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She's Killing Me.
Background: I love her. I had to move last year for my work, but I made her the pledge that I would love her forever. As one of the things we did- I opened a joint back account with her- where part of my paycheck every 2 weeks would be deposited into that account. We "broke" up two months later. That account never closed. She started dating someone else. Now- she's using that account and now is spending like there's no tomorrow- 3300 dollars in 5 weeks.
But I still love her- and I can't close the account. What should I do? I don't know how to confront her if I should. I'm a fool.
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No you are not a fool, YOU ARE STUPID.........
How come u can't close the account....
Stop the direct deposit.....
NEVER OPEN A JOIN ACCOUNT UNTIL U R MARRIED
sue her!!!!!!!!
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As unfortunate and heartbreaking as this situation is, it is clear that she has already moved on, and at this point you are a distant memory. She is enjoying her life (without you, and I encourage you to do the same.
You must remove your name (and your money, if you can!) from that bank account IMMEDIATELY. Even if some miracle pulls you two together again someday, you can easily put it back, right? But until then, I suggest you be wise with your money and separate it from hers immediately.
Since you two have broken up, she is no longer obligated to divulge the details of her personal life. Confronting her solely about the money (and whatever arrangements you two need to make) is acceptable. If at all possible, I would try to get reimbursed for whatever of your own money was spent. If she opts not to do so, unfortunately, at that point there is little you can do. Its one of the risks (and pitfalls) of having a joint account. Take it as an expensive lesson learned and move on.
Personally, I would drain whatever remaining money there was left, remove my name from the account, and begin a new life, as she has clearly already done.
I'm awfully sorry that you were so deceived, what an awful thing for her to do! You deserve much better than what she's doing to you, and I hope my words have offered you some clarity.
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You can love someone and still be smart. Either close the account or get your name off it. Whatever you do don't put any more money in it.
Why on earth would you want to pay for her and the new guy to have fun? Stop letting money get deposited in the account. Talk to the bank first thing Monday morning.
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I'm sure you love her alot. It sure sounds like it. It doesn't seem like she loves you though. I mean if she did...you'd still love each other no matter what!!!
You should close it...and leave her with the rest of the money. It doesn't make sense she's with someone else and she's using your money...
good luck;;
jayme
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hey, well i know that you love her, but if she loved you back, she wouldnt do that to you. what i mean by do that to you is by using 3300 dollars in 5 weeks. shes abusing the account, your trust, and you yourself. as much as it hurts to close the account, you need to. explain to her the reasoning for closing it politely. be the better person and dont flip out on her.
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okay the question here is who broke up with who? If it was her who broke up with you most likely she just wanted your money or possibly not. It is never smart to get a joint bank account in the first place because the hard truth of the matter is you may not be with the person forever. But you did and that is the issue. The best thing you could do is confront her about the situation or take out money so she cannot get ahold of it because that is just insane that amount of spending. Love makes you do crazy things i know dont be so hard on yourself but really you need to talk to her. Go from there and if she doesnt cooperate take action.
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