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Hi,
This is my story. I met this hot Italian guy, who had been my next door neighbor for a whole year and I didn't know this. One day, my flat mate invited him over for dinner and since that day, things were on a roll. We hooked up the very first night we met, spend hours talking, watching movies, making out, going out for dinners.
He even met some of my friends and I met his. he had to move to another place because of landlord issues, but is still only about 10 mins away from where I live.
A couple of weeks ago, he mentioned that he's been having a really stressful and rather traumatic time at work. Then two days later, I called him to ask if he'd like to get out for a change...to feel fresh, but he said he was tired. Its been more than two weeks since then and we've only exchanged a couple of text messages and he hasn't been taking my calls or calling me back although he said he'll call me this week - the week has passed. I just tried calling him but he still didn't answer or text. I am worried because I don't know what's going on. Being in the dark is driving me nuts!
I will respect his decision, whatever it is. Or give him space if he needs it. Or help him if he's in some trouble. But how do I know what to do if he won't communicate? Is he trying to dump me? What do I do???
If he isn't taking your calls or calling you back, I'd let the guy come to you when he is ready.
Despite the amount of stress he says he has, If he was into you he'd find a way to contact you. As usually no matter what kind of stress or trouble someone is in they usually need someone to talk too.
I'd back off, Give it another week or so. If he doesn't call then he likely lost interest.
So one day i got in the car with my girlfriend and noticed that my set was moved. she was driving. i am normally the only one that sits there, and i noticed the broken window was moved differently then wat it was the night before. mind yu my gf goes to school, and i dnt. she droped me off at my house and the window an chair was normal. she goes to school an backand its all different. Also, i found a t-shirt that wasnt mine nor hers in her car. along with underwear (i wear boxers she wears xsmall, and the underwear were a medium. i asked her about it calmly and she fliped broke up wit me ect. accused me of accusing her for cheatin. she has already lefted me for my bestfriend. we been together 5 months...
should i be worried... what does this all mean.. help me guys!
You found a T-shirt that wasn't yours and underwear that happened to mysteriously appear.
Lie detector says: Guilty
My daughter is 13 and I'd like for her to start paying for her new clothes, accesories, and basically everything. Of course I would still pay for her food and keep a roof over her head. She doesn't have a job but she gets $5 a week for allowance. Do you think it's okay to make her start paying for stuff?
In this economy $20 dollars a month is not enough to get by, I can understand frustration but your daughter is 13 years old and does not have a job. (Assuming)
I would go about it another route, If you feel your daughter should help you out more then I would have her be doing chores around the house. Until she has a stable part time job I wouldn't be expecting her to pay for her clothes. Your daughter is a child, Again I would hold off until she has a part time job but even when she does you shouldn't be expecting your child to pay for everything out of their own pockets..There will always be a time where they need help from the their parents.
Hi there, 23/f. I escaped an abusive man with whom I was living back in October, luckily with my life, most of my health, and my cat-baby.
Now, almost five months later, I have full-blown PTSD. I find myself having flashbacks, but not to the abuse. I think I'm still slightly in denial regarding that. The memories of what he did to me feel as if I'm watching it happen to someone else, and they're not that bad...
No, what I have flashbacks to is the good part of our relationship. Hugging him, kissing him, laughing with him, being with him. I recently heard he had been planning to propose to me. I'm getting teary writing this even now. I loved him so much, but he hurt me, and I was afraid for my life, so I left him, but I miss the good part of him. I feel so stupidly empty and defeated. Don't worry, I have no plans to go back to him or speak to him ever again.
I'm not one of those girls who needs a guy. I've always believed in myself, in my own strength and power, and this feels like it's turning me into someone I'm not. My friends all know what happened, so do my parents - everyone is very supportive. My coworkers have been like a second family to me, but I have mood swings and crying spells, and I've woken up crying so many times I've lost count. It's just me and my kitty here, but I do NOT want to live with anyone. I barely want people around me at all...
I've seen eight therapists in my life and none of them have helped me. I'm currently on Cymbalta due to a chronic pain problem (you'd think that would help with the crying spells, but nooo). I have sleeping meds, too, but they don't make the nightmares go away. :(
Has anyone else gone through something like this?
Does anyone have any suggestions, other than more drugs or a hotline?
Thanks to everyone who responds.
You two broke up in October, Healing takes time. You need to realize that someone who is abusive often don't recover unless they seek professional help, Even if he did he still doesn't deserve you. Your ex boyfriend was abusive, You said yourself you feared for your life..Imagine if you followed through with the proposal and had married him. You'd really be screwed. Consider yourself one of the lucky ones, You were able to leave and move on. Sure, You miss the good times but lets face people who are abusive sometimes need a method to keep their victims around and therefore he used his kind moments. The first step towards moving on is acceptance, Then comes the healing process.
Keep yourself busy, Spend time with friends and family and do things you enjoy doing you will get there. It took me 2 years but I eventually got there too.
Victim - 5 years
I am 29 yrs old with a family of my own. My mom, step dad, 20 yr old brother and 19 yr old sister live together. My mom is with my step dad while he's in the hospital. So sis has been cooking, cleaning and going to college everyday. I think its crazy but she has to tell my brother repeatedly to eat, take a shower,and get ready things like that or mom will fuss at her when she comes home. Cause he is so lazy he forgets to do these things. My little sister texted me yesterday stating my brother slapped her across the face and told her to shut her mouth. Even though mom was there. Mom didn't pay any attention. i don't know what she might have said to him but its not right. He calls her bad names especially when moms gone. She told me of one time where he got mad at mom and choked her. he has pulled the phone cord out of the wall so much to keep them from calling the police the phone cracks now. He sneakingly takes my sisters cell phone away from her before he slaps her. So she wont call the cops. He don't have his license. he is so spoiled and lazy.He don't have to do anything but play computer games all day and do some school work. he's even trying to get an extension on his college classes. Hes prob not capable of living on his own. I confronted mom about him in the past and she got mad at me to the point we didn't talk for at least a week. I have thought about telling my sister next time he does anything like that especially choking or things like. for her to call me and I will contact the police. with my step-dad being in the hospital.I don't want to cause trouble. But he will wind up hurting somebody bad. Also, my step dad before he was in the hospital he turned a blind to it all. What do you guys think i should do? Thanks Bunches
Your mother could be ignoring the fact that her son is abusive, It's her son. No parent wants to except that their child is abusive. Your mother is intimidated and she is blocking it out. If your sister does not have a ride to the police station, Then take her down there yourself. If the situation is so bad to the point where there is no cell phone available then tell her to get a tape recorder, It never hurts to have proof but your sister NEEDS to report the situation to the police as soon as possible. Your brother has tried choking people, This can be considered attempted murder and you need to look at it as is. Do not wait, Report it immediately.
this boy told asked a friend of mine if he should ask me to prom. She unknowingly of what i wanted told him that i was a nice person and that he should. I reallly dont like him the whole thing would be akward. Also hes kinda wierd going with him would not help my social rank and i dont have all that many friends to start. But id feel way to mean saying no. I was friends with his older brother and since he doesnt have friends really he sits with me and my friends at lunch. I dont mind him there since he is a sweet boy and all but prom.also my mom really wants me to go it would make her happy but my sisblings would mock me. Last i secretly want to go and i know that no one else will ask, but i dont want to be a complete loser or have a bad memory of prom.ps im a junior.
If the guy ask you to the prom just go with him, You could end up having a great time. It's shallow to turn down a guy over a reputation. Your prom is what YOU make of it, You can go having an attitude or you can go knowing you are going to make the best of the what it is.
People have feelings, How would you feel if you got turned down because a guy cared so much of what other people think? It's shallow and yes it is very mean.
my name is Rachel and Iam 21 will be 22 in another month and my boyfriend is 36 I know big age diffrence please don't lecture me. my boyfriend has major trust issues becouse of past relationships one put him in a wheel chair and paralized him for the rest of his life but let's get to my problem everytime I go out with friends or my sister he accuses me of cheationg on him and i've told him that iam not that type of person over and over again. I havn't done anything to break his trust at least not that iam aware of. How can I get him to believe and trust me?
Your boyfriend is the one with the problem, He doesn't trust you.
Guess what, Without trust your relationship will never work. Talk to him, It's not cool to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't trust you and makes accusations.
If he doesn't come around, I'd jet
Long story short i found out im pregnant and im not sure whose it is, its driving me crazy i know there is no way well there is a way but not a safe way to find out until i deliver. I know this happens all the time so i was thinking maybe someone would be able to figure this out of have some kind of idea whose it would be. I had my last period Dec 16th - 20th. I had sex with a guy Dec 25th we had sex 3 times that night and i thought something was dripping out of me but never said anything i wasnt sure if it was from him or me so i keep quiet, also he already has a child so i know he has no problems having children, And apparently i was ovulating at this time? The second guy was Jan 1st i know that its so close in time to tell but maybe someone knows more about this then i do. Anyway when i had sex in Jan it was just once that night and i seen him pull out, Would there be more of a chance with the other guy since we had sex 3 times and im not exactly sure he pulled out everytime and he can have kids? Thanks for the help also please dont judge it was a mistake we all make them and im also not the first person this happend too.
We cannot tell you who the child's father is, There is an equal chance between the two just because you had sex with one more doesn't increase the chances of him fathering the child as all it takes is ONE time.
If you really want to find out for sure who the father is then they are going to need a paternity test.
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okay so i have like redness on my vagina and it was never bad. i kinda noticed it getting more red recently. i want to say its like from a razor? because when i shaved a certain area yesterday, today it seems to be more red? im not really sure. ive had unprocted sex about a month or two ago so just once or twice. i don't think its an std because it was a while ago. Also, i don't think its an std because i went to the doctors about two weeks ago because i needed to be check on and i had a papsmere (sp?) and she said she was going to test it for any stds or what not. im thinking she would have noticed if i was getting a std or whatever but she took an example to test it and im thinking if i did she would have called already? right? well i have no idea if its from my razor or whatever!? im also getting a bikni line wax on friday, i don't want to freak the lady out! help!?
Sounds like a razor burn, If the doctor didn't call you then everything's fine. Doctors usually only call if something needs to be addressed.
im 18/f and hes 19/m
me and this guy have been non stop talking for the past two months. ive talked to him on and off for the last year though, but he had a girlfriend at the time so i didnt really pay that much attention. They broke up 5 months ago after being together for 5 years. for three of those months i was just there on the odd occasion to help him through his messy breakup. But eventually he started opening up to me more and more, and before i knew it we were texting each other non stop, and we were both scared yet so amazed at how much we are alike. How we've always wanted to find the 'boy/girl' versions of ourselves...everything was going perfectly, i mean i found that guy i had been dreaming about since i was 5...Then he over reacted to a fb post i sent one night because i wasn't sure he was into me...and sure enough we got into a fight :( this fight only lasted a matter of hours because i need him, even as a best friend in my life. So anyway, he told me amongst the fight that he DOES like me and whatnot but he said its too soon for him to date again and that he wants to fool around with other girls and have it mean nothing before settling down in a rest of his life relationship with me. Naturally i was hurt by this, but i know how much i didn't want to lose him, so i accepted it and told him that i wouldn't have feelings for him again and that i understood.
Then things got really heated with us...we grew even closer to the point we were sexting and sending photos to each other...Things were better then ever between us, and i was positive he had feelings for me, so i tried to cover up my own feelings cause i promised him i wouldn't let myself like him in that way again. Then one night he was texting me, telling me how amazing i was and how he hopes to find a girl like me because we will never date... that stung so so badly. I was upset, and sure enough it led to a massive fight...this time it lasted for 3 days...and those three days were the most horrible days in my life. because not only did i lose the guy i liked more then anyone before...but i lost my best friend, he confessed during the fight that he did like me again, and how stupid he was for thinking about ever dating me etc etc. eventually he forgave me..but things weren't the same between us... That fight was almost a month ago now...and things still aren't ok between us... he doesn't flirt with me at all anymore. only when he's a bit horny. He doesn't text me any where near as much as he used to...and i miss that. miss it alot. Our conversations when he does text doesn't last long at all...when they used to last for hours. i miss the way we used to be before the second fight.
Whats even more confusing...is that he is so overly protective of me about being with other guys. He gets ridiculously jealous if i even joke about getting with another guy. He told me that him and his best friend (a girl) got really jealous cause he was talking to her about me. and then they got into a fight cause she's in love with him too apparently. but he told me that he doesn't have any feeling for her at all. then he tells me that he was telling her "I was telling her how much alike we are, and how much i like talking to you. and some other stuff that i'm not going to tell you about...she even called you my future wife and i told her to piss off" then i told him my own friends had said something along the same lines as that. and he then told me "i feel bad now :(... cause were never going to date and they probably think we are :(" and then i told him that i sorted that all out and that i told them that nothing will happen between us. and he suddenly started getting all weird and being like "oh okay" and not responding to my text at all about us never being together. yet he's the one that said we're never going to happen. Its constantly like this, if i say something about us not being together or something, hes the one that gets all defensive, when hes the one that says it has to be this way. He's allowed to go out and flirt/sleep with other girls...and if i even joke about doing the same he flips out.
we met up the other night for the 2nd time at one of his bands gigs cause the first time we met was only for 2 minutes of which we were completely beyond drunk. At his show he kept coming over to me and joking round and talking to me, he even told me he tried finding me when he was singing on stage but he couldnt find me in the mosh, and how if he did find me he was going to pull me up on stage with him. but ever since we've met that time a couple of days ago hes been acting even weirder. I feel like something changed between us...and i dont know what to do or what to think anymore. I mean i felt SO comfortable around him, which is odd cause im really shy when it comes to guys i like, especially when im sober. i just really dont know what to do or think about this anymore. i really dont know, i just want things to go back to the way they were, i want to know what changed. i want to know how to fix this.
He told you what he wanted, He wants to fool around not get serious. 5 years is a long time to be in a relationship, I was in one for 5 1/2 and after we broke up I was not ready for another relationship even 5 months down the line..I still wasn't ready.
You two flirt, At the same time he wants to fool around with girls. How do you know you are not the only girl he fools around with? You go by assumptions to the fact he is protective of you and he said he was into you but one thing you want to make sure of is that you aren't just a booty call. Slow it down, If you want to know whether he is into you or not then let the guy come to you. You do not want to come off as desperate, Pushy or annoying. If he is really into you then he will come to you when he is ready. Sure, You can still flirt with him but don't go over board to the point where you are sending pictures of yourself. If he only contacts you when he is horny...Then there's your answer the guy just wants to get in your pants.
Do all vaginas have a hole?
Yes, It's normal
this site is typical right wing bunkum. people come to these sites for quick an relatively painless ways of committing suicide, not to be told "no, don't do it, u have so much to live for!!!!!!!!!!" Believe me, most of us have already thought through the alternatives, been to numerous councellors, tried antidepressants etc. these treatments just don't work for everyone. Just offer practical solutions for those who have made the moral right to choose to end their lives, or shut the hell up and stay off this forum!!!!!!!!!!!!
If someone was seeking a painless way to end their lives, They wouldn't have the need to ask how would they? People make choices, They make theirs to come here and ask advice and we provide them with our best.
Supporting suicide by giving a "painless" way to die is a crime, You know what else? There is NO painless way to end your life. Despite pain itself, Suicide hurts loved ones and once you take a life you can't get it back. So perhaps you should rethink your situation to tell who should stay off this forum and stop victimizing yourself. ;)
I am in a committed relationship and having an affair with a married man. Anything you want to tell me?
My current bf is an alcoholic - great to me but when he's really drunk he can be a HUGE a-hole. Just the other night we got drunk and I woke up with 100 dollars missing out of my bank account, that he spent. Sooo please tell me something, anything. I'm not in love with the other guy, but when we're together, there's something....i can't explain it.
I just came on here to ask this and see the responses I get. Thanks in advance.
Break up with your boyfriend if you are not happy that would be the moral thing to do.
You are not in a committed relationship with your boyfriend if you are seeing someone else. It is reversed, You are not committed and by not getting help for his drinking habit neither is he.
Dating a married man; You now know this married man is not faithful to his wife, He continues to date around and meet other women. This man has a family and by family I don't mean children. Ask yourself, What makes you think he would be faithful to you? I don't know the situation in his case but if he is going through a divorce he should wait until it's final, You save yourself stress, He saves himself stress. Are you really happy dating a married man knowing that he is involved with someone else?
ight well me n my girlfriend are haveing problems right now people are telling her stuff bout me n now shes hangin out wit her ex no im not sayin im judgein cuz i trust her but now i find out she added him again on facebook n idk i need help i guess
You trust her, But she doesn't trust you
Your girlfriend went ahead and added her "ex" boyfriend you also stated she is hanging out with him. Your girlfriend has already made up her mind on what she wants, If she trusted you and the relationship she wouldn't have any reason to go crawling back to her ex yet alone listen to what other people are telling her. Waiting around, Is a waste of time. You can confront her but that doesn't change the fact that your relationship is on the rocks the point is she was gullible enough to let people get in the way of you and her.
Your girlfriend crawled back to her ex, Now I know you said you trust her but let me ask you something...Exactly what do you think is going to happen if she continues to hang out with her ex again? It's a wake up call, Dump her and move on
16/f
Ok so this is probably gonna be long...
I have a boyfriend, same age as me, and all that. We've been together for 5 months and I do care about him. Although he moved a state away and still wanted to be with me so we've been in a long distance relationship for about 2 months.
So here is another problem. I like this guy, who is one of my friends. He's two years older than me and I've liked him for about 2 years without telling him, I had a different boyfriend at the time and all that and I didn't want to ruin our friendship.
Before me and my current boyfriend started going out, me and my friend told each other we like each other. We didn't want to date or anything because he was gonna go to college farther away. We did kiss though.
So he left about about 2 months ago and we got in a fight over the phone so we didn't talk since.
I was starting to get over him but I guess I pushed it to the back of my mind. Now he texted me again and telling me he missed me, apologized for everything. He told me he just needed time to grow up and see how immature he was.
Now I know it's not right to be with my boyfriend anymore. I'm just afraid to break up with him. He's been so depressed and started talking about suicide. I freaked and I really can't do anything about it because he's not here and we don't get to talk as much because he is grounded and we get to talk like once a month.
I feel like a bad person for liking my friend. I don't know if I'm supposed to feel this way?
There is no problem with the age of me and my friend because we're not sexual and he's coming back for the summer so not seeing him isn't a big deal either. I've been best friends with his sister for 2 years so I'm always at their house, so I'm always gonna see him anyway. So I'm pretty sure I'm not gonna get over him...
I'm not sure what my question is but I'm so confused and feel so bad. If anyone can help, that'd be great. Sorry it was long and thanks so much.
Your best bet, Choose neither one.
If the friend is age 18, He can legally get in trouble for having contact with a minor. There is no what, Ifs, But's about it. The fact is it is the law in many states that an adult shall not have contact with a minor. This is a risk you take if you two decide to date just know everything has it's consequences.
The boyfriend, A long distant relationship is stressful and takes a lot of commitment and time to make it work out. Trust, Plays a major factor in this case also. The fact is, Your boyfriend is in another state. I'm assuming that is an hour maybe more...Do you have the time and money to put into this relationship to make it work? Do you trust your boyfriend to be faithful while you two are currently apart in distant? These are all questions you should ask yourself. At the age of 16, You are too young to hold yourself back waiting for someone who is far away. A healthier option would be to explore and date other people.
Try and find someone closer and who is more in your age range. You avoid a waste of money and you also avoid consequences to the law.
Okay I know that my boyfriend loves me and he hasn't ever said anything. But I am the type that gets jealous easily. Idk why??? Idk how to stop either. Just over stupid things like him hanging out with a friend or even family. PLEASE help. I try to just bite my lip and not say anything. I don't want to be the jealous girlfriend, and I don't want to feel like that.
Help Please
Jealousy is a huge downfall in a relationship, If you want it too work out you are going to have to find a way to chill out.
Why are you so jealous? Ask yourself..
Your boyfriend has the right to see his family, You have the right too see yours. TRUST, Is huge and if you let jealousy get in the way overtime your boyfriend may begin to feel you don't trust him. If there is no trust then the relationship is not going to work. If he loves you, There is no need to be jealous about anything. Has your boyfriend given you a reason to be jealous?
Lets reverse the situation; How would you feel if your boyfriend became jealous of you spending time with your family?..Overtime it would bother you, You'd guess whether he trust you..and before you know it you have put so much stress on your relationship that it is doomed.
Find a method, Try to understand where your boyfriend is coming from and be more open. The worst thing you can do for yourself is to expect him to spend all his time with you and not have any time for himself. Relationships need to breathe once in awhile and perhaps while he goes to spend time with friends and family you should make plans with yours too. It's a healthy thing to do for the relationship.
So I like this girl. Or so I thought i did. And we ever together a few weeks and then I broke it off with her. I liked being single for the first months or so but now I miss her and want her back. But she deleted me from her facebook and phone. I can see her posting that she likes someone that she wants him to talk to her. I feel stupid for letting her go. I dont even know if she still likes me. She never had any sad post on facebook, I never saw her feel sorry for herself. I dont understand it. How can I get her back?
She deleted you from facebook and her phone, She moved on and you should too.
I am 21 and my boyfriend is 22. Him and I had an on and off relationship back in 08 till 10. We broke up for good for about 6 months a while ago. Him and I started dating again because we felt like we have worked out our problems. While we were broken up he had sex with Shannon and karen and I had sex with 1 guy who was my new boyfriend. While me and him started hanging out again I knew he did things with these girls because he told me.
While him and I were together Karen kept calling him and left a message saying “fu*k your gf and come see me.” so after this incident he stopped talking to her. I met Shannon at a football game where he didn’t introduce me and she didn’t talk to me. The next time I saw her was at another football game where she said hello and talked to everyone else but me. The third time was at the movies where not much was said being we were at the movies I understand that but when we left her and her friends trailed in front of my bf and I. The last time I saw her was at a party where I met my bf best female friend and I was very kind and friendly to her and Shannon was there and ignored me.
I told my bf before we started dating I didn’t like the idea of him still talking to girls he recently had sex with but I still allowed him to because its something I had to get over and couldn’t be jealous over. But they messed up and I told him I didn’t want to be disrespected and that’s how I felt. So he stopped talking to both of them for the past couple months because he agreed with me that what they did was wrong.
Recently we have been fighting about Shannon. Shannon and my bf go to school together so im sure he sees her around and talks to her for a bit. But today he asked me what we should do about it if he talked to Shannon again. I am very furious with this because I was treated bad but he doesn’t see it like that anymore. He says I was shy (which I am) and that I didn’t make an attempt to talk to her which I find false. he says that he knows her personality and shes not like how I described and that I am shy and I don’t talk to people and etc.
So am I being jealous? Do I allow this? Do we break up? And please just be honest with me because I know sometimes people on this site are very kind and wont be harsh but I have to handle the truth so please give me the truth just don’t be too harsh I guess. Thank You
Break up with your boyfriend and leave it that way
You two have been on and off for 2 almost 3 years, At this point you are wasting your time. It's safe to say it wasn't going anywhere then it isn't going anywhere now. You two broke up, Went your separate ways and now that you are back together he is too hung up on blaming other people for his problems. After so many break-ups it creates trust issues, Lack of communication, Affection and desire for one another. Your relationship with your boyfriend is a dead flame, It died a long time ago.
Your best bet is to except that there is no relationship between you and your boyfriend and move on. Cut contact, Focus on you and what you want out of life. If you want commitment you have to find it. Move on
Okay so earlier this month I had spotting that was the perfect time frame to be implantation bleeding and then I got my period two days late and my period is normally extremely regular. I was also more bloated than normal. Is it possible that I'm having a really early miscarriage? Don't bother comforting me for my loss if you think thats what happened. I totally did not want a kid. I was just wondering for future reference if I'm prone to miscarriages. Also i'm underweight (naturally, I eat a lot) and drink on occasion if that makes a difference. Thanks!
We are not doctors, We cannot tell you if you did or didn't have a miscarriage. Make an appointment with your gynecologist if you are concerned but also know that if you miscarried early on it could be difficult to tell. If you do not want a child, Use protection and be smart.
Okay, so my friend found out that the guy i like does like me. The problem is i am 15 and he turns 19 on saturday. 2nd problem... he has a child who turns two in October. I have posted a question about this before a few days ago. But now i have decided i want to try to see if him and i can make this go somewhere. BUT, my mother and I are having serious trust issues with me. She does not want me hanging out with dirtbags, and i told her i did and she flipped. But i want to know how i can tell her that he is 19 and has a child. My mother got pregnant at 16 with my older brother so i want to think of a way to make it sound decently okay. I know it really is not but I want to try it. Does anyone have any kind of way that i can tell her this in the nicest, mature , understanding way? I would HIGHLY appreciate it! Thank you so MUCH!!
Don't do it,
You are looking a whole load of drama down the road, This guy is 19 years old and he is trying to lure in a 15 year old? You don't see anything wrong with that? It's illegal. This man also has a child, You are young and the last thing you need is to be involved with someone who has a child in their life at this time. Focus on your life and find someone your own age, Not some scumbag that is looking to date minors because they cannot find someone their own age.