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my dad might be cheating on my mom
I've caught my dad in porn and sex chat rooms so many times. Everytime he talks to me its not the same anymore, we used to be sooo close and now i cant even look him straight in the eye anymore. Hes always out of the house, and my mom works at nightt. I went to his work one day he wasnt there, and then a lot of people called the house asking for him. When he got home I asked him where he was at, he said golfing in the morning with the hugest smerk ever it disgusted me and i wanted to just cry. Then i was like what about later he said he was at work. But those people that called me at like 5pm said he wasnt there. Then he always locks his computer, and one day i caught him using a web cam, then i found lub. and a vibrator. He gets home so late on the nights my mom works. What i want to know is what should i do, cause for all i know he's just a guy looking at porn.
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ok not to be mean or anything but i think he MIGHT be cheating. if i was you i was ask him stight up. he will most likly say no, but if you really think he is cheating on your mom then you have 2 choices
1) do nothing about it
2) find proof that he is cheating.
it won't be easy. but if you really want to no if he is or not when he is not looking see who he has called on hs cell and see who has called him. see how many times a day a woman calls for him that is not ur mom. and stuff liked that. hoped i hepled.
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OMG Tell your mother that is some evidence that he is cheating on your mom
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You should talk to your mom about this if you think it is an issue. If she doesn't know and you confront your dad then your just giving him a heads up and enough time to hide it all. Mabye she knows about it and it's not a big deal, or mabye she doesn't and really should know. You shoulden't have to feel uncomfortablr like that around your own father. Talk to someone that can keep a secret....but don't do nothing!
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hey,
I know that this is such a hard and tough situation for you especially when your the only one that found out and you don't have anyone to back you out, and that there is also a probability that some people won't believe you. But in this situation, you have to take some risks, you said that you were so close to your dad and stuff and then you started to part away from each other, and that you've seen some bad things on his computer from time to time. So i suggest that you tell some one about it,which you MUST do before he actually cheats on your mom.so the next time you see something on his computer or if someone calls and says that he hasn't been to work and all these stuff,then you should call your mom and tell her immediately, because your not saying rumors about your dad here, your just really worries and you care about him. But it would be much better if you showed your mom one of those sex chats or porn pictures and stuff ,so that it would be much bigger proof.Moreover, try to be calm and at ease and tell her that you love your dad and that you are just worried about him and need to help him, because if you say it in a mad and disgusted way then your mom will get really angry and start feeling that your father cheated on her and that would lead to bad consequences such as your parent's divorce. Unlike, if you sit quitely , just the three of you and talk about this together in a calm manner and try to draw a line to what your father got himself into.
Finally, try to do what i said, and if there is any improvement or if there is any further questions or worries,then be free to contact me.
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You do nothing. Your father isn't sick in the head, unless he's looking at animals or kiddie porn. It's normal to look at it and it doesn't mean he hates you or your mother. It doesn't mean he's a killer.
I'm sure your mom knows(I mean he probably doesn't use the vibrator). And even if she doesn't, it isn't your place to say anything.
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The best thing for you to do in this situation is talk to someone close to your mom. Tell them what you think and ask them whether or not it is worth bringning up to her. Don't tell your dad because he will try to hide the evidence and he'll just deny it anyways. If your mom doesn't have a close friend to talk to then just talk to your mom. Make sure you know for sure before you do.
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This is difficult, because you don't want to confront your dad and you don't want your mum to get hurt. But if you can't ask your dad simple questions as to what he is doing, then you need to speak to your mum about it. Just casually bring it up with either of them. It's not nice you have to keep this to yourself and suffer alone. Best of luck..
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Talk to your dad about it first. Ask him questions such as:
Why are you looking at porn sites?
When did you start looking at porn sites?
Who do you talk to on porn sites?
Where are you on the nights that Mom works?
What are you doing on the porn sites?
He should be able to tell you the truth...if he cant well then give him a little time to think about it. Talk to your mom about it also. You'll feel better.
I guarantee you!
hope i helped :D
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