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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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im about to get the iphone 4, and i was wondering how much the data plans cost now? is it only 15 dollars a month for unlimited internet?
Depends on how much internet you are going to use, Going through an album of pictures on facebook can use a good chunk of space so be VERY careful. I share a phone plan with 3 other people and we pay an extra 25 a month but I tend to stay off the internet to save on possible over charge. However at this time as far as I know they do have a 15 dollar internet but they are no longer doing unlimited. The only way to get the internet free is by going online wireless so you are not using their internet.
Hi guys i am 15 years old, and i am talking to a guy who is 19. you have probably read questins about this before because i ask alot about this situation, but I told my mom about him today. She was cool (i think) about him having a child. probably because she had my olde brother at the age of 16 so she could relate. Now the problem is the age difference... my mother and i have been on very thin ice with me and my 'behaviors'. so she thinks i am going to be going down to crack and alcohol lane when im older.which i am not! i am not that idiotic. i know my limits and things. But how can I explain to her than i am not going to became an addict to anything, and how do i explain to her that 19 and 15 is not that bad. if my question maks any sense please answer it!
We have told you once before, It is illegal.
Even if you have your mothers approval, Laws are laws and that does not change the fact that it is wrong. Your mothers approval does not change the laws and it does not make it okay.
If you date a 19 with a child, You are surely going to have a hell of a time maintaining a relationship as you are only 15 years old. That child comes first on everything, Yours or not. I highly recommend you look for someone more suitable in age range and that does not have a child. Your mother might of had a child at 16 but you know what, I bet your mother also had her share of struggles. This does not mean you need to go down the same boat. Yes reality is 19 and 15 is bad, It should tell you something if someone of the age 19 is trying to date someone as young as 15. It's is 100% wrong but if you want to take a risk then go for it but I sure wouldn't want to be you if he gets caught. At this point you aren't seeking advice...You are seeking approval.
24/F
I'll make this as quick as I can. But I figure some initial information may help in answering the question, so please forgive me if it seems long.
I've been in a relationship with my mate for 3 years, it's been wonderful. He is a 30 year old healthy male, his diet and overall routine has not changed. Our "love" life however has not been what it use to be. I'll be lucky anymore if we make love once a month. When we do make love it doesn't last long anymore. It use to last at least 30+ minutes, now I'll be lucky if it lasts for 5 minutes. There are days I've been "in the mood" and he'll say he isn't. Then the following day, I'll see in the website history that he had looked at adult videos and photos after I've fallen asleep. This is beginning to get to me. Nothing else has gotten bad. He's still caring and loving towards me. Just not in that department. I would like advice. Any helpful advice honestly would be greatly appreciated.
-Thank you for your time, cooperation and patience.
Sounds like the guy has gotten bored, Find more interesting things to do together. Talk to him, Ask him what his fantasies are and express yours. If you two need too go to the sex store together and find things you two might enjoy. Hell, If he isn't willing to do that then it may be time to move on. Every dude looks at porn but when it becomes obsessive...You've got yourself a problem.
This was my original question with the followup below:
My boss is more then 50yrs old and lives with his parents. He does not have a lot of social skills. I have caught him following me around the office and looking at what I am doing, like what mail I put in the outbox or who am I talking with or where I am going in general. His behavior is creepying me out. I can do my job without even talking or speaking with him for weeks and have tried to stay out of his way to see what would happen and it seems this makes his behavior worsen. I find it creepy to come out of the women's restroom to find him leaning against the wall near the men's waiting for me. He then joins me and walks back with me into the office. He watches my emails through the network server (only mine as he moved my and his email to a separate server from everyone else) and watches the websites I go onto and programs I access.
What is the best way to handle this guy? If I tell him to back off, he tells me I am paranoid. And yet this continues.
Follow-up: I went through the official HR channels and filed a complaint. His answer to all of the situations were all 'I have no recollection of this event.' The result has been that it is a he-said, she-said situation and they are backing him as I have no witnesses. At this time, they are also keeping him as my supervisor and as you can imagine he is quite happy with a cocky attitude now.
I am so on edge, I can't sleep through the night and of course, I am desperately looking for a new job. But, in the mean time, he is being shoved down my throat with the 'you have to be able to work together' explanation. I have not at all let this effect my work, which is highly regarded.
But, I really need help in figuring out the best way to handle this as I have really desperate thoughts running through my head and during all this time.
Any advice?
Your boss is harassing you, You need to report it. There is a fine line against professionalism and plain harassment. Contact the branch manager, Every boss has a boss and you need to take this to the next level. Your bosses actions can very well get him fired, You've told him to back off he didn't listen therefore he has had his warning.
File a complaint.
My friend with benefit go out with another lady,
and still want FWB with me, but I compuse, ia that
cheater? I fell hurt when they togother, Now he said
Peeps is right
The whole idea of friends with benefits is that it is nothing more then that. Personally, I don't believe in the whole friends with benefits only because it 90% of the time causes some sort of drama.
Listen, He is not cheating on you. If you don't like how it is making you feel then I recommend you stop doing what your doing and move on. There is nothing you can do about it, You fooled around knowing it was nothing more then what it was. If the guy wants to go around and date then let him. Don't bully him and his new "friend" because you can't handle the fact that you were just his booty call.
What are some nicknames i could call my grandson?
You are a grandmother, You do not need pet names for your grandson.
Nicknames/Pet names are something people do when they are in middle school. It's childish and tacky
I'm 18 years old and I love my boyfriend with all my heart. We both want to have a baby and now I think I might be pregnant. I'm kind of happy because my family wants me to graduate high school and go to college. My family is very judgemental so how do I tell them that I'm going to have a baby. Has anyone been through this? How would you tell your family? My boyfriend is the type of guy that will be by your side no matter what.
The responsible thing would be to tell them, There is no easy way to break the news.
You and your boyfriend are going to have to have a sit down together with your parents. Hiding the pregnancy is only going to make matters much worse for you late down the line. I'd rather be told and mad for a awhile to find out months later my kid is pregnant.
If you are worried they would make you adopt or abort it, They can't. You are legally an adult and whatever choice you make is yours. However, You got your self in this situation and you owe it too your parents to tell them.
This has happened sporadically for a couple of months now, but today it happened about five times in a half hour, so I'm beginning to get worried.
What happens is, my computer appears to freeze, but waht I actually think is happening (or at least seems to be happening) is that it begins working EXTREMELY SLOWLY for a couple of seconds at a time. For example, if I am watching a movie or a video on hulu, the screen will freeze, but the speakers will emit a sound similar to a cd skipping very rapidly. And in that skipping, you can make out the words that are being said; and they are said extremely slowly in this time period. For example, when I was on Hulu today, the slate visa card commercial came up and my computer "froze" - And I could hear "V-i-i-i-i-i--i-i-i-ii-i-i-i-s-s-s-s-s-s-s-s--ss-s-aa-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a s-s-s-s-a-a-a-a-a-v-v-v-v-v-e-s-s-s-s-s-s y-y-y-y-yy-o-o-oo-u-u-u-u m-m-m-m-m-o-o-on-n-n-n-nn-e-e-e-e-ey-y-y-yy" ("Visa saves you money").
This has never happened to me on any other computer; what's going on?
If it helps, I'm running Windows 7 on a 64-bit HP laptop that I got about 2 winters ago.
Could be a few things
Virus
Too many programs running at once
You didn't give any description of your computer, If your computer is ridiculously slow you can try to defrag it and delete all unnecessary files.
Start-Programs-Accessories-System Defragment
I don't know what else to tell you as I cannot see your computer. Another possibility is make sure your computer has a video card!
I honestly can say that I am not perfect. A lot of people think I am though, and its embarassing. I have a larger house in a wealthy neighborhood, I get straight A's, and I am extremely thin! But to counter, I am not good at sports and I dont think I am attractive. When people tell me that I am perfect, I say stuff "No, I am not" and that makes people think I am snotty for some reason. What can I say that makes them see I am not perfect, and not a snob!?!?
People are going to think and assume what they want, You can't make people change their minds. If you don't want someone to think you are a snob then all you can do is just ignore them. Pay no mind to what other people think. Be yourself
I know it sounds ridiculous but all I can think about at the moment is getting married. I haven't even got a boyfriend and I'm only 19 but it's got to the point where I am actually researching venues and dresses and planning it in my head.
I'm planning the next few years of my life based around when I want to meet my future husband, get engaged and get married. I'm putting far too much pressure on myself and it's starting to bother me. My friends have started to find it weird too and don't think it's a good idea to be so set on one thing but the idea of not getting married in the near future terrifies me.
How can I stop obsessing over this and stop worrying about it?
Stop looking at venues and dresses
Lets look at reality; You can't plan your future. Not in that aspect at least.
When it happens, It happens. There is no rush and thinking ahead is not only going to stress you out but it could very well ruin it for you because you over thought the idea of marriage. Marriage is not something you should race or compete against. At 19, You are young and you have all the time to think about it. You don't even have a boyfriend yet and if you think about marriage constantly when you get a boyfriend it could scare him off a bit. Chill out, If you want to stop obsessing over it then you need to stop looking at things that will make you obsess over it. You are 19, I didn't get married until I was 24 and I will be fully honest with you marriage is a whole lot more then just buying a dress and walking down the isle. Don't rush things, Take it slow and be patient your time will come when it's supposed to happen.
how do you color your hair underneath with cleaning bleach you use on your house?
NO don't do it!
House hold bleach has chemicals in it, If you apply it too your skin it will cause your skin to burn and irritate your skin and burn your eyes. House hold bleach is NOT meant to be put in your hair, It is a cleaning item. It is dangerous to breathe in bleach and can be deadly if you inhale too much. Also if you applied it too your hair you will do severe damage. If you want too bleach your hair you can probably find a bleaching kit at Walmart or any pharmacy. Do NOT attempt to put household bleach into your hair.
i have a serious problem..
im a buff girl, im not skinny, but not chunky, and im pretty musculor. i used to be in a lot of fist fights and think i can beat everyone up and have that mentality that i was strong, and people were afraid of me.
until last year, my junior year of high school, i got beat up by a sophomore.. this girl completely caught me off guard and i was humiliated in front of my whole school.
this girl continued to cyber bully me for a few months but it ended last summer..
my problem now is that this girl is taunting me. i was hospitalized from the fight, and had a serious concusion and the fight always replays in my head (what i can remember of it).. i can never stop thinking of this girl and it drives me crazy! especially because its so old and i know she doesnt care about me anymore.
besides just her, im scared of everyone now! i feel weak, like i cant fight, and like i cant stick up for myself,., im always scared of getting beat up by people and my stomach turns everytime i see this girls face in the hallways at school.. i dont feel myself anymore. i feel so weak and helpless and i hate it,, i dont know what to do anymore. why is this girl haunting me SO much for SO long and what do i do about it?
also, i am pregnant now and my mom even asked me if i got pregnant on purpose so that the girl wouldnt be able to hit me again.. and now i wonder if subconsiously i did get pregnant thinking that.
i dont know, im messed up.. someone help me gain my strength back :(
You need to let someone know, This girl is harassing you and bullying you and that is not okay.
Stress can cause miscarriages, Try to avoid all stress as much as possible.
Who gives a crap what she thinks, The reason she makes fun of others is because she probably has low self esteem. Don't let her bully you, This is about you and the child's well being. Trust me, She isn't going to find it that funny when she gets her ass in trouble.
Okay so I have an amazing Boyfriend that I LOVE! I want you to know that. This isn't some story about me still having feeling for my ex. But you see its just awkward because it was a long time ago ( our relationship) ended bad, now its awkward. We don't talk, don't do anything like that. Not friends at all. Well today at break I was just staring off into space ( I'm sorry I thought every did that on occasion) well turns out I guess I must have been looking at him and finaly I realized it and I just sort of flinched and turned away. I know that looks so awkard, well it felt awkward too! TRUST ME.
Tomorrow we have a feild trip and we will be stuck on the same bus. ITS SO WEIRD! I do NOT want him to think I like have a crush on him or something!!! HELP
It's only awkward if you make it that way, If you do not want him getting the impression you still have a crush on him then don't give him any reason to think you do. Act like your normal self he will only think you like him if you make a big deal of the situation.
I asked this guy from my work to go out with me and other friends, and we had a real good time. My friends left and it was just me and this guy for hours, I stayed forever at his house, we made out and other things..
He said he liked me.
I went out of town for a while. When I got back he totally just acted like we were strictly friends. I asked him bout it and he said he didn't want a girlfriend. He promised me though that he really did like me and thinks I'm cool.
So we are friends, we dint kiss, or have any sexual content, but he still asks me to hang with him just to hang out.
and i always catch him looking at me, or just touching me casually, all flirty like.
I dont get him. SO many times I have wanted to kiss him, but I'm scared to bc he made it clear...
I want to be more than friends. What should I do now?
( I stayed forever at his house, we made out and other things..)
I'm going to take a guess that he may feel that you two rushed things and wants to take things slow. Sounds to me like the guy wants to maintain a friendship and see where it goes or he could have a girlfriend you don't know about.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for only 5 days and we just had our first fight.He seems to be the best thing I ever had but after that fight I'm thinking twice about it.W e have known eachother since third grade and since then we've been best friends.How the fight happened was when my friend wasd over my house sleeping over and we called him just to play around wit him. Then it seemed like he was flirting with my friend. I talked to him and said how I felt about it and he acted like he cared but he didn't because then he asked my friend for her number. She gave it to him thinking that there was nothing going on.I feel like I'm gettinbg in the way of them having a relationship and I'm affraid that I won't have him anymore.I don't want him feeling like he can get away with things easily but at the same time I don't want him thinking that I hold a grug. What do I do!!!! I am a girl and 14 years old.
First, Your boyfriend flirted with your friend. If your boyfriend respected you, He would have no reason to flirt around. Second, Your friend gave him her number knowing that he was YOUR boyfriend.
If your boyfriend flirts with other girls and ask them for there numbers he doesn't deserve you. 1) He wouldn't be trust worthy 2) Cheaters become Liars and 3) World war 3 of drama is just not worth getting into.
If your boyfriend chooses to cheat, Let him. As painful as it is too hear he'll learn the hard way because not many people want to stick around and be played. One thing you need to remember, He just wasn't good enough for you. There are always other guys out there and more will come but the boyfriend and the friend...Need to go. A true friend will not get in the way of your relationship. You explained to him already that you didn't like what he was doing, He acted like he cared but then went ahead and ask your friend for his number, Listen reality is dump him or let him dump you.
february 26,2011 is the first day of my last period.
then me and my bf have sex last march 11,12ang 13 do i have any chance to get pregnant? pls. answer my question.
Yes, There is always a chance of pregnancy. Take a test
So I've had a search and it says to drive from Los Angeles to Detroit(Michigan) is 1987 miles (3198 kilometers) but I want to know how many DAYS it would take to drive it. When my boyfriend drove from Kansas City to L.A, it took 3 days(with rests every so often)...but when i search on google maps it says 1 day and 14 hours, and it says the same amount of days for L.A to detroit.. Does anyone know??
According to mapquest the drive is a day and a half ( 34 hrs 28 min ) This all depends on how fast you drive and how many breaks you take in between.
So I have a big chest and I dont lkikeflanting it so much so I wear things that are tastful and right for my age. I do wear vnecks and that type of thing. And jeans almost every day and convers or my toms. But the subject that I dress like an old lady came up the other day. I like wearing elegant tops in soft colors, and vintage jewelry and such and alot of my stuff I buy new from stores like express or lucca.
My friends are kinda goth dressing, like black and skater clothes. So Im not sure if I need new clothes or new friends. Cause everyone else I ask say I look fashion forward. But I dont know if they are being nice.
You probably need new friends, These "friends" are insulting you. Who cares what you wear? As long as you are comfortable with yourself that is all that should matter. Don't ever let someone tell you how to dress, You are who are. Screw them..There are many others that will appreciate you for you.
are we supposed to have hair inside our butt?
Yes, It is normal to have hair inside your ass, Unless you are a caveman it is nothing serious.
If you are female and you don't like the hair you can shave or wax.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months. We’ve been engaged for 4 months. We’re both 19. All we do if fight (for about 7 months it’s been nothing really but fighting). He always says how he thinks my feelings have dropped for him. He says I’ve changed. He acts like he doesn’t trust me anymore. He always has me swear on our relationship that I’m being honest. We both have bad jealousy, trust, and anger issues. He has broken up with me twice now, once since we got engaged because I talked to a guy. Every time I know it’s because he's mad, but how can I convince him I never lie to him, I’m the same just more open and I haven't lost feelings for him? This is killing our relationship and if things don’t change soon I don’t know if we are going to make it.
You both rushed the relationship and it is causing stress.
You both have trust issues, Trust plays a huge factor in relationships and without it there is no relationship. You two are engaged and already your boyfriend is suspecting you of cheating. Your boyfriend might have not of said those exact words but he's said enough by making you swear on your relationship. Guess what, He broke up with you TWICE while you were engaged too him. I would think long and hard to whether you want to marry this man. You wouldn't want to walk down the isle and make a big mistake. You both need to chill out, I recommend trying couples counseling because there is no way a marriage is going to work out if you both can't trust one another. Jealousy and Trust issues can drain out a relationship and it can certainly drain out a marriage. If he refuses couples counseling, Then obviously he doesn't want to fix it and I would give the ring back and move on.