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omg so im sorry if this gets long but im mad.. im 16 f yesterday i went over to my boyfriends [17] house after i had been out doin some shoppin and stuff. his neighbor [14-15 male.. no job or anything] was over like always and i cant stand him honestly bc every time hes there hes always touchin my phone or keys and stuff and has broken them before. hes smokes pot and crap and has been suspended from school way too many times and has been accused of stealin money more than once [from his sister and my bf's mom even]. when i was over there, i had $40 in my wallet which was closed in my zipped purse on the coffee table like always. my boyfriend and i went upstairs for about 10 minutes while this kid was downstairs watchin tv. he then randomly comes up and tells us hes goin home to use the bathroom and change clothes [[wtf random much? it was like 6 at night]] and i didnt think anything of it.. btw he hates goin home and never wants to. my boyfriends mom was outside and there was no one else there. when i got home last night i looked in my wallet and every last dollar was gone, and i am dead positive it was in there. i know he took it bc one 1- he's stolen before 2- he ran home suddenly even when he claimed he was comin back he didnt and 3- there was no one else that could possibly take it. i called up my boyfriend at 1am this mornin because i was FURIOUS. he acted like he was really mad too sayin that hes gonna beat the s*** outta him if he took it and he wont be allowed over any more [he already doesnt like him bc hes annoying] and it really pisses him off that he stole from me.. and that he'd tell his mom this mornin and she'd go off the deep end and tell this kids mom and shed beat the crap outta him or else his dad [whos a cop]would and get it back. well i told my mom this mornin and shes apparently thinkin the whole situation is my fault for havin that much $ over there.. and when i got home and talked to my boyfriend he hadnt talked to this kid yet and said he told his mom and she said "she'd talk to his mom" and that was all.. my boyfriend said he might call him later and talk to him but he doesnt feel like yellin right now. OMG WHAT THE HELL? honestly why is it everyone else is taking this soo much lighter than me? am i making a big deal outta nothing?? i dont think so because he freakin STOLE from me! and idk what to do?? my boyfriends mom has a myspace should i message her or something because i am furious at this whole situation and you know he's going to deny it if he's asked did he take the money. uggg.. what do i do? (link)
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I understand you being angry, I would be too. Fact of the matter is though you shouldn't have left it where he could get a hold of it. Especially since you knew he has been accused of stealing before.
That doesn't make it right by any means.
There really isn't much you can do. In the future refuse to go to the boyfriends if the neighbor is there. Doesn't sound like he himself is wanting to do anything to stir up trouble with the guy. If you really don't like someone you tell them to get lost.
Lets hope your boyfriends mom gets to the bottom of it. Like you said he will deny. Be more careful of your things in the future, especially if hes around.
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i want to have sex with this boy but i dont no how and i also dont no how to tell him or to get him into it? (link)
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Telling you "how" to have sex will get people banned
so that isn't going to happen. If you are old enough, which I doubt, there are plenty of resources online for that information.
The thing is if you know this guy well enough to have sex with him, talk. You should be able to ask what he likes and he should be able to ask you. Thats how you learn, not from strangers on a website.
Any boy who is interested doesn't have to be talked into anything. :)
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I've always had bad luck with guys, but somehow I have a "guy friend" that I've known for almost 5 years now. We used to have a thing but he's made it clear that he's not interested in me. I've always had feeling for him and that's never going to change. Lately we've been flirting and bordering on friends with benefits. Part of me thinks it's a good idea and another thinks I might get hurt. I'm realistic with myself and our lack of a future, but should I even risk getting hurt? Any opinions from someone that has been in this situation would help. (link)
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Might get hurt is an understatement. You WILL get hurt. Please, don't even think abut doing this. I've not been in this situation, but I've been around long enough to know those who have.
This might get harsh and I'm sorry for that but I do want you to understand this.
If you become friends with benefits, he has a good time but you will not. He will laugh & brag to his friends about how he is getting some from you while you convince yourself he is falling for you.
He dates another girl if he wants to. You don't date because you have it in your head he will someday see you are worth having as a girlfriend.
His girlfriend doesn't put out. She stays pure as the snow. Don't have to bother her for sex, you'll take all the risks. You don't tell her about you and him, if you do he walks. So you put up with it.
In the meantime, all these other guys know what your up to. If you do ever wise up they won't want you, you're used goods. If they do you'll wonder if they just want one thing.
No matter how you look at it, you are the one who gets hurt in this deal. Even the nicest guy in the world can hurt you. Actually, girls kind of set themselves up to be hurt. Quite innocently.
So wait for someone who cares. Maybe its this guy, maybe its someone else. but don't put benefits out on the table hoping it will make him see what a great girl you are and how perfect together you would be. It usually has just the opposite effect.
Make sure a guy respects you and loves you. If he doesn't then respect yourself and don't do it. :)
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hi, well you know how when you buy a pair of new shoes, you get a packet of "silica" in them, and it says "do not eat", what happens if you do eat it? just curious, thanks (link)
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Not much. It would taste bad. I've heard it takes a lot of water to get it washed down. I don't advise you to eat it though, it is just for absorbing moisture. :)
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14/f Okay, so I had a boyfriend that was absolutely amazing to me, and we went out for almost a year. Well right before our eleven month anniversary, I started talking to another guy, and he started flirting with me. Then I broke up with my boyfriend for him. After 2 months, I realized that I had had what I was looking for all along, and I wanted that back. SO i broke up with the guy I had been going out with. And now my ex-bf (the one i went out w/ for eleven months) barely talks to me, and I just want him to forgive me and for us to be friends(actually more than that) again. I miss everything about him, and I just wish I hadnt made all the mistakes I made. How can I get him to forgive me or take me back? (link)
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You simply be honest with him and tell him what happened. It will be hard to do and he may not
forgive you, but it is the only way to do it.
Remember he has been hurt. It may take him a while
to want to be friends again, let alone want to date you again. But he might. If he is worth the trouble then give it a try. Good luck. :)
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ok so im 18 and been a smoker for a few months or so..i use to wear contacts and now back to glasses due to contact problems and cost..for some reason when i smoke my left eye can see more clearly then the right pretty significantly..honestly this puzzles me very much especially since i have bad vision and then if i smoke, my eye can almost see clearer then if i were wearing glasses..i was wondering if anyone ever had something happen in the same category or if maybe something in the cigarettes is somehow temporaily giving me better vision? thanks
-rich (link)
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The chemicals in cigarettes can harm the most sensitive part of the retina, called the macula.
Your vision can be irreversibly damaged when cells of the macula die or tiny blood vessels burst through it.
So in all honesty I doubt smoking is improving your vision. Of course they could be hiding that info were it true. God forbid they should say cigarettes do anything helpful. :)
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So my boyfriend is moving to Virginia and I don't know what to do. I like him so much and he means the world to me, but I don't want to get hurt when he leaves. My friends keep telling me to break up with him now so I don't get more attached which would make it harder when he actually does leave. I see their point, but I would like to have another three months with him before he leaves. I don't know what to do. I'm so confused. (link)
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It doesn't matter when you break up it will hurt.
Enjoy the time you have with him now. You can remain friends after he is gone. Keep in touch by phone, email, instant messages. You never know what will happen 10 years from now so just stay friends after he moves.
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that if you sleep with a bra on , it slows down how fast your boobs grow ?
I didnt really believe that, but my friend told me that and I dont know if its true or not.
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You're right and your friend is wrong.
If you feel more comfortable sleeping with a bra on then go ahead. They will grow just fine either way. :)
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this is a very embaressing question for me to ask anyone i know. so i'm going to ask it here cuz i'm anonymous. a few days ago i waxed my pubic hair, and pimples have been growing in that area. they're bigger than usual its really weird. whats wrong with me? (link)
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It may not be pimples. Waxing the pubic area is a traumatic event for it! I'm sure you have irritated every hair follicle you have. :)
Waxing and shaving the pubic area can cause ingrown hair and folliculitis (irritation). Doctors recommend using a hydrocortisone lotion after sghaving or waxing.
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Ok..so..i went on a date with this guy tonight and he was soo sweet. But..the problem is..im a little wild..i drink sometimes..and i cuss sometimes..i mean im your average teenager. This guy never drinks..and he just seems sooo good. Its not attractive to me..i like the bad boy image. Should i ditch this guy..or keep him around? (link)
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If you don't feel you can calm the wildness then it probably won't last anyway. Sounds like hes a little more mature and he probably won't like the wild side for very long.
I'm not saying you need change for him. If he was your hearts desire, you wouldn't be asking this. Sow your wild oats while you can. You won't be able to with this guy I'm afraid. :)
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In terms of marijuana, what is a bowl, bong , etc? and how do you use them? (link)
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A bowl is the part of a pipe that you put tobacco in, or whatever you want to smoke.
A bong, thanks to answers.com because I wasn't sure how to describe it is...
A water pipe that consists of a bottle or a vertical tube partially filled with liquid and a smaller tube ending in a bowl, used often in smoking narcotic substances.
As for how you use them? Can't tell you that. I would be banned. Can't tell you how to commit a crime or cause possible harm to yourself. :)
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What are some signs that your boyfriend is infertile?
We've been sexually active for nearly 12 months and sex is always fine. He never complains if he is sore unless of course we've had it more then twice a day.
He cums fine, doesn't seem to have a problem but how can you really tell? Just because he is able to produce sperm doesn't necessarily mean he isn't infertile right?
Same with women, are there any signs that should be looked out for? Not being able to have a baby would just crush my world!
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The only outward sign that either a male or female is infertile is that they just can't get pregnant no matter how much they try.
The only way to find out for sure is a doctors exam. An infertile male will still produce sperm and it looks the same as any other sperm. :)
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im supposed to get my period this coming up friday. if i start a new pack on friday...right when i finish the one im on..would that make my period not come?
im not gonna do it my friends and i were just talking about if it would work (link)
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You would probably get it anyway, it just wouldn't be on schedule. Probably be late.
At least when you take them you know when its coming and can be prepared. :)
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Background: I love her. I had to move last year for my work, but I made her the pledge that I would love her forever. As one of the things we did- I opened a joint back account with her- where part of my paycheck every 2 weeks would be deposited into that account. We "broke" up two months later. That account never closed. She started dating someone else. Now- she's using that account and now is spending like there's no tomorrow- 3300 dollars in 5 weeks.
But I still love her- and I can't close the account. What should I do? I don't know how to confront her if I should. I'm a fool. (link)
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You can love someone and still be smart. Either close the account or get your name off it. Whatever you do don't put any more money in it.
Why on earth would you want to pay for her and the new guy to have fun? Stop letting money get deposited in the account. Talk to the bank first thing Monday morning.
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Is there any way I can change my advice column name, with out getting a new account? (link)
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Sure. Write to Dangernerd at dangernerd@gmail.com as he is the only one who can change it.
Be sure and tell him your column name and the reason you want the change. :)
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Wel, I have been dating this girl for 2 wks now, and we havent kist yet. and it will be my first time kissing, same as hers. i dont know when to do it or where. i dont know if my lips should be dry or wet. i dont know if t shoold be long kiss or short. plz help me. (link)
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Here is a great web page that will tell you all you need to know to have a perfect first kiss. :)
http://links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
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Ok. So, i'm 14/f. and this is kinda a long story, i'll try to make it as short as i can. so when my mom was 18 (she is 37 now) she had a baby. She didn't mean to or anything, but its just one of those kinda things that happend. She knew that she couldn't take care of her, so she gave her to a family that couldn't have a baby. So yeah, my mom told me about all of this when i was about 10 i think, and now i'm 14, obviously. lol. anyways, the agentcy (sp) that my mom went through to give her baby to another family had some rules. and one of them was that my mom and her baby, Becky, couldn't meet until Becky was 18, and until she was ready. Well just the other day they got to talk for the first time over the fone cause Becky is 20 or somethin now. well, she told my mom that she wanted to talk to me sometime, and that she really wanted to be like a sister to me. but i'm not really sure if i'm ready to just let my "sister" come into my life. i mean, one day she talkes to my mom and she just comes into the family? they haven't even met yet! and now my mom is talking about how she could come on vacation in the summer, and how Becky and i could go shopping together and stuff like that. and i'm just like wth? and Becky told my mom that she wanted to talk to me over the fone sometime, but what the heck do i talk to her about? am i blowing this way out of proportion, or not? idk what to do or think. help!! thanx!! (link)
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Kinda. Like you said they haven't even met yet. But they are excited. Don't begrudge them that.
You may feel jealous now and then too. Thats normal and its ok, so long as it doesn't get out of hand. You sound like you are smart enough not to let that happen.
Your sister is older than you. Old enough to be on her own. She has a life, she has parents who love her. Her and your mom may spend a lot of time together at first, but she has a life and it is separate from yours and moms.
It would be great if you and your mom could have some kind of relationship with her. This could be very upsetting to your mom before its over with too. She may not be thinking ahead very clearly right now.
I think you should talk to her on the phone. She can drive so she probably could take you shopping
or to a movie. It might be fun! She probably knows the latest fashions and all about make-up tricks, things that would be fun. She might also be a good
friend to tell things to.
She is your sister on paper but she will be more a friend than a sister to you. Same as she will be more a fiend than a daughter to your mom. Don't be upset about it, try and get in on the excitement of it. :)
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i didn`t know where to put this question, but i`m really concerned right now so i guess that doesnt matter. ok so, i`ve had a lump kind of thing "down there" like kind of near my leg, but closer to my .. yeah you know. so i told my mom about it & she felt it & said its probably a cist, everyone gets them. i get cists in my ovaries, & a lot of people get those too (i didnt know if that has anything to do with this bt it might.) i've had this lump since the beginning of the school year, & now its turned into like a big zit. & its kind of a purplish color. i popped it today & blood came out but it just turned back into a big zit again. i know i should get it checked out by the doctor. but if its just something that will go away then i don`t want to worry about it. any ideas on whats wrong with me!? (link)
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I think you may have the same problem as another user whose question I just answered. Check the answer here. :)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=482135
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(22, F)- I've been going out with a guy for a little over a month now. I feel comfortable enough letting him lick/touch my breasts. But that's as far as I want to take things at this point. The other day I let him go 2nd base, and of course we were both worked up and 'in the moment.' I know that we'll both want to take things further, but I'm not comfortable enough to let that happen just yet.
I'd like to hear from guys/girls: what kind of torture is it for a guy to have a girl who will only go 2nd base for a while? I mean, I can imagine what's going on in his mind, wondering,"when is it going to happen?"
Again, I'm content with the level we're at, but guys I think can be different in that sense (not that I don't want certain things.. I want to know him a little more).
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Talk about it. Let him know that you aren't ready to
go further right now. Explain it to him as you have here. Not that it will never happen, but that you want to get to know him better first.
The thing is, it will take some of the pressure off him too. He doesn't have to worry that you EXPECT him to do more. He knows where to stop and that you will let him know when to proceed. :)
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so i am very scared.and i need some help. me and my boyfriend had sex and ive been getting head aches im always tired.and sometimes my stomach feels weird but i dont feel sick. my freinds say that i am jsut stressing out ..but me and my boiyfriend we had safe sex..and i heard that the chance of u gettin preg is more in the middle of your period like from when it ends to it starts up again. can anyone help me? (link)
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Headaches and weird feeling stomach are probably caused by stress. When you have your period is no way to play it safe. You can get pregnant anytime at all if you have unprotected sex. So please don't rely on that.
Here is a site with pregnancy symptoms to watch for.
If your next period does not come, buy a home test and check. In the meantime, try not to stress out. That can cause your period to be late or just not come too. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
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