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19 and 15 possible relationship
Okay, so my friend found out that the guy i like does like me. The problem is i am 15 and he turns 19 on saturday. 2nd problem... he has a child who turns two in October. I have posted a question about this before a few days ago. But now i have decided i want to try to see if him and i can make this go somewhere. BUT, my mother and I are having serious trust issues with me. She does not want me hanging out with dirtbags, and i told her i did and she flipped. But i want to know how i can tell her that he is 19 and has a child. My mother got pregnant at 16 with my older brother so i want to think of a way to make it sound decently okay. I know it really is not but I want to try it. Does anyone have any kind of way that i can tell her this in the nicest, mature , understanding way? I would HIGHLY appreciate it! Thank you so MUCH!!
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I don't really think it would be a good idea. He might be sweet and all that but he still has a kid and you're just gonna end up having so much drama. The age isn't so much the problem, it's just that he has a kid.
I think no matter what you tell your mom she won't be happy about it. Even though she had a child at 16, I don't know if she regretted it or not, but I don't think she would want you to deal with the same thing.
I don't know if you would even want anything really serious with him either. If you do, I wouldn't find him that great to be with for a future because he doesn't even have a job. If you think about it, he has a lot of problems of his own and I don't think you'd want to be brought into it.
If you still really want to talk to your mom about it, just be calm and expect her to not be your way or go along with it. Good luck
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Don't do it,
You are looking a whole load of drama down the road, This guy is 19 years old and he is trying to lure in a 15 year old? You don't see anything wrong with that? It's illegal. This man also has a child, You are young and the last thing you need is to be involved with someone who has a child in their life at this time. Focus on your life and find someone your own age, Not some scumbag that is looking to date minors because they cannot find someone their own age.
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To be frank, I think this relationship is a bad idea. Guys who have hard times for whatever reason getting with girls their age try to get with young girls. The young girls think they'll be cool going out with an older guy, but it's just a bad idea. Older guys expect to do more, like have sex. Thats most likely how he ended up with his child.
Your mother has been there, and is completely justified in being upset by the idea of you dating him.
You need to surround yourself with the best people to support you, not people like this guy. These 'dirtbags' will lead you down the wrong path. If your mom wouldn't approve of a person, then you shouldn't either.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Your going to run into alot of obsticles by pursuing a relationship with this man. The first will be possible legal consequences because you are a minor and many states do not recognize adolescents having the legal right to consent to sexual intercourse with an adult, which may eventually lead to grounds for statautory rape. This could get him into alot of trouble, especially if your parents are against this relationship. The second obsticle will be that he dous have a child, so his time will be divided between you and his other responsibilites, such as the child, work, and school if he is going to school. In order for a relationship to work, priority will need to be on the child's best interest and needs from both you and him. Even though the child has a mother, the people in his life will also be a part of the child's life and you will have to take extra care to make sure your actions will be a good role-model for the child. He will need a partner that is mature and will be flexible and understanding about the responsibilities that he must take care of and may not be as emotionally available as someone your own age would be. The expectations on you will also be higher because of the child. The relationship will no be you and him, it will be you , him and baby, so make sure you are ready for this. If you feel that this is still something you want to pursue, then showing your mom how responsible he is for taking care of his child may make her feel more comfortable with you dating him.
I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck, Hun.
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