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Laura/22/England



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What can a 13 year old do to get money? I'm almost desperate. I seriously have no money, neither does my family. I just need some ideas to earn some extra money.
Thanks!

At your age, there isn't alot of things you can generally do to earn good money, but there are a few ways which can help you earn that little bit extra cash.
A favourite amongst teens is selling things you no longer need on Ebay.
Offer to walk neighbours dogs. Ask anyone if they need their gardens mown/raked etc.
You can get part time jobs which don't interfere with schooling. Check this website out to see when you can and cannot work at your age:

http://www.direct.gov.uk/Parents/FamilyIssuesAndTheLaw/ChildrensRights/ChildrensRightsArticles/fs/en?CONTENT_ID=4002945&chk=AaZA0p


Have a look around at places which need extra help. Such as a fruit shop. Or helping to tidy in a cafe.

If you Google your question, I'm sure alot of search results will come up with people in your position!

There are lots of places. It's just about finding them and whether the employer will allow you to work or do certain tasks.

Good luck though!!


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alright i have a problem interacting w/ people..i pretty much force people to talk to me. i want to be more involved and get more friends. The hardest part it talking to girls. I just never anything good to say. what should i do ~ im a 16yr old male junior

Too many people suffer from this problem. I, for one used to.
You just really need to overcome the fear of being shy and thinking you don't have anything good to say. I used to think the same, but everything you have to say is valuable and people WILL appreciate it.
Try getting close to any girls you like. Ask them what they're into. If it's the same as you, ask if they'd like to hang out. Friendships and relationships will soon blossom from there! ;]
Hold your head up high and don't be afraid to speak. It will get so much easier.
Join clubs in and out of school with friends you already have. It's fun too.
Best of luck.

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Hey, does anyone knwo a website that sells clip on pink hair extensions for cheap?


http://www.ekmpowershop2.com/ekmps/shops/americandream/index.asp?function=DISPLAYPRODUCT&productid=48
look at the colour range, they're cool.

ebay! http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=230003050311

There will be lots more. Google "pink clip on hair extensions"
Good luck!

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its 2am and i have a competition tomorrow for my martial art, i have to be awake to go at 6am, and im a heavy sleeper so it takes tons to wake me up

wat shall i do? just stay awake all night? that will just make me tired in my fight and give me a lack of energy, or should i sleep for 4 hours, and hope to god a wake up.

You should have gone to bed way before midnight.
If there is a way to get you up at 6am, then SLEEP. Got an extra loud alarm? Would your parents be willing to wake you?
Sleeping for 4 hours will only make you more tired, groggy, snappy etc.
Plan carefully next time!
Now go and get that caffeine...

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hey! i recently permed my hair (about 3 weeks ago) and while i was at the salon, the stylist told me that i cant swim in swimming pools because the perm will come out. origionally, this wasnt a problem, but i separated my shoulder and now have to get in the pool (head under also) for physical therapy. is my perm going to come out?

It is best to follow the hairdressers advice. I'm not sure it will make it come out, but could damage it or not make it last as long as it should.
Wear a swimming cap. ;]

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My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"?

Having a friendship works both ways and she isn't playing her part.
Frustrating, isn't it?
Alot of people go through this with so called "friends".
You need to have a talk with her. Tell her it upsets you when she makes plans with you first then changes her mind. Ask her why she does this.
She needs to make an effort. Otherwise, to put it bluntly, she will walk all over you and expect you to always be there and catch her when she messes up.
Work at it though. It's silly to lose friends over petty things like this. Although sometimes, it really cannot be helped.
I hope you work things out.

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HI, this is really embarrassing, but i feel this is what i can only turn too, i met this guy...on the internet... yes it sounds wrong, but we never had cyber...and i am totally glad we didnt, because that is just wrong...i saw his pick he didnt see mine, but he said he respected that i was safe, and i think he is telling me the truth that he is 16 no... i KNOW it....he acts like it and everything...we tell each other secrets and he is a guy and even told me his greatest fear, i feel like i can talk to him about anything and he is so sweet, i even made plans about me going to see him when i get older and if he was lying to me and he is reallyl ike and old perve, i would know because i would see him , and get right back on that plane if he was a perve. though my heart lights up when he goes online i tell him i think about him and he is like i hope that doesnt get in the way of your school work and you know, not many guys care about that but i think it is the sweetest thing in the world that he does, he even told me all these sweet things like he is starting to fall in love with me and he hasnt even seen my pic and he said he cares about me a lot and i do too.. i feel like i am falling in love a lot. i think about him more than any other guy EVER. i have dreams about him and he tells me his dreams about me. i feel this is not the right way to carry on a relationship though, on the internet, doesnt that seem a little......weird? unorganized? not true love? i dont know and i need some MAJOR help.....and please none of this 'follow your heart' because that doesnt help much at all.

This is normal. Most people find they get very close to someone they have met on the internet.
and here is the big, long, boring BUT..
"Falling in love" seems a little far fetched, don't you think? It's nice you have someone to share long conversations and feelings with, but that's where it should end. You may become too attached and get hurt later on.
This is the internet, darling! and it's SO easy to be fooled. You said you're sure he's a boy etc, but HOW sure are you?
I could pretend to be a 13 year old lad from Hollywood and noone would know I was lying.
Take things slow. Don't stop talking to him.. there's nothing wrong with building up a strong friendship. But let that be it.
Sooner or later, you will find someone near you, who you know in real life. :)
and never give out your personal information until you are ABSOLUTELY sure, have permission and TRUST this person 100%
I hope things work out well for you two.
Best of luck!! :)

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there's this girl *j*...and she used to be my best friedn...she sent me this e-mail saying stop e-mailing her..i was like i did'nt e-mail her..and i checked too..none of her contacts are with me..then i said nicely i'm not e-mailng you so stop e-mailing me...then she says you think your so tough...you aint got no boobs or ass...and your a size b and i\'m a d..this pissed me off...but i was still like why are you looking and stop e-mailing me...then she has her mom e-mail me saying stop e-mailing me daughter..i new this was *j*...b/c she spelled address wrong..and other things too...then i thought about it and was like ok...all were doing is telling each other to stop e-mailing each other..(if that makes any sence)...i want to tell her that...but all she\'ll do is e-mail me back as her mother...so shud i e-mail her??...if you want me to send the e-mail..just tell me...

Ignore her. She's obviously wanting attention from you. Probably jealous, also.
If it carries on and they get threatening/offensive etc, tell someone you trust.
Cyber bullying is serious and not very nice.
Best of luck.

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Oook, I know I sound like a foolish idiot by asking this but what does "fo shizzle my nizzle" mean? People say it all the time and I say it too, and I know people say it to "try" to act gangster but thats about it. Help ?

" A polite and well meaning colloquialism used to express agreement with a cohort. (This phrase entered american vernacular when famed celebrity/artist/rapper/pornographer/movi e star Snoop Dogg started using it and other words containing the suffix "izzle" or "izzy.")"

In other words.. "for sure my nigger" or just a basic "okay" :]

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I just got this shirt and it says "Dude, STFU" on it (cool points if you know where it's from). Well my mom said she doesn't mind if I wear it but my dad wouldn't like it. She told me to tell him STFU stands for something else but I can't come up with anything. Any help?

It's also known as "State Tenant Farmer's Union"
But tell him something much lighter than shut the fuck up.. such as... stuff you!

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how do you know if your period has ended, this is the first time that ive had my period :[ i started it july 3rd.

It gradually becomes lighter and the blood flow is less frequent! They normally last a week. They can last longer or for even as little as 2 days.

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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.

You are 12.
People this age shouldn't even be watching this on TV let alone practicing it.
Lay off this for a while. You will get hurt in the end. and someone your age isn't ready to take on something this serious. There are MANY risks involved. Carry on and you can mess up your life.

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I might have oral sex with my boyfriend so I was wondering, when he cums, are you supposed to spit or swallow it? What is more common?

You do what YOU feel comfortable with. ;]

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hey i was just wondering what BFD and SOL meant. I know they're short for something i just wasn't shore what.

Thx in advance

BFD = big fucking deal
SOL = shit out of luck
;]

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I am getting an MRI scan soon for my head (jaw). Would I have to take out a belly button barbel? It's some type of surgical metal I don't quite remember what type. Is there anyway I can keep it in? I have had the piercing for a couple of months but I still have a month to go before I can take it out or change it and I really don't want to mess with it.

Thanks!!

"Certain metallic devices can cause interference with the scan, and their presence during the study may cause injury to you if the force of the magnet pulls the metal object. It is particularly important for us to know if you have a pacemaker, a defibrillator, a muscle stimulator or other implanted electrical device, a history of heart or brain surgery, brain aneurysm clips, shrapnel, or a history of getting metal fragments in your eyes. When you have the scan, even though we are focusing on one specific area, your whole body does go into the scanner. In fact, just walking into the scanning room puts you within the magnetic field since the magnet is never turned "off." That is why we have to know about metal anywhere in/on your body. You will be asked on numerous occasions about any metal implants. Please try to be as thorough as possible when answering as this is for your safety."

Put a retainer (plastic) one in there! It would save the worry ;]

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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do???

I know exactly how you feel. I did my mock maths test and got an average score. I was happy with that. Then the real thing came along and I did appalling. I've discovered I will never be as good at maths as I am English and Science.
Don't give up on maths though. You're doing your best, so stick to it. C's are fine. Don't let it put you down. Just because your friends are getting better grades than you doesn't mean you can't do maths. Maybe you need extra tutoring? Don't let it throw you. If you want to become better, study more, take notes in lessons, ask different teahers for help, ask questions in class when you don't understand, ask for extra work... There are a number of things you can do to help yourself.
Just don't let it get in the way of your other subjects.
Good luck!

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my boyfriend (24)and I(20) have lived together for over a year we live with a roomate who happens to be my friend . just recently last friday actually we got in a big fight and he shoved me into the closet door, our roomate heard it all and said something to him and he got in her face screaming and pointing his finger in her face so i ran flailing my fists aqnd i caught him in the nose , i didn't punch him but i did hit him though and his nose started bleeding which i instantly started bawling and trying to clean away the blood , i knew what i did was wrong and felt horrible anyway we both agreed to forgive each other but then this past tuesday i had to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out and he was the one with me getting all the post-op insturctions and then after we got home we got into a dumb fight and he said "i can't take getting beaten anymore" and he left me i havn't heard from him since tuesday and now he is at his parents house I don't know what i should do because i am stuck here with all the memories and i am crying everyday I just want him to come home but at the same time i don't know if i should let him come home i need help!!!!

It seems like he will be using this excuse against you every time you get into an argument. It's not fair on you. You got caught in the heat of the moment, panicked and didn't know what to do.
If you really think your relationship stands a chance of working without the past coming back up, then speak to him. Tell him you are deeply sorry and it won't ever happen again. Say you were scared when he was screaming at your friend.
I, personally don't think you did anything wrong. He shoved you in the cupboard and pointed the finger at your friend. There's no excuse for his actions.
Think this through. Would you be better off with or without him. Because the subject of what happened will never go away. and you deserve better.
Good luck with it.

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I've caught my dad in porn and sex chat rooms so many times. Everytime he talks to me its not the same anymore, we used to be sooo close and now i cant even look him straight in the eye anymore. Hes always out of the house, and my mom works at nightt. I went to his work one day he wasnt there, and then a lot of people called the house asking for him. When he got home I asked him where he was at, he said golfing in the morning with the hugest smerk ever it disgusted me and i wanted to just cry. Then i was like what about later he said he was at work. But those people that called me at like 5pm said he wasnt there. Then he always locks his computer, and one day i caught him using a web cam, then i found lub. and a vibrator. He gets home so late on the nights my mom works. What i want to know is what should i do, cause for all i know he's just a guy looking at porn.

This is difficult, because you don't want to confront your dad and you don't want your mum to get hurt. But if you can't ask your dad simple questions as to what he is doing, then you need to speak to your mum about it. Just casually bring it up with either of them. It's not nice you have to keep this to yourself and suffer alone. Best of luck..

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Before I go into a tanning bed do I need to take my makeup off? Or does that not matter?

I would say it's best to remove makeup, because you might not see the tan developing underneath. Or it may irritate some sensitive skin. Best to take it off anyway. No harm done. :)

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What song and by who is on your myspace?

I tried to download it on limewire by that tracy person and it won't come up.

Are those lyrics to certain song where it has a bunch of writing?

get attacked by bugs, animals and people.

Life is okay. I guess it could be worse.


that stuff...

It is indeed by good ol' Tracy Chapman.
If you're having trouble downloading it, try it from here http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=82122763

The lyrics to that song are in my music section.
The rest of the writing on there is made up by me, haha :)

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