular". Everyone hangs out with a different group and there's so many groups that their can't be a definition. If you like these new friends and can be yourself, stick with them. If not find new friends who you can truly be yourself with. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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ive gone through this and they arnt really your friends if they were only your friends for a friend of yours basicly they were using you
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ugh,truly your the first person i met here who isnt like "omg i want to be popular and have friends blahblahblah" hah sorry. anywayss,you found out about what your old best friend did,how do you know your other old friends didnt do the same? if your "best (old)" friend did that to you,then i would think that the other did that to you as well. I guess if you think about it (and it SUCKS) your friends with one,your friends with them all. and thats just horrible if people only want to be your friend because the most popular girl in school becomes your friend. not saying thats the case,,ah im off topic,sorry xD. ok,but really,your best friend meg seems muc better. and you know,maybe the people in the new group you have are likeing you -bedcause they like you,really, this doesnt seem like a hard situtaion. if you feel like your becomeing a snob,you shouldnt,because its really a good thing to be makeing new friends. you deserve to be known,after all the things you've gone through. stick with your new friends. if you dont feel there real,test them. ask them if they'd want to sleep over,hang out,anything. its a good way to get to know people. well,if anyone really cared about you in your old group,they'd talk to you,right? they'd say something. did anyone? for those who did,stick with them as well. or if they all dont like you anymore (which is really bitchy for everyone to follow with the fight) just say you dont care,your happier now and your sick of being the under-dog. also,try to re-constuct friendships that were broken during the fight,to the people that seem like they dident get to into it. this is confusing,but i cant really explain it in any other way. welllll i tryed. good luck :]
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You need to figure out who are your REAL friends and stick with them. That's what you should do. Popularity isn't worth losing a true friend, weather they are old friends or new friends.
Sounds like this old best friend doesn't fall in that category, but what about the rest of your "old" friends? Did they all mistreat you, or just the one?
You say your new friends aren't real and you are becoming a snob... that may be why they are upset. If I were your friend, I would be upset about that. Obviously, a snob is not who you really are. They probably see your becoming a snob as you being a fake. True?
What reason is there that you have to leave your old life in the dust? If your new friends can't accept your old friends and vise-versa, then none of them are really your friends at all.
Don't be sad. Do what makes you happy in this life. You will be truly happy when you figure out who your true friends are. They are often times few and far between, but well worth searching for.
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